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Posted: 10/30/2008 2:55:03 PM | blueblood772 - you joined all of 4 days ago and you're ready to delete your profile? you can't expect miracles on here or any other dating site, just like you can't expect miracles out the real world.
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Posted: 10/30/2008 5:52:55 PM | WOOOHOOO you go round24me......I AGREE!!!!!
People look at my profile but never talk to me!!! or they talk to me cause they think they may hit it lucky, and get something outta me. i love talking to blokes they are normally easier to talk to than chicks, but on this site i just find that no matter who i try to talk to as you said teriT1955 shallow and judgmental . i might be cuddly, but the fact is, i have a ok sense of humor, bit warped at times, i am bubbly and i love to be random, and my personality isn't all that bad. so whats wrong with me then, that i get over looked, why cant some blokes just talk to a people instead of assuming your just a crappy second hand chick. all i got to say is WAM BAM THANK YOU MA'AM, this site would have been awesome cept for the fact that no bloke actually cares. and i got to say...you put a good pic up, they come running, you put a pic up where you look innocent, you get a few bites, but you put a pic up of the real you, they jump over board...so who are we trying to please if you cant like someone for who they are, you seriously are a shallow person (pity i cant swear other wise i would have put a few choice words in there)
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Posted: 12/4/2008 10:10:37 AM | Just noticed this thread. It is rather interesting to me as i was kinda in the same boat as the OP. I didnt really get much from the site, went on a few dates and went out with a girl for about 3 months. I was ready to delete my profile and walk (i was sick of sending mails and seeing unread/deleted, it only takes two minutes to send a 'thanks but no thanks' reply), as i was browsing for what i assumed was the last time i saw a profile that really interested me. I mailed the lass, she mailed back, i mailed her again, she mailed back and so on.
Turns out that the very girl i mailed is now my GF of a year. Ive never met anyone like her anywhere. She is damn good looking(a superficial thing to say i know, but she is lol), she is funny, she is intelligent and she is very musiclly talented which is something that i find very attractive in a woman. She also loves Xbox 360 games (as i do...god im such a child hahaha).
Basically if you go after the 'barbie/ken' types, you will get exactly that. Good looks and bog-all else, next thing ya know they arent interested in you anymore as some poser/tart has caught their eye and you get all mega pi$$ed off. Good looks are ok, but they must be backed up with something else such as erm, um i dont know...a brain? Sense of humour? Common interests?
You may be asking yourself why i am still on here if i have a GF......i talk to people from all over the world on here, i enjoy hearing how they are and what they have been up to.
All in all it really is up to the individual to decide whether this site is good or crap but i feel that it is an excellent site and all for FREE too.
Happy Fishing people
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Posted: 12/9/2008 3:53:16 PM | I agree that if they are not complete perfection without flaws we don't return to them, and we don't even get to know that person. It is sad that we judge a book by it's cover
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Posted: 2/3/2009 5:47:15 PM | amen to that, beachboy. the unrealistic expectations and playing games, i experienced that.
i had dates with 2 women and it was over after 1 date, they were mismatches. 1 was too old, more than 20 years older than me and that made her even older than my stepfather. and she gave me children's books about diabetes on the date, who does that?
a 3rd i said no to as she kept 'crying wolf' as to why she was failing to show up for dates, but said she would just ADORE getting a public marriage proposal at a baseball game. who talks about marriage and kids before the FIRST date? and who in their right mind
unloads their problems so early, calling 3 straight nights after 11pm just to complain about her life and her line of work? she did that too.
