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 thats true
Joined: 12/19/2006
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alot of people who are bi are actually gay/homosexual and being hetero is a second best option, so no I wouldn't intentionally. As well I have met homosexual people who justify their status by hating the other sex, so I would have a serious concern the person might hate me becuase of my sex. As well, there is the flavour of the month attitude that some bi's have and I would be concerned when their homosexual light turns back on, and that goes against the whole concept of an ltr.
 Dog Mommy
Joined: 7/11/2005
Msg: 227
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Posted: 8/6/2007 5:01:40 AM
no...I would not...I believe these men are a stones throw from admitting they are gay
 ~curlygirl~
Joined: 4/22/2006
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Posted: 8/6/2007 8:16:25 AM
sure. just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean that they reject monogamy. it's like someone of any other sexual orientation, while they can be attracted to someone else that does not mean that they will act on that attraction. the only difference in this case is, they'll be checking out both genders rather than only one...but if you trust each other and have a defined monogamous relationship, there is nothing to prevent this from being an equally successful relationship.

as for any concerns about polyamoury or partner-sharing...heck that happens in straight relationships too. if that's what both people want and are open to, then bisexuality just adds a slightly broader scope to the arrangement.
 interorl7
Joined: 5/26/2005
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Posted: 8/6/2007 9:21:56 PM
"as for any concerns about polyamory or partner-sharing...heck that happens in straight relationships too. if that's what both people want and are open to, then bisexuality just adds a slightly broader scope to the arrangement."


I couldn't agree with you more.

These people that practice 'serial' monogamy are in essence doing exactly what bisexual female and bisexual males do. No difference.

Worse than that is anyone who 'has to be married' to have sex and has been married more than three times because of that 'moral' choice, ...grow up! (let the flames begin...! lol)

Perhaps if you had lived with a couple of them, you would only have been married 'twice' and still married to the second one to this day! Something I wish more would 'think' about.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 8/1/2007
Msg: 230
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Posted: 8/6/2007 9:23:47 PM
NO!!!! I want a man who is strictly straight, not one that has been intimate with another male. Call me old fashioned, I guess.

 Ready2Mingle2007
Joined: 7/24/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2007 10:14:59 PM
There is no way I would marry a bisexual woman. Then again, I probably would not marry any person regardless of orientation or gender.

It seems to me though that I would not even have a serious relationship with a bisexual because bisexuality and monogamy are at odds. If a woman was with me then her need of being with a woman would never be satisfied. I cannot even come close to meeting her need for women, so I would not even try. I think bisexuals are more for weekend flings than anything serious.
 Gordasitgets
Joined: 7/12/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2007 10:20:42 PM
I would never marry a bisexual man... Just because I am straight.

Bisexual woman? If I love her and want to be with her forever... sure. You are making a commitment to them after all, and that is the part that matters... Not their sexuality. You accept them as a whole.
 .Marc
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2007 10:20:56 PM
As long as the relationship is built on love, friendship, and trust I do not see an issue.
 bolariphon
Joined: 2/7/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2007 11:02:18 PM
to the OP Id like to say that if i was in love with the woman.it wouldnt matter.
 Malstyne
Joined: 4/30/2006
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Posted: 8/7/2007 12:18:41 AM
I wouldn't marry a goat either....

People that are confused about what anatomies they want to poke are not for me. Call me selfish, but I want a woman who adores my manhood, not someone who will flop it aside for some other instrument. There is a certain satisfaction that comes with it.
Call me a bigot all you want, I am sick of a tolerant society, but in my experience I have found most sexually confused people to be otherwise confused as well. I have never run into a bisexual that hasn't been traumatized in some fashion. And I have never met a bisexual with upstanding moral values in other departments.
 yorkslass
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 236
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Posted: 8/7/2007 5:30:53 AM
no way cos hes been somewhere where he shdnt go!!!!
 taurus516
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Posted: 8/7/2007 12:36:53 PM

I am sick of a tolerant society


So you would prefer one less tolerant?Perhaps you want the Jim Crow south back?Maybe Communist Russia or a Taliban ruled Afghanistan,or maybe Apartheid ruled South Africa?Those were definitely less tolerant.Be careful what you wish for.


I have never run into a bisexual that hasn't been traumatized in some fashion


I have met very few people old enough to know what the term "traumatized" means who have NOT experienced some form of trauma or another.What does that prove?


And I have never met a bisexual with upstanding moral values in other departments.


That's a pretty broad brush to paint people with,how many bisexuals have you actually known and gotten to know?

