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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/17/2009 12:31:09 PM | Oh Great!!! Now we have Horses getting into the Act  | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/17/2009 1:31:14 PM | I have not read all the replies but it would seem that your situation is a good one to be in unless you have a lack of desire. If that's the case the leave him and let someone else enjoy his libido! If for some reason that is your only problem then I would get used to it real fast! | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:34:47 PM |
Yes these foods will increase your sex drive..
Wait, I don't see Doritos on that list. I get horny just thinking about them. By the end of the bag, my non-remote hand is covered in Dorito-dust... It's such a... turn on... especially licking it clean. If I can get some porn on the tube while I'm doing this, all the better but really, Doritos is all I need. I'm hott just thinking about them. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 3:41:33 PM |
If I can get some porn on the tube while I'm doing this, all the better but really, Doritos is all I need. I'm hott just thinking about them.
What does your date do? I can only imagine her arriving with Doritos in hand?
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Posted: 8/17/2009 5:39:10 PM | Dates? I've tried dates... they make my hands sticky. Good for collecting Dorito dust but yeah - dates give the evening a whole different flavor.  | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 5:39:28 PM | I take care of people in their late 70's through mid 90's and many of them not only still WANT sex, but are having it.
Libido is nothing more than "sexual desire".
Don't men think about sex about every 52 seconds? So if a man was awake 24 hours a day, he would think of sex 1661 times ... 24 hours X 60 minutes = 1440 minutes X 60 seconds = 86,400 seconds in a day divided by 52 (seconds) = 1661. Even if he slept 8 hours per day, he'd still be thinking about sex 1107 times.
And all he wants is sex twice a day after thinking about it 1107 times? The man has so much self control, he deserves a medal.
I think it's quite common for men to have all kinds of "sexual desire" AFTER age 50 ... it's just that some men have a problem (at that age) doing anything about it ... sigh.
Sigh, all these women with high sex drives, none of whom show any interest in just getting laid.....go figure! Ya ... go figure ... all these women with high sex drives not wanting to let just any man who walks by get his dip stick wet with her. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 5:43:21 PM | | THat's why a man invented vigera. What's the other one called? I forget...take a pill a day & be ready any time..... | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 6:21:47 AM |
Ya ... go figure ... all these women with high sex drives not wanting to let just any man who walks by get his dip stick wet with her.
Indeed. However, it is my experience that those with "high sex drives" are the ones who manage to get laid regularly, in one way or another. There are always many reasons why something can not be accomplished, and people are prone to being amazingly inventive about such reasons. In the end, however, there are clearly those who claim to have "high sex drive", yet have not had sex in years, while there are also those who have "high sex drive", and find a way of getting laid regularly, and still others who have "high sex drive" who are enjoying the physical pleasures several times a day.
None if this has anything to do with accepting "any man who walks by". It has to do with the meaning of the phrase "having high sex drive"... | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 6:46:39 AM |
In the end, however, there are clearly those who claim to have "high sex drive", yet have not had sex in years, while there are also those who have "high sex drive", and find a way of getting laid regularly, and still others who have "high sex drive" who are enjoying the physical pleasures several times a day.
Well the ones obviously enjoying physical pleasures several times a day are those that are in relationships. As for those that claim to have a high sex drive yet have not indulged it for many years it could well be they did not find someone that they really had a genuine fondness for. You see most women already know without those feelings (more than just a physical urge to merge) it will leave one wanting..
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Posted: 8/18/2009 7:00:50 AM | AW c'mon now Mr. R...having a healthy sex drive has nothing to do with whether it's being acted upon, with the opposite sex. Whether a person has not had sex in years or are laying down with every Tom, D~ck or Harry on a regular basis, is inconsequential to having a libido.
Ya....go figure....all these women with high sex drives not wanting to let just any man who walks by get his dip stick wet with her
Yeah imagine that! A woman who has standards. A woman who is careful about the mate she chooses to lay down with. A woman, who has higher standards, when it comes to deciding who she will sleep with, regardless of her libido. A confident and aware woman knows if a man is ready for a serious relationship or if his only agenda is treating her like a sports fish.
