| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 4/27/2009 6:10:15 PM | | Please everybody leave the counterproductive arguments to personal emails only. If you can't bring anything constructive or informative about the issue at hand, one would hope you could address such matters privately for they do not serve the purpose of public forums well or at all. Thank you. | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 4/28/2009 9:14:14 PM | Red Sky Eagle has a real point restated one more time... below:
Doesn't sound like anyone is getting to know one another... just expending energy...
People talking without their HEARTS speaking...
Silence can be a killer..Echos' are hard to bear on one's character .
So the warnings are averted and Pain is covered once again with Pleasure
I also agree with Red Sky Eagles profile statement about mutual respect...I too am looking for that...and not looking for someone that can't deal with real life and constantly seeks pleasure... My father always told me the man that always seeks pleasure will be the first to starve... | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 4/30/2009 3:54:18 AM | [Look I don't find CAT FIGHTS classy....PLEASE take your frustrations out on something else!]
Hun don't flatter yourself. By no means am I frustrated or is this a CAT FIGHT... 
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/28/2009 1:58:02 PM | Watch the Tube,
Listen to Rap trash Music and Rock & Roll,
Notice how many municipalities allow strip clubs,
Read mant Women's Mags or current Dude Mags,
Then ask yourself has America degenerated into a trash culture MORAL wise?
Of course it's become the NORM as most guys are just lookin for a place to poke; but is it right! | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/28/2009 2:01:40 PM | I only read the OP and didnt read the replies so I might be repeating something.
I call it the catalog mentality. Log on to Amazon and buy yourself a book, log onto J Crew and buy yourself a sweater, log onto POF and find yourself a blowjob.
I think some people forget that each profile represents a real live human being instead of merchandise to be purchased. | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/28/2009 2:06:03 PM | t could also have a lot to do with life experiences. When I was getting out of my teens I was just happy to be "free" and "able to do what I want" lol - would go to the club and it would be like candy all over. Boys boys boys and nobody is supervising me....dreamland. Usually I would say no no no, hell no. But once in a while I would change my mind last-minute "just to get laid" never intending to see the guy again ever. One guy I remember was surprised by my attitude and he "wanted to wait" I said what the hell. Im outta here lol! The next one after we had sex I was like...eer, I wanna go home he wanted to "know me better", I said, for what>? LOL! He seemed upset. I didn't get it at all. Sometimes I look back and I am like ....wwwooooo. That was me?
Would I do that now? Chances are very slim. I am more grown up. | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/28/2009 2:14:00 PM | Why are some guy's like that,who knows!Sex,sex,sex!
Why can't a man just appriecate a woman for who she is,for her mind,her kindness,the lovely way she smiles at you as you look into her eyes.
So ah anyway,what are you wearing? | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:18:27 PM | welcome to the world of POF...or just internet dating as a whole. Actually, I think this is a problem with dating in todays world period.
Smile at a guy...and he slips in and out before you know it. | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:30:30 PM | | I think that it happens with both men and women...although men go a bit lighter on the indignation aspect... | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 1:52:11 AM | LMAO exactly! You can't believe what a person tells you, why is it a guy will put "looking for long term" on his profile and makes it clear when you meet he just wants to get you in the sack? or having great manners on pof, getting your number and sending porn to your phone? I'm not against that sort of thing, but all in good time ;) I'm not the type that would sleep with a guy on a first date, and I'm a bit shy so it's a put off when a guy's overbearing.
Also, consider your audience when you build your profile and you should have better luck. I don't think a person can really get to know someone by reading what they think of themselves anyway, I must confess I rarely read a profile unless I'm chatting with someone really interesting.  | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:00:14 AM | GUys are taught that no one wants them, women are taught that they have a super special gift between their legs. this is the result.
guys want to feel special like they're wanted, we base that on if a girl will sleep with us really quickly, women feel guys will have sex with almost anything so it's a low priority item.
cest la vie, what do you expect? | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 9/4/2009 12:54:17 PM | OP,
How many chicks on POFF will admit they had one night stand on the first day?..even the ones with intimate encounter profiles....none i guess. its always the guys who are horny or desperate. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 1:20:51 PM | OP and Later,
What's with all of the initial posters with no "profile" on this thread? Are they gone? Why? Had a cousin who would throw a rock and then quickly put his hands in his pockets, after all of the commotion commenced. | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 9/7/2009 1:57:29 PM | you haven't noticed how many SHALLOW people are on the Webb relationship sites?
i mean some gals expect males to be shallow considering the morality of their mothers, but don't even think all women are that weak! | |
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| Going from Hi to bed??????
Posted: 9/7/2009 3:05:17 PM | I think it is how one looks at the sex question in general. Some are into having sex and moving on and that is why they are so quick to move into it. But for me, going from "Hi!" to sex is more of a learning experience.
I tend to want to explore that aspect of our little relationship as soon as possible simply to find out if the connection is there. And if its not, than I’m out.
Maybe that makes me just another manpig but wasting time on something empty isn’t one of my strong points. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 5:51:01 PM |
But for me, going from "Hi!" to sex is more of a learning experience.
I tend to want to explore that aspect of our little relationship as soon as possible simply to find out if the connection is there. And if its not, than I’m out.
But you see IsIt2L84Love "Hi" isn't really a relationship....not really.