I don't mean to be rough on you,man,but I grew up in the Jim Crow south and I heard people say the same thing about African Americans.It's a dangerous mindset and a slippery slope.Who you date is your own choice,but to make assumptions about peoples' characters based on sexual orientation is extremely narrow minded,but then you said earlier that you didn't mind being called a bigot.Personally that's not a name I want to be called.
 U-nMe
Joined: 4/11/2007
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Posted: 8/7/2007 2:24:47 PM
Marry a bi? ..no way why would I do that? I will not be that persons ultimate preference so why risk cheating?

I do know of peeps who are in an open marriage... she's bi ( only when he can watch )
he is straight and they swing. He has multi partners outside of their marriage..

Do you call that a marriage?
 Malstyne
Joined: 4/30/2006
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Posted: 8/7/2007 6:01:17 PM
"That's a pretty broad brush to paint people with,how many bisexuals have you actually known and gotten to know?"

More than 40. I live in Austin Texas where 50% of the population proudly proclaim that straight people suck.

I've been invited to BI and gay orgies more times then I can count.

I've seen people doing coke in the Gay club bathroom on EVERY occasion to ANY gay club, but never at 97% of the straight clubs here.

I've met more than 15 HIV positive people who have no problem sleeping around anyway.

etc.
etc.
 Sonny Smith
Joined: 1/1/2007
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Posted: 8/7/2007 8:34:14 PM
Nope. I'll take the regular hetero who is comfortable with herself. There are enough issues in a relationship to add that one top of it all
 taurus516
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Posted: 8/8/2007 6:23:56 AM
More than 40. I live in Austin Texas where 50% of the population proudly proclaim that straight people suck.

I know what you mean.It's part of PCism,which in my opinion,has nothing to do with being tolerant as I've run across just as much intolerance from the militant PC crowd as I did back in the Jim Crow days.

Yet for every militant radical you can point to, who has multiple partners,I can point to more mainstream gays and bis who are every bit as "normal" as any straight person,with functional,monogamous relationships.I've known some gay couples who have been together 20 and 30 years.


I do know of peeps who are in an open marriage... she's bi ( only when he can watch )
he is straight and they swing. He has multi partners outside of their marriage..

Do you call that a marriage?


If I've learned nothing else in life,it's that it takes all kinds to make a world.One person's hell is another person's heaven.
 cramerica
Joined: 4/30/2006
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Posted: 1/30/2008 10:30:41 PM
As a bi man who also happens to adore lesbian sex, I feel that a bi woman would be a near-ideal partner. I once had a relationship with one from this site and it was a blast.

My preferred arrangement, with or without state-sanctioned marriage, would be that she and I would be one another's life-partners and emotional soulmates. On the physical side, we would enjoy or share other people, safely, with no strings attached.

I imagine we'd have a lot of fun and laughs. Any takers? ; )
 nousernamesleft
Joined: 11/25/2007
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Posted: 1/30/2008 10:48:24 PM
NOOOOO! NOOOOO, NOOOOOO, one NO was too short and it said I could not post a note that short, so I said 3.
 regalrose
Joined: 8/28/2007
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Posted: 1/30/2008 10:51:03 PM
Dunno, but I'm seriously doubting it. I just can't see ME with a guy that's bi-sexual. I think it would bring too much confusion to my side of the relationship, besides the fact that such things are not accepted in my faith.
 southernlass
Joined: 5/2/2006
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Posted: 1/30/2008 10:51:59 PM
Haven't had time to read the entire thread but I have no doubt that there will be those who have stereotyped, generalized, and demonized the entire bisexual population up the wazoo. This is nothing more than pure ignorance and very sad in this day and age, but not surprising really.

Bisexual men and women are stereotyped as promiscuous when this is as subjective to the individual as claiming that straight heterosexual men and women are all promiscuous. Some may be and some may not be.

Personally, I'm bisexual and am definitely not promiscuous. I'm quite capable of monogamy and of settling down with one individual. The only difference between me and the most sexually moral hetero individual is that I'm capable of falling in love and making a permanent, totally monogamous, long term commitment to a man or a woman. This is the only difference. I can be attracted to either gender but once I'm attracted to someone and want to seriously know them better, I'm loyal and completely faithful to that person, and quite contented with the one I've chosen, believe it or not.

Now this isn't to say that I don't notice attractive people driving by in the next car or at the store or where ever, but then I suspect that this isn't anything out of the ordinary for anyone else, no matter whether you're bi or straight. I can look and admire men and women but I don't touch. When I'm committed and if I were going to marry someone, my focus remains on the person I'm committed to.

