| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 2/3/2009 12:55:59 PM |
Yes, this situation baffles us all the time.
1. He thrives on the excitement of a new relationship, then once he gets what he wants out of it, he is done.
2. He isn't seeking long term potential. So once it starts going there, he bails out.
3. He thrives on attention. He loves the attention you give him, therefore why he still wants to be "just friends".
If he can't give you what you want in the relationship, I would suggest ending it.
Yes, this situation baffles us all the time.
1. She thrives on the excitement of a new relationship, then once she realizes she's not getting her "fantasy of perfection" out of it, she is done.
2. She is seeking long term potential before she even knows you, and if it doesn't go there on her schedule, she bails out.
3. She thrives on attention. She loves the attention you give her, therefore why she still wants to be "just friends".
If she can't compromise on what you want in the relationship, I would suggest ending it.
-- Not always so black and white sometimes. Wonderful thing about us human critters, we're not all cut from a cookie cutter so we're all different, with different wants and needs that aren't always compatible - but life would be boring if we weren't, wouldn't it? | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 2/3/2009 2:10:29 PM | | There is probably something about you that made him decide - "she is not the one for me." He likes you, but know that it would be a waste of time to spend too much time with you. Because your relationship moved so quickly early on, the only option was to end it abruptly. | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 2/3/2009 3:52:49 PM | Well, if I was in that situation and we hit it off the only way I could see myself getting freaked out is if the girl started to emotionally lean on you. There are things that girls do that can freak a guy out, like a random call "hey I was just thinking about you and thought I should call", I mean half the fun of getting into a relationship is figuring out whether or not you're good enough for them. If they lay down too easy and become super smitten "I like you alot, I feel a connection thats different than any other for a long time" that would freak the heck outta me.
There are many times where guys have one set of thoughts in our mind, but mindfull enough to let our body language to display the happy and fun loving person girls are attracted to. It sounds disturbing I know, but girls are sneaky too  | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 3/27/2009 2:10:16 PM | | It's called "hit and run". He probably wanted sex and now that he got it, he isn't interested anymore. Some guys like the challenge...the hunt...the chase. Dump him. Dump him. Dump him. Ironically though, he will probably get interested again. Don't do it for that reason - do it because of self respect. He has a problem. | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 3/28/2009 6:58:17 AM | | Wow, thats really tough, Im sorry for you. I feel it is better not to have a second or a third date if you dont feel the chemistry, so he should not have either. That just gave you an entirely wrong impression of how he felt. He may have actually had a good time with you, but men can have good times with other men and arent attracted to them. I had chatted and had phone conversations with one who I thought I could fall head over heels for, but never met. I really wanted to get to met her but guess she wasnt that interested. I think it was better not to after that, I only would have felt the same as you do now. Think you should give this guy the brush off and move on. | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 3/30/2009 10:02:27 PM | | Che mistry is what starts a relationship. Its the natural attraction. Its what make the fire cause with chemistry comes passion, but this is the attraction in the beginning. Its what drives you to make you sleep with someone, but chemistry is not what keeps a relationship going. You also have to click... and I am not sure how to explain that one, but maybe you 2 had physical chemistry but the rest just wasn't there. | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 3/31/2009 11:16:55 AM | LADIES READ UP!!!
This is a classic way a FWB situation arises. It has all the earmarks.
1. He turns on the charm big-time. He has her in his clutches as he appears to be Prince Charming. Her words "Amazing chemistry". She's hooked and falls for him way too early.
2. He says he wants to be friends... probably says it's not "you, it's me" kinda crap... and maybe throws in a "I've been hurt before" to appear sensitive.
3. Now he proposes he wants to be friends and "hang out" sometime.
NOW what's coming...
Since he made it clear he wants to be friends only while really wanting to get together... and he knows you're hurt and smitten... he will attempt to get in your pants. And 95 out of 100 women in your situation will let him. Not only because you like him, but because you are under the delusion that having sex with him will make him go "WOWWWW, I really DO want to date you! How could I have been so silly"?
Let it play out and tell me I'm wrong. Then , when he finds another girl(s), and tried to date/bang them, he can always say "hey babe, I said I wanted to be friends"... and you have no leg to stand on.
Watch the F Out!!! | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 3/31/2009 6:39:16 PM |
Let it play out and tell me I'm wrong. Then , when he finds another girl(s), and tried to date/bang them, he can always say "hey babe, I said I wanted to be friends"... and you have no leg to stand on.
I agree, saved me posting more or less the same thing... | |
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| Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why?
Posted: 5/31/2009 5:11:38 AM | Question-who is doing all the callng?If it's only you the guy is "polite "and tells you what you want to hear.If he has told you that he want to be "only friends"-he is actually saying-You ain't it.Move on. | |
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