| Best way to approach her?
Posted: 10/2/2008 5:29:05 AM |
You have to do it in a joking way! Confidence is sexy. The direct approach is risky and the outcome worse.
This only means she will have to ask "are you serious" before answering and then you have to be direct anyway. Beside, wanting the option of say it is a joke if she say no is not confidence. | |
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| Best way to approach her?
Posted: 10/2/2008 6:02:19 AM | Maybe but its difficult in christian circles, who else sees the age group as a problem?
There are 10 years between my parents and they have been together for many years now.
There's more to it than the actual difference in years. It also depends on what those ages actually are. I mean, there's a 10 year age difference between an 18 year old and an 8 year old, too, but that doesn't mean a relationship between the two is OK. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 3:59:26 PM | ~Scoundrel~....
I didn't say I cared who you dated..sheesh I don't even know you.
But thanks for making it clear for me.
You are basically just having sex with an 18 year old girl. That takes care of any long intelligent converstations etc, eh?
BTW: How does your 16 year old son feel about Daddy messin' with a girl 2 years older than him??
Whatever... 
~~weeone~~ | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 5:02:31 PM | | For the people freaking out about the (gasp!) 8 year age difference, consider this: if a 19-year-old can legally date only one year younger, how much older do you think is appropriate to go? Three years? Four? Should a person's dating really be limited to a five year age range? And at what age do you think it's okay to date someone 8 years younger/older? | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 5:13:24 PM | alooooohaha...
I was not referring to the OP's post. Thats not a huge age difference. I, myself, was married to a 9 years younger ex ( I left him cause he started acting way too "old" )
I was replying to ~scoundrel~ who is 46 years old with a 16 year old son, who is "dating" an 18 year old college girl.
Hope that clears thing up for you.
~~weeone~~ | |
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| Best way to approach her?
Posted: 10/2/2008 5:33:54 PM | It seems like everyone is focusing on the age gap for various reasons. Most reasons either seem to be because that's taboo or because you won't have much in common. First of all, I don't think you should not follow up on this because society might think it's taboo. In general society and culture tells us a lot of things but frankly, who gives a shit. Often those guidelines are dated, or apply only to the majority. Why should you play by their rules, play by your own. Besides you might fall outside the bell curve.
As for not having too much in common. That's why you are thinking of asking her out on a date, right? He needs to get to know her better and see if the chemistry is there. So all that talk about not having anything in common is stupid. There is no reason you shouldn't get to know her better and find out more.
As for actual advice, I don't really have any. I am not a very successful dater (and I general am interested in women older than me). I just wanted to respond to all of the criticism you seem to have received. Although, I think the eHarmony has a christian dating service. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2008 5:58:58 PM | | I do not care if it is taboo and it is possible to have conversation and thing in common with some one older. I would still worry of his intention more than some one my own age. Is often I get email here or asked out by older guys and they rarely apear like they are interest in more than hooking up with younger girl. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2008 6:13:06 AM |
I would still worry of his intention more than some one my own age. Is often I get email here or asked out by older guys and they rarely apear like they are interest in more than hooking up with younger girl.
Logically that makes little sense as it is well known that the younger guys tend to be even more hormone driven than the older ones. Perhaps the older guys are being more honest in their intentions? Perhaps the younger guys are making more empty promises that the younger women are more prone to fall for?
As with any couple it will depend on what common interests and compatibilities they find between them. As we are all made up of many combinations of things learned and experienced, a wide range in ages is only one of many things available. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2008 9:46:13 AM | I am not speak only of hormone or wanting sex. It seem like girl my age are seen as prize for many older. Perhap I am seen as being easy manipulate. Many guys were shy in their 18-24 year and want to relive that age. Beside those who only want sex there are many more thing I do not wish to be apart of.
It is possible there can be true interest in her but it do not seem common to me. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2008 1:42:17 PM | I am not speak only of hormone or wanting sex. It seem like girl my age are seen as prize for many older. Perhap I am seen as being easy manipulate. Many guys were shy in their 18-24 year and want to relive that age. Beside those who only want sex there are many more thing I do not wish to be apart of.
It is possible there can be true interest in her but it do not seem common to me.
Well i cant say i see younger women as a "prize" as you put it
Equally many younger women prefer older guys simply because they are more mature.
Anyway we both have alot in common so that is what really counts, and as many have put it age does not have much bearing if you share many intrests and values.
Somewhat of a tangent to the topic of my thread but thanks everyone for your input. | |
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| Best way to approach her?
Posted: 10/5/2008 12:33:54 AM | | She's young enough to be your daughter dude. She has serious self-esteem deficits if she's putting out for a gross old shit like you. | |
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