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Posted: 10/1/2008 4:23:35 AM | Sad thing is that more and more people are thinking that STD’s are for someone else, anyone but not them.
(Probably) needles to say those people are mainly guys, and they can be off all age and educational level.
As J.B. show states in his play ‘’Don Juan in Hell’’
''They are not educated: they are only college passmen''
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Mama you crack me up with you comments  | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 7:04:19 AM | Oh, my, is this man S-T-U-P-I-D!
Rates for STD's are GROWING in the over 50 age group because of ignorance like his! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 10:33:04 AM | | That guy needs to grow up he sure don't have any respect for women at all | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 1:35:09 PM | been a while since i taught on hiv and new knowledge comes out all the time, but last time i saw you can have hiv for seven years or longer without even knowing it and being asymptomatic. the only thing this fella does have on his sides is the odds of catching an std of any type are lower for males by far. unprotected sex for a female with an infected male is almost 100 percent likely to end up in her being infected. again last time i looked the male rate was much lower. it probably wont do you any good to talk to someone whose mind is made up, particularly when that decision supports a life style that is risky where he wants to ignore the risk, but you might tell him to check his facts. if not, hey its on him.  | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 5:06:00 PM | Thanks for the advice. I have talked to him about this many times. He thinks I am being a nag. I give up.
And I need a new set of friends.
poop.
Unfortunately, as a law enforcement official, he seems to have plenty of women who are on the same wavelength.
I just don't know how people can be so ignorant in this day and age. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 6:07:05 PM | WOW! That's amazing - a law enforcement official who, I'm sure, is exposed to the seedier sides of life on a daily basis and he's STILL playing ostrich?
Good grief! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 6:15:39 PM |
Unfortunately, as a law enforcement official, he seems to have plenty of women who are on the same wavelength.
Some women are influenced by " the uniform". But, stupid is stupid. You can't fix stupid! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2008 8:37:03 PM |
He's a college educated man
It would appear that these days of education for the masses, the "gentleman C" has extended well beyond gentlemen. STD was an issue of consideration well past 45 even in the nineteenth century. If they won't read medical reports, have them read the diary of Samuel Peyps. On the other hand, as someone who has dug through the archives of not a few "gentlemen" of the late nineteenth, early twentieth centuries, it is perhaps not suprising how many wealthy "gentlemen" were funding syphilis research. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 12:31:47 PM | He must forget that some of us are of the Studio 54 and CBGBs generation. Back in the day the only thing I worried about was pregnancy. I know I am STD free but that does not mean all my fellow sisters are. He is kidding himself, VD has been around forever. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 1:00:05 PM | How hard is it to just talk about STD's and wanting to stay clean and healthy?
It is very easy to take that persons hand and guide them to the nearest clinic to be tested together. If you can not wait until the results, that is one huge reason that they make condoms, and most are even free at the same clinic that you just got tested at.
The next thing both need to discuss is pregnancy because just being 40 and over does not stop you from having children, and this is just another subject that needs to be broached when deciding if sex will be a part of your relationship or not.
OT.......I understand the desire for companionship and sex, but there is little to no reason to not be prepared, open minded enough to talk freely about it, and have a willingness to make sure that you and your partner are disease free and pregnancy proof.... 
Just my opinion.......   | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 1:55:23 PM | | actually one of the things i know about law enforcement folks, at least a lot of em, from my 11 plus years of working with them daily is that more than a few get arrogant. they get their egos pumped a lot by cons trying to manipulate them and get by with something and they get****. before long a lot of them think they are bulletproof and they end up making dumb choices. met more than a few ex cops in prison when i worked there, almost all of em went down that road. unfortunate because most of the men and women out there protecting us are great people with caring hearts. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 6:12:57 PM | | My Dad was 70 when he died from AIDS. STDs are equal opportunity. I won't have sex till I find a guy who wants only me and brings me a blood test. Say what you will, but judge me only after you watch your geriatric father die of AIDS. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 6:20:11 PM | Jesus Doc! So very sad that you, your Dad and your family had to go through that!
See? This just goes to show us that life is not as "frivolous" as we think it is. Meaning we shouldn't be that way either. Good sex is God's gift but it sure isn't worth giving your life for! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2008 10:42:37 PM | | I think it's important for anyone reading this, whether they contribute to the forums or not, to read about this issue and be aware of it: Just because you are over 40, it does not mean you are safe or safer from contracting an STD, including HIV. I read some posts on here by men who said they never used condoms. I wonder about them, their judgement, and their selfishness. But I worry and wonder about the women with whom these men are intimate: how can a woman ignore her own safety? | |
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Posted: 10/5/2008 11:48:11 AM | | Good point ismene. if anything i would think that those of us over 40 would be at greater risk because (many of us) have had more partners who have (often) had more partners. each extra link in our sexual tree actually increases the risk because the partners of their partners had partners etc and so on | |
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Posted: 10/6/2008 8:53:27 AM | | I agree with Woodstar. I was in a monogomous relationship for 27 years, then being widowed. Five years later I met a wonderful man, who actually had been a batchelor for quite a while. After talking with my ob/gyn, it was sort of obvious that the "paper thing" was going to be necessary. ALthough I sort of dreaded having the "paper talk" but it went well, he got tested, and of course I did also. We laughed about it later, but it did clear the air and gets things off to a great start. I think it sort of put me in a different perspective than some other women he had been with. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2008 9:51:42 AM | In this day and age, it is better to be safe than sorry (wow! I just sounded like my mother! )
I know someone who died of AIDS several years ago because she had unprotected sex with this guy she just couldn't say no to... It turned out he had AIDS and didn't know it...I watched her go from a happy, voluptious woman to a mere sack of bones laying in a bed waiting to die...She is at peace now, but watching her die and plan her funeral (she wanted things to go just right) took its toll on me and everyone who loved her.
I see nothing wrong with having "the talk" and seeing "the proof" that your new partner is safe to play with. If they get offended, then they just don't care about you or themselves for that matter.  | |
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Posted: 10/6/2008 11:58:26 AM | My condolences on the loss of your father, doc*dog.
I have had at least eight female friends (who were churchgoing, non-promiscious women), all in their 40's or 50's die from HIV/AIDS infection within the last few years......leaving children and grandchildren behind.
And none of them were IV drug users...... | |
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Posted: 10/6/2008 12:20:46 PM | | there was an article in details magazine about middle aged men who cheat on their wives, who aren't afraid of stds. 2 were doctors, one was a lawyer. they hung out together, and just picked up women at parties and functions and whatnot. one story that makes me laugh that one of the drs told was how he met this model in chicago, and they had sex that night, and a few weeks later he realized he had chlamydia, and a month or 2 later he ran into her again at another function, and she was so hot that he took her home and got it again. some people just don't care, regardless of education. its a narcissistic point of view. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:55:39 PM | Wowsad, that is scary....when a physician doesn't have any better sense, then I shudder to think about the "average guy" and his lack of sense..... | |
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