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| Good man versus the man who actually GETS you
Posted: 9/28/2008 6:02:13 PM | This is the reason I'm not looking for a typical long term relationship.
I'm not sure when it disappeared, or if it will ever return, but I don't feel like I can really express my emotions nor am I capable of or desire to handle the emotions of the person I might call my partner.
That killed the last relationship I was involved in, and between then and now, prevented me from getting into another one.
I look at profiles, and while I may initially be interested, I cannot provide anything in the emotional department, so I simply say no.
Maybe some day I'll meet someone who reignites that fire. Until then, friendship is all I can offer. | |
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| Good man versus the man who actually GETS you
Posted: 10/8/2008 11:43:54 PM | First question:
Yes, some women settle.
Second question:
No, you are not stupid. You not one of the women who will settle.
Third question:
If you truly love this one, then you will not listen to my answer.
Fourth qeustion:
This is really two questions, "Do I stay?" and "Do I accept the fact that emotionally I will be beating a dead horse forever?"
4a:
Yes
4b:
No
Fifth question:
It's usually a bit of both, but it depends upon the individual.
Men sometimes fear to show emotion because if they show too much they risk losing the respect of the women in their lives. Sometimes they just err on the side of too much caution, but other times they try to turn the tables on women and freeze them out, because they feel that as men, they have not been allowed to express themselves in the same emtional terms that women do. Men fear rejection if they seem too weak and it's not a paranoid delusion. We really do lose important women in our lives if we share too much. Because once her respect is gone, her affection is gone. It's happened to ALL of us men. On the other hand, giving a woman the cold shoulder to "get back at her" is a dangerous game and it usually backfires. | |
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| Good man versus the man who actually GETS you
Posted: 10/9/2008 7:32:40 AM | It sounds like you only lack one thing, emotional support. In all honesty, a lot of us look for too much in a relationship. A partner is not, well, God. We can't expect the other to be perfect and provide us with, friendship, romance, support, and knowing exactly what we need without telling them.
You sound like you're in a very nice committed relationship that fulfills almost all of these requirements. That's about as good as it gets! Don't get wrapped up in finding perfection, as it doesn't exist. The question you have to ask yourself is, if I had to give up one or two of those qualities in a relationship, but could keep the rest, which ones would I be willing to give up? Good luck. | |
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| Good man versus the man who actually GETS you
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:15:03 AM | | I think it would be a good time to work on yourself. Focus on you and what you want in life. The menopause is also causing more emotions. When you are happier and content everyone around you will benifit. He may then be more interested in less "space" or you may find it's not working for you. | |
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