| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:26:25 PM | | Yes. This is the best time in my life. I am better off financially than I have ever been, I'm in tune with my sexuality, I'm comfortable with my body and who I am, but I have no one to share it with. It sucks. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:04:24 PM | | Yeah, I worry about that. I sometimes think of finding love like winning the lottery. The odds are that it is never going to happen to me. But I still keep buying tickets anyway. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/12/2009 11:42:58 AM | I am old and alone and I accept it and live life as fully as I can.
Bit fat deal, to be alone, I travel, go everywhere alone and love it.
There are worse things in life, lots worse things. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:01:09 PM | I am willing to love unconditionally.....as you want to be loved.
But can you do the same for the other?
Unconditional really means what it says.....even if the other
person loses their looks......gains weight....etc....
Most on here are too shallow to love unconditionally... | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:29:55 PM | | yes i think the same way and wounder if i will ever find the one 2 but you cant gave up hope ok . because you have to try not to think that way because it will only get you down . good luck ok | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/17/2009 9:16:59 PM | | Being alone sucks sometimes. But personally, I find it's worse if you're in a relationship with someone that isn't a good match. At least when you're alone, you're open to meeting other people and not living a lie. | |
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WindF
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Joined: 1/8/2009
Msg: 157 | |
| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/18/2009 3:50:46 AM | | I used to,but I have learned to enjoy being alone,especially having my daughter with me,alot of friends and alot of interests,granted it's nice to be that old couple walking down the street holding hands,and it would be a plus to have that,but I am also okay with being on my own.There is being alone and then there is just being lonely.I am just alone. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/18/2009 10:23:05 PM | When my ex first left me, I worried about that a lot. I'd always pictured us growing old together, traveling the world in our golden years.
I realize now that it'll be cheaper to go alone or with a friend who pays for themselves ;) Do I *want* to grow old alone? No. Am I afraid of it now? Not at all. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/19/2009 12:04:18 AM | I don't. What is there to worry about? The general idea of "soulmates" is a somewhat interesting notion..., sometimes, but I think that whether or not you actually find that person or someone so close to that idea that one is willing to compromise and settle (a lot of that going on) with that person, loneliness is a relative byproduct of one's perception of themselves and their position in life. Some people die leaving behind a spouse and have left relatively recent accounts of feeling “lonely”. Based on my observations, warm bodies and hopeful and desired ideals don't alleviate loneliness. I'm thinking that an inner satisfaction and content is what may be truly necessary to combat this unwanted loneliness feeling people speak of, sometimes in such a fearful manner.
The very acknowledgement of this fear is what makes me wonder sometimes why some people even bother with relationships. So many people involve themselves with others simply because of this fear. They may call it "love" or whatever other guise they may refer to it as, but essentially some people end up with people simply because they're afraid to be alone. This applies to the fear of being alone later as well as now. I think that is an indicator of a lack of strength and self-content. I see it a lot with friends that always have to have a "boyfriend" at all times. There are a maximum of a few days that are allowed to pass before they have recruited or began to recruit someone else to fulfill that vacant position in their lives. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/23/2009 11:17:57 PM | Unlike a lot of people on here, I am absolutely afraid of growing old alone...I'm a romantic and I live for love BUT I will not just settle for anyone because of that, oh no, I need that spark, continuous laughter, butterflies in my tummy kind of love. And some people don't need that because they just love being in love so they take whatever they can get but then later down the road they will realize that is not enough and they are not happy...oh well, too bad for them.
So although I'm afraid of aging alone I will not settle for second best even if that means I am alone til the day I die. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:34:24 PM |
Unlike a lot of people on here, I am absolutely afraid of growing old alone...I'm a romantic and I live for love BUT I will not just settle for anyone because of that, oh no, I need that spark, continuous laughter, butterflies in my tummy kind of love. And some people don't need that because they just love being in love so they take whatever they can get but then later down the road they will realize that is not enough and they are not happy...oh well, too bad for them.
So although I'm afraid of aging alone I will not settle for second best even if that means I am alone til the day I die.
Hey you have your beliefs and there's nothing wrong with that. No one should ever have to settle, nothing wrong with going for what makes you happy. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:08:40 PM | I myself don't worry about it. I've been alone most of my life even while married so I've gotten to know myself well and have learned to like myself as well. That's the hard part, to like who you are and be comfortable with you. Being alone isn't great but it sure as hell beats living in misery, that I'll never, ever do again. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:25:09 PM | | I use to when I was younger but now I actually enjoy my alone time. If I end up alone when I'm old, I will most likely have a dog to keep me company. I think animals make great companions. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:47:21 PM | I don't exactly worry about it, but I do expect it to happen.
