| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/1/2008 11:11:24 AM | Ok, three weeks is definitly a mile marker.
One 4 week relationship was him calling me and texting me in the middle of the night telling me that I was the only reason he wasn't going to kill himself. (no pressure) He told me that if I left him he would either kill himself or turn Gay. I ended it and moved on to a re-bound that lasted 8 mo. (He got married last week) But in ending it, it was followed by months of death threats on me and my father (He thought Dad had something to do with us breaking up) I had to go to the cops and get a restraining order...it's never a good thing when the cheif of police says "Oh, him? Yeah, I aressted him about 5 months ago" (Yeah, I'm a smart one)
I met a guy on here that was just WAY too pushy and we did the whole, walking through the mall with me climbing the wall trying to get some space. Not going to work for me.
The last guy was 3 DAYS into the relationship and was ready to marry me. But I told him I wanted to take it really slow 'cause I had just gotten out of a really serious realtionship and I didn't want to rebound to him. He just got so bad about me not giving him "enough Love" so I quit. | |
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kay_el
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Joined: 12/19/2007
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/1/2008 11:20:43 AM | | the 3 weeks is interesting, I Think every one has there own "time frame" for me after my separation/divorce from a long term common law partner all my "rebounds" lasted 6 weeks to the day. that went on for about 2 years then after having another LTR that lasted over a year, I found the curse was broken and all my proceeding "relationships" have lasted less then a week or over 6 months. For me I think it was rut I was in, cause they all ended for different reasons, mainly I still wasn't ready. Now that I am ready for a relationship and know what I want I either get it or move on faster, and am less inclined to waste 6 weeks | |
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/1/2008 6:08:45 PM | I recall only one woman that I jumped ship on after a short while. It was a long time ago and I must have learned from her because all other women after her lasted a fair bit longer.
Her idea of a good time was for me to come over with a case of beer and watch soap operas. I also got an uneasy feeling when she got angry at an ex boyfriend that had some photos developed and sent to her place. I take it he had no fixed address other than the jail he was spending time in. Just a number of little things that set off a red light in the back of my head. | |
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:14:22 AM | For me, while someone may have been perfectly nice, there was no spark...when I started this online dating thing, after my fiancee died, I tried to follow the "conventional wisdom" that people can be nervous, give them time - so if it wasn't a definite "NO" on the first meet, I would go on seeing people...
I have learned that for me that does not work - it's either there, or it's not. I won't be making that mistake again! | |
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:31:51 AM | | I usually know right away, and so far I've been right. The relationships I have chosen to pursue have lasted anywhere from 10 months (she was cheating, though) up through 14 years. | |
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:34:55 AM | | It is all about getting to know each other. This takes time. If you don't walk through it you will not know. It may not be anything you can put your finger on. You just do not click. Or what you thought you like you figured out you do not. You thought you were ready and you are not. The REAL reasons are not necessarily that important. We all like different things. Why hurt anyones feelings, avoid a confromtation, stop clingly people. We may want to know, the other party may not want to disclose. At times we just need to move on and not worry about it. This is the internet and we are talking about imperfect people. | |
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/2/2008 1:17:15 PM | Yeah 3 to 4 weeks is my mark. I never dated anyone seriously though, never had a serious relationship. My problem is women fall for me hard and get all stupid or get scared. Seriously I don't understand why they get scared when they are the ones trying to call me if they don't hear from me for even a day.
I have to say there's a lot of screwed up people on the internet. I have been on the internet since 1997. Not one I have met that was not screwed up. I had some very hot catholic woman liked me a lot and she even asked me to meet her yet she wouldn't give her phone number. Then she decided to play a game and pretend to give her number to a friend. I was pissed off obviously. I got her back though since I knew she is religious I claimed I worship the devil and I didn't hear from her again. | |
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| Have you ever dumped someone after three weeks? Why?
Posted: 10/2/2008 3:36:18 PM |
I have been on the internet since 1997. Not one I have met that was not screwed up.
And you keep coming back for more. Some people are slow learners.
I got her back though since I knew she is religious I claimed I worship the devil and I didn't hear from her again.
Getting back at people is one of those things that well balanced people do not do. Screwed up people on the other hand… | |
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