| | How do you kill your emotions?Page 2 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | Becoming emotionally devoid is not the answer. You remember the beginning, the elation you felt. You would have to forgo that the rest of your life, also love, joy and the good part.
Right now you are in the doldrums of despair. A period of time, after the breakup or mourning process. Just allow your self to feel the loss, mourn the passing and try and keep busy. Avoid dwelling on things you had no control over. Try the gym, endorphins are good for the mind and body. See friends, talk it out, let them cheer you up.
This is a process measured in time, get by 1 week, then 2, then a month. In 6 months it should diminish. Then get active, have a couple of dates, just for fun. Bob | |
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sbnt
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/25/2008 2:15:06 PM | How I get over someone I was once involved with is the following.
Make a list of all the reasons they are not the right person for you, and all the reasons you should be so much happier that they are no longer in your life. Use multiple pages if need be.
If you can't fill a page, make stuff up... I've heard that's what women usually do 
If that don't work, take a cue from this guy:
If that doesn't work, search PoF for Intimate Encounters and see who interests you 
Not that I've ever done that before... though I've thought about it. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/25/2008 4:21:35 PM | Hi OP,you know you dont want to kill your emotions im sure they will come in useful in the future.Some people can move on quickly without much thought but others need longer,years in my case but you have to get on with your life and remember we have all gone through this and have suffered but as everyone says in time the pain will ease,im still waiting but it will happen,i hope for you and me both.best wishes,
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/25/2008 6:01:18 PM | You don't have to kill them. Get screwed around with enough and after while your self- defense mechanisms kick in and you just go emotionally numb and don't give a sh*t about anything anymore.
This is probably closer to the truth , and maybe what happens to a lot of us.
Want to really know how? Say over and over, like a mantra " I have no needs and no wants" "you don't need it and it's not worth it"
It will work, but remember, we all have to pay in some form of coin....... | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/25/2008 9:50:53 PM | "Make a list of all the reasons they are not the right person for you, and all the reasons you should be so much happier that they are no longer in your life. Use multiple pages if need be."
Not bad advice! (and the rest of the post was pretty funny!)
Do that. Make your list. And then, when you're ready, make another list. (remember...when you're ready!) lol Make a second list of all the things you enjoyed about the person. They obviously had some good qualities or you wouldn't have been with them in the first place. Not a thing wrong with enjoying the good memories, when its time. Its not our experiences that make a huge difference in our lives...its our reaction to them.
We love to the depth that we're willing to get hurt. Sometimes we hurt a little...sometimes we hurt a lot.
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 1:19:23 AM | I don't normally experiment with herbal remedies or drugs but was pretty hurt during my last break up and I asked the same question to a friend, who gave me St. John's Wort. It worked, I took a pill and all emotions went away. However I only tried it once, and while it really did work, I really wanted to experience those emotions and I'm glad I did. I felt more human and it's one more experience in this life that I'm glad I didn't miss out on, as crazy as that sounds. I'm stronger for it.
So my advice would be let time heal the wounds for you. Someday you'll find someone better and forget all about the current person. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 1:44:45 AM | It was a good post for me to read at times i wish i could erase certain parts of my brain. You can get so hurt that you would be willing to give up all your future emotions just to stop the pain you feel right now. I wish i had an answer but im also suffering inside right now and waiting for time to heal my wounds. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 2:43:34 AM | You never want to "kill your emotions" or numb yourself to feeling. Your emotions are not like a light switch that you can turn off and on at will. Often when you turn them off, you learn to live that way, and turning them back on is near impossible.
Honestly, you just have to learn to cope with the pain of your loss. It's how we deal with emotional trauma. Just know that time heals nothing, it only enables us to cope with things. If you have a close friend, counselor or somebody you can talk to, that will help. If you pray, talk to God about it. The irony of it all is that the pain seems to be best healed by beginning to date again. I still haven't figured that one out but it seems to work. Maybe go on a few casual dates where you can have a few laughs and begin to move your mind in a different direction.
Good luck. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 1:40:09 PM | Op,
Sigh, it happens to all of us.
What works for me is watching old sappy movies and crying during the good parts.
Staying busy. Smelling the roses.
Seeking friends.
Doing something for the sake of self expression, for me it's photography, painting, writing.