For those that are making the prejudicial, stereotypical, ignorant-like remarks -- try to see beyond what you've imagined because it's wrong, see? If you keep fearing what you know so little about, you'll never learn or grow out of your paranoia and will remain with your head in the sand, clueless. This isn't a pretty picture, frankly, and definitely isn't very attractive.
 mixednica604
Joined: 8/22/2007
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Posted: 1/30/2008 11:08:46 PM
I've dates several bi-sexual women and I don't know what it is but I found them to be the most unstable, deceptive people I've ever met! I'm not saying all bi-sexuals are messed up or anything but after my personal experiences, no dice. How can you know what you want when you can't even make up your mind? I don't share partners, even with another woman especually with all the STD's going around. Call me old fashion but if you don't even know what you want wtf? Even if you have a preference and mostly go to that your still not defined in my mind. So short answer NO, as soon as I find out a girl is bi, the friends card is put into play LOL. We can be friends (without benefits) I dunno what it is but sexually it can't be more of a turn-off for me, which I hear is the opposite for most guys LOL. I'm not a hater, I don't wanna come off like I'm saying bi-sexuality is wrong or anything, but I like my roles defined. I can kick it with a lesbian or homosexual and not trip, but bi people throw me off I find, maybe its just some bad luck but thats my experience... I have some lesbian friends who really don't like bi-sexuals, just wondering if this is a common thing with defined gays or just those 2 maybe someone could answer that...
 edward1224
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Posted: 1/30/2008 11:11:41 PM
I would never marry a bi-sexual man, or a straight man for that matter. I would marry a bi-sexual woman, though.

Ed
 NorseViking869
Joined: 3/23/2006
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Posted: 1/30/2008 11:17:04 PM
I tend to almost date Bi-sexual women exclusivly. I was going to marry my ex this year and she is bi-sexual. However, I doubt not only will I get married, but If I do it will not be with a bi-sexual.
 NorseViking869
Joined: 3/23/2006
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Posted: 1/30/2008 11:27:24 PM

I've dates several bi-sexual women and I don't know what it is but I found them to be the most unstable, deceptive people I've ever met! I'm not saying all bi-sexuals are messed up or anything but after my personal experiences, no dice. How can you know what you want when you can't even make up your mind? I don't share partners, even with another woman especually with all the STD's going around. Call me old fashion but if you don't even know what you want wtf? Even if you have a preference and mostly go to that your still not defined in my mind. So short answer NO, as soon as I find out a girl is bi, the friends card is put into play LOL. We can be friends (without benefits) I dunno what it is but sexually it can't be more of a turn-off for me, which I hear is the opposite for most guys LOL. I'm not a hater, I don't wanna come off like I'm saying bi-sexuality is wrong or anything, but I like my roles defined. I can kick it with a lesbian or homosexual and not trip, but bi people throw me off I find, maybe its just some bad luck but thats my experience... I have some lesbian friends who really don't like bi-sexuals, just wondering if this is a common thing with defined gays or just those 2 maybe someone could answer that...


I took my ex to women's weekend once at the river and She was hated on for being bi. She wanted to meets a real Deisel Dyke, but they would give her no play. Funny thing is I was hanging out with some of the lesbians cause they knew me from the musical circles I ran with and told me to find a nice straight girl. I did not head there advice at the time.
 ExplosiveSheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
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Posted: 1/31/2008 2:19:23 AM
I could care less, I'd tell her straight up though it's still cheating on me if she's making out or goin to bed with women though. She wants to hook up with a chick I'd better damn well be getting my hands on her too.

It would irk me though a bit though when a bisexual girl is constantly hanging out with other bi-girls, purely for the reason that there's that added sense of worry that I could get totally left for the other 50% of the population now too haha.

I just wanna say that Bi people aren't all into swinging... Just cause you can do a thing doesn't mean you will do a thing, or should do it.

Also to Malstyne.. if you're not gay, plus you seem to be pushing some brutal statistics involving gay people, why are you in so many gay clubs that you can talk about how often you see them doing coke off each other's ass cracks in the can? I may have edited that for humour..

Anyway I'm disgusted with 90% of the bar crowd, drunk off their ass, willing to pay 6-10 bucks a beer, dancing like they're having sex vertically on the dance floor wearing little or no clothing.. Music so loud that actual conversation isn't possible, it's my belief that to enjoy that you'd have to have the depth of a tea spoon and the body of a model with the morality of a porn star. This is straight people we're talkin about.

See how easily you can demonize someone that doesn't quite fit into your way of thinking? I'll bet I'd get flamed hard for ever objecting to the social bar scene, don't expect people to jump on bored cause you wanna critisize gay bar culture, I'm sure there's plenty of morally upstanding bisexual/homosexuals out there, but they probably aren't in the washroom at a club at 2 in the morning.
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