| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/22/2008 3:55:22 PM | There is just too many people in this world to settle. If drinking wine was a big part of his life, why wouldn't he reject you? It may sound silly to you or I, but it's his choice.
Here are some reasons I dismiss profiles;
1. Nascar. (Don't like it. And people that do are just a little too into it for my tastes.)
2. Camping. (Despise it. Had a ex that always bugged me about going, then got mad when I wouldn't "even try it". I've been camping before and wouldn't buy into the argument that it would be "different with her".)
3. Pagans. (I'm sure they are fine people. I'm a Christian and my family is "over-the-top" Christian. Why would I want that much drama in my life?)
4. Doesn't have a car. (I don't want to play taxi.)
If more people were honest in their desires and what makes them happy instead of settling; life would be so much easier.
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:01:11 PM |
3. Pagans. (I'm sure they are fine people. I'm a Christian and my family is "over-the-top" Christian. Why would I want that much drama in my life?)
I guess you don't celebrate Christmas because Christmas is a pagan holiday. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:11:44 PM |
This makes sense to me if one (speaking generally, not you personally) is here looking for some level of on-going, or at least in-person, relationship (i.e Dating, LTR, intimate encounter). But, does this hold true if one is just looking for friends or chatting? I mean, what would it matter that you smoke (or gamble, or live 3000 miles apart) if you're not looking to form a more intimate relationship?
It doesn't matter if one is not looking, but I thought this thread was about folks who are. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/22/2008 6:35:08 PM | I would reject him if it seemed like his interests had nothing to do with mine. Why waste his time if he hates the outdoors but I love camping?
Or he loves poetry recitals and they make my skin crawl?
I believe the purpose of filling out our profiles is to find people we are compatible with. If you set out to date someone by pretending to be into what you are not solely because that person is hot then it defeats the whole point of trying to fall in love.
Or something.
I confess I didn't read this whole thread because it kind of seems like a silly question. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/23/2008 4:38:55 PM |
It doesn't matter if one is not looking, but I thought this thread was about folks who are.
a) OP didn't distinguish what level or sort of relationship one was using the profile to reject upon, and
b) I was chaging/refining the 'facts' to see if it changed anyone's answer.
*noting MHP: reject "friends" who reject smokers ;-) | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/24/2008 2:59:43 PM | | I wouldn't reject a man just because he doesn't like wine. However there are certain things on a profile that could be a dealbreaker to me. Such he is much older than me, he lives too far from me, he has racist comments on his profile, we have different interests etc. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/25/2008 2:41:17 PM | Yes, and here's just one example (first couple of lines in "About me" from a profile):
"I am a devoted Christian living my life for God. He has blessed me with each and every day and I am grateful to call Him my Father, my friend, and my Savior."
A bit much, no? | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/25/2008 3:08:29 PM | At last! Someone that understands why I drink tequila instead of wine! I've tried more than once to be a lady and order wine instead of hard liquor and I regret every single drop of it hours after when my head is about to explode 
I put on my profile I drink tequila knowing there will be a moron or two that will think I'm a full blown alcoholic and will not contact me because of that, and I don't really care. Tequila is part of my culture, and I embrace it proudly (Just like french people like wine, and germans like beer). If they are so quick to judge me based on a paragraph, I'm not interested in meeting them either.
I would definitely not contact someone that clearly states he's married or a drug addict though, and I will probably think it twice before going out with someone that doesn't drink at all (I would feel uncomfortable having a drink, and I know I may need one to help me relax ... I get very nervous on dates, and I don't know how to do yoga breathing...  )
So I guess the answer is yes. I would reject someone based on something they say in their profile if it's gonna affect me directly, and I may be rejected for not lying and being myself too.  | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/25/2008 4:00:23 PM | | NOT just one or two things on their profile, but the profile over all. I check their pic, if there is no pic on man's profile I go no further. Some have very little on theirs. I am afraid if the pic and profile DO NOT appeal, well that's it! I avoid any hint of possessiveness.In any case I will not date a man on a Date- line, I only chat. Which is just as well, because it does not take long to discover that some have not read or understood my profile and so many are very possessive, egotistical and I AM NOT MEANT FOR THEM | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/26/2008 4:41:23 AM | "Would I reject someone because of something in their profile"
Yes.
Yes - on what other basis do you filter the people you end up talking with?
There's one chick that I've seen with, ISYN, "serial killer" as her job description. Another said in her profile that she sometimes gets so drunk that she sleeps in the gutter.
So, yes - I reject people based on things in their profile all the time. It's only sensible. Even if what they're saying isn't *literally* true, they still ring alarm bells by even using certain things to introduce themselves. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/26/2008 6:03:17 AM | I don't drink. I have nothing against those who do. Just makes me unwell. Some men who are into their wine and specifically say so on their profiles/interests contact me (nobody reads profiles around here it seems). When I ask if they mind dating someone who does not drink, they say we would not be compatible.
On the other hand, I will not contact a profile where he says that something I think is so trivial figures largely in his lifestyle. If he contacts me I will point out that fact and see how he takes it. In most cases, the contact stopped there. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/26/2008 6:18:00 AM | I wouldn't reject someone for something has simple as his choice of drinks ....
Now if they said something like ... I like to have a woman stick her feet in the cat box so I can s*ck on her toes would be a definite rejection ...
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/26/2008 8:17:23 PM | | I wouldn't reject a man if he said "wine gives me a headache so I can't drink it"... but I probably would if he said "I am absolutely against drinking and I never do it"... because I like to kick back with my friends once in a while and have a few drinks and I like a guy's who's cool with that and a lot of times a statement that bold implies that because they don't do it they look down on anyone else who does. Make sense? | |
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