Pers14
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Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 76 | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:09:22 PM | Miscommunication, crossed wires, misunderstanding...this is what this scenario boils down to.
OP - you shouldn't have been so blunt with this bloke. I would have waited until meeting face to face to say something like, "Hey hun, would you mind if we talked on the phone instead of texting? I'm not that fond of texting, but I'm fond of you *wink*. You don't mind do you?"
Maybe not that schmoopy, but I have creative writing class tonight so I'm being creative...lol. Don't worry OP - the experience cost you a twenty cent text and lessons learned.  | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:14:30 PM | i don't do text messages. and if i make first contact i send my phone number. and if she makes first contact, i send her my number in my reply. no texting and no emailing. a woman wants to talk to me, she will do it by voice otherwise i'm not interested. this has happened, when i told het no texting and she wrote back with a nasty message then blocked me so i could not reply. some really nasty people on here. but to hell with them. plenty of really nice women here and that is what i'm looking for.
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:31:37 PM | If the joker had the time to text,he certainly had time to call.
OP said don't text anymore...what's the big deal with that......well unless his mama turned him into a noodle spined wuss .All OP said was don't text...imagine what he'd have done if she told him he needed a shower !!!
The lady said "don't text"....well don't friggin text !!! | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:45:20 PM | I am with mulatta316 regarding the action taken as a reflection of the character of the person, or the mood of that person at that time.
Though I agree that it was not appropriate for the OP to tell the guy not to text her or that she could have phrased it in a more diplomatic way, I think the guy has other red flag issues just by the fact that he blocked her without trying to clarify things.
I was meeting a guy for the first time and I did not see him online (on msn) so I PM'd him, to confirm the time. Lo and behold! He unread/deleted me! So, naturally my reaction was to cancel the meeting. When I saw him on MSN, I told him that it was cancelled. He did not know what I was talking about and then I realized, after he explained that he normally unread/deleted any thing from a pof group party and since the title of my PM was meeting, he presumed it was from that pof group affair, so my mail was among those that were thrashed.
To this day, we are still friends. But we have already established friendship online so it is easier to give allowances. But from his reaction after he found out his error, I saw his character. I accepted the fact that I could have sent him an email instead, and not a pof PM. Or even called him. I was offended because I also was not thinking logically! And he was offended because I cancelled the dinner but we both were willing to give each other the benefit of the doubt. We are humans, it is easy to err and patience is a very important factor in a good relationship. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 2:47:45 PM | "Miscommunication, crossed wires, misunderstanding...this is what this scenario boils down to."
WTF? This was NO misunderstanding. The OP is a douche bag. The guy dodged a bullet.
After reading the postings from OP, is any guys here willing to take her as long term perspective?
No, I won't. She's cheap. She's over reacting. She's controlling. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 3:13:39 PM | well as long as we're doing it I'm going to get in on the name calling:
I apologies in advance to anyone who might find this offensive.
But at least I'm trying to be creative here.
In this particular thread there sure doe seem to be a lot of name calling from a bunch of of Hot Headed, Dimwitted , Oversensitive/insensitive, Sulfur Breath Flaming Buggernauts from Hades. (NOT acceptable (' ')on my part - BWTH everyone's doing it (' '), OK not everyone just a few ... (' '))
AHH yes, venting ... so fun :)
to a more serious note. Personal attacks in the forums are, I believe frowned upon/forbidden?
There is a HUGE difference In saying:
"He thinks you are flaky" ( acceptable) (' ')
Oh and you are flakey in case I didn't mention it. (NOT acceptable) (' ')
Even something like:
"As I see it you came cross like a really CHEAP, overly reactive(flaky?), individual"
though borderline hostile/argumentative, is still clearly a statement of opinion about an incident in the past(not a personal attack on OP) therefor tolerable.
Feel free to correct me any where I'm wrong (BOY AM I ASKING FOR IT HERE, YIKESSS!~@%!$#@! (in advance ) (' ')
Wow "ironcharger" I'll look good posting below you !!! YAYAYA (' ')
FYI you just baited 1/2 the trolls in this dungeon.
(yes I'm a gamer, and I can see the GM smiling now, (that is NOT a good thing) | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 3:23:51 PM | Here is what I think he was thinking:
"""What was that about and what was the reasoning behind it....Kind of makes it hard to trust people when treated this way. what was the point of this?
Posted: 9/23/2008 7:08:05 PM
It sounds like you both got your wires crossed along the way.
And maybe he got upset when you told him not to text you any more"""
Ahaha! It does take two to tango! Wonder what he is telling his friends ehh?
