| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:13:24 AM | Patience, patience! I have high blood pressure-it wreaks havok on "drive." But, if you are with someone you truly love and want to be with, I suspect there will be a special "tingle!" There may be other issues at work here...JMO... | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/2/2008 10:12:15 AM | I know there are a lot of ladies that pleasure themselves - they have told me. Some have said they do it once or a couple times a day. So masturbation isn't just a male activity.
But I wonder if there are general gender differences regarding masturbation. I say "general" because I know there are exceptions.
Several months ago I went to a sex store with my partner to buy her "Playgirl" magazine. She was hoping to see very well-endowed men. Unfortunately most were average. There wasn't much in the way of literature that was produced for ladies. What she ended up with were gay magazines with some very well-endowed men. As far as I know she only looked at the literature a few times. I've known a few ladies that enjoy watching xxx movies. But for the most part, it seems to me that it is mainly men that like watching or looking at porn. The porn industry seems to have discovered which gender the main buyers belong to. This general gender difference could explain why some ladies are so appalled by the visual appetite of many or most men.
Something I discovered in the sex store really surprised me. Almost all of the sex toys are for ladies. There was an entire wall full of dildos and vibrators and very few hollow devices for men to use.
My conclusion is that both sexes masturbate and purchase things to assist them. Could we just accept that first of all as normal? (I think many would not choose "Dr. Phil" as their spokesperson). Second, could we also accept that each gender tends to masturbate in a particular way? How about if we accept people for who they are without criticizing or judging them? Does their masturbation really threaten us? It might affect a partner, but if you don't like your partner's method of masturbation then that is an area of incompatibility and maybe you should seek a more compatible partner rather than change her or him. | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:32:16 PM | "Seriously, I think the only time I would have an issue of him watching porn and jerking off is if he felt the need to deny doing it, or hides it. Just be real, be honest, it's part of life! Maybe I'd want to see what visually turns him on too...could be fun."
Brownie-eyed woman, yes, I confess, I whack off, sometimes to porn, sometimes to the stock listings in theWall Street Journal, sometimes to Black Sabbath with Ozzie O'Sbourne, sometimes to imagining that the digital clock on the wall is doing some ticking. (I always wonder what makes them tick.)
Plus, I have two bathrooms in the house.
So... when can you watch me? NO, I mean when can you SEE me, as in meeting for a coffee?
P.s. I had sisters growing up. I almost failed math because of the long afternoons I spent bending down and peeping through the keyhole into the bathroom.
And when on the rare occasion that I'd get five minutes alone in the bathroom, then I always heard muffled sounds arguing: "It's my turn, buitch." "No, wait your turn." "Susie, no butting in." | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/2/2008 9:24:17 PM |
I had sisters growing up. I almost failed math because of the long afternoons I spent bending down and peeping through the keyhole into the bathroom.
I'm all for guys whacking off, but watching your sisters going to the bathroom and whacking off is just creepy.  | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/4/2008 2:10:05 AM | | you trust him, except for the infidelity issues??!?!? case in point, if you are so determined to see him as either all good or all bad, why dont you write up a list of pros and cons, pin it up, toss a dart at it, and wherever the dart lands determines how you will view him in the future, you can reject all personal opinions to the opposite of yours, especially those that state that you are constantly CONTRADICTING YOURSELF!!! argh | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/4/2008 12:36:17 PM | I know there are a lot of ladies that pleasure themselves - they have told me. Some have said they do it once or a couple times a day. So masturbation isn't just a male activity.
But I wonder if there are general gender differences regarding masturbation. I say "general" because I know there are exceptions.
nice try sensualmassage42:
BUT.....let's not try to get off topic here... the problem she is having is that he can't get it UP for her on the weekends when they are finally together...this was not a thread suggessting "Only men mast........
I thought she was asking if his nonstop jacking o*f to porn could be interfering with his ability to have a normal sex life.....errrrr ummmmmm
YA it can and it IS.....
oh small known fact: women do and can mast....without it interfering...ha!
OP back to you....ditch the loser......btw do you really want this type of guy in your life around your children if you have any...or the potential father......if you don't....should n't he spend more of his time working...getting an education...buying a home....something....ew | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/5/2008 11:42:32 AM | velvetvenus:
I asked if he watched porn and he said, yes, about 5X per week on his computer. I asked if he played around with himself and he said yes. He said it's a normal male thing to do, especially when you don't live with someone to have sex with. This sounds strange to me, since he can't have sex anyway because of the erection problem, even with Viagra.
My question: is it NORMAL for a man who lives alone to watch porn 5 days a week? How about masturbating to the porn?
