| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:46:22 AM | | Women are more picky as they have to give up a lot more than the man and start waiting on a man again and yet" pay" to stay,,,How stupid do you think we are???? | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 6:36:02 AM |
I always kind of assumed that enlightenment was more likely to be found on a mountain top in the Himalayas. But Sterling, as usual, is 100% correct...you do not represent all men. I never made that claim. A diversity of opinions is a good thing. Verdad? | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 6:40:10 AM |
How stupid do you think we are[\quote]
Not nearly as stupid as the men. There's no law that says a woman has to do one damn thing when she's married. She can choose to sit at home and not work, not cook, not clean, and do whatever she likes, but when divorce time comes, she still gets half regardless of whether she ever lifted a finger to help build it in the first place. Of course this is not resticted to just women, men can do the same thing. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 6:47:50 AM |
Women are still attracted to men who could be considered dominant be they "bad boys", soldiers, athletes, rich and powerful or simply tall Really? Dominant over who...me or some other 5' 7" man?
It's EVOLUTION; survival of the fittest. The species benefitted from selection of those most able to survive for breeding. For hundreds of thousands of years, it was a matter of physical survival and that usually meant the biggest and meanest. Those same instincts are in play now and completely explain the attraction to "bad boys" etc. Male instincts had no reason to favor monagomy and such a practice did not help the species. Society developed and that dominant male became the monarchy etc. where even the descendants of the once dominant warrier would rule. The problem with this genetic stagnation is de-evolution, inbreeding etc. Biological evolution mechanisms do not change fast and when the need to survive in a hostile world no longer favors the physically dominant, the old biological pressures become destructive. We are now a civilized, complex, technological society where dominance is intellectual, not physical. So how much have you evolved or de-evolved? Is your "chemistry" good for the species or de-evolutionary? Have you been stuck with an abusive or wondering male and/or one with traits indicating inbreeding? Is your "chemistry" to blame or perhaps you are a product of destructive "chemistry" yourself?
The search for intelligent life continues. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 7:33:19 AM | I think that Women are more ~picky~ ..
Mostly, because they've met , dated , and Dropped So many
Losers .. / .. non-compatibles !
A majority of guys -over 50- have either been *Career Bachelors* or have been through enough divorces .. that most women that even _Might_ be attracted to them
can tell fairly easily, that there's some flaw in their character that makes any form of relationship rather - iffy - !!
Naturally, there are exceptions .. but if I may make a suggestion . . :
A recovered  Widower who has lost a genuine ~Soul-mate~
may be worthy of a second-chance to re-establish a new and loving partnership...!!
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 7:37:08 AM |
A recovered Widower who has lost a genuine ~Soul-mate~
Um... Numbnuts III, some of us have know you long enough to have read your posts bashing your "soul mate". Maybe you should be over in the "Why Lie" thread... and maybe answer THAT question. Just sayin...
You're right though, women tend to be picky because men lie to them. Numbnuts III is a good example.  | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:22:03 AM | | Regardless of age, I think women are generally more picky than men are. A man could be interested in a bunch of women that are around the same "level". ( In terms of looks, income, education, social status etc. ) Most of these women would reject him. However when women show interest in a man, the man is often at a "higher level" than the woman is. I realize some men can be picky about looks. Many men might want the hot slender or athletic younger woman. But women are generally just as picky about looks. A lot of women wouldn't date short men, bald men, or fat men. I think women generally put more emphasis on income and social status then men do. BTW I know I'm younger than 50, but I have talked to a lot of people from various ages ( including people over 50 ) about this subject and many of them have same viewpoints and experiences that I do. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 9:23:56 AM | | Well, we are all single, and on this site searching for "someone". And face it, we are all single for some reason. I would hope that reason would be because we are selective (or picky--gee people there is nothing wrong with that term). But we should all consider that we have attributes that the opposite sex does not find attractive. I have, from time to time, relooked at my criteria and have adjusted them. At this point--I'm just looking for a man who is willing to treat me with a little courtesy. I know respect is earned, but courtesy should be the least we can all afford someone else. At our age, we all know men are "wired" for sex--gee we've heard it enough over the years. But not respecting a woman because she chooses NOT to is simply a statement to their character. I've met guys who've stated in their ads and on the phone they want a LTR and are a one woman man, etc. and yet want that home run on the first date...and when they don't get it, they don't call back. Any guys want to elaborate on that one? Picky? Choosy? Not with whom they have sex with, just with whom they have a relationship with...hummmm. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 9:48:27 AM | | I think for most of us It's more to do with "timing". In my experience, people that have recently come out of a bad relationship tend to be pickier about who they'll date. Or in some cases, it's been so long since anyone has been complimentary and affectionate, that they seem to not need any other standards met. Neither extreme is likely to result in a successfull relationship, but I don't think that "too picky" or "not picky enough" are gender specific. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 10:32:02 AM |
I would hope that reason would be because we are selective (or picky--gee people there is nothing wrong with that term).