Mature men, men who are serous about having a relationship with a woman, are not looking for a woman who looks like she's been rode hard and put away wet. Men have names for women like her. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 7:21:46 AM |
AW c'mon now Mr. R...having a healthy sex drive has nothing to do with whether it's being acted upon, with the opposite sex.
Agreed. However, there is to my mind quite a difference between a "high sex drive" and a "healthy sex drive". People who have a "high sex drive" find themselves able to master whatever other feelings they may have in order to get laid regularly, be it by forming a steady relationship, or by some other mechanism. Those who have not been laid this millennium may have perfectly healthy sex drives, but they are hardly, in my view, "high sex drives".
I would also put it to the forum that being in a relationship is no indication of either a healthy libido, or an indication of frequent sexual activity. Its is well known that long standing couples engage in less frequent sex than do newly formed relationships. It is also known that the drive for sexual intercourse tends to be inversely proportional to the perceived security of the relationship. In other words, the people out there who are in new or casual relationships get a lot more action that the people in LTRs, in most cases, and that has nothing to do whether or not their sex drives are healthy. It is affected, however, by whether they have a "high sex drive" or not. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:23:39 PM | | It's not just normal, it's to be encouraged and applauded! I'm middle aged myself, and my libido has been consistent all my life. I'm not going to gauge it by other peoples standards, but having sex often is most certainly not a bad thing. It sure beats watching re-runs of bad tv shows. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 12:46:10 PM | For me I don't think there's much difference in libido with age so much as I've noticed over the years the times when it's increased and times when it's decreased.
Increase when relaxed, whether it's sunbathing, swimming, doing yoga, napping, quiet times, more privacy, etc. (with or without a partner)! 
Obviously more sex would be had if there's a person around to have it with.
Decrease when too much to do, stressful situations, worry, anxiety, fatigue, problems within a relationship, etc.
I dated a man a few years ago though who was interested ALL the time - I kept asking him if he was taking those meds and he said no, but I found it hard to believe. I had dated the same man 20 years before and he had a much lower drive then.
I love Doritos and all the other foods mentioned too, I think orange juice helps too (and red wine) lol | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 5:34:38 PM |
Ya....go figure....all these women with high sex drives not wanting to let just any man who walks by get his dip stick wet with her. Yeah imagine that! A woman who has standards. A woman who is careful about the mate she chooses to lay down with. A woman, who has higher standards, when it comes to deciding who she will sleep with, regardless of her libido. A confident and aware woman knows if a man is ready for a serious relationship or if his only agenda is treating her like a sports fish.
There are a lot of "horn-dog" guys out there with Herpes and they don't care if they spread it around. Getting their nutts off is more important to them than having safe sex and that's why they have the disease and that's one of the reasons why women are so reluctant to run out and "give it up" so easily. They want assurances ... that the man they are "getting so personal" with is not diseased. Proving that takes time. Most men just don't have the patience for that. Well, without a test for diseases ... they will not be getting close to me.
I have a high sex drive and I don't act on it unless I'm with a man I know cares about me ... all of which I can count on one hand. If I don't find such a man ... oh well. I have since discovered that "Bob" will take care of business until the "real McCoy" comes into my life. I've never been so desperate in my life that I would take up with some stranger just to have sex ... barf!!!
Seems to me that if more men would be a bit more selective no matter what the "libido" pushes them towards, they might come across to women in a more believable way. Jeez guys ... have you no self control?
Just because there is a good libido doesn't mean you have to hit the street for some action. Are you all really going to feign that "Rosie" and her cousins have lost their appeal? | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:41:43 AM |
There are a lot of "horn-dog" guys out there with Herpes and they don't care if they spread it around
Duh! Every STD that I ever came down with I got from a WOMAN! And in every case it was from a WOMAN I was in a "long term relationship" with!
Believe it or not, nobody wants to get a STD, especially these days.
As near as I can tell, the only way of avoiding an STD of some kind is to abstain from sex completely. Even in a committed, monogamous relationship, changes in body chemistry, medical bungling, travel to places with lax cleanliness practices, and various other causes can result in STDs of various types, although there is some merit to indicate that you are better insulated than the promiscuous population from such problems.
The only useful approach to the incidence of STDs is to recognize that they spread by sexual activity, some forms being more risky than others, but that any sexual activity exposes one to risk. Assigning blame to men, or to women, is completely counter-productive and clearly without any basis.
