IHuman
| | Joined: 10/20/2008
Msg: 76 | |
| | Met this guy on POF - Tell me if I'm right....Page 4 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | | I say good on you. You gave this fool every chance, and he actually has the nerve to make you wait 20 minutes while he talks on his cell phone? If I were in your situation I wouldn't have waited that long. I've been there before. I actually left a woman sitting in Applebee's because she kept answering her cellphone and would have conversations that lasted for 10 minutes or more. I gave her 3 strikes. One in the car on the way to Applebee's, and two in the restuarant while we were trying to talk. I consider myself a pretty easy going and laidback person, but I despise people who use their cellphone as a reason to be rude. As crazy as it sounds, I think cellphones are one of the reasons that dating is so hard nowadays. You have so many people who are addicted to talking on them, that it's almost impossible to approach or have a conversation with someone you're attracted to because they have their cellphone constantly jammed in their ear. And if you bother to listen or just overhear what they're talking about, most conversations that people have on their cellphones are of no significant importance whatsoever. Most of the time people talk on cellphones, they're just bored and need something to do. It's stupid if you really think about it. A piece of technology that was created for convenience is pretty much ruining the social dynamic between people. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 6:44:18 PM | no frickin imagination and i am a single dad with a 3 yr old and i would never bring her on 1st 2nd maybe 3rd if things were going well and she wasent a flake but why subject her to something as hit and miss as dating,wow and as far as him being lame, girl you need to raise the frickin bar .you are makin this guy[me]look like a saint ha ha ,not quite,seriously keep fishing sweety cus there are lotsa fish in the sea!!!!!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 11/2/2008 7:09:31 PM | I would not have let it gone even into the first date. Why in the worldid he bring his child with him? He must be clueless.....I give YOU alot of credit....you are a better woman than I am.
Lori | |
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redmct
| | Joined: 10/18/2008
Msg: 80 | |
| Met this guy on POF - Tell me if I'm right....
Posted: 11/3/2008 6:27:49 PM | "I could not get past the fact you met a guy for a first meeting and he brought his child, and second the first two meetings took place at McDonalds and a Taco Bell parking lot. Then factor in he is always late, has no money, and was on his cell phone while you were waiting. I think him being rude talking on is cell should be the least of your concerns... "
That's what I thought, too. Big red flags all over that one... | |
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Posted: 11/4/2008 7:12:49 PM | NO NO NO NO NO, you're not wrong.
He has little to no sense of appropriate social behaviour OR he's just careless; either way, this guy is too immature for a partner.
He needs to get organized in himself first. I see he probably means well, but the guy doesn't understand how to treat others. He sounds very naïve about life and relationships. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 4:07:38 AM | | Unless the conversations are life altering or mind blowing this guy is the king of low life men. If you continue to talk to him, I'll give him less than a month before he asks to borrow money. It'll be a small amount 20 bucks or so but it will go up from there. Trust me, I've been there. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 3:41:48 PM | | i think you did right.honestly i think you my have gave him to many chances.I mean come on ,he just had meet you.late,late,late,no money,cell phone.That just goes to show you that maybe he run's his life like the pattern he showed you? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2008 4:54:55 PM | Man oh man oh man!
You are very right, and these are the sort of guys who ruin it for good guys like me. Guys and gals get tired of people like this real quick. Another thought is that he may be married? He was late everytime--brought his two-year old on the first meeting--already eaten--meeting at cheap places. All the grief about hitting the ATM also makes me wonder. Sounds like he didn't want to leave a paper trail that his wife or girlfriend could see by looking at a statement. Either way this man is a scumbag in the worst degree. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2008 12:39:14 PM | You say he works 2 jobs. The guy needs to sleep as well. To boot he has a son to take care of.
Sounds like he is a very busy boy but wants a girlfriend.
I am lost as to where he will find the time to spend much time with you at all but he is trying.
It sounds like he read your body language about his son and didnt bring him again due to that. Some guys want you to meet the kids to show they are a good Dad and therefore a good guy.
When a baby sitter is late, he will be late, can't be helped. He should ring you every time not just the first but driving and talking on the phone is illegal (here in OZ anyway, I assume the same is the case in America). Having no money is not always meaning he has no money, just that a stop at an atm will make him later than he already is. City traffic can be tough.
The 20 minute phone call is a big red flag, but being a police officer means he has important things to attend to. He may still be having issues with the mother as well.
You agreed to meet for the third time after 2 red flags , so you must like him or see potential in him at least.
Call him, be open about your dissapointments. Let him know where he stuffed up and ask him to be up front and honest with you.
Not everything is black and white and life can throw a lot of hurdles at people.
Just another take on what could be going on. | |
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massmn
| | Joined: 12/2/2007
Msg: 89 | |
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Posted: 11/7/2008 6:41:19 AM | 3 THINGS THAT SHOULD BE RED FLAGGED- 1 MEETING AT FAST FOOD PLACE
2BRINGING KID
3 CELL PHONES
FAST FOOD PLACE SHOWS MODERATE INTEREST AND CHEAP.
