| Hugs! Getting and giving them at Plenty of Fish events.
Posted: 9/24/2008 2:43:52 AM | I have to agree with the letting the fresh faces to acclimatize before the touchy feely stuff.
I love hugs, cuddling, I'm a very tactile and affectionate person, but I know that if I went to an event, I'd be far too nervous to be in the headspace for hugs, no matter how welcoming. I haven't gone to a function with lots of people for awhile, except for family gatherings, and to be honest it would freak me out and make me feel awkward. Once I get to know someone and feel comfortable, it's all good, unleash the hug barrage.
I have thought about going to a PoF event here, and I haven't gathered the momentum or time to, yet. When I do, I'd like to just chill and acclimatize and feel comfortable. Some of us can't just jump into the deep end, we have to stick our toe in before we see the water's ok. Darn us independent thinkers.  | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 3:28:53 AM | I think it's ok as a host to give hugs if you feel comfortable giving them. No need to hand em out though as those who will want one will approach you with intentions of a greeting hug.
I do however draw the line at the fish bowl of condoms at the door. LOL | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 1:17:35 PM | only hug pple i know.... i don't like being hugged by someone I DON'T know.
Some pple get a little carried away with their hugs and r akin to coping a feel which is NOT ok.
Better ask pple first and offer a handshake.
We know which pple r ok to hug who r comfortable with it.
^^^and of course its' an OFFER as posted by a previous message^^^ | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:13:05 PM |
Some pple get a little carried away
sheesh Sammi...sure you are right, but HELLOOO
people this isn't kindergarten where we need to cover the topic of good and bad hugs
of course a hug is an OFFER as is a handshake and when observing new people at such occasions it is quite visible who has their defenses up or who is reserved
OR perhaps you post signs at the door
people who can accept a friendly hug or handshake greeting line up left
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:18:57 PM | ^^^ If it wasn't against the Rules, it could be easily clarified for those not too good reading People's "Signs" by posting a Notice at the Door.
Using Body Language ...
User Hug = Free - This could be signified by raising one's Arms.
Shoe Shine & Host Hug = 10 Cents - Slowly raising one Foot toward the Host.
Bouncer Hug = 25 Cents - Appear physically threatening & psychotic.
Hottie Hug = 50 Cents - Start drooling.
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:22:17 PM | As a host, I have learned when a hug is appropriate and when its not.
I am a huggy person by nature and love giving and receiving them but will hold off if need be.
There is usually a "vibe" when I meet someone new but usually on the next occasion, they are more open to sharing that hug.
Hugs!! to everyone !!!!!!
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:23:24 PM | | MTL...your right this is not kindergarten.So hugs should not even be considered amoung adults unless you personally know the person wants one. I am surprised this topic should be up for discussion amoung "adults".If you saw a stranger on the street and thought you would like to meet them would you walk up to them and give em a big old "howdy hug" ? I think not!When meeting someone for the first time treat it as you would meeting someone in a business setting...etc. A friendly smile, a warm hello..and save the hugs for your close personal friends and family. Even us warm fuzzie type of people like to decide for ourselves as to who we want to "touch" and who we don't....lol. Hey Sammi......feel free to give me a hug anytime...:) | |
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| Hugs! Getting and giving them at Plenty of Fish events.
Posted: 9/24/2008 3:04:07 PM | Some interesting and funny comments. Thanks.
For you critical people, this topic was posted because I received in private varying suggestions on this matter.
While I enjoy giving and getting hugs, I have my own values and feelings on the matter and I do feel uncomfortable with the thought of hugging all the women, many I've never met, and I had no intention to do so.
As stated above, I've been to only one POF event. Some of you have been to many events, a few are hosts too, and I hoped to get some feedback on what is commonly accepted practice at the events.
So I thought I'd open it for discussion to see how others felt about a host hugging; or guests being hugged by the host, at a Plenty of Fish event.
You can rest assured I will conduct myself appropriately for the occasion, as I always do.
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Posted: 9/25/2008 12:16:18 AM | maybe i'm reading too much into this but from my ethnic culture background, we r not very demonstrative and showing emotions in public or showing signs of affection in public is frowned upon.
However, stating this my dominant culture being WESTERNIZED, i AM selective whom i show my affections towards in public. Just a clarification and NO i'm NOT a cold fish if one must know!
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Posted: 9/25/2008 12:38:03 AM | this is very welcome information
from the persona i have created.......the vibes i give off may very well
warrant that i show up sporting a hardhat and shield
good to know......ahhhhhhhhhhhhh the relief.....no hugs
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Posted: 9/25/2008 12:49:01 AM | I feel as though I should clarify my response.
I am NOT in the habit of hugging strangers.
If I feel as though an offer of a hug would be welcome, then I will offer; but otherwise a handshake, a hello; and a pleasant "welcome" is usually how I greet new people. 
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Posted: 9/25/2008 1:50:14 AM | | Plenty events are no different than any other gathering where people are expected to meet. Unless I have won a prize, a stranger I have never met before is not touching me. Maybe a handshake but no more. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 11:12:01 AM | | I too would rather get a curtsy from a cross-dressing host than a hug from a stranger i have just met. Just because you are hosting doesn't mean you get to hug everyone. But then again, I haven't gone to a POF event, so I wouldn't have to worry about dodging unwanted hugs. It's a lot different from dates where you may hug someone you're meeting right away, but in that case, the person has specifically come to meet you in particular, which already indicates a certain level of comfort. Also, for another event such as a personal party, they have come to YOUR party and may be comfortable with you. At a POF event, they are coming for the event, not necessarily the host, so it's inappropriate to assume every woman would want to hug you (and even more unlikely that all the men would want to hug you). | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 11:21:17 AM |
I am NOT in the habit of hugging strangers.
but but but.....some of my best POF friends are those that 'hugged' from first meeting. Caring compassionate warm people 
It all depends on the vibes, sometimes a welcome hug is a great ice breaker and other times it's just creepy.
once upon a time, we were all strangers, now some are just 'stranger' than others, welcome to there are no 'correct answers' in the POF pond. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 5:58:23 PM | I'm sure we all have confused the OP enough
I'm also sure he'll do just fine showing his caring attention to all fishies
hugs for the lovable ones
and a How Do You Do Sir/Madam for all those less open or comfortable to be around new people with whom they only share the desire to meet someone to love.
In the meantime  to all who need then, want them and appreciate them.
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Posted: 9/25/2008 6:33:53 PM | Nothing wrong with giving and receiving hugs at meet and greet POF events, especially from the host, of hostess.
They are heart warming, and can be a lot of fun as well, besides, everyone needs a hug, once in a while. | |
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| Hugs! Getting and giving them at Plenty of Fish events.
Posted: 9/25/2008 8:09:10 PM |
Hugs ???? I want full fledged groping or I'm not coming.
Gosh mo-mo, we certainly wouldn't want you to now lose motivation to make the journey at the 11th hour.
No reasonable request will be denied.
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Posted: 9/25/2008 8:36:21 PM | | I like hugs from strangers just as much as I like S.A.R.S., cholera, meningitus or a very bad case of whooping cough. Usually my stare of death will adequately warn the touchy feelies to keep their tentacles to themselves and if not I can resort to extreme violence. | |
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