| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:05:07 AM | To start things off you do deserve way better, the right guy will come along sooner or later. Being women, usually when we think it is the right time it is usually not. As for them committing to other people, obviously they are not if they are calling you to hook up. If they are calling you for sex, rest assured they are more then likely calling others. I was just posting to reassure you that it is not you and that Mr. Right will come along in time...dont get the wrong idea im still waiting for him too!  | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:25:45 AM | all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Look Gal, If you are in the broken hearts column, isn't that enough to say that you are having issues in this area. (Sex that is!) 
Wow, even down here in Australia, Boy will be Boys.... and Sex is just that...... Sex!!!
Sex is a great thing, between two "CONSENTING" Adults.
So..... if YOU don't consent ... then DON'T
Just tell them or txt them back to say F**K OFF !! 
Or better still tell them your boyfriend wouldn't like it! Who cares if it's true on not.
Your next boyfriend wouldn't like it!!!!
Be strong and reward yourself with you own DIGNITY and self respect.
"If you think you can, YOU CAN!" .............. Think about that for life!!!
Keytolove. Downunder!! | |
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njdad
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Joined: 8/23/2008
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:37:06 AM | Perhasp you are a warm, wonderful, loving, nuturing woman well versed in understanding and preforming with and for your partner, along with being one of the most beautiful women on the planet that keeps them overly exited, imature none understanding men beging for more of the physical without the emotional passion and proper respect and dignity that each human being is deserving of, even when they are not aware of it. However when I have found that something keeps reacuring then I find it best to look over what it is that happens and find other ways to change my behavior or state things more clearly. Hopefully without hurting anothers feeling.
All of us are bleesed and/or cursed in someway. Be thankful for the complement and seek what you desreve and desire. Jim | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:35:29 AM |
This is true as I am compatible with many just as you are incompatible with the majority (your words, not mine).
Well yeah you sounds exactly like the OP who appears to be compatible with every man on the planet. BTW, I don't know what part of the solar system you developed your reading skills, but you make inferences with no basis. I suppose you're a woman who is always looking for a fight with someone man or woman, and these are your tactics for resolving your emotional inadequacies.
In any case, I have many patients with advanced stages of heart disease who have destroyed their health more due to emotional issues than physical causes. Like you they just can't let go and continue on fighting. | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/1/2008 8:57:43 AM |
Perhasp you are a warm, wonderful, loving, nuturing woman well versed in understanding and preforming with and for your partner, along with being one of the most beautiful women on the planet that keeps them overly exited, imature none understanding men beging for more of the physical without the emotional passion and proper respect and dignity that each human being is deserving of, even when they are not aware of it. However when I have found that something keeps reacuring then I find it best to look over what it is that happens and find other ways to change my behavior or state things more clearly. Hopefully without hurting anothers feeling.
All of us are bleesed and/or cursed in someway. Be thankful for the complement and seek what you desreve and desire. Jim
You're making a lot of assumptions here plus confusing love with sex. They aren't the same thing. Sex between a man and a woman is a normal thing especially in the early stages of a relationship. For a relationship to become meaningful requires time and couples getting to know each other to the point they both agree to a committment.
Unfortunately the neurotic personality expects "love" without taking the time to explore their partner in regard to both parties needs, wants, and general compatibility. When the relationship falls apart which usually happens early into it, they become an emotional basket case. Usually and this is obviously very apparent if you read the various posts on this forum, they place the blame for the demise of the relationship on their departed partner.
The normal healthy personality may very likely have a series of unsuccessful encounters with the opposite sex, but these failures don't destroy them emotionally. What they do is learn from each experience and adjust their behavior to reflect it. These people will go on to have long enduring loving relationship while the rest of humanity will view "love" as some idealized concept.
And even worse for the neurotic, they will develop all sorts of theories about why "men" (or women) are basically evil mean spirited creatures and thus their situation is hopeless. You'll also notice this by all the WTFs, FUs, and other assorted abbreviated obscenities. BTW, can't anyone spell on this forum? | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/1/2008 10:31:45 AM | Well yeah you sounds exactly like the OP who appears to be compatible with every man on the planet. BTW, I don't know what part of the solar system you developed your reading skills, but you make inferences with no basis. I suppose you're a woman who is always looking for a fight with someone man or woman, and these are your tactics for resolving your emotional inadequacies
Are you not the ultimate hypocrite - you state the OP and I are compatible with every man on the planet yet you based that on ???? oh, that's right - nothing. Sorry to dissapoint ya there bud but I don't have any emotional inadequacies. Its called a discussion board - we discuss - the good, the bad, the ugly and the pathetic (basically your posts).
In any case, I have many patients with advanced stages of heart disease who have destroyed their health more due to emotional issues than physical causes. Like you they just can't let go and continue on fighting
I didn't realize you were Dr. Quack - yeah, right, defending an attack on a message board will lead to heart disease. Well let me contact CNN and tell them the latest!
Call your med school at once and demand you get your money back! I guess you don't understand the significance between "fight" and "defend an attack" ... you wouldn't ... your posts scream of cluelessness. Keep fighting ... I'll just keep defending. | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:35:19 PM | | i stopped drinking some time ago,and was never much for the hard stuff.but a "shot of brandie"always made me feel pretty good.honestly,its time for this post to die.ABIT,i tried to send you a message,but your settings would not allow me,was hoping we could be friends on the net,always try to meet new people,and you seem like a good person.would love to hear from you,if not,good luck out here,a great gal like you won't have a problem catchung a nice fish.and brandie,you know whats going on,you are a very smart girl,and the innocent act isn't working,got played out when you had the child.stay home with him and stop playing,that rep is hard to lose,and a loud whistle in the phone will stop those booty calls. | |
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Joined: 9/21/2008
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 1:03:34 AM | You have to choose wisely who you date.