Jeez guys ... have you no self control?
We guys have loads of self control. Just read all the post from the women on POF who can't get dates. If we men were all so out of control, that would never be a problem for the ladies...... | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/19/2009 7:47:05 AM |
Duh! Every STD that I ever came down with I got from a WOMAN!
I hear ya on that. So gay sex exclusively from now on? | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/19/2009 9:59:20 AM | For the last 12 of the 17 yr. marriage{in my 20's/30's} I was frustrated...
Only got it when SHE wanted it....
Then I met my Soul-mate...!!
We spoiled each-other Rotten... 
But she passed-on 11 years ago , and I'm looking for a Lady to keep my promise of finding someone that can share the same thing with...
I DO understand that many women lose their 'Urge' in later life....some at different ages than others...
When I start _Feeling_ my age, I'm going for a Long walk.....and keep on going...!!! | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/19/2009 11:08:13 AM | In the end, however, there are clearly those who claim to have "high sex drive", yet have not had sex in years, while there are also those who have "high sex drive", and find a way of getting laid regularly, and still others who have "high sex drive" who are enjoying the physical pleasures several times a day.
Well the ones obviously enjoying physical pleasures several times a day are those that are in relationships. As for those that claim to have a high sex drive yet have not indulged it for many years it could well be they did not find someone that they really had a genuine fondness for. You see most women already know without those feelings (more than just a physical urge to merge) it will leave one wanting..
thecatsmeoww
Cat,
You said that very well.
I was married for 10 yrs, and we both had high libidos. We kept at it like college kids all 10 yrs, only letting up some when I had a 10+ lb baby by c-section. We divorced when our son was 2, and I concentrated on being a single mom. I was celibate for more than a decade. However, when I found what I thought was the right guy, I was back to the point of not counting how often, just enjoying. We felt like teenagers, and a bit embarrassed, because we were always sneaking off for alone time. I think I was making up for all that lost time.  He was 52, I was 45., and we were together for almost 3 yrs. That relationship didn't work out, and much of it was his health (diabetes, depression, weight, all which lead to physchological, diet and ED problems which he did NOT want to deal with and chose to ignore, his temper was frightening) so we broke up. But the desire is still there, waiting for the right guy... and he'd better be prepared!  | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/19/2009 1:39:41 PM |
So gay sex exclusively from now on?
Well, I doubt that would be much of an improvement, and not really my preference.
Its the brain dead attitude that all men go about in continuous copulation with the 5 or 10 "fallen women" to be found in the world, spreading disease and unhappiness about. Like it isn't obvious that for every promiscuous man there is at least one promiscuous woman, and that all disease does not originate exclusively with men.
Stupid, stupid, stupid..... | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 5:28:04 PM | With regard to the STD's ...
There are a lot of "horn-dog" guys out there with Herpes and they don't care if they spread it around. Getting their nutts off is more important to them than having safe sex and that's why they have the disease and that's one of the reasons why women are so reluctant to run out and "give it up" so easily. Assigning blame to men, or to women, is completely counter-productive and clearly without any basis. 
My statement was a result of the fact that I know men who behave like that and no doubt since I DON'T have sex with women ... I can't speak for what they are doing/spreading around.
Settle down already ... why do you personally feel so attacked by my statement?
Duh! Every STD that I ever came down with I got from a WOMAN! So you openly admit that you have had STD's!!! Are you feeling personally addressed because you're guilty of spreading them with all those wonderful partners you have bragged about in past threads?
OT ...
Whatever the reason ... please understand that when I make statements in the forums, it's based on my personal experience. In this case ... as a nurse having to deal with the men who do honestly have the STD's and still will not refrain from having unprotected sex.
Thus, when they arrive at the clinic ... seeking treatment ... we are required to ask them for names of partners so that the partners can also be treated. Oddly though, when the women arrive, they usually can only give one name. The men have been known to name up to 15 or 20 women. Maybe that's the reason I used the term "horn dogs".
That's another reason I said it's one thing to have a high sex drive ... it's another to be responsible about it. I applaud men over 50 who are still able to perform to their satisfaction (some really do not want sex anymore) but please be responsible about it.