Velvetvenus along with other ladies that have commented negatively about the man's sexual activities see the use of porn and his frequency to be strange, abnormal and perhaps even perverse. The point I was trying to make was that both genders masturbate and use things other than their own hands to experience sexual pleasure - men porn, ladies dildos and vibrators. All of us should understand and hopefully accept the other's preferences and fantasies. Is looking at pornographic photos or videos any worse than a lady using a huge silicone penis molded from a hot stud's organ? I believe the OP as well as other ladies need to understand that they perhaps pleasure themselves differently than the general male form of masturbation. A lady might understandably feel inferior with her 34B bust when she discovers her man is masturbating to 38DDD videos. But what if my lady enjoyed a 10-inch thick dildo when I'm only 5 1/2 inches? I am trying to promote understanding and acceptance between the genders to overcome the existing polarity. We are, after all, here to find fulfilling relationships. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2008 12:06:12 PM | There appears to be some insensitivity to the male in the Op's life. It also seems that the Oposter has a history of being with men who are having some form of ED as noted in another post in her history. MB is a natural activity. This man appears to be loving and generous as far as her pleasure goes.. he just is not responding to her for some reason... I don't think his enjoyment of porn has much to do with his inability to rise to the occassion with her despite her proclimation of being an "expert" in certain techniques. 
In any event.. I still find it rather odd that op continues to post this rather personal/intimate topic and keeps picking men that have this condition. Common denominator is who? I do wish you luck in finding someone who is able.  | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/6/2008 6:05:15 AM | He has a small penis and can't get it up.
He watches porn all week.
This guy has issues.
I would try backing off on sex and seeing
he can connect emotionally to you.
It depends on whether you want to be a sex therapist or not.
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Posted: 10/6/2008 12:52:14 PM | | Never mind having a small penis he also can't get tit up. I've heard of woman staying with a man with a small penis but a man who can't even use it ...you must be a really kind hearted , loving woman. lol | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/6/2008 6:01:34 PM | Although many people treat masturbation as a joke, excessive or irregular mastubation can cause severe systematic disfunctions. Many men in my family have became blind in my family as a result of infrequent masturbation; the pressure build-up of the jism when there is a cessation is akin to the lava of a volcano. The bigger the build-up, the stronger the ejaculation, oops I meant the eruption. Hence, the ejaculation of jism under a powerful pressure can cause irreparable damage to the retina of the eyes if proper eye protection is not worn , especially during adolescence .
Regular mastubation is a necessity for the hormone-driven youths. Certain occupations can satisfy both the physical and financial needs. A prime example would be a wedding cake "icing" applicator or a whipper of Arby's mayonnaise. Both jobs allow the young man to empty his jism chambers , thus preventing the illness of blueballs. | |
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 10/15/2008 6:57:45 PM | | It is possible that he is so accustomed to masturbating to porn tht he can't get/stay excited any other way. Put on some porn, let him watch, and put his small penis in your mouth, and lick, and suck, for all you are worth. If he does not get hard, and cum, then-even with Viagra-write him off as a lost cause. Tell him to see a doctor. Not being able to get hard/cum may be a sign of prostate cancer, artery disease, etc. He needs a check up. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 7:05:37 PM | i do agree with you , i do have some creative meathods , also , but do not need viragra , but do like to spread the syrup , and taste the jam .  | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 8:56:44 PM | | I think that amount of porn use is completely normal. I'm not sure why you have such issues with porn, OP, but if it's a deal-breaker to you, you should discuss that with the man you're dating. Personally, I watch and masturbate to porn on occasion and have no issues with someone I'm dating doing the same; if that's not okay to you and he enjoys it, then perhaps you're not a good match for each other. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 11:08:46 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Let's watch porn and masterbate together! 
Oops! Guess I better spell it (masturbate) correctly before SnakeWhisperer comes after me!
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| Masturbating to porn, impotence, Viagra
Posted: 12/28/2008 10:37:38 PM |
Something I discovered in the sex store really surprised me. Almost all of the sex toys are for ladies. There was an entire wall full of dildos and vibrators and very few hollow devices for men to use.
I would second that. I was amazed to see the variety of dildos at a local sex store, and furthermore the place was jam packed with female customers at the time.
Regarding Dr. Phil- Somehow I find it hard to believe that he doesn’t take a sneak look at some porn while he is secretly jerking off between shows!
Seriously everybody masturbates its natural!
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Posted: 12/29/2008 8:14:21 AM |
NO, Maxim, I do not have a "hangup" with porn. I think porn is for people who can't be intimate with another human being at their deepest core level. They can't be with a real live, breathing, hot, flesh and blood woman. So what do they do? They go jerk off by looking at some whores on a screen who have no self-esteem or self-dignity.
Nope, no hangups over porn here. Nothing to see. Move along.  | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 6:57:55 PM |
Put on some porn, let him watch, and put his small penis in your mouth, and lick, and suck, for all you are worth.
When sex is a chore where you are constantly focused on your partner just to get them going and you feel uncertainty and feeling under pressure to work at it just to get the slightest satisfaction you may as well not bother no matter how nice about it you want to be IMO. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 8:44:45 PM | velvetvenus,
i have heard it said that when it comes to porn, the more it's watched the more desensitised a person gets to it which just means that yes, porn is addictive and he would need more and more of it to get off. sometimes they just aren't able to ejaculate anymore. it's like any other addiction.
the little penis thing.........i don't think i could stay with someone that is as small as you're describing.
the whole thing is creepy........ | |
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