BRINGING YOUR KID IS JUST REASON TO LEAVE OR AT LEAST SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT.
AND CELL PHONES WHICH ARE ON IS TOTALLY "STUPID". 
THESE ARE THINGS TO AVOID IN THE FUTURE. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2008 2:00:58 AM | Fast food place shows living on a budget and an easy place to find or is known already by both parties.
Bringing your kids shows high interest and hope of understanding, could not get a sitter but needed to meet someone who seems lovely.
Cell phone owned by a police officer NEEDS to be on.
Life is not black and white.
If you look for a negative you will find it. If you look for a positive you will find it. What are you looking for? A reason to fail? Or a chance to find happiness?
Im only playing the positive fairy here because everyone here has looked at the negative side. Who bothered to ponder the good intentions that MAY be here from a busy man trying to get ahead doing 2 jobs and still have a life.
There are hundreds of reasons that life that could affect these situations.
Loser? All depends what you are looking for, money or a good man?. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2008 2:12:34 AM | i a gonna ignore what all the guys said.
Did you ask if he had kids?
Do you?
on time funny
How come it took so many times?
is this baseball?
its dating till u see it on ESPN its not a sport!
leave out the strikes. Either you want him or not!
Why is this site always anti guys? | |
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Posted: 11/22/2008 1:08:51 AM | The guy mets you in McDonalds with a 2 year old in tow. You spend 30 mins chatting. Date #2 Taco Bell, kid in tow again. Date 3# no money, already ate, has 20 min chat on phone while driving.
First clue should have been the kid on a meet and greet. The guy is married and used taking the kid out to McDonalds and Taco Bell as an excuse to leave the house.
That long chat he had on the phone...his wife.
No single guy dating brings a toddler along. He would know when he had visitation and he wouldn't be meeting you in fast food places. And he sure as hell wouldn't be talking to his buddies while on a date.
Wow...you really missed those red flags. But you can certainly put a stop watch on him to see how tardy he is...go figure. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2008 1:30:52 AM | | Oh dear!!! first of all Mcdonalds!!!!! please that is so NOT a place to meet for a first date, anyone who suggests that as a meeting place has no class or style (run fo the hills) and the two year old son on a first date!!! (srun for the hills) I would've thought meeting at McDonalds would've given you clue to a pattern.. | |
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Posted: 12/14/2008 6:05:32 PM | I am with you Kenni65....Mcdonalds on the first date should have been the first clue and Taco Bell the second clue!
A date doesn't have to be expensive but that is ridiculous. He was really trying to make a good impression with you!!!Not!!!
Move on!! | |
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Posted: 12/14/2008 7:53:03 PM | You are so NOT wrong!
Keep fishing as he should know better! I can't comment on him not having a babysitter/no money because if that's okay with you than fine. But as far as his disbelief of you leaving? Here's my thought: Everyone has been raised differently and has had different experiences, so this is what makes us unique. However, after a certain age there are things that we have to be held accountable for. If he didn't know that talking on his cell phone for 20 minutes was rude, then shame on him!He needs to "go ask somebody". That crap was wack!
If that is a trait that you don't like, then move on! It's really okay.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 12/14/2008 8:07:49 PM | 
Fishing here is a gamble, we do not know how the first face to face meeting will be. Everyone hopes for the best, our expectations are .... . When our expectations are not met, we wonder what did I do?
POF is a lage pool with many choices, continue to fish. The right fish will come making other meetings a faint memory. Stand strong for your expectations, the right fish is out there.
Best Wishes | |
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Posted: 12/16/2008 9:00:41 PM | Anyone that brings their child on a first date, might as well be carrying a HUGE red flag with a I'm a bad parent sign stuck to their head.
Forget everything else. First, Second, Third date. Kids shouldn't be involved until you have a firm mutual understanding of some sort of commitment.
Just Block Delete and Move On... | |
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Posted: 12/17/2008 5:43:42 PM | LMAO... This will be one you can remember for the record books. Just for the fact of him being late all three times shows that he doesn't value your time as much as his. It's generally a rule not to bring your child on a first date... certainly had that been a woman to do that without first discussing it with the guy he would have been off faster than a prom dress.
Yes, maybe he did eat before meeting up with you and he did not want to see a movie, possibly he did not rightfull owe you a meal... Maybe it should have been outlined excatly what you two were expecting from the evening before meeting. What can not be excused is the long cell phone conversation he continued without any regards to you until you decided to leave.
So yes you were correct to leave unless you'd prefer to continue receive the same kind of treatment. Unfortunately if this is how it is in the beginning it doesn't get any better. Walk away while you have no feelings attached and have not yet done something you may regret later on. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2008 6:28:50 PM | Even if you were wrong (which you aren't) trust your gut. These things bother you and if he does this when first meeting you, it's not going to get any better when he gets to that comfortable stage.
Keep moving...nothing to see here. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2008 10:29:45 AM | | You didn't say one good thing about him.Not really , and the cell phone thing well, that's spacey and frustrating for me . Don't think that is the way you or i would treat someone we care about. I do not treat people that way. i guess it's preview of things to come with him. | |
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