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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:24:37 PM | I've read that a woman decides that she wants to sleep with a guy within ten minutes of meeting him . In my experience that is true .
Now , that doesn't mean that most women will act on their decision.
If a woman decides she wants to sleep with a guy just because he's hot , then she shouldn't be surprised if it's a one time deal .
If she decides she wants to sleep with a guy because she uses her intuition that he's a decent guy who is honest and sincere and also he's attractive to her , then , there is a much better chance that it will last .
And why is it that if it's a one time deal that it is the woman who is "used" ? I thought we were supposed to be "equal" ....a double standard ? | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 9/27/2008 1:26:46 PM | | G'day Hon,i'm an Aussie & i'm not in2 sayin g'day then jumpin in bed straight away ( i love sex) & plenty of it but i prefer 2 get 2 know person & see where it leads 2,so it seems like ur gettin bad apples..Col | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:33:40 PM | I've read a lot of things that were not anywhere near true. I do believe if you are in a "courting relationship" for longer that two weeks, and she hasn't hit you with the 3 month rule, you aren't going to ever be successful. If you don't get there before the the three months, if the rule is stated, you aren't going to get there.
On the other hand, I met my wife in High School, and wasn't successful then. I met her again a few years later, and wasn't successful. I had at least one more unsuccessful encounter with her, and then at 36 we clicked within a few hours, but certainly not 10 minutes, because I had to steal her away from someone else she was talking to at the pool hall. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:35:00 PM | Doesn't sound like anyone is getting to know one another... just expending energy...
People talking without their HEARTS speaking...
Silence can be a killer..Echos' are hard to bear on one's character .
So the warnings are averted and Pain is covered once again with Pleasure | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:41:31 PM | Welcome to the Autobahn of Love.......no speed limits but deadly pileups in the fog of emotions.
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Posted: 9/27/2008 1:59:30 PM | RedSkyEagle,
Doesn't sound like anyone is getting to know one another... just expending energy...
People talking without their HEARTS speaking...
Silence can be a killer..Echos' are hard to bear on one's character .
So the warnings are averted and Pain is covered once again with Pleasure
I certainly have felt like that, and I have tried to overcome it. The obstacle is very large because it is not a common teaching. The forums are full of people who neither listen with their heart, nor speak with it. Most people are not aware of the Native Spirituality which involves communication from your heart. It is not an easy technique to learn, and White Lad like me needs a long trail of tears before we even wake up to smell the coffee to begin learning the skills.
For you, you might not get many emails because your age restrictions. I tried to email you because you are straying off the topic. 46-48 is a very narrow range. The forums are full of people who neither listen with their heart, nor speak with it. Sometimes we just miss a few facts, and the answers go way off of the target. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 5:44:37 PM | It's because in your profile, you say that you don't think that men are the main course, just the dessert. This has a sexual ineuendo written all over it!!! Guys  fishing for sex will try to hook you. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 6:04:02 PM | OP what everyone is trying to tell you is that you need a profile review.
Not having a photo can also work against you, not everyone, but some think that people that don't post pictures do so because they are looking to have an affair.
After you are on here for a little while, the emails will slow down. Mean time read the other threads on emails etc. and don't forget to get a profile review.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 9/27/2008 7:15:42 PM | | I find it's best to make it very clear before you even meet, that you're not "easy" and they likely wont get to sleep with you, at least not on 1st dates. I generally let guys know that I don't have sex without love, so they might never get to sleep with me, the ones just out for sex disappear. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 1:59:38 PM | Tell me about it i don,t have a picture up yet but still they ask for sex what,s that all about then. It,s enough to make me give up ,I,M SICK OF IT. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 2:15:22 PM |
seem to me unless you fill some girls head with rubbish (not all)
they be no interested
something to do with the mean/average/ benchmark /blah- or expectations
Hey here's a nifty idea....how about you fill the female's heart with some good old fashioned integrity, intelligence, romance, and some honesty BEFORE you stuff her full of your home grown kielbasa?
Might work. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 2:57:04 PM | | Getting to know someone well is still relevant, Tibia.....if they don't think so, just kick 'em to the curb! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 3:07:47 PM | OP, sometimes you gotta just endure these guys who do this.
Just last week I had met a guy thought it might be promising he said he wasn't ready for anything other than friendship for the moment but was open for things to develop.
He was nice enough till the third phone call.. and he asked me about whether or not I was intimate with the last guys I dated... (wtf) when I answered him no that things had not gotten to the point of having a relationship and that I was interested in establishing a relationship before sex. He let me know quickly to go and find someone else that he was no longer interested in me.