There is nothing with being picky to some degree. However when you are very picky, you could be missing out on some people that could be a good match for you because of some petty or insignificant reason. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 11:10:15 AM | Gosh, sometimes when I read these threads it is a bit depressing, you have an opportunity to uplift and inspire others and there is so much smack talk and putdowns....
I guess my question is ...why the heck does it matter and the whole men vs women is a stupid why to refer to people, we are all individuals ...I might be female but I never will speak for all females and a guy is never going to represent all men....so all you are getting is one persons opinion, most of the time stated as fact and since some want to be negative you are only getting the negative opinions vs the positive ones. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 11:23:30 AM | There is nothing with being picky to some degree. However when you are very picky, you could be missing out on some people that could be a good match for you because of some petty or insignificant reason. Exactly. A lot of people are trigger happy. This place only looks like a candy store where the pickings are infinite. Loving someone makes them perfect. Maybe it's a case of too much information at the start when it normally trickles in - in real life that is. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 12:12:14 PM | | I dont consider myself picky, I just know what I want in a relationship. No one is perfect and should not have to be. I would rather grow old alone than be in a bad relationship. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 2:23:22 PM |
A lot of women wouldn't date short men, bald men, or fat men. I think women generally put more emphasis on income and social status then men do
So you're saying that women are not only more picky, they're also more shallow too? There was a study last year to test this hypothesis. Using speed dating as the method, the participants were asked who'd they'd like to meet for a real date. The men pretty much focused on physical attractiveness, but they were much less choosy than women. Men were interested in any woman above a certain threshold of attractiveness Women on the otherhand were aware of the importance of their own attractiveness to men, and adjusted their expectations to select the more desirable guys. “Women made offers to men who had overall qualities that were on a par with the women’s self-rated attractiveness. They didn’t greatly overshoot their attractiveness, and they didn’t go lower. They knew what they could get and aimed for that level.”
Now this study involved people in the the 20 to early 40s bracket. It would be interesting to see if these results hold for the 40 to 60 year old group. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:25:45 PM |
Picky??
Yah, I'm picky...so what.
Life is about choices.
I decided on my 50th birthday that I will no longer "settle"....
what a beautiful sentiment and a powerful statement about your life...i just had to single it out and add my 2 cents to it...of course, i totally agree...
when i stopped settling, the quality of my life and the closest relationships around me zoomed into orbit...next, i had to say goodbye to a number of friends who still wanted to live in our old, unhealthy codependent roles...that was tough and just as you said it...choices are the only real freedom i have... | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 9/30/2008 4:46:49 PM | Yes, I'm picky and I hope to match up with a man that is just as picky as me. Being picky is not the same as knit-pickin' though. Someone used the word selective earlier, I think that is a better word.
To answer your question as to which gender is more picky I think it is a toss up. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 10/1/2008 2:43:35 PM | | Cant say who is more picky, not sure i would touch that one if i could. can say though that if someone trys to make you feel like "the bad one" for being "picky" keep in mind that you are a human being of much worth. you should decide who you want to spend the limited ammount of time and love you have with most carefully. anyone who does not understand that one, man or woman, is probably not that good of a potential mate anyway. my op of course | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 10/2/2008 7:12:23 AM | | I consider myself selective... I am looking for my playmate, my partner, the ONE. That is why I am selective, picky or whatever you name it...everyone is looking for something and if they don't pick me than they are not the ONE. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 10/2/2008 8:15:10 AM | It _Also_ depends on _What_ they're looking for....!
As far as a 'Date'...women generally are more picky....and tend to gravitate to the
'Bad-boy'-type... they can always be dumped , after a few days...
But .. if they're 'looking' for an LTR ..
they look for a more even-tempered, considerate personality
that will last the test of time with them...
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 10/2/2008 8:19:00 AM | ^^^Not even tempered...
As far as a 'Date'...women generally are more picky....and tend to gravitate to the
'Bad-boy'-type... they can always be dumped , after a few days...
As a "Bad-Boy" type, I can tell you, getting dumped after a few days is usually completely up to them. Bad boy types will generally keep someone around until they become problematic... then they move on. | |
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| who is more picky men or women over 50?
Posted: 10/2/2008 8:19:21 AM | | This is a great question, because it may give some answers to both sexes about how we choose our dates....I am very selective, because in the past my"picker" has been way off the mark and my bad choices were disasterous..I really know I am way over the mark now and have been told I don't give some guys enough of a chance..At least I now realize it, but its hard to go back..I'm working on it..Maybe by Christmas, I'll have at least one date.....Awwww...Kidding, not about not going out yet, I have been asked out quite a bit, and of course its always the one that you would really like to get to know who never calls you..On the other hand, some guys are really looking for a serious relationship, now...When a guy who I've never met, after just a few emails, asks what I'm looking for right now, and that he's had enough of women who are just looking for a casual thing it makes me very skittish...its as if every contact is the right one until proven otherwise...How in the world can I answer that when I've never met the guy... that off the subject, sorry.At 60, I actually do know what I want, but maybe its just too scary for me to think ahead and hope this is the one..Wish me luck--and good luck to all | |
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