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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/18/2005 10:30:45 AM | The fact of the matter is, some soulmates aren't always meant to be there. They don't just come as lovers, either. Some can be siblings or friends that feel like your twin! The fact is that sometimes they come into your life for one reason or another and once that goal has been met, you both go your way. It doesn't mean that you won't have another. AS a matter of FACT, they may be preparing you for the next... So don't fret once you've lost one, wondering what went wrong or why... cherish what you had when you have it and be sure that if it's meant for you... you will find someone that will fit you in a whole new way.  | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/18/2005 7:15:52 PM | | In the past 20 years I have lost a boyfriend and a husband to death. I have loved again but we're not together right now, perhaps we will be later,or maybe not, its not for me to decide now. We have to live our lives as best we can and search for love because it is something we all need. I believe if we want love again we will find it. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/19/2005 12:24:48 PM | Yes absolutely!!
The soul transcends time and space.
So while one passes away from the body, you may find another with that same life of spirit.
The same applies to you. I'm sure that there are a number of you on this planet at the same time.. running through life never aware of the other.
Hope this helps.
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/19/2005 5:53:41 PM | I agree! We can have more than one soulmate, and some soulmates pass through our lives for a purpose.
Souls do transcent time and space...sometimes I think that meeting a soulmate prepares us for meeting another, as the universe is opening up to us and vice-versa.
In order to find love with a soulmate, if that if what one wants, one must be open to the universal energy of Love. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/19/2005 6:17:26 PM | Don't Fret and live in peace.....
You feel pain, I know pain well......
You may or may not find a new person to
drive you insane.....
The short answer is there is no answer.
We are, each of us a soulmate.
Understand? Each of us are unique in qualities.
Each of us have a personality.
One can find similarities and qualities desired,
but try never to confuse yourself...........
Sky Captain
Man seeking soulmate since mine left | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/19/2005 6:30:07 PM | hello, my name is stevie and i too also have a opinion on this matter but know this my friend thats all mine is and everyone elses also there just opinions because who really knows besides god and he aint tellingbut before i give my opinion i want everyone to know that i have read some of your opinions and all of them are excellent and honest to goddness opinions but almost all although worded differnently they all almost say the same thing and the reason i say that is because i have a complete opposite opinion and i just want everyone to atleast think about it a minute before blasting me then if you still feel the need then fire away because believe me when i say i have survived more than can be done to me here ok here goes my friend i truely think with all my heart that you actually did have your soul mate and my condolences on your loss may god be with yoiu always and this is why i say this to answer your question first no i dont think you can find another god only intended for us to have one thats why you two were together when sh4e passed now she is in heaven waiting for you now if you could find another what would happen when you got to heaven which one would you choose who would it be but lets not forget heaven will be perfect with no problems so god will not put you in that predickament surely not saying you cant find someone to be happy with because you can but you will never find that total happiness again until you pass i believe this with all my heart i too lost my wife in a car accident who trust me when i say we were put on this earth to be together not gonna get all into it but trust me she has been gone 6 years now and every year even though i have moved forward with my life every year on sept 9 im totally lost figure that the one3 day that was suppose to be good luck 9-9-99 it only happens once that date that is well wasnt a real good day for me you said you had to do cpr god i feel your pain brother because i had to sit and watch my wife bleed to death she was cut half into at the waste by a gaurd rail that came through the car so i like i said i feel your pain but hang in there and for what its worth grab a hold of any little happiness you can find why still here on earth or should i say hell because although everybody and everyone is always willing to cheer you up and be that pillar it never fails you still always wind up right back at the memories of what you lost and it can be gut wrenching at times it can also be soothing at times just to know she is now safe and well and waiting for you to come home
god bless you brother and peace to your soul, may god always be your leader
and may you always have peace in your heart
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/21/2005 1:05:44 PM |  I'm very very sorry for your loss GOD gives us opsticals we have to get passed them.I don't know how we do it at that moment but we do and we can move on and I'm sure your wife would want you to be happy.She would not want you to be sad.You must mourn and know she will always be in your heart. You may not have your dreams or your plans but you must be strong for her and make a new life and new plans and always remember your never alone.My daughters father and I split up mutual thing.But he found his soulmate and after a few yrs She and 2 of her boys lives were taking in a house fire that had started while they sleep he woke to a whole new life.I cried forever for and still do at times She was his soulmate I envied them.He still wears his wedding ring but he gets through the days day by day our daughter has helped.So you to soon will be better I think you are a very BRAVE MAN. It would be an honor for anyone to know such a strong man as you I wish you luck and you will do great. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 9/21/2005 4:48:20 PM | Think of the definition of Soulmate
Two souls united as one who are mates
Your friends or relatives cannot be your soulmate because there is no mating relationship between you
The could be called soulfriends or some other thing
But a soulmate is an intrinsic part of you, just as you are part of them
Words are often totally unneccessary between you
Yet you know their thoughts and they know yours
You are each other
I had a Soulmate and lost her a couple of years ago
I honestly believe that I will not have a similar relationship in this lifetime
But I will have other very fulfilling relationships
The thing to remember is this
What would they have wanted you to do?
