| Libido after 50
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:40:43 PM | FarmExe - msg 225
many old guys tell in their profiles they like to kiss and hold hand somthing.
From what I've been told, many American men like to hand hold their gun.
Here, in Canada, all we can hold, is the the fishing rod or a TV remote (that's only, if you get a license). | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:43:06 PM | | I once dated a man who was 16 years older than me and he was an amazing lover. Just because a man has some years on him, does not mean that he cannot perform and well. He could have sex for hours. He was 64 at the time and a very handsome devil. He loved it all and he could have sex spontaniously. If he took Viagra, I never saw it. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 5:43:31 PM | and you never bought a VCR or DVR,,,
for shame mae,,,
for shame
...If I thought it would have made a difference I would have.... He was "just not that into me."
...maeflowers | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 5:53:01 PM | He might have been, but really wanted to watch the game, Mae.
I respected that my ex liked football and looked forward to the game. I could wait until half-time. It was a win-win situation. | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:57:05 PM | | Yes it's common, three or four times for me. His health and physical atraction to you has an effect on how much and to what extent it. The phase may last longer than you think. | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 10/26/2009 5:58:33 PM | amethyst...
if any man blocked my view of the tv when the football final is on...
naked or not,
he'd be dead... | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 10/26/2009 6:06:54 PM |
Guys know that cotter is right, but they are angry to her! It's a typical "man" reaction. Whether or not they have a real problem with it right now ... denial is the best answer.
Just as it is when a guy starts to develop problems with urinating ... AKA "flow". Very few men will go to see a doctor about it until they can barely urinate and are poisoning their body with all that uric acid ... that they can't evacuate from their bladder. Or until they can't sleep any longer than an hour without having to get up and go ... release a few dribbles.
We're all adults here and we all have to deal with it ... whether it's a man or his partner. And while we're at it ... there's no reason why we can't discuss female libido (after 50). Seems to me the title of the thread would include women as well as men even though the OP was mostly about a man.
The problem is that men come in here and make ugly demeaning remarks about women not wanting sex anymore ... never giving it a thought that she may also need some help just as men need help with ED.
I know of women who openly admit they have no interest in sex anymore and my comment to them is ... "Who would ever willingly give up something as wonderful as sex?" And to that they answer ... "I dunno ... it just wasn't that nice anymore." That's when I ask them more personal questions and the bottom line is ... they probably need some HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) or there are also Herbs out there that can help women.
But what we don't need are all kinds of men coming in here and making ugly remarks about "frigid" women and how they just use sex to control them ... men who come in here and make dumb remarks about how the women are purposely denying them sex. There are women (I suppose) who might do that, but the majority of women would rather find their partner desirable and yearn for him.
There is never a need for demeaning remarks ... and I do get sick of the men telling me that I am just "man bashing" just because I am at ease openly discussing it.
Fact is ... I love men, I love their bodies and would dearly love to have a man in my life in the way that would allow me the intimacy I so thoroughly enjoy. We all have our stumbling blocks and I don't have any control over my personal stumbling block ... dealing with the sudden death of my son ... 4 years ago ... and it sometimes feels like it just happened yesterday.
In due time, I'll be back out dating and in the meantime, I enjoy the company of men in a platonic way. I do get attention from them ... all the hugs I want, all the massages I want, all the dancing I want ... and if I allowed it ... all the kisses I want.
So please get the notion out of your heads that I am a "man basher". I am no such thing. Nor am I bitter. I want people to find each other and be happy. For that reason, in spite of my own personal situation, I went out of my way to sponsor POF parties on a number of occasions (the proof is in all the party threads I started that still exist) and personally know of several couples that met and are still together through my efforts to throw parties so people could gather and meet.
He could have sex for hours. He was 64 at the time and a very handsome devil. He loved it all and he could have sex spontaniously. No one is saying (at least I know I'm not saying it) that ALL older men have ED problems. There are circumstances that contribute to it, and many older men just develop those problems. It shouldn't have to mean it's the end of ever again having an intimate sex life with their partner.
Libido is a concern for older adults (men and women) and I see no reason why it should be so difficult to discuss it in an adult way. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:12:32 PM | I really think that if people wanted to discuss herpes, ED, restricted flow problems, and the like, they would go to a thread in that subject. Some of us men out here can get it up, keep it up, and press home our point with a willing woman without all of the issues that are related to these things. The only thing you will find in my medicine cabinet is aspirin, to help to relieve the headaches I get from listening to tirades about how men with herpes spread it far and wide, and that the reason a man doesn't do that is because he can't get it up long enough to do any damage.javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:28:50 PM | cotter - msg 232
I know of women who openly admit they have no interest in sex anymore.
…. when I ask them more personal questions and the bottom line is ... they probably need some HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) or there are also Herbs out there that can help women.
