| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 10/14/2008 2:31:00 PM |
The only thing nugget I can offer up is that,
if a woman posts a profile on a dating site, she has taken away
one HUGE line of defense she can use on the street, which is
that she is somehow taken by someone.
Isn't that what the line "Just here for the forums" is used for?  | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 10/14/2008 3:04:39 PM |
Isn't that what the line "Just here for the forums" is used for?
Lol. Well, it works on me! But I'm just a country mouse. I suspect that there are some snake oil salesmen on here who would still bang on your door.
I've been on POF for two months, and have seen no more than 6 or 8 of those signs, and two of those first contacted me (though it was to comment on my forum posts). | |
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Posted: 10/14/2008 7:07:56 PM |
lovinvixen wrote: I mean when our Christ addressed the adulterous
Mary Magnalene, was he only talking to her about her sexual sin or
the future Christians upon the planet and the those who lived in iniquity?
Nothing in the Bible suggests that Mary Magdelene was an adulteress. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 4:00:16 PM | From post # 78:
Nothing in the Bible suggests that Mary Magdelene was an adulteress.
You must be reading one of the feralized versions because how one can not comprehend why she was about to be stoned to death or why Christ told her to clean up her act regarding this sin is beyond me why some can not connect the dots!
There is nothing in the Bible saying she was a prostitute however anymore than scripture supporting confessions that are mandatory to a preist or any other mortal! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 4:53:57 PM | | I'm in the slow lane !! Hey wait, my lane ain't moving at all, what's the story here ? | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 5:21:32 PM |
I mean when our Christ addressed the adulterous Mary Magnalene, was he only talking to her about her sexual sin or the future Christians upon the planet and the those who lived in iniquity?
This was NOT Mary of Magdelana | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 10:51:30 AM | You evidently have found some documents in a cave or an earthen jar that disputes the scriptures. Would love to hear them!
Otherwise look at:
http://justus.anglican.org/resources/bio/206.html
Then you'll see evidence that Mary was the woman going to be stoned for that sin! Evidently a lot of singles are stoned by their Biblically illiterate comments!
The point is about our morality, and we all base our actions on our beliefs, whether Jewish, Christian, Hindu, Moslem, etc.
But it has been laid out for centurys that fornication is a sin! | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 11/4/2008 11:10:46 AM |
But it has been laid out for centurys that fornication is a sin!
THAT's why I do love it so! LMAO!!! If ever, as an agent of Authority, you are notified that such a sin has been committed, but you can't find the perp, knock on my door. I'm probably your guy, if not for the most recent incident, then surely for a number of your unsolved cases. Hey, I break silly rules in full public view just to see what'll happen. And I will probably continue my civil/scripture disobedience until apprehended. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 11:33:23 AM | | The internet has made acquiring things a fairly simple task. Some people may have the misguided belief that finding a suitable partner is as easy as finding an internet bargain. Some use the relative cloak of anonymity that cyber-texting provides to be as profane and forward as they please, without fear of discovery. I miss the old pen and ink days, myself. It might be just me, but I could almost see the emotion in handwritten words. I agree with your sentiments on the "slow lane". | |
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Posted: 11/6/2008 6:00:55 PM |
lovinvixen wrote: You evidently have found some documents
in a cave or an earthen jar that disputes the scriptures.
Would love to hear them!
Nothing in the Bible can be construed to assert, infer, indicate,
imply, allege or remotely suggest she was guilty of adultery,
fornication or prostitution. If you can find evidence in any
Bible passage to support your accusation, please present it. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2008 7:55:15 PM | Very little in the Bible should be taken at face value, anyway, so quit arguing about it. It's been translated, edited, re-edited, and interpreted so many times by so many people over the centuries that it's probably nowhere close to its original form. Besides, I'm sure Mary Magdalene is sitting in Heaven right now none too pleased that you're arguing over whether or not she was a whore here on the PoF forums. Leave her out of this! What would Jesus do?
And, remember: Jesus Saves!!!
(I don't know what he saves, but he saves something. Maybe he collects pop can tabs.) | |
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Posted: 11/6/2008 10:34:43 PM | Yes, that is very comen with my experiance on this site, and also not on this site. If a guy wants to have sex right off the bat, its a very quik I'm outta here deal breaker for me. I am worth way more than that. You want me baby, get to know me, and be committed, period.
Me? Old fashioned? You're dang right I am, and theres absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Bring back the slow days of leave it to beaver, and mayberry rfd. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2008 1:22:44 PM | | Hi ,I totally agree with you,I have dated a couple of guys from the site and yes it seems that way.Or you start talking to them and the nice conversation ends up into a totaly diffrent one then from the one you started.I also feel that they should just say from the start if thats all they really want ,then instead of saying on their site they want long term ,To me long term means starting off diffrently then with the sex talk. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2008 8:37:13 PM | | Hey, I have dated enough guys on here to know that yea most guys on here i feel want sex but there are other guys that want more than that on here too. I think its like meeting a guy off the street you have to look for signals on what they want. Like the profiles that say " i dont want anything serious" yes some mean i want to JUST hang out and have fun but most mean "I want sex." | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 4:39:55 AM | Ok everyone has hit it, and we all need clear communication. THING is evryone is looking for speed relationship... jump on in...whether on POF or lie in general.. date someone for 2 weeks and ready to think you have been together for months.. slow down.. enjoy the moment and find out who you are hanging with...
going from 20 to 180 you can miss alot along the way.. and find out to late
hi to bed.... make sure your not sending out one message.. even bymistake | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 12:28:28 PM | Most of the time, it does not even have anything to do with your profile or pics. Some guys/dolls view this site as their release and have really nothing in their heads but that!
