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Posted: 9/27/2008 8:39:26 PM | If you have high blood pressure it can be controlled by diet and exercise. Also stress relief. There are a lot of natural remedies for high blood pressure that won't effect sex drive. I have high blood pressure. But i don't take high blood pressure pills. I found a natural way to control it and it doesn't effect my sex drive. Any one who wants to know can message me and i will tell you all you need to know. Where to go, who to see, how to get it done. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 8:44:34 PM | Oh, have I got a story 4U!!! Just, it's too sexy, too kinda cool, too...personal, if you will , for the non-paying/playing/laying public. But, I'm bursting @ the seams to tell it. It just has to be told in private.
I'll figure out a way to share the substance of it publicly, sometime in the future. Let's just call it: "Local guy hit jackpot, becomes "local inside love guru" @ unusual pick-up joint,
a local comedy club." Even that headline is SO superficial, you can't even get the gist of the magic. It relates Exactly to thread, but I have to show you all how.
But, threadwise, yes OP, you DO seem a little spoiled, except sure, you've done it all for this
guy. Just a couple of things don't add up, babe. You're self-actualized & independent, plus don't really "love" him. But you're stuck in "how do I become his everything".
Honey, this is classic Jerk-Jerkess behavior. You're strongly drawn to the immutable force.
You feel NoOne can reject you, no way, since you're so skilled in lovemaking. You must show him the error of his ways. It is your mission. Or at least, have many get involved in your drama. Hey, if it works, it works, & I can point you in some directions for a lucratrive sale of your story, if that's convenient.
I gotta say this is one of those rare occasions when the OP get's her cake & eats it too.
Hey, worse things happen in the name of love. I do think this is an ongoing issue w/you (nothing bad, we all have weak areas), & yes, you're trying to get some POF therapy, & nothing wrong with that. But, If I'm right, that solution is weak for you. You might could use a pro to REALLY help out. Hey, My 2 cents on pharmacology alone is worth hundreds/thousands in outside pro consultations/specialists. I gave it free.
"Oh, nice, NEXT! Now the rest of you, tell me what I really want to hear..." | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 7:24:34 PM | yngvey1, I did find out more about this man yesterday. We went on a lovely outing for several hours and then home. Again, he couldn't do it. He said he hadn't taken the Viagra.
As I explained previously, he has a small penis. It's not pencil thin or extremely short, but is definitely shorter than what I've seen (and I have not been with anyone who had what I would consider a large penis) and the girdth (circumference) is definitely small.
He can manage to go in the vagina, but he goes soft in there.
I did ask him if he has masturbated for a long time and he said he's done it for years. According to him, the wife didn't want to have sex with him and hadn't in years. Of course, it could be that she didn't do it because he could have been on porn and she was disgusted by him.
If that's what's going on, it's really a shame. He is very loving, affectionate, helpful, attentive, has a great sense of humor, and it's very easy to feel the wam fuzzies when I'm with him, although I have put a clamp on that as much as I can because I don't want to develop any further feelings for him just in case I need to end it.
I asked him how many times he masturbates, where he does it and whether he has sensation in the scrotum and penis. Here is what he told me:
-- He's been masturbating for many years, then he emphasized again MANY YEARS.
-- He does it daily, sometimes twice a day.
-- The porn on the computer (he said there are 3-minute videos or something like that) is about 5 times a week.
-- As to where he does it, he said wherever he is when he feels the desire to do it. He said he has done it while having lunch parked somewhere, while he's been driving, usually at home, most of the time watching sex videos on the computer.
-- As to sensitivity in the scrotum and penis when I touch him, he said that it feels like a light tickle.
-- He said that the oral sex feels the same, which is odd, since that's my very special skill.
Very importantly, he told me that he DOES orgasm and ejaculate to masturbation, but that it's not an explosive orgasm like women get - he said it's a quick release and it ends for him.