My step daughter snapped me out of it
She simply said, "Would mum have liked to see you like this?"
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/2/2005 4:27:37 PM | I do believe after losing your soulmate another can be found. No one can replace the first one. But there comes a time when another can come into your life.
I became friends with alone4now2005 just shortly after his wife passed away. We talked a lot and I felt his pain for the woman he lost. We became good friends. Then I had the honor to meet this man back in June for the first time. This man is the kindest, most loving and dearest man I have ever met. It was very easy to fall in love with him.
I concider myself very fortunate to have this man now in my life. I only hope he can love me half as much as he loved his wife. God rest her soul.
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/2/2005 9:04:29 PM | A cliche perhaps...but "If You Build it--They Will Come."
If your heart is truly open to another soulmate, they will come. Take care not to make it difficult for someone else to follow in your late wife's footsteps.
If you look at Pierce Brosnan, John Travolta and Paul McCartney, all three lost the great love of their lives. After time and healing they found another soul mate. Perhaps its the eternal optimist in me, but I feel that if you're really open to it, it will come.
I wish you well in your healing. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/3/2005 4:36:40 AM | I do believe after losing your soulmate another can be found. No one can replace the first one. But there comes a time when another can come into your life.
I Do Believe, too.
Yes, workingirl42 and I had been 'chat friends' for 5 months before we had the opportunity to meet face-to-face. And during those 5 mths we chatted about many things. Cathy was there for me when I was feeling down and depressed. She pulled me through it, she made me smile when I was sad and lonely. Her words were comforting and compassionate. She is the most understanding person I have ever met.
When we did meet, at Sir James' Bonfire, we clicked immediately. From the point on we have gotten closer and closer. I wasn't looking to fall in love, but it happened, and I'm glad it did.
But the Love I feel for Cathy, is different, very different. This is a feeling I have never had the pleasure of experiencing before.
I am the most fortunate man in the World. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/3/2005 5:19:48 AM | | I do not know about finding another soul mate. I lost a sould mate but not because they died. Somehow I kinda think that if they did die it would make it easier. At one point I lived in a different state and then moved back to the state where the soulmate lives. At first it was ok because he lived on the other side of a large city but as fate would have it he now lives just a couple of small towns over. Now I have this fear that I will run into him. I know that sounds weird but I do not know how I would react. I have requested that he does not come to certain towns that I do business in because I do not want to see him. However i wonder why all this fate has put him so close to me again. I guess my point being if a soulmate dies (I know it is very hard if it is a spouse) expecially if you admin. CPR and all. At least you did everything in your power and a higher being has control. I might suggest a greif support network. You may meet some good friends and some people that feel as you do. I attended something like that when I lived in Fl. and it helped me very much. Good Luck to you! | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/4/2005 12:41:45 AM |  I am so sorry for the pain you have all endured. My heart is breaking for you & tears are running down my face. I will probably wreck my spelling on this one-bear w/ me, please.
If there are soul mates & I believe in my heart that there are, they are in your heart eternally, not just for this life. Whichever life you have entered, you will know when the other is there.
Where ever you go, you'll go together. I believe in my heart of hearts that you cross paths a million times in a life w/ a million different possible chances to meet a new soul mate...twin flame...whichever, so much the same, that you will travel through this life & any others with, maybe in that position, maybe as a friend, but in the same circle, still connected..
My soul mate that I recognized in this life... I agreed to disagree & go our seperate ways a year ago. We are still connected, still yet, that if one of us is sick or hurting, the other one literally feels it. We are not meant to be together, but our love & respect are mutual as we travel forward through time & any distance. We know we are together as friends & who could ask for more?
We all learn something new from each path we take, each person we let in "our" world, isn't that partly what w soul mate is? Someone we learn from, that we give to while we are together? | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/20/2005 5:40:13 AM | WHEN TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME
If tomorrow starts without me,
and I'm not there to see,
if the sun should rise and find your eyes,
all filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn't cry,
the way you did that day,
while thinking of the many things,
we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
as much as I love you,
and each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me,
please try to understand,
that an angel came and called my name,
and took me by the hand.