Just doing time, while waiting for time to heal fresh and raw wounds.
And NOT contacting that person.
Because ultimately, it's not about that person but rather it's about the void within us.
Hang in there.
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 4:15:50 PM | | Emtions dont come with a stopwatch my friend. If you have broken up with someone give it a few months..If you have lost someone from death..give it the rest of your life because no one knows but you and no one will know until they cross that line and realize fussing, fighting arguring etc is just plain using up precious time you could be madly in love and savor each second, or word or frangrance... | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 4:20:49 PM | I allow myself to cry heartily for a few hours and then I'll realise the hurt that person has caused me is not worth celebrating further. I pick myself up and shout Next!
I do my own thing and enjoy the time I am single and able to do what I like, when I like. I enjoy meeting and dating new people. I don't allow myself to get bored. It can be hard I admit, but when someone wants to be rid of you, they are not worth thinking about anymore. They are not worth any more of your precious time. You need to find some self respect and realise that you have a life to get on with. Moping over a lost love never helped anyone. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 4:59:10 PM | Work.
In your case become the best damn teacher on the continent. If you slow down and start thingking about it... work some more.
Actually, it doesn't take a whole lot of extra work to break the pattern but it is a good mental blocker to it. Focus on life and getting your work accomplished.
If you wake up 2 years from now and don't know where the time went. You may have focused a little too hard :-) | |
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coca2
| | Joined: 2/17/2006
Msg: 42 | |
| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 6:12:50 PM | | Time makes the feelings fade. Maybe this is what you mean by killing your emotions. There comes a point in time that you just don't care about that person who hurt you. Then you can start to feel again. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 7:51:15 PM | You cant delegate emotions,,,thats the beauty of being human. My friend some times I look inside myself and ask ,"you have been in this spot before and came through,so you will with this".
Every day small pieces of your hurt will fall aside untill one day it will all be nothing but a faded memory. You will be stronger from it my friend. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/26/2008 11:50:05 PM | I've never cried at a wedding or funeral. Everybody dies and weddings are a natural thing. Emotion is cured by me with common sense. All my relationships were horrible ones and I wasn't my best physically and was in better shape alone so I wasn't emotional at all. Bc I know I am better without them.
When all is bad, better yourself that's what I am doing right now. Keep your self image high and confidence higher. Sounds like you need friends with my attitude to keep you pumped and going.
You can always do better and have better. There are many ppl on this earth and theres good odds you will meet someone better, most ppl just don't try and live in self pity. They are screwing themselves over by wasting their life. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/27/2008 8:45:45 AM | allmynamestaken
The only way to kill your emotions is to kill yourself...
That is so far from true. Not even close. It just 'feels' that way to you. | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/27/2008 9:05:01 AM | One should never try to deny their true emotions, they should learn how to manage them instead. Nobody ever said life was fair, but it is what you make it. We only get one chance to walk on this earth and we should all learn from our mistakes, for we will all make them. Some small ones, some big ones with devastating consequences, but time heals all and tomorrow is another day, make the best of it.
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/27/2008 9:31:36 AM | This is something that I have been struggling with since my divorce just over a year ago. After 15 years and six kids with my ex (she was also my best friend) I have gone through hell without her and my family :(
I think the remedy is time and controlling our thoughts. When we dwell on the loss it makes things more difficult. By replacing thoughts that remind us of the loss with positive (or even neutral) thoughts, eventually the negative thoughts will come up less and less.
It really comes down to the choice we make as each thought enters our minds, do we choose to dwell on and entertain that thought, or do we choose to replace it with something more positive. Sounds simple but it can be EXTREMELY difficult to implement. It was kind of a matter of life or death with me so I've been getting pretty good at it ;)
It's not really killing our emotions but it's cutting off the food supply (the negative thoughts) for those emotions that are cuasing us pain.
I guess this was just a really long way of saying what a lot of other great posts have already said (think happy thoughts, focus on the positive, live life, etc.) but hopefully there was something in this you could use :)
Best o luck! | |
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| How do you kill your emotions?
Posted: 9/27/2008 9:53:10 AM | | well ive got the brick wall built round me trouble is every time i take down a few bricks and let the emotions show i have to replace brick with a rock | |
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