| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/18/2008 5:48:51 PM | I have but only because I most often end up being the long term relationship girl before the girl the guy actually ends up proposing to:(
I guess that's why I plan on having a puppy family when I grow old...its def true when they say dogs are man's best friend! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/18/2008 6:25:50 PM | | Micheala...yay it is the worst feeling isn't it? Nice girls always finish last! I think I am giving up on dating overall! Wow I am so festive! Happy holidays and happy new year! | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/19/2008 7:26:46 AM | Not since I got my cats! I'll at least have a cat or two with me 'til the very end. And I imagine my children will always be around as well, so I don't worry about growing old alone. Hell, I'm already getting there! LOL
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/22/2008 6:34:14 PM | Wow, six pages of people who more or less feel the same way I do, there are a lot of us...
For what it's worth - happy holidays to all of you, and may 2009 be the year that we all find that special person. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/24/2008 12:22:31 AM | i don`t.. but one of my co-workers is worried i`ll grow old alone.. he`s constantly looking for a guy for me.. i found it sweet at first.. but now i find it rather annoying!.. i tell him not to worry about me.. if it happens.. it`ll happen.. if it doesn`t.. oh well.. i have other things to worry about.. like getting the wrinkles outta my nun`s outfit..   .. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/24/2008 8:20:41 AM | | Not at all - I get better with age. Learn to love life at every age that you're at, and if you meet the right person - great! If not, so what - you had a good life. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/24/2008 9:17:36 AM | Growing old is optional, and being alone is way better than having a full time enemy snarling underfoot. I would worry about wasting the days in a relationship with someone who was a drag to be with more than worry about growing old alone. I understand how nice it can be to meet when young, share life, grow together and age. For anyone who can do that I congratulate you and wish you all the best. The other side of this coin is what happens when people recruit a mate in order to avoid being alone, sort of like the lesser of two evils. They aren't all that keen on the mate or the relationship but they would rather not be alone so they choose the relationship. Then those years spent growing old are spent prematurely aging each other by not getting on very well. That accounts for second, third, forth, fifth marriages and still finally being alone and old because it never was about the right thing. It was never about loving someone. It was just about being afraid of being alone, or feeling that there was something wrong with them if they were single.
Old is no different than young except your body gets weird and you slow down. You still remain yourself. Nothing spectacular or very different happens being alone when you're old that doesn't happen being alone when you're young. Being alone is not a penalty when you're old. The only bad part can be that you have missed out on how nice it can be to share your life with someone. If you do have a mate and you grow old together one of you will probably die some time before the other, so there you are old and alone anyway. The reason to be with someone is to be with them now, today, this day being all you'll ever have. Grasping for a relationship because of fear of growing old alone won't make you happy at all. You'll just waste your life in bad relationships. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/27/2008 8:59:07 AM | I'm more concerned with the issue of growing old as opposed to growing old alone. Age is truly just a number and provided I stay active, fit and can engage in activities I enjoy then life can still be fulfilling despite not having a significant other. But as the previous respondent stated there is a feeling you've missed out on something had there been a significant other along the way.
The other point I totally agree with in the last response is that it's never a good idea to be involved with someone who isn't right for you....essentially it's better to be alone than to wish you were. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/27/2008 10:13:37 AM | | I've never had a relationship past two months and the last one was ages ago. I have adapted pretty well, the only obstacle that get's pushed in my face is peer pressure. But they can suck my balls. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/27/2008 7:29:30 PM | I'm not really fussed about finding a "soul-mate"; I gave up on that long ago.
I am worried that all my friends will have died before I do, so I may have to spend the last 10 years of my life without them. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/27/2008 10:35:40 PM | Why worry about it??
It's gonna happen regardless.
Shoot, I think that going through life alone, sux!
But what are ya gonna do about it??
Jump into an unhappy relationship, just to NOT be alone???
Nah, I'll pass on that too!
I think that, ultimately, our hearts want what they want.......
And we shall be alone until IT gets what it wants!
I shal be the best that I can be, for me, and for whomever is right for me.
And when that person comes along, they will be satisfied with whom I am and what I have to offer. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/28/2008 5:31:37 AM | This used to be my greatest fear..... I was married 25 years and stayed only because I didn't want to grow old alone... well I am 50 now... and alone..... and have never been happier...... don't settle into a realtionship just to not be alone...... and don't worry...life is good ...... no matter what your age....
NO LONGER AFRAID | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:58:41 PM | I have no worries about growing old alone. I know my children will always be a big part of my life, and so will the grandkids.
Besides, I will get to do what I want, and not have to answer to anyone else. I would like to have someone in my life, but it isn't a neccessity. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/6/2009 8:08:57 AM | People keep mentioning children will be taking care of them.
As sad as it sounds, I seen many lonely people in the nursing home:(
Some children, although they love their parents dearly, cannot handle seeing their parents in that state.
They also have their own lives, families ect., and you would be surprised that it winds up slowly being the devoted spouses that only visit.
BUT what happens when their is no spouse?? In todays time it seems that noone stays married long term, so the idea of having a spouse for over 50+ years that would be devoted like that would be rare....
Many people wind up widowed by that time as well..... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/11/2009 4:48:27 PM | I feel it's sad that the divorce rate is over 50% these days. Times have sure changed and people feel it's just easier to move on rather than put work into what they've already built.
I too am a divorce' but not because I did not try! 
And yes, it sure would be lonely growing old alone! I try not to worry about it. All I can do is learn from past experiences and try and be the best person/mate I can.
Best to you in the New Year! | |
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I agree!!! My little gremlins are such good company now that I'm in my fifties and single. It isn't the circumstances we've landed in but our reaction to them that make the difference. Growing old alone holds no more merit for me than doing my laundry..it just isn't an issue and I gotta tell ya', after what I've read on the forums with the he said/she said, he wouldn't/she wouldn't, and the he did/she did...I feel like I've already been in a 25 year miserable, agonizing marriage!
