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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/8/2008 2:37:42 PM | | I find my biggest frustation is even when I find someone whom I feel is a good match I still cant get responses (i.e. right age range, non-smoker, likes, etc.) I limit my messenging to those I feel really make sense for me, but no luck. Getting someone who grabs my attention to be interested enough in me in return has been by biggest problem. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/8/2008 3:00:40 PM | yes i reject because of what is written in a profile.
He wants children and doesnt have any already.
He wants petite- well not happening with me so why bother
He wants thin- again Not so no reason to contact him
He has nothing written yeah thats lots to go on and start a conversation again not
hes married
he does drugs | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/8/2008 3:04:15 PM | I do, of a profile is filled with negative statements, or feels like the person is to the point of just being plain nasty and soooo picky, why bother. If her head is swelled up like a hot air baloon, saying she has too many messages, i'll do my small part to help her out, even if i love the way she looked wouldn't want to be the one she thought gave her carpel tunnel syndrome  On the other hand, I've sent and recieced messages, and had some very nice conversations with very lovely ladies on POF that are either very distant, or just someone we might not be a great match for romance, but were nice people to get to know | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/8/2008 3:55:57 PM | As for reading something in a profile that has me clicking the back button, of course I do that. I don't write to every profile I read in some desperate hope of getting a response.
But I think everyone deserves an answer, so if a woman that I might not have contacted on my own because of one thing or another writes to me, I'll talk to her. I've only rejected outright one person who wrote to me, and her profile was so filled with ignorant bile I can't imagine she'll ever find anyone. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/8/2008 10:39:06 PM | I think the whole purpose of the profile is to see if you are compatible. Asking if you would reject someone because of something in their profile is too vague, of course everyone here has a reason why they might reject someone.
I have a pretty long list of deal breakers now that I think about it, if someone says they are christian, if they drink often, they don't list their profession, if they have "Yes" under wants children, if they have a picture with their shirt off, or better yet the picture with them giving the finger, yeah, that's awesome.
Now the kind of things that get my attention are when they have a "No" under wants children but a "Yes" under has children, they don't smoke, don't drink or at least only socially, somewhere in their profile they say something about their kids. I'm a sucker for the single dad with a great job. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 2:24:21 AM | Not over a glass of wine.....but if they say 3 or more times per week, they drink....probably.
Things on the profile..........no religion, mention 1 or 2 interests and one line in the "about me", didn't use the spell check and it's difficult to read, mentions how they've been lied too and the high drama, mostly negative, hates dogs or cats, or too liberal, mentioning specific measurements....I move on.
Photos in the bathroom with only a towel, or with a bare chest and not at the beach, or laying on a bed or floor.............
Guys with their pets or children/grand children, I look closer.
I also look, if the person has posted........that can give a clue about a person....I read some of their posts.
I realize many are comfortable about talking about sex, in the forum.......I just find it unappealing and I move on.
Even if no names are mentioned, down the road, I could have a failed relationship, with "ole loose lips"...then he'd be back on here, blabbing............ I wish not to be in any of those topics.
Good or bad.
We are all searching........with the end results of finding the perfect person for us.
If we were not searching for that certain someone, then we wouldn't be here, looking.
Well, maybe a few would.
ceecee
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 3:39:49 AM | It depends on what it is in their profile.
I mean really? Like I want to get involved with a married woman looking for men and women. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, I am definitely no one's piece of meat! lol Not to mention, hey that girl is wearing a sign that says "Overdue for my clinic appointment!" ha ha.
I read over the profile and see a few things that we may have in common. Actually, I take a pretty laid back approach to it because the part to really enjoy are the things you don't know that become comforting and exciting in the beginning of a relationship. If the stuff rubs you the wrong way, well everyone knows the directions that stuff takes and ya need to approach it.
I look for good moral values, great communication skills and a woman I can share with. If she happens to like wine, but drinks like a whale ingesting water, well...that may become a problem. hee hee. But, who really cares if a person drinks a couple now and then, heck in Europe that is tradition! You can drink not to the point of getting hammered with your drool all over the place...hee hee | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 4:02:42 AM | I would reject someone if they portray sleaziness and sexual innuendos in their profile. Negativity and obvious issues with past partners and experiences is another. Copious amounts of emoticons to replace the written word. Dumb ass stupid messages with poor spelling.
I’d have to draw the line at someone resembling a family member. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 7:30:48 AM | Always remember, what may be your dream boyfriend/girlfriend would be another person's nightmare. But here are a few phrases that cause a gag reflex for me:
Walking on the beach....(need I say more)
Curling up on the couch and watching a movie....(see above)
If you are "real" looking for someone who is "real" send me a message....what the hell does that mean?