For a while I guess I did worry about it.
But then I realized that just because you give up on love
you don't have to give up on life.
Now it makes me sad sometimes,
but I don't worry about it,
no. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/29/2009 12:41:11 PM | Missygal:
Unlike a lot of people on here, I am absolutely afraid of growing old alone...I'm a romantic and I live for love BUT I will not just settle for anyone because of that, oh no, I need that spark, continuous laughter, butterflies in my tummy kind of love. And some people don't need that because they just love being in love so they take whatever they can get but then later down the road they will realize that is not enough and they are not happy...oh well, too bad for them.
So although I'm afraid of aging alone I will not settle for second best even if that means I am alone til the day I die.
I agree with EVERYTHING you said. That is EXACTLY how I feel. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/29/2009 11:40:20 PM | | I don't. I would love to find that special person, but the more one searches...the more unlikely it will happen. I am a secure and independent woman. I enjoy being single...for now at least. I've been single for three years now. I know everything happens for a reason. When things in life are suppose to happen...it will happen in due time. My friends and family tease me and say I will be the old woman who lives alone except with 30 cats. LMAO. So many people are afraid to be single that they rush from one relationship to the next. I refuse to do that. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 1/30/2009 5:48:23 AM | Hell, I worry about growing old period......
From the Irish; (or is it the ancient Gaelic)
"We all die in our own Arms"
so , thereya go
here's to good long life, with you or without you....
Kimbo*********************************************** | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 2/1/2009 8:46:03 PM | | Sammylg: Thanks! It's actually by choice. I haven't "found" that person yet. I've spent those years focusing on my children. A divorce is hard enough on them, and I felt they deserved my full attention. I also focused on my career. I didn't (and still don't) have much spare time to date. Some people don't understand or like that...which I completely understand. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 2/2/2009 6:00:38 PM | | Yes, i do worry about growing old and alone because that last 10 years of dating have not lead to anything promising. And to be honest most of the women that i have dated are barely dateable and me being 34 i'm starting to wonder if i will find the right one. I have met some co workers in the past that had everything that i'm looking for. But after i tried dating a co worker when i was 19 one time which led to a horrible ordeal is the reason i will never date a co worker again. But those that i have met in clubs, phone and online dating services are not even half of what i'm looking for. Due to the fact that alot of people lie about who they are and countless of people trying to sell there body for sex to me is very discouraging. I hate being lied to by people in general and women offering sex for money. No one want to date a liar and paying for sex is no different then paying for a std. My dating life has been nothing more than meaniless dates after dates unfortunately. And i do not want to keep wasting my time on dates that have no potential of anything promising because that is just a waste of both of are time. I been hoping to meet more people that are compatible to me on these dating services but instead i been finding the opposite. But i'm hoping that it will get better for me and for everyone else because i like yourself am tiring of the dating scene. | |
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Joined: 12/20/2008
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 2/2/2009 6:31:23 PM | | There was a time I used to feel a little worried about this. Not anymore. Not for a long time. I would love to find my old man to rock on the porch with one day. I would love to make someone's life richer and do all the great things couples do together. I just want it with the right guy. So, I don't worry about it. If he's on his way, he's on his way. I have taken to the notion I hope he is enjoying his life and learning all he needs to learn. I hope he is happy fishing, hiking or just sitting somewhere watching the sun go down and wondering what the heck is keeping me so long. I'm pretty sure when we meet, we're going to know. In the meantime, I'm a happy camper, myself. | |
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| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 2/3/2009 6:24:10 AM | | This is the worst time in my life--mainly because of financial woes. I have been alone since I was 49-years-old. I think that I no longer have much about me that women find attractive. That makes me sad, but I celebrate the years of my marraige of 21 years and the joys of younger love. My former wife remarried and I hope she fulfills at least some what I failed to give her. I celebrate what we were able to share. | |
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bigb34
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Joined: 1/16/2009
Msg: 174 | |
| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 2/3/2009 8:09:57 PM | yeah i do but thats life i may not be the most perfect man in the world but i just live life to its fullest if someone doesnt want to get to know you just move on its their loss not mine just try not to worry about it | |
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bigb34
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Joined: 1/16/2009
Msg: 175 | |
| Does Anyone Else Worry About Growing Old Alone?
Posted: 2/3/2009 8:11:44 PM | | thats right alot of people on here are very shallow and they just dont want to risk being hurt but sometimes we have to take risks but also be patient to many people like to play games on here but thats how the world works lol.. | |
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