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Posted: 9/19/2008 10:40:43 PM | tsk tsk tsk bittter ol man u sound like
lighten up
ur bashin all of us now
so YES leave the site no one will miss u KNOW that
at least not n e women
kathi
ps just like i tell my grandsons if ur gonna be miserable leave the table ...u may come back when u r feeling better about things til then dont disrupt things for the rest of us
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Posted: 9/19/2008 10:45:58 PM | | What I have figured out sitting here tonight is that the problem with online dating is there is no real sign of charisma. I am not really sure what the hell is going on but like I said in my rate me or whatever post I have gotten more phone numbers in a night of bar hoping than emails in a month on this site. I think it has something to do with when your talking to someone in person and you know when to raise your eyebrows or flirt in certain ways like winking or joking and laughing its different than on here where your like hey everybody look at me this is who I am. In person you gradually get to know that person in a flirty fun manner. On here you just spell it out with a few pictures and then fling shit against the wall and see what sticks. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2008 10:47:19 PM | I cant say ive been here for long, but i do see that almost everyone is looking for the super hot people, both males and females. But then again, its not that hard to get a really good picture of yourself. Some people on here have almost revolting pictures. Why cant you just get a good quality picture that doesnt make you look completely mental.
And yeah, I have sent plenty of emails, and the only reply i got was from a girl expecting to get the perfect man. And also, only one female has sent me mail to start off with. So why cant the girls have a go at starting the convos? Or are we just not anyones type? | |
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Posted: 9/19/2008 10:50:37 PM | | one thing I notice in common with alot of the guys that claim the women on the site have all these issues and unrealistic wants or a deep pocketed man is that the pics of the men either have a scowl on their face or just aren't smiling IF they even have a picture at all. Their profiles read badly also, feeling of violent tendacies or overall darkness and negativety. WAKE UP guys, girls aren't looking for a man that doesn't smile, is negative and projects negativety and makes them feel like they just don't belong. Warm, friendly, positive and confident are what they are looking for. afterall, they don't get a chance to see how deep your pockets are until they like whats on the outside. everything starts from a physical attraction, the whole " Its whats on the inside that counts" line is nothing but BS, you can't like or love someone that you don't have a physical attraction to, thats just not possible in a real world. what looks good to one, doesn't necessarily look good to another and that goes the same the other way around. remember that. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2008 11:21:04 PM | | dont delete your profile just becaue your not getting any good action. If your soley realying on the site then you probably will be disapointed. Just use it for what it is which is a way of increasing your odds of finding that right person. I dont know about anyone else here but if Mrs. or Mr "right" was just falling right into our lap before we joined this site I dont think we would have joined this site. Not trying to be a downer am just a realist. dont give up hope. just keep on keeping on! | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 3:00:34 AM | Why send out hundreds of e mails. Put your bait out and wait. If you don't get any nibbles just wait.
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Posted: 9/20/2008 5:02:13 AM |
While I agree with you to a certain extent, it's not really Plenty Of Fish as it is On-line Dating in general. People(Both men and women) think of it as some sort of "People Store" where you can customize your future husband/wife with all the options, and if they aren't complete perfection and without flaws I'm returning him/her, or in most cases not even going to try and get to know them.
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Posted: 9/20/2008 9:58:07 AM | Wow, I really can't believe the responses. Though I respect everybody's opinion, I encourage you to keep your account open.
I'm new as of August 08' and had some contacts but it didn't go right for me at first because I made mistakes in my profile being too open and genuine. Also, I wasn't good at chatting and became frustrated typing and keeping up. I type like a turtle. I know my spelling but hit the wrong kets sometimes. ( turn-off possibly?) I guess people didn't understand me but that doesn't mean that there will be new members joining and you could just find your mate. There's somebody for everybody.
Never give up! If you are dissatisfied just keep this as an option. Also, read the success stories. Why can't you be a success story? It happens when you least expect it. I'd also go out a little more and leave yourself open to oppotunity.
O'h , I forgot, you have an option when it comes to mail settings. It does limit your chances but if you lower your standards, you might really find a nice person. I know it's a crap shoot but what the heck.
Whatever you all decide, I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do.
P.S. These forums are really addictive. 
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Posted: 9/20/2008 10:09:52 AM | Believe me ... it goes the same with the women. If we aren't "Barbie" ... they just want nothing to do with us.
"Plain Jane" types are not what the men are looking for. Basically, I have triple jeopardy going on here ...
**I'm no Barbie by any means (I mean how could you be at the age of 59?) ...
**Most of the men my age basically want much younger ladies (until they get ED problems)
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**They are retired already and want nothing to do with a woman who still punches a time clock.
I'm also finding that the men (my age) are extremely set in their ways ... and really don't seem to care if they have a date from time to time or not. Many are not willing to change their schedules (set in stone) in any way in order to accommodate a woman in their life ... ie: Golf is on certain days of the week and there is no option for change ... going to run errands is done at a certain time of day ... no changes allowed ... must be in bed at a certain hour ... cut the date short and ship her out or he might turn into a doggone pumpkin.
