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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/24/2008 10:40:51 PM | I used to think that I woudl be alone forever. Then I found my ex and thought it ws forever. Now single again, I do wonder if I am going to be alone, but I know that I have great friends and a great family, so I am never really alone.
Don't get me wrong, I would love to have a husband to grow old with, but life is going to happen, I just have to let it. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/25/2008 1:17:42 AM | | Alone? Well, currently, my bed holds 4 of us... two very large dogs and a cat. I also have a school of fish downstairs in their tank. Great friends, family spread all over (both biological and adopted - the adopted family rocks, the biological is fodder for Jerry Springer). While I do not have a mate currently, I am far from alone. I have a feeling that such will be the case in old age, too. While it would be wonderful to have someone to cuddle with, converse with, etc., I enjoy being alone (now, if only I could have the financial benefit of 3+ jobs without the hours laid out!) | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/25/2008 10:31:20 AM | I dont worry about it because I don't care...when im pooping in diapers and can't even remember where I am...I dont think i'll care if there is another old geezer called my husband laying in the hospice next to me, croaking as well.
Who cares. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 9/29/2008 10:02:19 PM |
I dont worry about it because I don't care...when im pooping in diapers and can't even remember where I am... ....Who cares. Umm... sweetie you need to lay off the bong pipe.....
Oh, you mean doing that when you are really really old.
My mistake, nevermind.
Carry on. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 10/25/2008 10:55:27 PM | | No, that thought does not bother me. I make a lot of house calls related to my business and see plenty of people doing it for one reason or another. It would be nice to grow old with a wonderful guy by my side, but I'm not worried if that does not happen. I've got a circle of friends and we've already discussed being each others company when that times comes, if we don't happen to have a spouse. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:43:17 PM | | yup i agree its all about the money so it has to be 2 ppl to a room with old betty and her bowel movements in the night u wont be alone ull be with betty with her walkin farts and night terrors and it aint worth gettin married nomore cuz marriage is just a rental everyone i know is divorces and i just had a engagemtne after 5 yrs sawed in half cuz the b**** got numb and selfish noone believes in one person nomore there always lookin for someone better i myself am old fashioned and wouldnt mind stayin with 1 person forever but i just dont iknow if itll happen but i aint goin to no nurshing home with old phil and his farts and crappin on my bed as a joke no siree im goin out the fun way in the woods with a gun... in my underwear! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 10/29/2008 7:26:56 PM | Growing old worries me period. Alone or not. I worry about losing my freedom and of having to depend on others. I worry about ending up in some hospital or nursing home as just "that old lady in room 203".
I worry about being forgotten for hours on a bedban or having no bedpan at all and having to lay in my own bodily wastes.
I worry about being left on some stretcher down some hall... alone, scared, hungry, thirsty, freezing, in pain, my body left uncovered and exposed for all to see...my dignity and my humanity gone.
I worry of no longer being seen as a human being but simply as a case and room number...waiting and waiting endlessly for some test or procedure that I never wanted or consented to in the first place but that some doctor decided I needed because of having to follow some institution's "protocol and procedures" manual, or perhaps just to help feed his/her ego or reputation (or wallet) by making sure I don't die on their watch (or their shift as there's a lot of paper work involved in dying dontcha know).
And I worry about worrying about all that stuff and in trying to find a (legal) solution for my worries. I worry that most people seem to care more about telling me not to worry about my worries because it's not or can't be that bad (YES it is) than in trying to address my very real and seen with my own eyes worries.
And I worry that if my worries are so easily dismissed now as the ramblings of a fool when I'm still reasonably young and in full control of my mental and physical capacities, how will they be seen then?
But fortunately for me, at least I don't have to worry about that because in this case, I know exactly what to expect.
And I know for a fact that if I say or do anything to "upset" the staff or anyone with my "worries" when I'm reduced to being just the "aggressive/combative patient in room 203" and no longer the human being I used to be, I will simply be given the usual heavy dose of Haldol they normally give those patients and tied to my bed or Geri-chair "for my own safety" while the drug works it's wonders in making me into a "good and compliant" patient once more (or at least until their shifts is over).
