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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 6:25:47 AM | classless?
Pot calling the kettle black huh? How typical! 
And, you are probably right about my chest beating days being over with by 70. I would assume that I will be in the ground by then. However, if I'm not, then I will simply be more interested in women that have a POSITIVE outlook on things.
But then, those are the kind of women that I'm interested in now!
And just so that you know........................
My username was MEANT to keep people like you away!
How typical, for you to attempt to berate someone or something so insignificant as a username! I would also wager that you went looking at my profile, seeking more ammo!
That's another typical thing that bitter and spiteful women do! Good thing that I don't have a pic up, or that woul have been the first thing you would have used to attempt to belittle me.
Reap what you sow, lady! reap what you sow! | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 6:32:22 AM |
Well, with an ID like 'KittyLiquer' I would expect your reply to be as it was. How classless! Besides, you're 35 years old and haven't even grown up yet, much less old!
When you get to be 55 or 60 or even 70, I bet you're chest beating days will be over, too!
LIB
I thought KittyLiquer is quite a witty profile tag. But i'm biased, becaues cats are awesome. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 6:46:06 AM | ^^^Yep...kitties rock! ;)
Look...LIB clearly states she is not mocking or flaming men who have genuine sexual dysfunctions. She spoke with these fellows...and as such happens, the subject of sex came up. IT WAS STATED THAT THEY LOVE AND WANT FREQUENT SEX.
THAT's the issue. Stating such as if it is a part of your life and stating such because you sure would HOPE for such, are two different items. At that age, it would have been best for dude to say, "I enjoy sex and would LIKE for it to be frequent...but I cannot always perform due to (insert reason here).
Different strokes, for different folks, people. While YOU may prefer to find a partner that you can "just grow old with"...others who are still sexual, prefer a COMPATIBLE partner who they can still enjoy sexual intimacy and activities with.
It is really sad...and while I am only 42 and do not date much older of men then myself....I have SEEN the results of such with my mother. She met her now-husband 14 years ago. They were intimate, but without penetration...because HE preferred marriage before such. Once they were married, ALL of the intimacy stopped. He blames it on everything but the real issues...sexual dysfunction. He even blames it on my mother....who is an extremely attractive 63 years old. I empathize with someone who is dealing with ED or SD, but sheesh! Does not mean you get a "get outta jail free card" in honesty! | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 7:03:49 AM | This is not a profile review thread but, I suggest you to change your age preference looking for a young stud in his prime.
And since you don't qualify as a MILF, something along the lines of "grumpy granny wanna to be fuk'd" will do.
Btw, with a woman like you I'm not afraid to say I'll have a sexual dysfunction and no amount of Viagra would help me for a hard on to overcome your biach/belittiling attitude towards the men of your peers. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 7:48:02 AM | Yes, how can you love sex when your only able to do oral. i don't get get it either, you have a problem , that no amount of foreplay will change, they want you to play with them, well playin with a limp noodle is not idea of foreplay. Men please go see a doctor. Cause if you think we can live with just oral, your wrong ,it very old, very quick. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 8:23:58 AM | Aries...I hope you do not mind my stating such...but you are absolutely stunning! :)
Sheesh Cuban...HOW is the OP belittling? Guys need to stop taking this personally...and realize that it was a valid, ADULT topic. Things like this are discussed on Dr. Phil and Oprah, for petes sake...not Jerry Springer! LOL
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EDIT TO ADD TO GANGSTERS POST BELOW and to meet the "quality issues!!" LOL
LOL...not the point, Gangster! Was a comparison issue...thus why the LOL after it.
Its an adult topic...one that SHOULD be able to be broached without people getting defensive. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 8:35:03 AM | I want ti start off by saying that i'm on of those men you all are talking about. I'm middle aged, overweight, and the plumbing doesn't work like it use to. I like sex too it just takes a little more for me to get there.
I think this is being read 2 different ways.
Woman are reading it as men that lie and don't tell about there problems.
Men are reading it as a put down on men that can't perform.
So if we look at it that way this is a very gender driven question. I tell the woman I'm with that there is a problem and its up to them to decide if they want to or not. If I come across a woman that has a problem I don't knock her for it but see it as a challange. To each their own. But there is a lot of gender bashing going on in here and maybe we need to think before we talk.
So as to your question yes i'm fat and I have ED | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 8:37:24 AM | 1st off LIB, I think your holding yourself damn well for your age & my hats off to you for having the 'Huevos' to live the life you have chosen...... Truly 1 in a million & don't ever let anyone convince you otherwise.
