| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 11:24:44 AM |
I don't care because I'm gone too and it isn't a preference it's just someone that has so little self control they will have sex with whoever.
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 12:45:09 PM | Ever look at another woman whilst dating one woman? How'd you handle it? Did you run off and bang her because you couldnt control your sexual feelings? For the topic's sake, I'm gonna answer for you... No, you didn't run off and bang her.
If I acted on every instinct I had to bang every girl I wanted to I would be in jail or dead.I don't think controlling the sex urge is an issue.The issue is trust.No different than a heterosexual couple.I was married to a heterosexual woman for 12 years.I never cheated but I was constantly accused of it.She didn't trust me.The marriage went to s_hit.When there is no trust,NO marriage will work.Period.Matters little on what orientation their lusts go. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 1:46:45 PM | Taurus is right. Any relationship has to have trust. It is also very true that being anything other than heterosexual does not make a person promiscuous. Why is it that most people equate homosexuality and bi-sexuality with being a "cheater" or some kind of out of control sexaholic? I am a bisexual woman, and to be honest, in my own perfect world I would be married to a man and a woman in the same household, but I would remain faithful(committed) only to them(which I suppose also would make me polyamorous and a polygamist..lol). But in reality, I am entirely capable and willing, and in fact, enjoy being in monogamous relationship. Sadly for me, my s/o has no interest in me sexually anymore, so that is why I am here on POF...but that's another story...
But to answer the question on topic: Yes, I would marry a bisexual, but we would have to have a clear understanding of what is expected in our relationship, and have to be willing to abide by the rules we have agreed upon. In other words, it all comes back to honesty, and trust. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 1:57:19 PM | | Like I said in one of the other forums similar to this one my man has got to be (straight)heterosexual.He cant be usure if he wants to be with a man or woman.I think thats disrespectful to go lay up with a man then come home to your wife or girlfriend.Thats wrong and there is no right in it.also I have heard before that the reason some men like them Bi is because if they are interested in there own sex they wont feel threatned or insecure.but I dont know how true that is.but all I know is hes got to be straight. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 1:58:43 PM | | I think it depends...it would be weird to marry a guy knowing he had "been" with guys in previous relationships or whatever they where. If he was actively bisexual, wasn't deciding, no I wouldn't even let it get so far as to discussing marriage. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 2:29:50 PM | "What if she knows her sexual preference is for both?"
But he/she can't marry both....that's an exclusive relationship so I think the question the OP has tried to get answered, and been met with some really defensive attitudes is: If her preference is for both, and she marries ME, is she then going to be satisfied to be with just ME and deny her other preference?
OP, I've read this whole thing carefully and I'm sorry that the only people who could maybe answer that question for you won't or can't do that. I can't answer you because I'm not bi but if I was, I'd share with you whether or not I would be happy to marry you and exclude women from my life from that point on. It's a really simple question that I think only a bisexual person could answer for you. Good luck. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/18/2005 2:49:25 PM |
What if she knows her sexual preference is for both?
Well if she does then why would she get married when she can have the best of both worlds? There's no way I would marry a chick that likes to lick clams, it just could never work.
If a person wants both sexes there must be a chemical imbalance there and I have enough going on in my life besides having to deal with that shit.
Not trying to offend anyone that's just how I feel.......we all have opinions right? | |
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Joined: 12/15/2004
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/22/2005 12:44:34 PM | | I am bisexual and I do not understand why someone would not want to marry someone who is bi. I was married for 6 years and was devoted completely to him. Yes I have been with both men and women, but like straight people who have been with the opposite sex, when you find that one person that you love and want to be with...trust comes into play. I did not constantly want to run of a be with a woman. Yes I enjoy women, very much, but I met my husband and we fell in love...had a beautiful son and a wonderful life. Then he started to hit me. So I left him due to the fact that he was abusive, not because I needed a woman. If you are in love with someone and want to be with them, then trust comes in and sexuality should not be an issue. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/22/2005 6:29:06 PM | | I was in a relationship with a bisexual woman for 3 years when I was in college. We never married and I regret that to this day. | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/22/2005 9:26:38 PM | | i have had a couple bi girlfriends and i wouldent have married any of them but through them i did meet alot of other bi people who were completly monogo, actually i have only ever dated bi girls,,, strange,,, only 1 of about 6 was totally for monogomy, the rest were young and restless, but so am i | |
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:28:24 PM | Why do people assume that you have to be constrained to the 'rigid' definition of marriage between only a man and a woman! For those of you that it works for more power to you. Yes, I know that's the definition.
For me the only way I will ever get married again is to two other women, period. I know many out here will probably flame me for being honest, that's okay I can take it! I respect your opinion even if I do not agree with it.
It's right for you, can you respect that what you perceive to be 'right' for you, is not right (nor the only way) for many, many others! If you can then you are being open minded and I respect that as well.
Obviously I would not have a traditional marriage, so it would not be completely legally binding given current laws! No problem there as a piece of paper does not guarantee anything anyway!
If you are secure and your partner is secure then the bisexual partner in the relationship can have the best of both worlds.
