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|Jan, maybe it is not you. Maybe the marriage has not worked for you because the guy is a fricken dork? Ya think? I do. I do not know you tha well, but, I know you well enough to know if it did not work the guy was a jerk. |
Just me sayin.
Posted: 10/16/2008 3:26:46 PM
|in my mind, monogamy, love and commitment are the key buzz words. they require friendship to hold it all together. however, friendship does not necessarily lead to the other aspects. time reveals all. often marriages fail, because the concept of friendship is replaced with being taken for granted. sadly, there are other unanticipated events like the addictions or hidden lies that finally seep through. |
i think it would be a good thing to find someone you could marry. it's not a necessity if all other things are in place. it often has to do with economics, pure and simple. i used to be able to imagine a strong spiritual component to marriage and a sense of warmth and security. neither of my two. ten year apiece, marriages ended with economic problems for either of us, in the sense that one of us got the shaft. in both marriages, financial contribution was pretty much 50-50 and the take was divided 50-50, with no arugment and limited legal expense. but the sadness and futility can weigh a person down. especially when you try to find the next mate and you see things SO differently with years of practice at being who you are. also, there are those who just want to go out and get wild.
for me, it would be nice, to get wild with my last and most important love. i suppose, i've learned quite a bit. right now, i continue to yearn for peace and joy and often i'm my own worst enemy in finding that. i just try to let it all go and let my higher power make it happen. i do have this romantic notion that "he" will find me and be willing to take the time to "know" me.
i see the younger generation in their late teens and early 20's thinking about marriage. often they are practical and getting their lives together first, but they talk about marriage and just don't take it lightly. at least, with my crew.
Posted: 10/16/2008 7:58:10 PM
|Who is "they"; a woman? Pleassssse...|
I would agree that marriage is not what every person wants or needs but to state "they think they have you locked down"... maybe your relationship should of had more communications with the hot sex....
Posted: 10/16/2008 8:03:18 PM
|Marriage is the foundation of man caves, seperate vacations, Honey-do lists and counseling just to name the positive aspects.|
Posted: 10/18/2008 8:56:23 PM
|Back in the stone age, I think it was 1975, a good friend of the family, he was living in our garage, told us he was going to marry his High School sweetheart. |
My Father said,"For thousands of years we have working up to the point where people don't have to get married. It is socially acceptable for people to live together with out the bonds of marrage. And you want to do it?"
My parents were divorced the following year.
My spell check goes missing at the worst times too Libby.
I, for one, will not judge you on your misspellings.
Does that contsitute a personal message that will banish me from the pond for a couple of months? Hell, I am hardly here anymore, for that reason, anyway.
Play nice kids!
I have the honor to remain,
The nicest shark in the pond,
(I am a legend in my own mind)
Posted: 10/18/2008 11:45:17 PM
|Marriage is where my frame of mind would be......if.....after I and He had proven great 'everyday' partners and friends... while living separately, yet finding time for one another regularly and often, with on going willingness. ....Because we found that together, we more enjoyed a sunny day, an antique shop, a Bar B Q, a great cup of coffee over a camp fire, a good movie, back roads to nowhere, flea markets, laughing and silliness, conversation and debate....If the 'everyday' parts of living seem over and over proven to feel 'more right and do-able' and most enjoyed in the company of one another mutually trusting, respecting our individual lives as well as the "Us" we'd become. |
When growing steadily in all the comforts of one another... resting doubts one at a time........then Marriage, where in good 'learning' time.... THIS heart would want the "US" we were becoming to eventually honor and tie the bond. The partnership/friendship......Making commitments to one another and binding them in Marriage. Telling the world......We are now 'one'!!!
I'd want that to always be understood with anyone I might be feeling 'more serious' about....long before his disagreeing with such could hurt or break a heart.
Failures........ It can happen to the best of 'partners' in all respects....Love or Business.....there are no guarantees for sure......But, I'd like to think at this age in life....We "Get It" we've learned and can still "Have it".....in ways we didn't in the past. Benefit in the mistakes, feeling fortunate to have yet another chance.....making past mistakes in the efforts.... perhaps not in vain after all.
Posted: 10/19/2008 2:13:25 PM
| Ah, MARRIAGE!!! A life LONG Fantacy, the Longer you survive without it, the better off your life is and The Sooner you get that Noose around your falic, the sooner you will wish that you had never been born... |
Women only need men to build them a home, after that the man can die, because after they have a home any man will do...
Posted: 10/22/2008 7:12:37 PM
|Marriage: institution by which a stranger known as a judge or commissioner says, "Mr. XXXXX, all your $ is now Mrs. XXXXX and there's not a damn ting you can do about it"|
Sure works good for lawyers, doesn't it?
Posted: 10/22/2008 9:40:15 PM
|Can you say prenuptual? By the way, many, many, many more fems. I have talked to lately have said they were MORE srewed by marriage than guys.|
Did you steal my fricken spell check Libby?