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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/26/2008 8:51:10 PM | It would have to be something really outrageous to make me pass over someone.
"I really want to be a vampire, if there are any out there please come turn me"
"I'm looking to get married right away, I already have a house located on my Mormon ranch"
"I'm a liberal" 
something like: I don't like wine, I dislike cats, I'm very attached to my hobby of taxonomy , isn't likely to really strike me as a negative trait, just something else about a person.
and I drink wine like an Irish man raised in Paris. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/26/2008 10:02:56 PM | Quite often, I confess. I just don't believe in the overuse of phrases. It seems that the phrases "drama" and "stress" are far overused today.
But it's more trendy than direct now. So, it does become a turn-off. Especially, if you have children, and you use it towards men who have children like myself.
It says to me, "I love mine, and to he** with yours".
So, I have. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/27/2008 7:06:58 AM |
a lot of times a statement that bold implies that because they don't do it they look down on anyone else who does. Make sense? ...No, not really..
Well, I can only speak for myself of course.
I don't drink, but I don't look down on anyone, who wants to have a drink or two.
We all need a designated driver..LOL..
Course don't be picking a fight at the bar, or womit all over in my car..
So, if I see occasional drinking on her profile, I am OK with that. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/28/2008 9:54:18 PM | If she's looking for her "knight in shining armor", my pof experience tells me that she's looking or a guy that will come sweep her off of her feet and take care o all of her financial woes. Too many of these women were within a week or two of having to move, yet had nowhere to move to! In any event, most were on the verge of some sort of financial ruin and the impression that I got, was that they were looking for a "savior". I'm not the one!
If she's looking for prince charming, she's lost all touch with reality and is living in a fantasy world! I'm not the one!
If she's looking for Mr.Right or Mr. Perfect..........see my remarks about prince charming!
If she's "looking for one guy to prove that all men aren't the same". I feel like I'm under British law, where you are "guilty until proven innocent." No thanks! I don't feel like being placed in a box with the sins of my predecessors and don't feel obliged to "prove" myself to anyone. Judge me based upon my own merits and faults, or keep clicking!
If she has nothing but a "laundry list" profile, of traits and characteristics. I feel like I'm reading a newspaper personals section. And none of THOSE personal ads look very appealing either!
I'm more interested in a profile where the person "talks" to their viewer and gives an insight into whom the person is and their sense of humor. If she takes the dating scene WAY too seriously, her profile will reflect that. If she's a very negative person, her profile will reflect that. If she spends too much time on what she's NOT looking for (no players, FWBs, one-nighters, etc) I'm not interested.
If she's a whale advertising as a dolphin.....instead of a dolphin advertising as a whale, I'm not interested! | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 11:08:53 AM | This is to the 'whoever' who answered Pagan...if you and your christian family even began to understand Paganism you'd realize how absolutely ridiculous that answer is, unless you do understand paganism and just let your family's misunderstandings rule your world..
How can understanding the energy and love within all things: elements, trees, your head, be EVIL!!!!! | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 11:28:11 AM |
Alot of guys (especially the Australian guys like to drink wine ) so my question is - If I had that on my profile, which I don't at the moment, would you reject me because of that? Ladies would you reject a man based on that info?
eau contraire mon amis....I would infact invite him into the wonderful world of wino's....I'm always on the look out for a new vino pal...
I think it depends on the value you put on these things....I personally am not sure if any one particular idiosyncrasy may cause me to reject a man at all.... | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 12:20:21 PM | Hmmm
The profile is all we have to go on here.