But in all seriousness...on rare occasions (say one out of seven days a week) people do have to cancel dates, etc. Never ever make a sarcastic online comment that could be taken the wrong way unless you don't care, but see, you did care and are "mystified" by what he did.
ON MANY many more occasions....you will meet a guy ONLINE in particular, who is all show and no go. Similar with the ladies here who will "flirt" like crazy, and then act shocked when the man replies in kind!
One gal said I sounded like a creepy perv. She got mad when I didn't answer her emails....
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Posted: 9/24/2008 4:57:34 PM | Anyway OP just remember:
one person's "cheap" = another person's "thrifty"
One person's "controlling" = another person's "train stays on the tracks"
One person's "flaky" = another person's "butterfly"
One person's "B_ _ _ " = another person's "Honey Buns!!! "
OOOOh, that should go in creative writing (NOT)
Hey "Thunderstorms62" Love your headline, been hanging out in HollyRollerVille too much? (great song, see imeem loading hints to get more than 30 secs of it though, Oh you been here a lot longer that I, please forget I mention it) | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 5:14:09 PM | OP, in case you have not figured it out, most people think that you handled this poorly. I will not debate the expense of texting with you as that is your business. But both telling him not to text and then making a claim that this was the shortest relationship ever were both poor moves. You claim to have joked about the relationship thing and I believe you, but Had I recieved something like that as a text I would not take it that way. There is no way to tell the difference between that being a joke or you telling him to buzz off in a text the way that you put it.
Also You seem to not really be 'joking' so much. You don't seem to believe him about working late, you are calling him names and seem to be pretty abrasive about the whole situation. | |
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Pers14
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Joined: 3/24/2008
Msg: 86 | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 7:28:57 PM | ^^^hey Ironcharger:
"Miscommunication, crossed wires, misunderstanding...this is what this scenario boils down to."
WTF? This was NO misunderstanding. The OP is a douche bag. The guy dodged a bullet.
After reading the postings from OP, is any guys here willing to take her as long term perspective?
No, I won't. She's cheap. She's over reacting. She's controlling.
Oh I don't disagree with you there. A whole lot of douchebaggery going on in this situation. lol! | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 9:21:48 PM | Jimtash71...
If you are interested in someone, don't tell them not to text you. WTF, you gotta pay 5 bucks or something extra a month? You can't afford it? You just came across as a major biatch and I don't blame him for blocking you. I would too.
I completely dissagree with you on this one...how do you know what this lady pays for text messaging...I don't know what you pay for yours? I know that in Canada, if you don't have a specific text message package, which is the lowest $10.00 and upwards that you will get charged .50 cents per text or even $2.00 in some cases...Just because you give your cell phone number to someone, does not mean you want to them to text you...how about talking on the phone instead? He could have kindly called her and got in touch with her and I don't think he handled himself well at all... | |
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Posted: 9/24/2008 11:32:09 PM | First off nothing wrong with asking a guy not to text you. Texting is lame. If a guy cant pick up a phone and call you up like a normal person there not worth your time. I told a guy that I met on here that Im not into texting and if he wanted to talk to me, all he had to do was just call me up. Needless to say I never heard from him again which was fine with me quite frankly. Who has time for that crap?
My question is why did you even bother calling him again after the first voicemail? I mean why did you need confirmation for him to ignore you again? He's a coward. Girl dont trip off this idiot, just go fish again | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 1:22:03 PM | First off nothing wrong with asking a guy not to text you. Texting is lame. If a guy cant pick up a phone and call you up like a normal person there not worth your time.
Well said.
My question is why did you even bother calling him again after the first voicemail?
Basically, you opened yourself up to feel rejected and cast aside this all should have been handled differently
If the joker had the time to text,he certainly had time to call.
OP said don't text anymore...what's the big deal with that......well unless his mama turned him into a noodle spined wuss .All OP said was don't text...imagine what he'd have done if she told him he needed a shower !!!
The lady said "don't text"....well don't friggin text !!!
kudos to Jslade for posting such a gangeter ass reply classic! I love it! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2008 2:45:15 PM | | hey thunderstorm whats way out of line is you sticking your nose in. the guy is insulting people and calls me out and i'm out of line? figures. has nothing to do with me being from canada and you guys from the states now does it? can he say whatever he likes without anybody else being aloud to respond? | |
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Posted: 9/26/2008 9:13:47 AM | | I think this just boils down to the issue of texting vs not texting. You guys just weren't compatable with your veiws on texting. | |
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