On one hand, there seems to a little bit more substance in your last post than in the other post where you disclosed that you were given advance notice about the dismantling of the Berlin wall. But most likely, those women need something stiffer than the herbs.
in the meantime, I enjoy the company of men in a platonic way. I do get attention from them ... all the hugs I want, all the massages I want, all the dancing I want ... and if I allowed it ... all the kisses I want.
On the other hand, if you are indeed getting all that attention, enjoy what you are doing and stick to advice on platonic relationships. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:31:33 PM | Rearguard, as a lady who likes men my age, I am very glad to hear that many of you can get it up, keep it up,and press home your point with a willing woman without issues. Thank goodness. Viagra has its own issues, like allowing a man to climax in a timely manner and it is nice to have sex without it.
Tirades are tedious, whatever the subject matter. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:32:39 PM | | I just need to be inspired. That's all. I can still pull off a four or fiver. I had my grave doubts, but gave myself one test run since my marital demise. Rebound! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:32:59 PM | | Cotter, I am very, very sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your son four years ago. I cannot imagine losing one of my kids and honestly, my mother's heart goes out to yours. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:46:23 PM | @"rearguard2" (Message 233) ... an excellent example of what I was saying about some people who just can't discuss things without taking it personally ... 
I really think that if people wanted to discuss herpes, ED, restricted flow problems, and the like, they would go to a thread in that subject. Soooo, you have surveyed all the people in this thread and they have all told you that they do not want to discuss any of those things? ED, restricted flow problems and even having HERPES (now that you mention it) can all affect libido ... which is the topic of the thread.
Some of us men out here can get it up, keep it up, and press home our point with a willing woman without all of the issues that are related to these things. Good for you. I don't recall that anyone asked anyone specifically about that, but thanks for offering that information.
This thread is about libido after 50 and that's what I was discussing ... things that can affect libido after 50. Don't like the discussion? No one said you have to come in here and post in it.
I do wonder though why it is that you feel you have to attack many things I post. It's become such a regular habit of yours, that I could have bet good money on it that you would come in here and do just exactly what you did. If you don't like what I post, aren't you adult enough to ignore it?
The only thing you will find in my medicine cabinet is aspirin ... Not that anyone asked.
... to help to relieve the headaches I get from listening to tirades about how men with herpes spread it far and wide ... Has someone personally accused you of doing that? Is that something you participate in? I can imagine that the fear of spreading HERPES could affect libido. Is that how that statement ties in with the topic of this thread?
... and that the reason a man doesn't do that is because he can't get it up long enough to do any damage. Men can spread HERPES without "getting it up". Is that something someone has personally accused you of? Is that something you know a lot about? Please share with us!!!
"TryAgan" ...
... in the meantime, I enjoy the company of men in a platonic way. I do get attention from them ... all the hugs I want, all the massages I want, all the dancing I want ... and if I allowed it ... all the kisses I want. On the other hand, if you are indeed getting all that attention, enjoy what you are doing and stick to advice on platonic relationships.
"amethyst10616" ...
Cotter, I am very, very sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your son four years ago. I cannot imagine losing one of my kids and honestly, my mother's heart goes out to yours. Thank you. Grieving is like a road full of pot holes ... you just never know when one will pop up and throw you off. It's getting better, but the pain never goes away.
"Sapphireeyes" ...
Good example ... the guys who have their HERPES medication sitting on the kitchen counter and want to convince you they have never had an STD in their life ...
Even if he has no libido problems, he won't be getting anywhere close to me with his libido!!!! Dang, Cotter what if a man had shingles...the medication for that is the same as for herpes and as a nurse you should know that one!
I wonder what would happen to a man if he admitted he went thru a woman's medicine cabinet ... I have no idea, but that's not something I have ever done ... again I never said it was either.
If a man were to go through my medicine cabinet he would not find any medications ... not even an aspirin or a Tylenol. I don't keep any medicine in a medicine cabinet. On the other hand, if a man asked about any medications I might take, I would have no problem letting him know ... I've even mentioned it often in here in threads. I have no terminal diseases and no nasty secrets ... nothing to hide. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:48:31 PM |
Shhhhh ... don't tell them that I told, but it's mostly all of the above. I'm telling you ... if you want to know about the libido of the man ... just check out the medicine cabinet.
I swear, being a nurse is not always good. We know too much about what the different diagnosis' and medications are for and the side effects and it's just too difficult for the guys to fool us ... well most of us.
Good example ... the guys who have their HERPES medication sitting on the kitchen counter and want to convince you they have never had an STD in their life ...
Even if he has no libido problems, he won't be getting anywhere close to me with his libido!!!!
Dang, Cotter what if a man had shingles...the medication for that is the same as for herpes and as a nurse you should know that one!
I wonder what would happen to a man if he admitted he went thru a woman's medicine cabinet....such an invasion of privacy. The only time I looked in man's medicine cabinet was looking for the toothpaste (and he told me it was in there) cause I didnt want to have dragon breath in the morning.