Does any of this sound within the bounds of normalcy? | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 9:20:21 PM | | See my last post. The apparatus is functioning fine. The masturbation part is normal. He has some hang-up about being with a real live woman. He probably will need some counseling to figure it out. (I hope the poor guy doesn't ever read this forum or his fate as a celibate monk will be sealed.) You could ask him not to masturbate for a few weeks. This might help your cause. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2008 10:38:30 PM | OP: It's all good!
Masterbating to porn IS normal and I don't take Dr. Phil's advice on ANYTHING!
However, like anything else.........moderation is essential.
Yes, you can masterbate too much. The act de-sensitizes the skin and nerve-endings. This can be a positive thing, if he's getting off before fully getting it in. However, overkill can mean not feeling the vagina at all and/or not having anything left to deposit!
Also, over-masterbating CAN cause E.D. like scenarios simply because he's all used up!
OP: personally, I also think that you have hang-ups about porn. But that's my own opinion. It sounds like your guy doesn't. So, you need to evaluate this incompatibility issue and decide if it's worth living with or not. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2008 8:53:14 AM | | Guys, since it's the main topic of the thread, how 'bout we spell "masturbate" correctly? Not that you can't be a "master" at it, but then you would be a mastermastubator. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2008 3:38:58 PM | Sorry if this has been said. But Viagra has absolutely no effect on arousal!
In other words, if the subject matter (let's say the real life woman)
does not stimulate the man, then no amount of drugs will help!
Sorry about the size! That sucks! Let one of so many women that claim
that size doesn't matter have him! lol | |
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Posted: 9/29/2008 10:16:11 PM | PlasticSturgeon is absolutely correct that Viagra and its progeny only work if the man is stimulated. If he's not, it won't work.
I don't understand why this man called me the very same night that we met to ask me out again and has kept calling and calling and calling. He has told me countless times that he really likes me and enjoys being with me. He's always physically affectionate and very warm. He likes to hug, kiss, caress, make out. We're always stuck to each other like glue, with him reaching out for me 80% of the time. He's always sighing deeply when we're close together.
However, the first time we slept together (without sex, just sleeping together), he did mention that his penis was small and that he had difficulty sustaining an erection. I also suspect that because it's small, a normal-size vagina is not going to be able to provide sufficient friction, ESPECIALLY when the guy is used to masturbating frequently, meaning that he's used to a lot of pressure from his hand.
If he's not attracted to me, it wouldn't bother me all that much. I'm very assured about myself in the physical and sexual area. I would just find it fascinating that he would want to be with me if he's not attracted to me. That would have to be some really twisted thing to purposefully go after women he's not attracted to. I don't think that's it, though. There's something else going on. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2008 12:44:20 AM | | Well, Let me give you some facts here. If a man hammers on his penis to much he loses sensitivity especially in the head of his penis. When this happens BJ's don't do it for most men because there used to the friction of there rougher hand. No way your mouth will be able to come close to the friction of his hand. I wouldn't be afraid to bet the only way you will be able to get this guy off is with a hand job. No lube, lots of grip. It's kinda the same principle with women who use a vibrator to much. They lose sensitivity and in some cases it causes them to not be able to get to where they want to be with a man. I've done some reading on this, One of the reasons that some men are small (besides genetics) is the blood vessels are to small. It causes the penis to be under developed as the child grows into manhood. This can be fixed in childhood.......If your man is looking at to much porn and using it as a primary way to get his nut, That will cause problems to. His mind is being over stimulated with the porn. When this starts to happen some men get to the point to where a live woman can't overcome the fantasy world that porn provides. I hope you love this guy. He sounds messed up. More problems than what he's worth. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2008 2:31:21 AM | Platinum.1 (msg 48): M'dear, I believe you hit the nail dead center. I recall that earlier thread as well. Thought this one seemed a little "familiar".
velvetvenus: Get off yer friggen pedastal and leave the man alone...he certainly doesn't deserve someone like you. The things people do for attention.
I also find it amusing how you waffle back and forth between coming off as a person whose first language is not English to someone surprisingly in command of the English language.
Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh.
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Posted: 9/30/2008 12:16:08 PM | "My question: is it NORMAL for a man who lives alone to watch porn 5 days a week? How about masturbating to the porn?"