i grew tired of sending out numerous messages and seeing nearly all of them say 'read-deleted'. i didn't mind much at first since it's free, but who likes a complete washout? i don't. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:24:02 AM | | I have been on the 'other' pay sites and you do get responses there and maybe a date or two. I'm in a rural area and get about 1/3 of the girls writing me back, even if to say no. Here i have not gotten 1 reply. Not 1. I can deal with rejection fine, I mean 2/3 of my messages on other sites are ignored and I'm fine with that. But 0 replies from here?!? In over a year?!? It's not me or my profile. I wouldn't have the success from the other sites if it was. So all you men from rural America take note. Go into this expecting absolutely nothing, and you won't be disappointed. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 1:01:44 AM | | its not just america mate im giving up again they only look at your pics and the ones that do msg dont even really read your profile and as soon as you say u smoke etc poof they are gone pay sites are better in some ways but the can be the same its all about looks and money these days | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 8:09:11 AM | | I couldn't agree with you more, lol everything he said was true! | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 10:17:40 AM | Dating sites take perseverence basically. They do work though. I met my last GF through a dating site and we went out for over a year. Unfortunately, I do "punch above my weight" so I'm pretty sure girls I message are also receiving hundreds of other e-mails but hey, it works at times.
Married men on sites.... hmmnn.. it's not just men act in this fashion. Something which made me very hesitant about joining POF was that my abovementioned ex is on it. She joined the day after we broke up!! And even more ironic - my ex-wife is here also. And she's been in a relationship with a bloke for over a year and a half, the guy hangs around with my son and all... and here she is cheating on him... so don't just give the guys a bad rap. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 8:27:33 AM | I cannot see many women enjoying what I do. Is there such a woman that enjoys writing .pascall files (hi markus lol), playing video games and/or computer designing?
No. I didn't think so...oh well, I'll still continue searching...they say there is someone for everyone...or do I have to write her up in pascall lol
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:12:44 PM | Well I agree with you on the fact that the "people" on here seem to be full of crap. It's not always the women. I have actually talked to a few great women on this site (not looking for love just talking) and they are truly open to love. However, it goes both ways in the sense that there are women here full of crap, but some guys are as well. I've talked to a few great guys but I've also encountered the "read deleted" messages. I personally answer any message sent to me unless it's from someone seeking an intimate encounter. Still my experiences so far have left me thinking that it might be better to just take the "looking for " off of my profile. All these guys supposedly looking for love lie on their profiles saying they are open to "everything" and "everyone" which is bull. They judge you by a stupid message you send, a picture, and/or your profile and if they don't like one thing they don't talk to you.
Also if they do answer and you have a great conversation they may just stop talking to you out of nowhere. I think that's another problem. At least have the decency to say goodbye.
So I say good for you that you would rather leave and find love elsewhere. I might be joining you if I keep running into guys like that. Still I do want to keep the new friends that I made, but I don't need this site to keep them. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 3:22:16 AM | the problem with site is that most of the woman here are full of sh*t and are no way of communication as they prefer david hasseloff or bloody brad pitt with all there $ they have and noone is perfect either car house limousine travel these woman on here can be here for most of there lives seeking out there true shining armour which they need to wak up and smell the coffeee and not to mentioned theres to much single mums on this site with high standreds and there baggage to go with it and they complain why noone wants to date them | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 9:00:22 AM | ^^^ I don't neccesarily agree with your rant there Bennyboy. I prefer Johnny Depp with all his $ thank you very much.  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2009 12:16:26 AM | Punch above your weight,
Date out of your league
Fishing out of season
Just remember, somebody, somewhere at this very moment, is sick of that persons attitude, style, history, family, job, complaining, 'singing', yadda yadda yadda | |
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Posted: 11/6/2009 12:58:40 PM | I was not on the site long till I met my current bfriend .But I do not think that we are representative of internet dating so I will not try to give advise on same.
However I do feel that One my really keep it real when on these sites.
You have to be realistic.
Take it for what it is.
Looks are even more emphasized here as it is all you have to go on at first.. its not personal.
Also if you want to give it your best shot and you are genuine I think it is best to be honest in the log run.
And beware of messers - these sights are not for naive folk..
And if it does not work out it is not because of POF - the internet in general is only as good as the user...