The man was over 50 and told me the first night we met that he was on Viagra, the only time there was an issue he was extremely upset about it cause he had gone to the gym and worked out and gotten home late before our date. He was one of the most attractive men I have ever met he wasnt fat etc...he just said after he works out sometimes things dont work that well.
Because I cared about and for him that wasnt a problems, and farmex was correct a little sucky sucky and things were up where they needed to be.
I dont think it is as much the fact that a *little cutie can turn a man on as much as a hot blooded woman who lets a man know she desires him and is willing to do whatever she needs to do to help him be able to participate in something that can make the two people closer.
Your libido is yours no matter what age you are...if you are having problems there is no reason especially NOW with all the modern medicines to have an issue. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:51:15 PM |
Some of us men out here can get it up, keep it up, and press home our point with a willing woman without all of the issues that are related to these things.
Some is NOT all.................. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:59:10 PM | All this arguing and bickering over sex? What's wrong with you people? Aren't we the generation that had the slogan: Make Love, Not War?
Stop this  and do more of this:
There now, isn't that better! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 8:11:35 PM |
It's a typical "man" reaction. Whether or not they have a real problem with it right now ... denial is the best answer.
Gee Cottor, you mean like the statement you've just made:
that men come in here and make ugly demeaning remarks about women not wanting sex anymore
You're making the same type of stereo-typical comment.
There are women (I suppose) who might do that, but the majority of women would rather find their partner desirable and yearn for him.
Generally, not after 10 years of marriage they don't. Oh, I forgot, it's always the man's fault. Correct! Always. Women are never wrong. Men will admit our faults, can the women? | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 8:35:15 PM |
It's a typical "man" reaction. Whether or not they have a real problem with it right now ... denial is the best answer. Gee Cottor, you mean like the statement you've just made:
There are women (I suppose) who might do that, but the majority of women would rather find their partner desirable and yearn for him. Generally, not after 10 years of marriage they don't.
I personally don't know any woman who chose not to be there for her man. In fact many have mentioned that the men simply lost interest and a lot of the men when asked ... told the women they just weren't sexy anymore.
I never had a problem keeping my husband's attention and never turned him down because I could never see a reason to give up something I enjoy so much.
Oh, I forgot, it's always the man's fault. Correct! Always. Women are never wrong. Sounds like someone has done a real number on you ... sorry you had to experience that.
Men will admit our faults, can the women? I do it all the time. And as you can see, I'm taking a beating in here too. So what's new? | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 8:53:01 PM | All I can say is men, keep up the good work.......or keep it up.
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Posted: 10/27/2009 4:59:43 AM | | To my mind there is a big difference between libido and sexual performance. Libido is the desire to have sex and the interest in having sex, and has nothing to do with actual performance. My understanding of this thread is related to the effects of age on sexual desire, if any, and that this thread is not related to performance issues or other medical issues like ED and VD. There are in fact other threads that already exist that discuss these issues. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 5:08:44 AM | Well, some of us are not getting any and talking about it is all that there is on the subject at the moment. Damn!
Cotter, I hope that time dulls the pain and you have amazing memories of your son. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 7:12:39 AM |
Well, some of us are not getting any and talking about it is all that there is on the subject at the moment. Damn!
Amethyst you look fabulous!!!!!! I just had to sign on and see if you posted your photo yet. Don't worry my girl they will come flocking..
Kudos to you..
thecatsmeoww | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 7:37:47 AM |
To my mind there is a big difference between libido and sexual performance. Libido is the desire to have sex and the interest in having sex, and has nothing to do with actual performance. Libido inspires sexual performance.
Soooo ... things that affect the libido are important to a discussion on libido.
My understanding of this thread is related to the effects of age on sexual desire, if any, and that this thread is not related to performance issues or other medical issues like ED and VD. Things that affect a libido (male and female) are current health issues.
A lot of people don't realize that men who have diabetes have ED problems. A lot of people don't realize that women who have diabetes have problems with orgasm. Both problems are related to blood flow to that area.
If a man already knows he can't get and maintain an erection it will affect his libido in a negative way. If a woman knows that no matter how much stimulation a man provides to her clitoral region ... she will always be too numb to sense it ... it affects her libido in a negative way.
Having ED or orgasm problems because of diabetes contributes to depression and that contributes in a negative way to libido.
So in my opinion it's important for us to talk about issues like that when considering libido after 50.
There are in fact other threads that already exist that discuss these issues. Soooo ... this thread is about nothing more than for people to come in here and brag about their libido?
I don't see why we can't make some of these threads a learning experience as well. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 8:01:02 AM | cotter - msg 232
Or until they can't sleep any longer than an hour without having to get up and go ... release a few dribbles.
Most likely, that could be due to her cold or sweaty hands. | |
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