I've never seen such a bunch of "stick-in-the-mud" types as here. Many have no inclination to want to do anything but either go to a movie and sit or have you over to their house and sit and watch a movie or the same at your house. They don't seem to want to be physically active in any way ... no walking, no biking, no going to play mini golf, no NOTHING but sit around ... 
I gave up finding someone who wants to still be physically active a long time ago. I'm just here playing in the forums. If a nice guy should see me there and take interest ... then so be it. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 10:58:49 AM | So, your going to give up on this site, Why post it? Do you really think anyone cares.
I know I dont.. I mean really just delete your page and be done with it..
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Posted: 9/20/2008 11:24:17 AM | 
the men are exactly the same.
they want sexy and young when they are old and fat!
i am finding that there are very few adults on here that want a relationship, not just a bed buddy.
i am sure there are good ones, don't mean to offend, i just haven't found one. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 11:54:36 AM | amen sister! You try to be honest and put what you want in a guy on here, and you still get the liars and players. It's not the site...it's the people (men and women) You just have to keep trying, and hopefully one day find the one you are looking for.
I agree with the other poster who said it's the internet, and the people who think it's a 'people store'. It's a shame it has come to this.
So many lonely people, and this could be such a wonderful way for them to meet, if everyone would just be honest.
One last thing...if you are MARRIED...why are you on here????? | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 2:19:45 PM | I am tired of guys not returning my freaking phone calls.. when they say they will
it pisses me off. it is freaking RUDE | |
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Posted: 9/20/2008 2:53:36 PM | I can understand the frustration dealing with this site...(yeah, the forums are something else!! LOL)....but I loved the responses of those who were positive...and they will in turn receive positive feedback. :)
It's a Fish Bowl in here, that's just the way it is....why not be positive and see what happens?
Like attracks like.... | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 10:21:25 AM | can some one that is not a MAN , explain to me why in the hell a guy will send you an IM and then not even be connected and they dont even talk, see this is why men piss me off. Either they will talk to u and then they find a reason to stop or they are dumb ass and wont call u back!!! GOD MEN SUCK
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Posted: 9/21/2008 10:29:03 AM | ^Maybe because you are so angry and your profile shows it.If IM frustrates you so much why not send an email?
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Posted: 9/21/2008 11:31:04 AM | I am far from angry in my profile. I am forward and I know what I want and dont want
if that offends guys the WHATEVER | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 11:50:00 AM | It's obvious what you are......and angry isn't the word. A prime example of those who think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread. If you were, you wouldn't be here with the rest of us..... | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 11:52:27 AM |
I beg your pardon! I pooped this morning!
everything come out alright??  | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 12:26:26 PM | It is too bad that you feel this way. There are people on here with unrealistic expectations (both men and women) and there are people on here that just want to play games, but if you stick with the site you may just find someone. I joined this site in October, 2007 and was very frustrated the first few months (like most people who join this site, I am sure). But then in March of this year I met someone on POF who did not have unrealistic expectations and was not in to head games. Seven months later I am still seeing him and only him. So you never know. You just have to perservere.
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Posted: 9/21/2008 1:02:35 PM | I dont think I am better than anyone on this site, I just know what I am looking for and what I want. So dont u judge me tee rox... I am a normal girl that knows what she wants
The only one that is aloud to judge is God and you sir I dont think you are... | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 1:21:43 PM | | your comment on "Barbie dolls", well I've been called that many many times and I am far from it, yes I'm blonde, petite, size 5 still at my age and 2 kids, it goes the same for me you know, I can't get a date, yeah they look, but that's it, been told I "look" unapproachabe, like a snob, gold digger and it's so far from the truth. Anyone that really knows me will say I am a great person, funny, a good personality, and a loyal friend. I don't go around thinking I just it, far from it, I often wonder what is wrong with me, and why I spend so much time alone. I want the same things as other women-any size, believe me there's things about me I'd like to change, but living with what I have. I know alot of my problem is my age, but unless men want children, why would my age matter? Then what's their problem? And the comment from someone else was these men want Miss Perfect and look at them??!! Beer bellies, unkept hair and facial hair and just no one you would talk to but yet they want Miss USA. I don't like being called a Barbie Doll, I'm just me and don't judge me on how I look, I'm just as lonely, and I've been out with friends who say I'm prettier than they are and they are the ones who get hit on, and asked to dance and many times I have went home crying, explain that, so I stopped going out, too depressing. I don't know what men want. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 1:27:42 PM | yep perpetuate the myth that there is NO ONE out there for you & become bitter,haha give me a break
I second that...... | |
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Posted: 9/21/2008 1:29:54 PM | | You are right, but where are these places?? You are also funny. Yes a picture is just a small piece, I'd rather see someone out, but that's not happening, so here I am and nothing, my picture doesn't say who I am or what I'm like. These sites are like applying for a job, fill out the application, wait for a interview and then sell yourself to see if they want to see you again. Waiting for someone's "approval" on what you look like is demeaning, that's really all they are doing. Why?? Me, I live in a small town and everyone knows and has dated everyone, who wants to stand in line for that? Hoping this way will work. | |
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