Oh and his comment to me was "well I guess you said your peace".. wtf??
So.. I couldn't have been more surprised.. but.. you just never know.
So maintain the standards you want to keep and keep on fishing ok?
It happens to all of us.. both male and female. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 3:31:23 PM | It's just a barometer of a nation and society on it's last leg. Didn't that happen in the Roman Empire and the Greeks had the same deliema as they fell from power.
It's not just men, admit it people, the pornography on TV and the lifestyles in America by many do they reflect "One Nation Under God...", "In God We Trust", etc..., and all the other cliches that were originally sprouted from Biblical connections to scripture.
We all feel hormones and attraction to others but are we supposed to re-act in breeding like 'stray dogs' or seek a spiritual path as divinely created as human beings? | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 7:52:14 PM | | I have come across the same problem..unfortunately far too many times. I think it's just this age...people have become more selfish and want instant gratification. They want to rush things rather than enjoy the journey. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:07:13 PM | | I get that alot on here also and my profile clearly states that im not looking for that. I just tell them straight up if thats what it is they are looking for i enjoyed talking with them and wish them luck in their search!! hell if thats what i wanted i could get that anywhere! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:22:02 PM | | Well there is a grate deal of this going on out there and its very sad ,But if some one does not listen to Your NO than maybe you should file Rape charges,no one likes that .No means No | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 4:42:34 PM | The barometer of a nation in relation of sexual paralyse has nothing to do with the rise and fall of empires. The true reason of the fall of the Roman Empire was politician that get fat dumb and happy. Also the roman people where tired of fighting wars and wanted to spend more money with in the Empire and not on defense.
American is one of the most prude nations out there. Controlling drugs, music and pornography. As much as we say "One Nation Under God...", "In God We Trust", etc. We also forget that this land americans live on didn't start being as christen. It was Native american whom the white christen people destroyed. I will also add that there is more than one religion in America. It is selfish of to think that all america should fallow the christen ways. The fundamental mental of America is to practice what ever religion we want.
Yes we are filled full of hormones and attracted to others. Whom ever put us on this planet has one thing in mind. Keep all animals to reproduce. Just like stray dogs, cats, ducks ect we have sex. Humans have a brain that makes us want to seek a spiritual path.
This just just form a Roman Catholic with a better understand of the world... Yet what do I know? I just might be a 400bls gorilla. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 5:03:30 PM |
cedar77 wrote: I've read that a woman decides that she
wants to sleep with a guy within ten minutes of meeting him...
I believe a woman decides within the first few seconds if she
does NOT want to sleep with a guy. A "yes" can take hours. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 5:12:34 PM | this is in response to Leslie's remark about your profile.....I think it's good to mention that your open to sex, because ladies, what is the number one thing men like to talk about as posted on the "men's favorite topics" etc.....by mentioning something about sex I think a fellow would know that your not frigid, and that you understand that sex is a good thing when everything else clicks...W | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 7:32:00 PM |
Cedar77 wrote: I've read that a woman decides that she
wants to sleep with a guy within ten minutes of meeting him...
DL wrote : I believe a woman decides within the first few seconds if she
does NOT want to sleep with a guy. A "yes" can take hours.
I was speaking of ' in most cases ' , however ...
I believe that NOT can take milliseconds and yes can take years .
But , who has that much time ?
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:10:55 PM | When I was a Child we lived around some wealthy Islam people, back when those from Moslem nations like Saudi Arabia were our friends since Reagan and Bush senior were wheeling and dealing with them for our gain since now America uses 50% to 75 % of the worlds oil.
Anyhow my brother became best friends with a few around town, and one in particular was living with two of our American women. He said the Saudi went on and on about in his country the death penalty was applied to premarital sex and adultery; with no favoritism. He claimed, according to my brother that he and his sisters like everyone else were virgins til they married in Saudi Arabia.
He also looked at American women as harlots, according to the Koran and the Bible, as he said we claimed to believe in God here but we were detestable for the most part!
And think about it, *If a woman yields to an immoral man for sexual sin what is she based upon the Bible if we really mean 'In God we Trust'?* | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:47:58 PM | OP, first, you can find someone compatible, based on whatever combination of compatibility factors you choose. So, if your goal is to find someone to "not have sex" with, there are many to choose among.
There are some surveys floating around, that show that first date sex happens about one out of 3 times. That's not just POF, but all first dates. That's been my experience, too. When you first meet someone, more often than not, there isn't "chemistry", or you don't *click*. When you do "connect", many people, especially those who are divorced, expect it to naturally be sexual.
Not everyone agrees, of course, especially in the fora. | |
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