NASCAR and monster trucks...just a personal preference, I love independent and foreign films, which may cause a gag reflex for some guys
I like to make people laugh...you probably do...at you
Tired of the drama....Really? Then we would never get along, I am looking for someone running from the law and involved in the sale of narcotics
Attractive inside and out...If you turned someone inside out it would be a little scary, kind of like a Halloween movie
Someone who is not flaky---again, another big problem for me, I really hope we meet and that your photos were taken 30 years ago when you could bend over and tie your shoes, that you blab on incessantly how you are an honest decent guy and that all women are whores, that you excuse yourself to use the restroom and do not come back, leaving me with a $50.00 restaurant tab, that would be sheer heaven for me...
I could come up with more, I guess my point is that these profiles are a b*(^h to write, and to try and stand out from the others can be tough, cause let's face it, we ALL want to meet someone to care about, and man oh man can that be elusive | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 2:32:32 PM | | Like others have said, that's pretty much the point of a profile, so you can see if you're a match or not. I've rejected many in the past for horrendous grammar and spelling, which shows they are not educated to the extent that is right for me (I even see it a ton in titles of these threads). Also, it's just a pet peeve of mine too. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 5:55:14 PM | | This is a intresting point aswell my grammer isn't great by any means but I would reject someone who couldn't get the basics correct. I would also reject people on other things like drinking often but thats because of ex's who to get nasty if they had a drink. Generally I don't like to judge beacause no one is perfect I have floors like anyone else but I know mine and I am trying to improve myself as a person. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:23:26 PM | Hell yeah I would. If a woman is very overweight, I hit the reject button immediately.
I just met a female who had only head shots and said her body was average. Yeah, average for a sumo wrestler. I don't care if they are a little chubby, but 50 to 100 pounds just ain't gonna cut it........................ | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:32:03 PM |
Isn't that what profiles are for? (?????)
Personally I'd say that response is...brilliant! Always has been for me, a "filtering" device.
Having reviewed far too many profiles....there are those that will date....well just anyone of the opposite sex. Or (probably more accurately) try to write a profile to convey that idea.
The word "rejection" is stark, harsh and negative. Noone seeks to or wants to be, yet it happens all the time. Why does it have to be called rejection, when following a logical extrapolation mixed in with a dose of reality, there will far more people that one wouldn't be a match with or compatible with then there would be those that are.
It's the delusion that any dating venue, online or not, is a smorgasboard of people of the opposite sex to just wade in on and an expectation that any person would be desirable to all of them.
Here's a pearl of wisdom from someone wanting to cash a reality check, every person that sparks an interest in you, it's not always or even often going to be mutual. Expect that, realize it's not rejection of you as a person, but as not a compatability for a partnership. There will be more "no's" than "yes's" and even getting a yes (response) doesn't mean that it will work out and be your dream man/woman.
Really now it would be scarier than heck to be the man/woman that every other man/woman on the face of the earth wants. As if...that man/woman doesn't exist, never has or never will. So if someone chooses that delusion, realize it's your own.
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/9/2008 6:41:31 PM | Yeah, there are a few things that show up in female profiles that always inspire a "waitaminit" vibe...
1) I want someone to take care of me...Why does this bring up visions of sugar baby's?
2) Anything political mentioned in profile...politics change, a lot, over a very short period of time.
3) Male pictures in an FSM profile
4) Red plastic cups (or clear ones with an amber liquid) visible in pictures in a profile who says they never drink
5) "Social" drinkers who want to date non-drinker...dammit, get a cab company phone number instead of mine! | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/10/2008 4:44:52 AM | horrendous grammar and spelling, which shows they are not educated to the extent that is right for me
Well, he could be from another country, and his English isn't perfect.
Yes, I know what you are going to say..Use spell check.
Maybe he doesn't have one.
As far as grammar goes, I known to make my friends laugh with my bad grammar.
There is no grammar check.. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/10/2008 6:52:05 AM | I definitely look at the content of a profile, look at what it written and not written. I find profiles with very little info can mean one of two things: they do not know what they want themselves or they are only here for fun and games.
I look for common interests and I have been contacted by men who I knew there was nothing in common and I chose not to pursue it. An example: My profile clearly shows that I am a huge sports enthusiast. I received an email from a man a while back who thought we would be a perfect match. I took a peek at his profile and did not understand how he would think that...there was not one bit that showed anything in common or anything that sparked any interest. After a few emails, he admitted he did not like sports at all and if I could explain to him the relevance of spectator sports. He truly did not see the hype in sports and I did not want to explain it to a 40-something year old male.
Rejecting over not liking wine, nah, I would not do that, but sports is a HUGE passion for me, so I let this guy know that things would not be progressing. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/10/2008 3:53:58 PM | | Yes! The guy I just got done dating was not honest on his profile. He was married and didn't tell me for awhile. Also he lied about his height by 4 inches. Then put me in heels makes it like a 7 inch difference. I would not have went out with someone married. | |
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| Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 11/10/2008 4:11:56 PM | | Think my main issue is I do not write enough information. I tend to talk a bit about what the two of us have in common but do not discuss enough about when I would like to do, etc. That I am not convincing enoguh as to why they should contact me. Guess I have always had a bit of writers block when it comes to whats the best way to introduce yourself. | |
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