She said my place was ready,
in Heaven far above,
and that I'd have to leave behind,
all those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
a tear fell from my eye,
for all my life I'd always thought,
I don't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
so much left yet to do,
it seemed almost impossible,
that I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
the good ones and the bad,
I thought of all that we shared,
and all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you,
and maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
that this could never be,
for emptiness and memories,
would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
my heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through Heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home,
when God looked down and smiled at me,
from His great golden throne.
He said, "This is eternity,
and all I've promised you.
Today your life on earth is past,
but here life starts anew.”
“I promise no tomorrow,
but today will always last,
and since each day’s the same way,
there's no longing for the past.”
“You have been so faithful,
so trusting and so true,
though there were times you did some things,
you knew you shouldn't do.”
“But you have been forgiven,
and now at last you're free,
so won't you come and take my hand,
and share My life with me?”
So when tomorrow starts without me,
don't think we're far apart,
for every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/20/2005 5:53:24 AM | Personnaly I don't so much believe in soul mates as desteny. Life for whatever reason gets a real big high off kicking us again and again...especially when we are down. Everything happens for a reason...not necessarly an explanation...you may never know or understand why and u were probally never meant to. However happiness...to me..is an illusion based upon your enviroment..presently your enviroment isn't all that great...when your environment "spiffs" up a bit..then desteny will step in...you will love again...not the same but again...have you ever loved two people the same? No i dare say not...Believe in yourself and love and it will find you.
I am so so sorry for your loss...these words I know will presently be lost on you however in time...it will get better..you will see the sunshine again I promise. Take care of yourself and your kids and know that your wife Carol is always with you watching over you and the kids...makeing sure all is well. She will help you in finding that thing we call happiness again. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/20/2005 9:51:57 AM | | I can only imagine what you have gone/are going through. I don't have any words for you, but if you're curious about the soulmate thing, I would (re)watch the movie Good Will Hunting, and learn the same lesson that Sean (Robbin Williams) did. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/20/2005 8:43:01 PM |
I do not know about finding another soul mate. I lost a sould mate but not because they died. Somehow I kinda think that if they did die it would make it easier.
Wow...this took my breath away to read...I know you were saying AT TIMES it seems harder to bare (bear? Sheesh... | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/21/2005 8:41:48 AM | | I share your pain. Yes you can find another soul mate but she can never be compared to your wife. You can love and be loved whole heartedly again, but it won't be the same and don't expect it to be. What you had with your wife is special and another person cannot take her place but she can be a new loving experience that you can come to making life plans with. Don't look for a fill in cause no one will ever measure up. Take care dear sir. Love will find you when you are ready. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/21/2005 8:49:11 AM | | Headrolla: We can't live our lives waiting for the end. I do believe in god but we are only humans. We do not know what the greater power has in store for us untill we are gone. We can only live in the present. Would god want us to live every day being sad and depressed, believing we can never move on or find happiness with another again. I don't think so. And unless you are god,I think you should be careful about the advice you are giving on these forums. | |
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| After Losing Your Soulmate, Can Another Be Found?
Posted: 10/28/2005 1:25:54 PM | There is no such thing as a soulmate. Get over your superstitious B.S.
There are lots and lots of people you could have great chemistry with.
How did I find a woman? I just told myself "I'm gonna take another shot at finding a girlfriend". Went out, spotted a woman out of a crowd, talked to her. That's it.
Random selection based on appearance.
Of course, once the chemistry fired up, those soulmate feelings are there.
But that's bull. Fact is, that I just picked her out of a crowd based on a nice face and figure.
She was the second or third one I hit on.
Why is it that you can pick a soulmate in a city of millions of people, in a couple of tries?
Or why is it that people in a small town or village are able to find a soulmate in that same area?
The answer is that there are tons of them! Your potential soulmates are actually a big chunk of the population. Particularly, they are found with alarming frequency among the good-looking, charming, confident sector of the population.
Soulmates occur when two people are interested in each other based on the mutual admiration of their respective good qualities. More than just seeing each other's qualities in a realistic way, they form idealized, fantasy images of each other.
People who believe in soulmate crap tend to fantasize and idealize more than normal people. That's why they are the ones who find soulmates, and want to replace soulmates they lost, etc.
The solution is easy: find someone half decent, and form an idealized, fantasized image of them. Like you did before. There is your soulmate, lo and behold. | |
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