......You sure picked a sensitive subject I see & don't be beguiled into thinking that men have an easy time talking about that kinda sh*t. Hell, its their manhood for Gods sake. I mean if I had a problem I sure as hell wouldn't go announcing it to everyone. Fact is, perhaps mentally these guys think they are still the same ol' dogs they used to be & tend to keep holding on to that ideal regardless of the reprocussions. Maybe a lifestyle change is more of a fear for them than the actual consequences of living such a lifestyle.
Hell, i'm 39 & realised that drinking was causing a problem in more departments than just in this particular arena. It just started happening over the last year or so & I never really noticed the problem which I like to call 'Whiskey D*ck' for lack of a better term & personally it was a 'no brainer' for me. I quit drinking, layed off the smoking & all is well........Life is much better with a properly functioning unit......Course, now it seems the damn thing has a mind of its own & I have come to realise that it has no brains whatsoever, but thats another story alltogether
In reality it comes down to a choice & unfortunately most people fear change, especially those of such an age group as yourself. Most guys will never admit to having a problem especially in the very 1st throws of a relationship, why that would be like shooting yourself in the foot. Its their problem, not yours. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 8:38:31 AM |
Aries...I hope you do not mind my stating such...but you are absolutely stunning! :)
Sheesh Cuban...HOW is the OP belittling? Guys need to stop taking this personally...and realize that it was a valid, ADULT topic. Things like this are discussed on Dr. Phil and Oprah, for petes sake...not Jerry Springer! LOL
You're not helping your case here.
Dr. Phil, someone who had his liscensure revoked
Oprah, someone who was swindled and trolled on national TV by a group of 13 year-olds with some creative writing skill and intimate knowledge of internet memes made from 4chan.
XD | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 8:59:31 AM | I have run into this problem myself and the men were UNDER 55, under 50 also! While they've talked a big game, no TD scored for them. I'm not slamming guys, there is a lot going on in their lives that make ED occur.
Age
med's
stress
too much handling of oneself , while it's safe sex guys, too much of yourself, makes it hard for us ladies to live UP to your own personal touch.
What have I done about it? Only try my best to please him, but when he says, it's just not going to happen... what can we do? Hopefully even though he can't "perform" he is caring enough to at least please us.
timed intercouse SUX for sure LIB!
patience my a$$, I want to grow old with someone, but not a sexless grow old with. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 9:00:25 AM | "How is the OP belittling?
I have to assume that a 62 yrs old woman can't be so ignorant as to realize that any man passing the age of 55 has a substantial libido diminished just because biological reason, beside the aggraveting circumstances of other health issues.
I have to assume that a 62 yrs old woman has enough experience to know the difference between sensuality and sexuality and that intimacy can be achieved beyond the sexual gratification, specially if looking for long term with age range up to 70 -as stated in her profile.
I don't criticize her right to make fun of men who are more words than action but her insensibility to complain -about men over 60- expecting to have the same sex drive than younger ones.
I don't take it personal. I know my limitations and I know when and how some day I'm going to be. It's not even about common sense, is about her denial of biology.
Since she hasn't the serenity to accept the things that can't be changed, I offered a solution to compensate her frustrations.
And by all means, feel free to point me out the wrong approach in my comprehension skills.
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 11:21:27 AM | Normal aging+health problems related with obesity+unhealthy lifestyle(extreme alcohol use, smoking,HBP, unhealthy diets) absolutely can = sexual disfunction for men. That is just what it is. I don`t think most women are going to degrade an older man for having to take a pill or having some issues. HOWEVER, when a man gloats of his verility, pushes for sex, gets naked and then can`t get it up, and then blames you for not being sexy enough or you being "able" to turn them on, (especially if he has all of the associated health issues) that is really low. And it think this happens to a lot of women.The guys can`t admit that they aren`t taking care of themselves so blame the women that they aren`t able to function. And yes I do believe that it is directly effected by diet, weight, and lifestyle choices. Scream and yell all day that I am wrong, but I`m not.
As we age, it is imperitive to have a healthy lifestyle if we want to be able to function sexually. So best advice is to get to know your partner, and observe lifestyle, if you want to know if he will be able to function. Men aren`t going to tell you up front that they have ED. And if they have a big ego, they will cover it up and blame you. Yes it happens. So for myself, I probably wouldn`t date a guy with a unhealthy lifestyle, even if he has a good heart, because I would like to have a physical relationship, and most unhealthy older men are unable to function, or can`t do much. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 11:54:18 AM | the fact is that this is a touchy subject for men of all ages and really, women overall need to consider being more respectful of it as an issue...like a mastectomy is a serious issue that more people seem to give reverence to in discussion.