Just say it like it is....you wanna test drive before investing any of yourself to someone in case you don't like how she bangs ya. Nothing wrong in that if that's how you live. To each their own...but..... no use in throwin' sugar on it though. 
Actually, I really have to ......... I mean really have to, really like someone for their personality and who they are and have a connection that way before the sex enters into the equation. Just having indiscriminate sex really would seem empty to me. But that's me.
Maybe that makes me just another manpig but wasting time on something empty isn’t one of my strong points
No, I don't think so.....unless you are feeling about yourself in that way. Everyone just has their own way of goin' about these things, yanno?
I think you're still thinkin' about the ex.....JMO......I recall your thread a while back. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 7:43:21 PM | ok, don't blame the guys for what they're thinking about here ! Edit edit edit , then read similar posts from other fishies w/ your complaint who also mentioned sex, intimate encounters etc on their profile | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 7:47:01 PM | | Girls do the same thing. I am leary if a girl talks about sex and I haven't even met her yet. Who knows how many other guys those sluts have slept with? | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 9:59:45 PM |
Don't assume she's a slut.
She might just be open about her sexual expectations, which is GOOD.
That way you know whether she is incompatible right off the bat.
I don't mean talking about how long we are going to wait. I mean, for example, a girl talking about how she wants to have sex, be tied up, or sending nude pics to me. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 5:11:14 AM | | People seem to have the impression that the past was a million miles away from where we are now. I collect vintage womens magazines from the 40s and 50s and trust me the problem pages are not a far cry from the kind of issues we read about today. Women asking advice on how to deal with boyfriends wanting to take things further quickly. The only difference is that they weren't openly as vulgar whilst talking about it as we tend to be nowadays! Granted, attitudes towards marriage and settling down have changed quite a bit. I don't think I ever read a letter about sex from anyone over 20 in a vintage magazine. Nowadays people well into their 30s are still acting like rampant teenagers! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:42:56 AM | There is simply not enough blood supply in the male body.......
to think clearly with both heads at once.
Poor, Poor Men.Such victims of thier anatomy.
All it really takes is having some Character and the ability to say......hold off for a little while while you get to know someone,then it's GAME ON!
A little while for me meant,a long phone call,inviting him over,hanging out,making dinner together,having some laughs,feeling comfortable,puffin' a doob......and CARPE DIEM baby!~
How many chicks on POF will admit they had one night stand on the first day?..even the ones with intimate encounter profiles....none i guess. its always the guys who are horny or desperate.
I jumped my first POF date ,after a year without sex, the first night ,thanks to my desparation and HORNINESS.And guess what?He has yet to leave my house or bed,except to work, for the past 4 months.He moved IN fter that sex session! lol
Some sexual neediness can lead to an actual relationship.
Men aren't the only ones with needs.....it's just that women tend to want an emotional connection and are more apt to hold out to make sure there is one before they jump in bed with a man they don't know.Nothing wrong with that!
Most men will 'hit it and quit' it if you give into them the first night.
I HATE THAT!Mine didn't leave!!!!!!!!!!
That is all I expected after I threw him on the bed and took him!~
I have NO regrets for going for it!
He is the BEST "thing" that has happened to me in a long time...and it's NOT just all about the sex! He actually feels with more than his HANDS!
Am I A "SLUT"?
NOPE!
Just honest and willing to take some risks to get my sexual and emotional needs met.
Or....I can blame it on my lack of blood supply! LMAO!
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Posted: 9/8/2009 6:57:35 AM | | Personally, I don't think sex should be part of your profile. The very word should not be in your profile. You can describe yourself as affectionate and would enjoy finding the right companion. Nuff said. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2009 7:09:07 AM | I think sex should be highlighted in your profile.
I mean come on...we ARE all adults here right?
SEX+ LOVE= PASSION and all.
It's not like Sex isn't going to happen at some point,but since women seem to think they don't need it as much as men do,they seem to hold all the power.I think it's better to know sooner than later if you are even sexually on the same page or not.But it does help to know who's repressed or going to withhold and make you jump thru hoops to get it and who isn't.
Doesn't it really come down to,how much money do you need spent on you before you choose to give it up, is the real question? Meaning...how many DATES do you need to take a woman out on before you get to the center of the lolly pop?
Men can just as easily say,I will NOT show you any emotion or pay for a single date until you have sex with me.This tit for tat sh*t is the problem!
So yeah,the women who will NOT have sex anytime soon, should highlight that in thier profiles to indicate thier boundary and make it perfectly clear so they don't lead men to believe they are one thing,when they aren't.Funny thing.........cutting off your nose to spite your own face.
Nuff said. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2009 4:11:41 PM | NOPE, we women think about SEX A LOT MORE THAN DUDES!
Trouble is most of my sisters, regardless of race, have blatantly sold out and short-changed themselves to the point that NOW Marriage has become camo-like prostitution to command the lesser evolved males.
Any male stupid enough to take a woman out without stating he wants 'to go dutch' is asking for it with so many 'tramps' for sale.
Sure sex is the eventual union, but the problem is SOOOOO MANNNY are doing the Esau and his brides malific marriage dance...........somewhat as degenerate as RAP MUSIC!
SEX IS EASYm the philosophical union is the challenge! | |
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