I think we all reject people hundreds of times per day, based on what we see in those profiles. ..Otherwise, we would all be running out and meeting absolutley everyone...so we whittle down the list, and can only do that based on the profile. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 1:36:47 PM | | Definitely. A profile is what we go by to determine a possible match. As previous responders already mentioned, it goes both ways. For example, I don't like drunks, or people who are into drugs and gambling. That would be huge red flags for me. On the other hand, if a man says that he loves animals, or into cycling, or scuba diving, I know that he wouldn't be intrested in me because I wouldn't share those of his hobbies. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 1:38:57 PM | That would be an extremely trivial objection to possibly meeting someone you could connect with on so many other levels. More often, I reject women because of lack of mutual attraction. But then again the ship sails both ways.  | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 1:59:56 PM | | Interesting question,, I wrote my profile so I would be rejected by the mass of women,, for the one who contacts me surely might be the right one,, sure saves on writing no thank you s.. with that idea,, its save me from weeding them out,, because most have already done that by reading my profile,, the power of rejection is on my side,, | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/29/2008 2:50:54 PM | | I would not personally reject somebody who said they enjoyed people drinking a glass of wine. The greater question is, would people reject a person who drank socially consuming different types of alcohol (in a social setting, not an alcoholic) such as wine, beer, tequila, etc. Or would people reject a person who just enjoyed wine. I can understand people rejecting those who choose to drink, or not drink. To me it is the equivalent of rejecting people who choose to smoke. On the other question, I would not see a reason who chose to drink wine. I see no point in it, why reject somebody who has a distinct alcohol preference, but not reject people who choose different quantities of alcohol? | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:27:36 PM | | Isn't that what profiles are for...to help sift between rejectables, and acceptables? I wouldn't reject someone just because they didn't drink wine. Someone who would is probably a wino, and you'd be better off without them anyway. If drinking a small amount of wine-not enough to get you drunk, or give you a hangover-gives you a massive headache, the odds are that you are allergic to either grapes, or alcohol, or both...so it is best that you do not drink wine. A non-wino should be able to understand that. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/5/2008 1:56:19 AM | Drink can be a total disaster, think if someone is professing that they drink one kind of drink, it brings up red flags, moderation in all things and all that jazz.
Surely no one would be that controlling that you have to drink the same drink as them to get a date.
If they drink wine and you drink shorts, good thing - they not going to be stealing the last of your bottle - right? 
The thing that makes me switch off: Men who bang on about the ex, good or bad - IT IS SO BORING. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/5/2008 8:32:48 AM | I avoid the profiles that say Love the outdoors....I like being outdoors and love the beach or being on a boat but if love the outdoors means camping, hiking for days then I am not the woman for you...
Now if you mean the great outdoors with the grill going and having drinks in the backyard then I am right there with you!!
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:24:50 PM | | Zuglo: I think what I was trying to say is that it depends on how it's phrased. If I FEEL like they're implying that they don't drink and don't want anyone who does... I would pass... but if they phrase it in a way that doesn't seem criticizing, then I wouldn't pass... hope that clarifies. A lot of people who don't drink also don't mind if their spouse does, but a lot of people DO mind and I don't like to be criticized because I like to kick back every so often. Been there, done that! Now, I do what I want! Cheers! :) | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:43:11 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I figured that what you meant, and I agree..
For example..I am a meat eater..By that I mean steak, and stuff..
So, a had some vegetarian giving me hard time about it. Sort of talk down on me, talking about my clogged arteries, how unhealthy it is, blah, blah. Funny thing is, she was about 60 pounds heavier than me.. Why can't she just say, well, OK, guess we won't be having dinner together.
So,I see your point. I do what I want too..LOL..Where is my chicken fried steak??? | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:29:50 AM | | The only thing that turns me off is if a woman smokes . My mother smokes and NOW , a guy who came ALOT to my kaorake shows . came last weekend . He has throat cancer . I asked "did you smoke ever ? " he said no . " I got it from being at karoake shows where others smoke " This guy was 250 now is 200 and losing weight . lost all his hair . | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/10/2008 5:05:30 AM | | Nope,,I do not rule out anything,,,as activites are a personal choice,,,be it nascar,golf,wine,,those aspects can be mutaly balanced,and who goes,,at the same time,,,if she is so dead set against it without even wanting to try,,,,than nope,,,every person has things,activites they enjoy and some the do not,,,but to reject even looking into the aspect,,,,without asking is not fair,or mature,,,that other person just may not have tired,or experienced such,,,yet one main aspect I do look for is opened minded,a giver,,not a taker,,,or ones that place so many walls ,defences, bitterness of something in the past,,,they set restictions based on someone they knew,,,not me,,never compare/treat people in our past to ones in the future,,,,Have a GREAT DAY Dave:) | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 10/26/2008 1:10:00 AM | | Yes, with the most simple things being the "do you smoke / do drugs" fields. There are also various things that would indicate that a long-term relationship would never work even if you could date for a little while, and I wouldn't bother in that case either. | |
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