That being said, the little blue pill should be considered the godsend it is. I'm middle aged and was at one time taking medication that killed both my ability and interest. Those days are gone, and now off the meds and having gotten myself into fighting shape has GREATLY improved both my libido and performance. I feel like an 18 yr. old boy again in that area...excercise needs to be a priority for everyone just on that benefit alone!!!
Judging someone for how they get the job done is kind of missing the point which is...they're getting the job done! | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 11:59:30 AM | ah, domo arigato, out of the mouth of babes.
i have no doubt you will lead a quality life and find a good relationship that will last into the elder years that we are all inevitably having to deal with. just please, make sure you apply the same standards to the younger women in your life, as well as making sure they appreciate you for who "you" are. you can see on this thread how bitterness and bad experiences play out and reek havoc on our souls.
i know very few people your age, let alone mine, who know about bladder control. i only recently was apprised by a young woman who had 4 babies in her teens and was going for surgery that this was a problem in her 30's. then i was told about it by an older woman who thought it was hopeless, so i referred her to my younger contact so that she too could investigate the benefit.
there are so many things happening to our bodies and we look at the mirror and say "who is that?"! for many, it's a shock when the realization finally hits. i used to get out of the shower and let my hair dry on the way to work. now, it's an entire "operation" to just look "normal". i think that many of us look to the potential partner as a means to make us feel better by ourselves. then, many of us, have had tough lives with our SO's and see that time is running out and we want to cash in quick. then again, it seems everything is running out--from our bodies to the economy. if we let it, it can become despairing. some get sad and others get angry. it's almost like the stages of death, before we get to acceptance and find a way to rebirth our new selves.
i found your later post OP to "sound" a bit more senstitive. only the more confident men can discuss this more openly. there is also a limitation in writing that you are faced with personally. men as a whole, are able to write, way less than women.
there are many books and many tv shows (public television) on the topic of ED. i wish there were as many on the topic for younger women and what they have to endure. for some it's a performance issue and for others, they lose interest altogether, but are nevertheless lonely. i assume they are assuring you that they "can", to prove they will do their best and will not be selfish--just like women have done for their men over the years--w/o proper satisfaction and lots of "faking". how many have attempted "communication" and had their needs fall to the wayside or had to instead deal with fragile egos, instead of having their needs addressed? raise hands!
it will be a long search for you, as well as the rest of us. even the younger men and women with "all intact" are not getting immediate gratification in finding their "love". you can purchase a plastic sex device, you can see a sex movie, but there is yet to be a patent on "plastic love". for me, the best mixing and matching of all the different components, age adjusted, is going to have to do. i've been through "disablity" with my lymes disease and now here i am aging away with the rest of us. in many ways the former prepared me for the latter. it took a few years to know "who" i was, aside from my work. i want someone to know and care about who i am and vice versa. i figure that somewhere out there is my match and i think he will find me. if ED is his issue and all the rest is intact and he does have "desire", then from what i've heard from others, we will figure it all out. openly is not always an option on the forums or email. it takes time, as scott peck once enunciated in "the road less travelled".
ps i have never heard of men "blaming" women for their ED. if that is the case, then this topic takes on another light. i think maybe people should wait longer before hopping into the sac and discuss such issues beforehand. however, not with total strangers via email. face to face and after knowing each other a bit more and liking the rest of the person. at least, you will have a friend and at best, will exert joint creativity! | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 12:09:36 PM |
Normal aging+health problems related with obesity+unhealthy lifestyle(extreme alcohol use, smoking,HBP, unhealthy diets) absolutely can = sexual disfunction for men. That is just what it is. I don`t think most women are going to degrade an older man for having to take a pill or having some issues. HOWEVER, when a man gloats of his verility, pushes for sex, gets naked and then can`t get it up, and then blames you for not being sexy enough or you being "able" to turn them on, (especially if he has all of the associated health issues) that is really low. And it think this happens to a lot of women.The guys can`t admit that they aren`t taking care of themselves so blame the women that they aren`t able to function.
well said. the penis needs a healthy in shape system behind it to make the thing work and if you spend all your time stuffing junk food in your face, chain smoking ,channel flipping or surfing the net you will find your noodle aint gonna generate any after glow in her | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 12:54:15 PM |
75% of men walking the face of the earth don't have the foggest notion HOW to make love to a woman, it's no wonder women these days would rather take a beating than become physical with a man, even if it's her own husband; they talk a big story but few can produce.
This is the real message of your post.
ED is very common, and all of the women I know in *happy* relationships with men who have ED could care less about them taking ED drugs. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 1:04:10 PM | Op Happy belated Birthday...
