| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 7:02:51 AM | If a man is really into a woman, and she's given him reason to love her, he'd most likely "DEAL WITH" not having oral as part of his sex life with her; but, if he's a good man, who she appreciates and trusts, why would a she feel that he should have to "DEAL WITH" not getting any form of pleasure she can think of giving him?
I hate the ballet. A day of shopping is hours of pure torture. A whole weekend of "Honey-dos", after a particularly hard week of work, is like a slap in the face. I do them all with a smile, because I know it makes her happy. If she really loved and cared for him, BJ's would not be an issue. OP has issues, due to abuse, she needs to work out before she is in a relationship, or at least she needs to find a man she loves and trusts enough to be a good partner to. Lack of BJs is not the problem, it's a symptom of a much worse problem. Selfishness, lack of trust, lack of intimacy, unresolved emotional and mental issues... The list goes on. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:15:20 AM | | I know i cant-its apart of sex--apart of foreplay--and i absolutely love gettin head.I think u need to evaluate urself a lil more.Ya might not be able to have sex at all--if a childhood memory is gettin in the way of of something sexual that ya want--wouldnt ya think not to have sex at all--until you've dealt what with happened in the past.Realizing it wasnt ur fault- | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:39:56 AM | | your last boy....did not like blowjobs....you were right to get rid of him .....he is not a man..i can not fathom life with out some good head | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:48:43 AM |
your last boy....did not like blowjobs....you were right to get rid of him .....he is not a man..i can not fathom life with out some good head Did you read her post?
Did you see the part about abuse?
If so it looks to me like your d!ck went cannibal on you, and engulfed your entire body. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:11:09 AM | | To be quite frank and honest...I pity the poor woman that tries to make me climax from oral sex. Shes going to end up thinking I dont like her and have a sore jaw from trying so long. Although oral is my favorite thing to do for who Im with in bed I get no pleasure (ok...slight pleasure) from recieving. I would gladly exchange a nice massage for a blowjob ANYDAY. | |
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Joined: 9/24/2008
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:17:02 AM | | Go to a Hypnotist m have that part of ur childhood wiped out ,,,,,,, then suck ur way to happiness without a care in the world , ppl with issues from the past do this as do smokers crack addicts etc ..... read a few articles on it ,, suppose to work | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:34:43 AM | With all honestly, I have never given oral sex. The thought of sucking on a man's sexual organ, just doesn't sit well with me for some reason. But that's not to say that I wouldn't ever give it a try. Perhaps if I shall ever be in a loving, romantic relationship one of these days. We'll see, eh? | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:41:41 AM |
So, if someone only cares what she "likes", in total disregard of her partner's needs, then she is a selfish, self-absorbed person, and bad news in a relationship. Sorry, but if fellatio is repulsive to a woman for whatever reason, it's not 'selfish' to not want to do it. It's actually MORE selfish of the man to expect it based on his own whims.
What if he didn't enjoy giving cunnilingus? Does the woman have the right to demand it just because it makes HER feel good? .. this completely disregards mutual comfort, and turns oral into a point of contention instead of a supposedly loving act.
I see an angle that just the willingness to do so, despite one's own aversion to it, would be endearing .. but my question is HOW can you, for example, enjoy receiving a gesture that makes the giver so uncomfortable?
If a partner of mine ever EVER put the slightest pressure on me to perform oral sex on him (especially if I was put off by it, which by the way I happen to be), I'd tell him to make sure the door didn't hit him on the way out!
Being in relationship is about compromise. Not just the other's, but your own as well!
If you'd dump a woman on that basis, you'd be doing her a favour. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:48:24 AM | | all u silly men that are sayin its ok depends on u....stop lying or u just haven't gotten a great blowjob...me i LOVE THEM!!!!! | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 12:58:27 PM | Only if he is a big man. There are too many small men that would "require" it.