Get the guy to talk about his life and relationships and see what type of man he has become.
The devil always seems to reveal himself early in the relationship.
You just have to listen and don't do anything that would make you feel bad about yourself.
If you are really a good person, then evil people will avoid you.
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:30:07 AM |
If you are really a good person, then evil people will avoid you.
Hmm crazy much?
To OT: I think that is the world we live in, these guys are obviously losers, I don't think there are many women who haven't experienced similar or the same, as you are experiencing... Like alot of others have said all you can do is ignore it, and wait till you bump into someone great...
If you are wanting to be left in peace from the texting, you could report harrassment from specific numbers to your cell/mobile network, as they can and if requested will block a specific number from being able to contact your cell/mobile number. | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 5:41:28 AM | this message is for *trrypier*
I'm a littlie confused first you are nice to me in the message then you put me down.. I never said I was innocent did I? also I have never stated that I go out party or persue these guys.. I got my number changed and I know longer hear from these guys except my son's father and can't stop that communication because of my son! but him and I had a talk and it helped out alot.. I don't know your outlook on me so i'm going to clear things up for you.. I had relationships with all three of these guys and they all lasted a year or so.. we grew apart and went are seperated ways and I never contacted my ex's because I believe their your ex for a reason.. they contacted me and I never lead them on in anyway.. also the reason why I wrote this thread just to get some opinions.. because not understanding how they just come out of the blue but i'm starting to understand the reason..
1) they want sex and think since we had it before they would try again
2) their not satisfied with their partner sexually, or their not get any lol..
oh by the way i'm always with my son hes my everything dont put anything or anyone before him... I dont go out much because i'm with my son that's why i'm on here maybe i can meet a nice guy and get to know.. looking for someone to spend my freetime with when I have it!!! hopefully I cleared things up for you, i'm respect my self and I have morals.. I dont go out looking for trouble. thanxs for all your input.. not quite sure why you have so much to say about this.. but my problem is over now so no longer needed any more comments from you lol.. oh also I have a question for you why did you try to contact me? your other messages you left on here was making me out to be a big tease so why would you want to talk to someone like that.. anyway, take care and happy fishing  | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:13:52 AM |
oh by the way i'm always with my son hes my everything dont put anything or anyone before him...
This is one of the biggest "red flags" that any guy worth his salt see's a mile away. You want some guy to spend your free time with, when you have it.
you dont put anything or anyone before him.... but you want someone to spend thier time with you when you have free time... as if this guy, who ever it may be, was just going to sit on a shelf and wait for you to grace him with your presence.
yeah, it sounds like you're asking for a booty call when you state things like that. Because apparently in your world, a man has no value except for second place. And only when you feel you have free time to spare....
The funniest thing about this whole thread... you dont get it. You are the center of your kids universe, and you want some guy to make you the center of his, without reciprocation.... If you're not willing to give, dont demand... The guys that want a relationship, also want to feel they are a part of something... not just there to be at your beck and call when you have free time... They were not there to make your kid, maybe the best bet you would have is to go back to your babby's dad. Then you can both be the center of the kids universe and have each other to boot.
So yes, the whole premise of "I want a man to spend my free time with when I have it" sounds like a booty call to some... others, its a flag to stay clear! | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:42:23 AM | | well i knew you were a good mom,and stated so before.just trying to see what the deal is.fact is so many people jump in,we loose what the original post was all about.i am sorry about that.it is just one of those problems where you cannot have one answer.but some of what you answered makes sense.being not satisfied with their partner is a mental and growing issue.all in all they do not want what you want.you have an extra person to think about,and sound like these guys are the type that skirts from responsibility.its hard keeping your numbers private when your are young,and much of the crowd you all run is tied together.some one will always give it out,and make the person swear it was not them that did it.i guess i was a little guilty of getting the posts mixed up and lost your original post.i re read it and you seem sincere.if you need a friend or a person to talk to,you can message me away from this crap,who knows,i may actually have something to add that might help?i would never hit on you or anything,am too old and know better.have a step daughter about your age.you and my son may end up being friends,about you age and doing college.i am done with this post,it has got to the point where its all mixed up and confusing,and people are so far off they are saying things that are not correct,myself included.good luck. | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:47:22 AM | to dive drifter , I wasnt saying that at all.. hello, my son is FIRST and always will be and a guy in mylife will be second to him thats just the way it is.. so that should say it all!!! it's not like i'm putting a guy last.. example i had a day plan to go somewhere with my son and I was just starting to date the guy and didnt know him very well I wouldnt introduce him to my son so therefore i would see him when i was done spending time with my son.. but if i was dating the guy for awhile and knew him well that would be a different story i would invite him to come with us.. by the way i would make him feel part of something and my sons father and I didnt workout were better off as friends.. take care and thanx for your opinion.  | |
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| all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that?
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:14:09 AM | | Hi Brandy, this is Janie. I have been meeting men who only want the same from me. But I am a Christian and value myself more than being someones sex buddy. Men and women think totally differently. You are right not to give in to people who have left you. And by the way having sex with men in other relationships who are having unprotected sex is a very bad idea. All of the stds out there and AIDS....you just tell those men that you deserve better and want to not have any more contact with them. Just wish them luck and blessings and go on with your life. Sometimes after we have been hurt we get a low self esteem. And then we worry if we will ever find a nice, decent honest man. I suggest no matter how difficult it may be, that you just kindly tell all of those selfcentered men you had relationships with..."Thanks, But No Thanks"!!!! Janie | |
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