| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 1/23/2009 7:09:54 PM | | Part of the pleasure is seeing your partner enjoy it. If you aren't having fun, then I would be either. There is lots of other things that partners can do for fun. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/22/2009 7:10:46 PM | | you know its funny... a lot of women complain about giving blow jobs... idk why but i love to give blowjobs... i find it fun and exciting... i enjoy the feeling i get when giving one to a man... i also enjoy the excitment of being able to swallow cum at the end... I could give a blowjob everyday... :) | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/22/2009 8:18:21 PM | | I won't let guys go down on me. I absolutely hate it due to something that happened to me in the past. It's a deal breaker to a lot of guys. But I don't care. Stay away from that area with your mouth! You'll find one who doesn't care about that and who won't tell you to get over it. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/26/2009 12:51:16 PM | I have been married to my wife for 38 years...we dated for almost 3 years before we got married. In all this time she has never once put me IN her mouth or even licked me. She has kissed it a couple of times, before intercourse, but never after.
I have always given her as much oral pleasure as she could stand, but never once expected her to reciprocate. That is a gift that can only be offered by someone willing and inclined to enjoy giving...and I have always respected others limits.
So in answer to your question blowjobs are NOT mandatory, but always welcome, and appreciated as the gift they are.
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/26/2009 1:02:24 PM |
I have been married to my wife for 38 years...we dated for almost 3 years before we got married. In all this time she has never once put me IN her mouth or even licked me. She has kissed it a couple of times, before intercourse, but never after.
I have always given her as much oral pleasure as she could stand, but never once expected her to reciprocate. That is a gift that can only be offered by someone willing and inclined to enjoy giving...and I have always respected others limits.
So in answer to your question blowjobs are NOT mandatory, but always welcome, and appreciated as the gift they are.
Ben
I notice you were careful not to say you haven't had a BJ in the 38 years you've been married. Just that your wife hasn't given you one. I wonder if you would be on the site seeking intimate encounters with other women, if she had been more forthcoming with the reciprocation.  | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/26/2009 3:30:10 PM | Apologies to the OP for sounding flippant, this is a little off the beaten track for this thread, but I saw this ... and I thought I could never let THIS girl down if she offered:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgaIdEi0lew&eurl=http://www.facebook.com/home.php&feature=player_embedded
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/27/2009 3:56:02 AM | well personally i dont really like em ...i love giving ....it shouldnt be all that important so yea as a man I can deal with not gettin Bjs
paul
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/30/2009 2:01:03 PM | | I would imagine it would depend on the guy and if he is the one then it wont matter and i am sorry for your situation. I know however that i could not handle not being able to give one lol | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 5/2/2009 7:01:01 PM | | Sure men can deal with not getting blowjobs! Just like some woman can deal with not getting an orgasm!! But WHY THE HECK would you not want one?? LOL | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 5/2/2009 7:08:08 PM |
I would imagine it would depend on the guy and if he is the one then it wont matter and i am sorry for your situation. I know however that i could not handle not being able to give one.
ding ding ding, right answer. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 5/2/2009 7:15:27 PM | | if a guy likes receiving bj's its a deal breaker, i like going down on a irl, if she doesnt want me there ill not be there for very long..in the relationship. If i dont get a bj from you ill get it somewhere else! | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 5/4/2009 6:32:24 PM | Deal with not getting them..? Geezes, do I really give a f*ck if they can or can't?
Do half of those men have an economy to get botox to the lady when she gets wrinkles around her mouth? Are they willing to pay that... | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 5/4/2009 6:36:49 PM | As A Man I can deal with not getting a blowjob, I like what the woman likes if she likes giving blowjobs its cool with me, if she don't like to give blowjobs that is cool with me all so.  | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/10/2009 8:45:32 AM | If a man can't deal without blowjobs, and it's a deal breaker, then he's probably an ass... hahaha.. I don't either.. I have arthritis in my jaw, it's called TMJ. I physically shouldn't and don't. I have always been asked or begged to, but I know that if I do, my jaw could lock up. haha.. ya it sucks. I did once, and my jaw was sooo sore for about a month. ya.
But anyway. Dudes need to chill... it's not the end of the world. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/10/2009 10:35:51 AM | | I think these are the types of things that probably be sorted out durning the getting to know each other phase prior to the actual relationship. The problem is that many choose to speed through this phase without really finding out what may be an issue for the relationship. Now the young lady above has a medical condition that prevents her from doing certain things. But we are talking about an issue that's stems from some form of molestation as a child. Now me being the man in her situation I would really have to take a look at the entire situation before I go forward. Ok she can't give me head. We can probably get past that. But my concerns would be has she received some type of therapy to deal with her trauma. What other issues have surfaced due to what happend to her.(and you better believe that there are more issues than just her inability to give head). Maybe I am not ready to take on those issues in my relationship. Or maybe I just can't see myself in anything long term with out regular BJs! I don't think I need to get over anything! | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/10/2009 11:59:31 AM | You don't need to forgive the abuser. You need to spend time getting over it, since there are still issues, and learn to feel comfortable with sex in general. With a new partner you should always explain what happened, people will understand. Take things slowly, there's so many pleasures to enjoy, give it a try with someone patient. It's wonderful giving someone else pleasure. And if you, after being gentle and trying it in a stable relationship, then I'm hopefully partner will understand.
There is, as it's already been said, lots of different things someone can do. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/10/2009 5:46:17 PM | | Your situation is all too common, no sweat it, he will go get one and not bother you, problem solved. Why should he suffer for your trauma? | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:45:07 PM | There are men on this site who have told me that if they don't at least have the option of a blow job that they won't date a girl at all. I think that all stems from the need to control another person, not necessarily the enjoyment of the activity. One person told me that he didn't have to have a BJ, but he wanted to be the one to exercise that option if he felt like it. He just didn't want someone to declare that it could never happen.
I don't see what the big deal would be if a woman didn't want to swallow but was certainly willing to do everything up to that, as long as the end result was the same. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/10/2009 9:13:23 PM | | Your situation is unfortunate, I think that most men would be understanding of this, but if you were really good at everything else then it would make it a lot easier and most guys probably wouldn't even notice. My gf not very good at it, so rarely happens, unfortunalty shes not very good at anything else either, so I really notice and puts strain on our relationship. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/11/2009 6:36:42 AM | | As a man who likes bj and who is now in a realtionship where she dosnt do it , its hard I please her but she dosnt want to please me makes me feel like she dosnt want to please me. And its hard for me cause I love getting a bj just as much as I like giving Oral to her but I never get it from her so guess what If I dont get what I want at home Im going elesewhere to get it. | |
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| Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/11/2009 6:49:08 AM | Why do people even ask questions about preferences anymore?
Everyone likes different things - and some things that are a deal breaker to some are not to others.
Everyone should just be honest with each other and what they're looking for.
This is really not rocket science. | |
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