Oh my gosh demanding sex and not being able to preform... As a guy I am embarassed that any man looking for sex and bringing it up yet they can't be the pony running. I'm just have no words.
Possibly you need to look for younger men that are in better shape and more active. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 1:21:23 PM | I am an over wieght, middle aged man who does drink socialy (and I assume there will be socializing before the sex), and has only recently quit smoking (4months) There are 4 factors right there that may adversly effect my ability. Three of wich i can do something about. I've started losing wieght and working out at the gym, I have quit smoking, and I do watch my alcohol consumption if I think I might be....... fortunate. But after 40 or so, men do start to lose some gusto, as it were. I know I can not perform at the levels I did 20 years ago so I adhere to the "Nice guys always finish last" rule. Or as Toby Keith puts it, "I ain't as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was."
That's about perfomance, not desire. I have no less of, and prehaps a greater desire for sex than when I was younger. I just put a different priority on it now. But you Ladies should realize that we men also have a biological clock, and after a certain age it does become a "use it or lose it" proposition. Longer periods of inactivity mean there is an increased POSSIBILITY that we MIGHT not function up to par and we might just have to settle for a really good sandwich! | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 6:26:54 PM | Well, lots of OP-bashing while I was at work, eh? You guys feel better now?
Look.......I'm going to say this one more time: I did NOT start this thread to belittle or undermine a man's abilities to perform. The last four men I've met this year have ALL suffered from ED, ranging in age from 56 to 63, and not one of them had the b*lls to tell me up front. However, while spending time getting to know them, thru IMs and Messenger they made it quite clear sex was very important to them and it would make a huge difference in whether WE would be compatible or not. How could these men make such statements and base a relationship on performace when they, themselves, had severe ED? I wanted to know if other women have been faced with these same circumstances and how did they handle it?
Yes, I made the comment most men who sit in front of their computers beating their chest, trying to impress us ladies how great they are in bed, are likely the same ones who don't have a clue how to make love to a woman.....but, boy, you should hear them berate women every chance they get; she's fat, she's frigid, her vagina is as big as the Grand Canyon, she hates giving head.....and on and on and on. I don't know about the rest of you but this horse is DEAD! Been DEAD for years! Let's try something new for a change...........reality and honesty. And, in case anyone's remotely interested, I'm just as much woman as I was when I was 40. I'm just tired of having to do all the work and still being disappointed.
ED is a common and most disheartening medical condition a man can go through. Instead of understanding it might just be a part of growing older and instead of trying to reverse the effects with exercise, good nutrition, laying off the booze and cigarettes and getting their blood pressure under control, they sit around, expecting a purdy little pill to do the work for them. Yes, it takes a very understanding partner (which I am) to help make the outcome better but even we ladies expect a man to meet us at least half way. Instead of doing so, you guys sit around a b*tch and complain, trying to pass the quilt on to someone else.
Most of you guys who have had fun this afternoon, at my expense, are NOT old enough to really understand what aging and body abuse is going to do to you in a few years but, hey, let's burn the old biddy at the stake anyway. Not only do you need to learn more about what makes a woman tick but you need to grow up as well. I am not amused!
Men, if you're reading this and you suffer from ED, do yourself and any woman you might meet a favor and be honest about it. If your condition can be improved or even eliminated by exercise, get off your duff and exercise...the same thing you keep telling us women to do. If changing your diet helps, too, do it. You want US to be better lovers? Well, we expect the same from you.
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 6:40:08 PM | 
My feelings were so hurt by a couple of big old fat guys with ED that told me that I just didn`t turn them on. I think that they intentionally were trying to make me feel bad because they had drinking smoking health problems, can`t keep a woman around,and took it out on me. It is so unfair. So now I will defintely not give an overweight man even a chance. Not after how I have been treated by a few of them.
If you have ED because of your lifestyle, please don`t be all bragging about your virility and then tell a woman that she doesn`t turn you on and berate her because you can`t handle the fact that you have allowed yourself by choices to become impotent.
That is really mean, and alot of men do it. Just admit it and do something about it, just like you tell ladies to do when they get unhealthy and overweight. Anything else is nasty and degrading. | |
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| How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional?
Posted: 9/25/2008 7:07:41 PM | | I think you discovered part of the reasons: overweight and diabetic, but you must consider that it may not be the diabetes itself but the damned medicine the doctor puts you on for it. (More I think of it, I may just go kill the sunofa****!) Viagra will work, never tried Cialis yet. Miss the good ole gut wrenching days! | |
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