OLDSOUL:
Id like to say I didnt see any of these things go on when I was doing my CNA clinical, but it did happen.
I am glad to say I was an exception. I truely cared for the patients I was working with.
I was glad to see that a few of them still had spouses that came, but it seems that once the feelings(sometimes guilt) are gone from putting someone in a nursing home( I realize that there are no other options) that people seem to visit shorter and then theres nothing. Hense my fear for growing old alone.
Noone seems to want to stay for the long haul-although some talk a good talk...... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 10/29/2008 8:05:09 PM | | most talk the talk but dont walk the walk and i will not be in a nursin home like i said a gun nekked in the woods and with all that talk i knew u was a cna cuz i used to know a couple cnas and they got the craziest stories and the saddest stories its a real buzzkill wen ur drinkin but crazy stuff does happen in them nursin homes which is why i aint goin to one if u can pry my gun from my old fingers then i will put up a fight and will not go to a nursing home it is possible to die in ur own home and wen that time comes it will come i will not be preserved on some machine in a coma | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 10/30/2008 11:00:32 AM | | Any time I feel lonely, all I have to do is think of all the crazy women I've come across, and remember what it would be like to be stuck with them. Then, all of a sudden, peace and quiet seems very nice. Better to want a companion and not have one, than to have one you don't want, and can't get rid of them. I guess that's why I'm currently single. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/16/2008 2:18:35 PM | Carnut,
I can understand why you would be worried. After doing my nursing clinical for my CNA class in a nursing home, it was definetely scary to see what it really looks like on the inside.
Hopefully Ill be saved up pretty well where I can have a in home nurse when that time comes:) | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/16/2008 3:09:56 PM | Not really I have 1,0000 other things to worry about.
I do worry about never getting married or having children but I figure it will happen evertually even if I have to lower my standards a little bit. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 12:16:58 PM | AWW YES I CAN SAY I DO WORRY ABOUT THAT ALOT. I RECENTLY LOST MY 15YR OLD DAUGHTER AND THE SAME TIME WENT THROUGH A DIVORCE. GETTING A DIVORCE MADE ME THINK ABOUT IT HERE AND THERE BUT AFTER MY DAUGHTER DIED I THINK ABOUT IT OFTEN.
I ALWAYS THINK THAT IF I GET ALZHIEMRS OR SOMEOTHER SICKNESS WHO WOULD BE THERE TO MAKE SURE IM TAKEN CARE OF OR PUT IN A RELIABLE OLD FOLKS HOME.
ITS A SCARY THOUGHT. AND IF I GET MARRIED THATS GREAT BUT MOST OF THE MEN DIE BEFORE THEIR WIVE'S. SO YEAH IT'S A THOUGHT THATS ON MY MIND OFTEN AND UR NOT ALONE.
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 12:25:30 PM | I do all the time. My parents and both sets of grandparents are all very much in love and not splitting anytime soon. True soulmates, love does exist. It is hard to find good men in todays world. * sighs *
Our time will come,
KAT | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 2:32:26 PM | I do-I am tired of not having a relationship "work" for whatever reason-all people are different as are the reasons their previous relationships collapse-I keep trying and I KNOW I'll find someone to "compliment" me-someday!!!<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0>      
By the way-I LOVE CATS!! Hee!! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 7:40:03 PM | | Only once in my life have I found a man that I thought was my soul mate. Well he may have been mine but obviously I wasn't his. After 3 afairs that I forgave him for he droppped me for someone else. It's been four years and I think I am still getting over this relationship. Sad isn't it? But I am trying to move on. I am scared to death that I will be alone for the last part of my life. I'm really trying to move on and just enjoy this time but over the holidays it is really is hard. I do have alot of male friends and that does help, but to be in "LOVE" again is just a dream away. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/18/2008 4:11:41 PM | I'm not worried about growing 'older' alone; I just hate the idea of not enjoying the richness of companionship throughout these years leading to that point. For some (me) there's so much satisfaction in love. I wish there was a love spigot that I could just turn on and off at will, and then I'd forget all the rest of this nonsense forever.
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