Why do people always make it so complicated. Women do indeed have the"power" in the sense that it is basically up to them to say yes or no. After all, if the woman does say no and it happend anyway, isn't that what we call rape? There seems to be such confusion about it all, and I'm not sure why, except perhaps people are insecure because they have been hurt in the past.
It's seems to me that most people on here are really looking for someone to love and be loved in return. And sure it can be scary. Girls say if I sleep with him too soon he will think I'm just a slut, and If I wait too long I'm just a tease. The problem is that people are treating sex as either a reward for certain behab\vior or a jolly good sport to be had with anyone whe meets certain minimal standards of clenliness, polite behavior and general attractiveness. Gosh, it you, think of it that way, no wonder you are confused and often frustrated,
Perhaps it's just my conceit, but I think sex is something special, a special clossness and pleasure you reserve for someone who is really very special and central in your life. Some guys aeem to treat it like, "gee, I'm really horny and my balls are filled to oveerflowing, I kinda like you so is it OK if I use your "cnt for a few minutes to get myself off.
But for many of us, most I hope, it's a lot more than that. With someone you love it's an ongoing need for closeness and love and comfort. It's I need to be especialy close to you. The only way I can be as close and connected as I need to be is with you naked in my arms, wrapped around me with me deep inside you, drawing out all the aches and pain, and essential lonliness of life in that incredivle burst of pleasure that says we are safe and loved, and one again at least untill the next time.
The start is scary and a bit risky of course. No way to know the final outcome, but nothing ventured ...Still, the game is well worth the risk.
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