The same goes for women ... since so many men complain about women who no longer want sex ... those of us who DO still want it ... must be responsible. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 5:50:35 PM |
Are you feeling personally addressed because you're guilty of spreading them with all those wonderful partners you have bragged about in past threads?
Nope. Why not read my posts?
I am not guilty of spreading STDs, period. Some of the women in my life have been, however.
I have never bragged about any of my partners. Perhaps you are thinking of some of your patients?
STDs are spread by ANY form of sexual contact, not only by "reckless sexual habits". If you are actually a competent medical professional, you would know this quite well.
The fact that you may have run into some individuals that behave recklessly is neither surprising nor particularly relevant to the general behaviour of men in the population. Morticians meet a lot of dead people, I have come across only a very few. Prison guards know tons of crooks, I have known hardly any. Nurses meet a lot of people with diseases, me, relatively few.
I have never engaged in "reckless" sexual behaviour either, unless you consider having sex with you wife of 10 years "reckless" behaviour, but it has not kept me safe from STD issues. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2009 6:19:10 PM |
STDs are spread by ANY form of sexual contact, not only by "reckless sexual habits". If you are actually a competent medical professional, you would know this quite well. Ummmm ... ya ... I do know about it quite well ...
"ANY form of sexual contact" ... is included in "sexual habits" ... and anyone who knows they have an STD and continues with "ANY form of sexual contact" ... IS being RECKLESS.
I am not guilty of spreading STDs, period. Some of the women in my life have been, however. Sorry about your luck.
I have never engaged in "reckless" sexual behaviour either, unless you consider having sex with you wife of 10 years "reckless" behaviour, but it has not kept me safe from STD issues. Again ... sorry about your luck.
Nurses meet a lot of people with diseases, me, relatively few. Hmmm ... you do admit ...
"Every STD that I ever came down with ... Sounds like a lot more than just once ... just saying.
Again ... when I make statements in the forums, it's based on my personal experience. In this case ... as a nurse having to deal with the men who do honestly have the STD's and still will not refrain from having unprotected sex.
If a person has not personally participated in such behavior ... they should not feel personally attacked by any statement I make. I'm not "attacking" men ... just know of lots of men who are acting very irresponsibly ... so I post about it.
If a person knows about women acting irresponsibly ... then post about it. I wouldn't take it personally though ... because I know I don't personally act like that.
OT ...
I think it's great when people our age have a high libido ... just satisfy it responsibly. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 6:48:16 AM |
If a person has not personally participated in such behavior ... they should not feel personally attacked by any statement I make.
I don't feel personally attacked by any statements made by any of the posters. I do, however, feel that many posters make generalized statements about the sexes based purely on their own narrow personal experiences and personal moral biases and attempt to cast negative aspersions on others which are largely without merit.
If a person knows about women acting irresponsibly ... then post about it. I wouldn't take it personally though ... because I know I don't personally act like that.
All consensual heterosexual sex, by definition, involves at least one man and one woman, and so any consequences of such behaviour must be equally shared by both of the sexes. I would not attempt to throw up women as examples of moral sexual turpitude based on my own limited experiences, and I don't think that anyone should cast aspersions on men based on their personal behaviour or experience either.
Your posts, not only on this thread, leave me with the distinct impression that you have a lack of respect for and trust in men. I personally do not suffer this problem with women, even although I am well aware that when it comes to sexual behaviour, women are no more reliable than men as far as personal responsibility, morality, fidelity, loyalty, cleanliness or preferences.
Individual people have individual behaviour patterns, and most of the challenge in finding a partner is to weed through the available crop to find one that meets ones own standards of sexual behaviour and personal standards of morality, loyalty, fidelity, cleanliness and preferences. Yes, you have to be somewhat careful during that period of search, but because you meet different behaviours in men at work, particularly an occupation established to treat people with things like STDs, is no reason to brand men in general as irresponsible purveyors of disease. | |
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| Libido after 50
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:53:09 AM | | I'm over 50 and I don't care whether my libido is "high" or not, just that I still have one! I had this weird dream last night, yep, it's still there, somewhere! | |
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Posted: 8/20/2009 7:38:17 AM | Hummm, I did not know how Doritos was such a afrodisiac! lol
From the movie," When Harry met Sally" I'll have what she's having!
With some OJ on the side...lol | |
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