This is just about my only double standard, and I can live with it. Two women together, very sexy, two guys with just each other...does not do anything for me! Now if both guys are safe and pleasing the lady...well that can be acceptable if all parties are mature enough and healthy with the right attitude.
Desiring sex does not make one a slut, whore, **stard.... whatever. You can't cheat if the nature of your relationship is open honest and you are not doing anything behind your partner(s) back! The cheating is wrong. The desire is not wrong. And as many have pointed out here, having the desire is fine, acting on it in a monogamous relationship is wrong too! But if you relationship allows you to be with your man and another woman, then it is neither wrong nor cheating! Thus for some of us, many of us actually (most are afraid to admit it because of how society persecutes them when they admit it...another reason many people are unhealthy and have nasty closets!) this does not hurt anyone!
I am not trying to change your mind as most of you do not agree with me on this, in fact most of my bisexual female friends are ONLY monogamous with their female lovers...another reason why allot of straight people think there are NOT that many bi-sexual females out there...they are out there, but they are not going to tell you because too many people will condemn them for something that is simply none of their business!
So marriage in the majority of society definition...spent 13 years there, not going to do that again, now redefine a 'non-legal-binding-marriage' to be FFM and I will go there in a heartbeat!
Come on guys, think about it, it is not about the sex! Sure that will be great, but that is NOT the reason to want this...look at what two females bring to the table in communication, compassion, love, empathy, reminders for you when you forget something important for the other woman, oh you don't want to go shopping...you would rather watch the game...bet they would be happy to go without you and let you watch it.
The most important reason for me, Does your job keep you busy? Are you trying to get your own business (s) started as I am? Is it really fair to expect any woman to put up with the lack of time you have for them due to the fact that a new business takes allot of time to get underway...sure its rewarding, two, three or more years down the road, but initially while you are struggling, and you do not have enough time for the woman, time that she deserves I might add (and you do too!). Let's face facts, she knows you are working hard for both of you and that will be okay for awhile, but take too long (most businesses take 2 - 3 years to get off the ground and running well) and then you are successful, have cash flow to enjoy each other and enjoy traveling and more...but because of the time apart, she is no longer in love with you! What is the point in that?
Sign me as wanting to know she has companionship when I cannot be there, even though we would both prefer to be with each other, so that when I can be there...when I do come in the door after a long hard day of working for both of us, all of us, that she is happy to see me because she has not been neglected!
There is a reason most successful business owners are divorced and/or single! And I would be miserable without anyone! And once I am successful I want to know they love me (and each other) for me and not for our money!
I respect that you might not want this, but please respect that many of us do!
And for those who might fill a need to look for weird excuses why someone might want what others feel very strongly is NOT normal, I will provide the following facts!
My father had a brother and a sister. My mom had 7 other brother and sisters. My mom and dad got married at the 17 - 18 year age as many did in their generation and are still together and in love today! In fact in all of my extended family (I have two brothers, both successful in all areas of life) there is only one Uncle that ever got divorced and my marriage lasted 13 years before I got divorced! (I asked for the divorce, not because either of us cheated, but because I could no longer make her happy and she refused to support me in starting my own business!) I see her and the kids every week and we do not fight over how the kids are raised, in fact except for being divorced and not living together, we put our children first...as we would any future partner's children if we loved them!) I have never been abused! I have always known love in family and life! At one point in my life I called myself Christian (and by all definitions, you would have too) but now my spiritual path is not limited to the typical Christian upbringing in which I was raised. This is right for me, I don't expect it to be right for you...I respect your choice and am happy for you as I do not need you to agree with you!
The point is there is nothing, except personal choice and personal experience - not environment, not upbringing, nothing unwholesome (in my opinion) in my past - that accounts for this unusual preference for type of relationship I desire. I think outside the box and look at life differently then many! Freedom and Liberty, I will defend you right to disagree with me, will you defend my right to express my relationship as I see fit, assuming that it does not hurt anyone else of course? That does not make me better then anyone else, just different!
And I know that eventually I will be in a very loving FFM relationship and we will be very happy! Fortunately for us, there are many people out in the world who would really thrive in this type of relationship!
Will it be easy, no, no relationship ever is! Wish it was, but anything worth having is worth working for!
So I would non-legally-marry two women. I would not marry a man, nor would I want to be with a man! Of course a lucky male friend (once in a blue moon or longer) might get the pleasure of sharing my lover(s), because it would please my lady(s)! Yet I do not desire or wish to be a swinger! (I know another thread / topic, lol) | |
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feste
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Joined: 8/6/2005
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| Would you marry a bisexual woman/man?
Posted: 8/8/2005 1:08:28 PM | | I doubt I will ever marry, but I would be in a relationship. Bisexual still includes sex with me, so it works. It's not like they have to have anyone else just because the attraction is there, the same as with gay or straight. It just means there are women as well as men she wouldn't be sleeping with while we are together. And if it turns out she needs one of each, that's fine, too. I just don't ever want to be in the position of being bumped out of bed again. That is a total rip off. | |
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