And when they cannot do that in person, they have their webcam to strut around. 
Once you have been here a while, you will sense it a mile away and yes, learn to say goodbye as soon as you feel it coming your way. Usually those who are in such a rush to meet are only after one thing. There are exceptions though. But believe me, it could have nothing to do with what you said in your profile or chat or how your pics look. It has more to do with their agenda, hidden or not.  | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 11/8/2008 2:08:00 PM |
The only thing nugget I can offer up is that,
if a woman posts a profile on a dating site, she has taken away
one HUGE line of defense she can use on the street,
So please tell me why women need "line(s) of defense," either here or on the street.
If she's butt nekkid standing in front of Joes' Bar and Grill and Bar, by US law she STILL has the right to say "no thank you." Of course she's probably going to get ASKED more than the lady in the birkah standing next to her,and I certainly hope she's intelligent enough to figure THAT out!
But just because a lady has a profile on a dating site,or she is walking down the street unescorted,should not cause her to need a line of defense of ANY size.
But a lot of men are sort of old fashioned, and assume that a woman who puts herself "out there" in any way, is "quick fvck" material. They think they will only find "good women" completely by accident,in church, or in the library, or other 'proper' places. So get used to the expectation of quick sex...unless you create a very prudish and stern profile with lots of conditions...
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 2:16:42 PM | | I believe both sexes are just as bad,but i find the sooner you sleep with someone then the sooner the relationship will end. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 2:56:52 PM | | Being a fellow woman, I have to say this is the problem with online dating. Yes, I've chatted to a very few, nice gentlemen... though I think it's mainly used for the bedroom. My best advice, is to meet someone while you're out.. gym, grocery store, through a friend. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 2:56:57 PM |
I believe both sexes are just as bad,but i find the sooner you sleep with someone then the sooner the relationship will end.
Dude! I m so sorry to hear that! Do ya reckon it's you, or are you bad at picking women???
Point of disagreement; IMO, something that ends after you sleep with someone was never a "relationship".
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 3:06:28 PM | Maybe it is just better to "say hi" from bed and get it over with immediately???......
If sleeping together ends a potential relationship, then there are things far greater on each of your parts that need to be addressed long before you consider bedding each other.........
I would think that it would be just the opposite, that sleeping together, when right, would magnify all the reasons for wanting to have sex in the first place, and take you down that road of knowing it or not.
This of course would also depend on your abilities in bed as well, both physically and mentally, and all that you bring to that bed once you turn those covers down.
Just my opinion.........  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 3:47:09 PM | Cindy O- Not entirely sure why you are taking me task. And I don't need an explanation of the protections afforded by law. My nugget might make more sense to you if you read this earlier post:
Anyway, for you... your profile says pretty clearly:
Since I'm not the typical female ( I hate shopping especially for shoes,
I dont nag and wont refuse sex!)
It's not a big leap to figure out why.
The "nugget" I offered OP, which I reiterate by reference, was simply that, if a woman feels harrassed/needs to fend off "hits" from men, the notion that she is already paired can be a potent weapon, not only for her to use as a rebuff, but in the mind, as a deterrent, of a potential "assailant". By enrolling in a "dating " site, unless her profile clearly states that she is here only for forums, chats, friends, or the like, then she is saying that she is looking to be paired. Nothing profound, or notably old-fashioned, in my post. Neither was it terribly mysterious. This particular OP seemed to be searching, in part, for an explanation for the "Hi to bed" approach she is encountering, and I hoped that I sorta responded to her concern. With the quoted portion of her profile, posit this: she walks down the same street, not naked, but with a large sign that says "I will not refuse sex". She will have offers. Without the sign, not so much.
My windmill is not malevolent; quit tilting at me! Lol | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 7:08:35 PM | Whytwater
I didn't connect the 2 posts...besides, I was speaking in general terms about a woman with a profile on a dating site needing "lines of defense". It goes back to the premise that a rape victim "asked for it",which I'm told no longer flies as a defense tactic. And I have read threads here posted by men who were P.O'd because they thought this site was a good place to find first date sex.
I think the snippet quoted from the OPs profile was meant as part of a larger context, describing how she would function in a relationship. (I have not read the OPs profile and by now she may have changed it anyway)
However, given the nature of online dating, the lady could have written the "War and Peace" of online dating profiles, but all a lot of men would see would be the line "I don't refuse sex." She needs to either edit or elaborate on that particular piece of prose,considering the audience. I certainly see your point on THAT issue.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 11/9/2008 10:08:01 PM |
However, given the nature of online dating, the lady could have written the "War and Peace" of online dating profiles, but all a lot of men would see would be the line "I don't refuse sex."
My thoughts exactly! No need to elaborate... | |
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