LOL, try 5x a day! or maybe I'm just a horny ****... | |
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Posted: 9/30/2008 3:14:11 PM | ^^^^ That would explain the name "bled12345"
OT.. I still can't understand why anyone would come to a forum of strangers and ask these types of quesions about someone they've gone out with or even worse, someone they're going out with at present... unreal, insensitive, self-absorbed, and (onm.. sorry for being judgemental but honestly.. how would he feel if he knew you were spouting off about the size of him and his performance???)
Why don't you speak to a urologist privately or do a google search on your own? There are tons of sites that will shed more light on "Your" *rolls eyes* problem. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2008 5:33:13 PM | Sounds like two issues.
In my counseling practice I often asked if one masturbates too much or if they are addicted to porn or masturbating.
It is very simple. If a man us using porn and masturbation rather than seeking real relationships, this is an issue. If the masturbation and porn are interferring with one doing normal duties such as getting up for work, showering, etc., there is definitely an addiction problem and professional help should be sought.
However, on the other hand. So long as masturbation is not getting in the way of relationships or attending to necessary things, one can masturbate all they want. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2008 5:37:15 PM | Another great reason why posting your personal information is a bad move .. Some people have memories like Elephants... just waiting to pounce and throw it all back in your face. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2008 5:48:33 PM | Engagin in fantasy is the most common human sexual behavior. [Lets not split hairs on type of fantasy] Masturbation is also extremely common in both sexes.
sexual dysfunction is extremely rare as relating to actual over use of sexual organs. (if thats what you're thinking)
Oooh so youre poised with a riddle you can try to solve it. Try alowing him to watch porn while having sex. see what happens. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 3:56:28 AM | Masturbating to porn huh? The question that immediately springs to mind is if he's not masturbating to porn, what should he be masturbating to? The Sears catalogue? Daytime Television?  | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 8:19:09 AM | Having had brothers growing up...I thought it was completely normal for men to whack off on a regular basis. I could not care less what he looks at while doing that either....just make sure everyone in the house can get into the bathroom periodically!!! It's not just for you to use you know! LOLOL
Seriously, I think the only time I would have an issue of him watching porn and jerking off is if he felt the need to deny doing it, or hides it. Just be real, be honest, it's part of life! Maybe I'd want to see what visually turns him on too...could be fun. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 8:51:08 AM | If you can only get together on weekends, maybe you should buy a couple webcams so during the week you can show him your velvetvenus?
There is no comparison between real vs porn. Real wins everytime!! Having said that, it seems we have been raised to believe taking care of yourself while alone is a bad thing. Porn is like booze.....intoxicating to the user but if used in moderation, nobody should get hurt:)
Various researches have shown that a high ejaculation frequency and sexual activity are linked to a lower risk of prostate cancer later in life. A study found out that men who ejaculated 13 to 20 times monthly presented a 14% lower risk of prostate cancer than men who ejaculated on average, between 4 and 7 times monthly for most of their adult life. Those ejaculating over 21 times a month presented a 33% decreased risk of developing prostate cancer than the baseline group. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 9:02:06 AM | first, he should not be doing viagra if he has a heart condition and diabetic. thats a ticking time bomb. he should look into the alternatives mentioned in early posts in this thread. probably the injection would be best, before you attempt sex. but as someone noted, it still needs to be the case that arousal occurs.
second, he is a fantasy voyeur. nothing terribly wrong with that. sex is all about brain. e.g. desire. you need to reach into his sex-brain and touch him softly there as well what you wrote about touching softly his face and letting him lay in your lap for comfort. you need to give him sexual-comfort about his performance anxiety. give him loads of security and find what gets him off. sort out what porn interests him, and replace it with reality. wean him off the plastic. show him the good stuff.
above all, get him into his comfort zone. remove all of his anxieties. that's what you need to work on.
the guy likes to get off, and that is a good thing. it shows he is capable of having arousal and climax. just carefully tap into his brain and trigger the same arousal. you sound like someone who cares enough about him to find that part of his soul.
good luck (and be patient) | |
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