There is a double standard here. If/when a man states that he doesn't like giving oral sex, he is often considered to be selfish regardless of the reasons why he doesn't like it. ( Do a thread search. There have been some threads about men not giving BJs. ) However for many people it is okay for a woman not to like giving BJs. If a man doesn't date a woman because she doesn't give BJs, then they are simply sexually incompatible. It doesn't necessary mean that he is a bad person for not dating her. It also doesn't necessary mean that she is a bad person for not giving BJs.
No, the fact is that only 17% of women enjoy it. Just because you want it to be so, doesn't make it that way.
How do you know this is a proven fact? Not all surveys are accurate.
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:09:34 PM |
There have been some threads about men not giving BJs. I don't know about anyone else, but I thought most men didn't give BJ's that is was gay men that did and they are a minority?
I think most surveys conducted by Universities are pretty darn accurate.
But neither one of those points has to do with anyone that has physical or mental challenges that aren't capable of performing them. The OP wanted to know how many men are really out there. To me it seems pretty hedonistic if you wouldn't be able to work around someone's challenges. That is why not everyone is compatible. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:18:02 PM | If you love the girl ... who cares.
If you are an idiot, go get your photo taken with Hugh Grant.(think Devine Brown)
Good luck hun, be honest when it seems important enough to tell him /hug | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:26:27 PM |
To me it seems pretty hedonistic if you wouldn't be able to work around someone's challenges. That is why not everyone is compatible.
Not so much hedonistic, but childish and selfish. Sure I would miss it greatly, but for the one I loved I would get over it. | |
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Joined: 9/21/2008
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 3:06:25 PM | Some men, believe it or not, get little out of a blowjob.
Its depends on the guy.
Women/men tend to very in what they do in bed.
I have changed my habits if I am really into a guy.
I have heard that not all woman like a guy to go down on them.
Preference.
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:07:06 PM | at this point in my life.....I am not willing to "settle"....
I like oral sex....giving and recieving...and I won't commit myself to a man that doesn't enjoy both.
It is a personal preference.
If I was already in a long term relationship...and a medical reason prevented him from being able ....then that is a completely different issue. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:18:30 PM | | As for me I cant be with a woman that does not give a b/j. I mean she doesn't have to be the best, but she has to like it at least, it's a must in my relationships. I give so i expect to receive the favor. It's only fair in my eyes and ITS A TURN ON :) | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:42:20 PM | | Let me also say how sorry I am that you suffered the abuse that you did, I think any person that would force themselves on another should be taken out in the woods on a hunting trip camp out cook out, then right befor packing up and comming home, shoot them in the head and leave them out their. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 6:06:28 PM |
Sorry, but if fellatio is repulsive to a woman for whatever reason, it's not 'selfish' to not want to do it. It's actually MORE selfish of the man to expect it based on his own whims.
What if he didn't enjoy giving cunnilingus? Does the woman have the right to demand it just because it makes HER feel good? .. this completely disregards mutual comfort, and turns oral into a point of contention instead of a supposedly loving act.
We're not talking about "demands" or "pressure". However, if one knows that his/her partner really enjoys some sexual act, that it is within his/her ability to give, it would be selfish to "never" do so asa gift of love.
If a partner of mine ever EVER put the slightest pressure on me to perform oral sex on him (especially if I was put off by it, which by the way I happen to be), I'd tell him to make sure the door didn't hit him on the way out!
It's hard to be sure that one is "reading" someone properly online, however the attitude, as it comes across to me, would indicate that you are exactly what I mean by someone whose only concern is what she likes, and her partner can "deal with it". It is exactly women with that attitude that discover, some years later, that her husband has taken a lover, or visits prostitutes.
In any case, I have empathy for the OP, and would understand. Someone, who just "doesn't feel like it", would not be my match, so I would be out that door you referred to. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 10/7/2008 6:42:25 PM | | Any decent, caring partner should be able to go without. My last partner was also abuse as a child to the point she couldn't enjoy me making oral love to HER. I find mutual masturbation is just as good as a blow job. So if a guy tries to force his willy where it's not wanted give him the flick, you deserve better & it's reflective how he will treat you in other parts of your relationship. | |
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