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Posted: 11/7/2009 3:42:25 AM | I agree with the above title
A nigerian scammer posing as an english woman with false photos once tried to defraud me and possibly a lot of others on here. I got them banned I was satisfied by that outcome its a shame yahoo did nothing about them.
I spend up to 10 mins writing friendly and funny messages as an intro to new people I've never spoken to before which goes to waste when only 1 in 10 respond.
Naturally I only target those profiles that I like and who I think I'll have anything in common with.
I know of one person on here who discriminates against those with physical disabilities yet the admin did nothing about them.
I would like to be proved wrong on this next question.
Is it just me or do most of the London women on here seem stuck up and full of hypocrisy?
I help people with their profiles if I see mistakes and after messaging them I don't even get an acknowledgement of thanks in reply.
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Posted: 11/7/2009 10:47:48 AM | To the above entry:
You are so very right about that.
Using the dating sites involves a process that we all go through.
First, the initial enthusiasm when spotting a few nice women, then the sending of some well written e-mails to them, followed by the classic heartless no response. Next, you improve your photos and rewrite the essay until it's perfect,....again no responses. After experiencing the "1 in 10" response ratio, the frustration begins. The final result for most people here is to stop taking it seriously and realize that the genuinely nice women are almost non existent on the dating sites. The good ones are there, of course, but they may take years to find.
It's possible that some of the flakes and Gold Diggers from my home state of California have moved over to London just to annoy you,.....but be of good cheer,......if they don't see the money happening there, they will be moving back this way very soon!
It's certainly not a London problem my friend. Hang in there. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 5:33:12 PM |
First, the initial enthusiasm when spotting a few nice women, then the sending of some well written e-mails to them, followed by the classic heartless no response.
With all the above I have become apathetic towards the site.
hmmm I wonder if theres a connection?
i too have lost faith in this place, seems the women in canada are no different than california and london
but i'm sure some fat chick will post here saying its all our fault | |
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Posted: 11/8/2009 11:39:27 PM | Well,
I've been here for over two years now, I dunno maybe three? I've managed to attract the exact opposite of what I was looking for, very very obese women..hey I'm not perfect but the one thing I'm not is fat lol in fact I'm actually kind of skinny lol well so much for that I guess..
more interesting is the phenom of women placing you on their favorites list and when you contact them they just don't bother to write back...so far? I've tried this six different times with six different women but the exact same result...read! (never deleted just READ lol)
a couple of people before me in this thread have stated what I feel is the crux of the issue, one guy said he's blames society over any dating or web site...YES! I do agree with that. another suggested that the people on dating sites in general are very out of touch with the word REASONABLE ! I do think expectations are set a lil too high and the demands? outrageous, I refer to their expecting a sugar daddy etc..I know I know! they don't actually say that THAT'S who they're ultimately looking for but a quick glance at many profiles make it crystal clear.
yes many here are shallow I also feel many are afraid to take it beyond posting a profile..
why bother? who knows! I certainly have no answer for any of it
as for me? I'm not deleting anything, however, I have absolutely given up on writng to females, if they want to write to me GREAT! if not (and prob. not!) then whatever
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Posted: 11/9/2009 4:45:19 PM | hi...ok boyz...i'm one of those women who reads and writes back to everyone...not only that i go through the no e-mails part and pick out guys to write to...to get them off of no e-mails...lol...its all done in humor...i've been on pof off and on for two years...and those who know me contact me asap...i have so many e-mails that this time...i decided its best just to be here for the forums...i think it is sad that women don't respond and write back...many times i had to delete my profile because the e-mails were toooooooo much for me...sorry but right now i'm not taking any e-mails...uh oh...me bad...running...  | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 1:01:01 AM |
Is it just me or do most of the London women on here seem stuck up and full of hypocrisy?
Yes they are. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 12:19:18 AM | | If you wanna tap out then tap out.... Still.......I don't think you shoul quit. | |
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