TKO38
| | Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 201 | |
| | Met this guy on POF - Tell me if I'm right....Page 9 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | Honestly, I think you leaving was the best option. Im sorry it was such a crap few days.
Firstly, meeting with his kid, makes me wonder. My kids are way older, and still, a man Im meeting the first time will not be meeting my kids the first time. That is where you two should of been able to talk and get to know each other, not play at Mc D's. That was odd. And late, well, some people are constantly late. And, at least he called to say he was behind. (red flag)
The second time late, no call? That was kind of rude, but you know he has a young child, so possible to overlook his lateness that time. Sitting in the parking lot, weird. (red flag)
Meeting at the park is not a bad thing. Its public so thats alright.
Im glad you made sure to add that you didnt expect him to pay for the food. And like alot of people have mentioned, we all fall onhard times so who's to say why he was short on cash. I know kids cost alot of money, so no judgement on that. That being said, it is still kind of odd to ask someone out 3 times and have no cash any time. (red flag)
So, when you said he wanted to go by the river, it was closer to his house, did you actually go to his house?
The cell phone, thats a 'whole nother bag of worms'!! I HATE cells on dates. If you have kids obviously for emerg is understandable. However if it was that kind of situation, he would of said something and left, not sat and chatted. That is beyond freakin rude! (red flag) Another question would be, did you hear any of the conversation?
Too many 'red flags' to ignore. Im leaning to, if you didnt see inside his home to confirm, he might be married. And the cell conversation, if you didnt hear any of it, could of been another woman. Being late so much, like I said could just be who he is, but makes me wonder if he is with someone else before meeting with you.
I met a guy similar, so everything you said in your note just reminded me completely of 'him'.
I think you know the answers hun. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2012 11:48:24 PM | Oh h3!! no you are not wrong, I would never stayed if some man brought his son, I would of said bye I have things to do, good luck and left, I would of felt no guilt leaving.
If he calls again do answer and tell him you are not interested, bye and hang up. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2012 1:08:22 AM | | The guy got what he deserved I think. If I was, on a date the only way im answering the phone is if its the ex calling and it better be an emergency for one of my kids. Otherwise its just rude disrespectful. Being late to a date you set up not once but all three times. Dude needs to growup personally | |
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Posted: 3/29/2012 11:36:14 PM | seriously, its a mark of extremely poor manners for a man to talk on a cell phone when the woman he's with took time out of her busy day to spend what little time she had left with him.
this moron obviously didn't get it.
if you're going to go out on a date make sure you have some money, for food, drinks, entertainment. whatever
make damn sure you don't ignore the woman by talking on a cell phone unless it is a matter of LIFE OR DEATH
if you're going to be late 3 times, i would suggest leaving earlier... | |
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Posted: 3/30/2012 1:58:11 PM | Nope, guy is an ahole, you were in the clear. Although I think your going overboard on two things;
think it's enough that he was late 3 times (my time is important too)
So I got something to eat (paid for it myself) Strike 3
Okay, 20 minutes is a long time to be late by. But if were talking a few minutes every time, I really dont see a big deal, especially if it ever happens to you as well. I think were all allowed leeway, as long as it doesnt become a habit (which seems to be the case with this guy indeed, but point it, lateness should really be a "strike" per say)
And point #2...the Hell? What, were you EXPECTING him to pay you something? I dont start paying anything for ladies unless they are real nice or real deserving. Why do I always pay for them? Why don't I ever get paid something. Do you realise, in a 32 year existence, I have never had a woman, and I've had several indeed, spontaneiously offer to pay for ANYTHING? I think that's a remnant of that 's mentality of the man providing for everything, when in this day and age, women are more than capable to provide, if not even more so than men. This is a kind of mentality I really don't accept, and for me it's a strike, but the other way around.
Anyways, this is just meant as constructive criticism, not an OP bash. Might want to dwell on it, just to see  | |
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Posted: 5/21/2012 8:46:25 PM | | lol I haven't read any of the comments yet because I don't want my opinion skewed... i would say that your are WAAAAAY too punctual when it comes to meeting up and dating... if its a real restaraunt or movie then I could understand... but mcdonalds n taco bell... jus sit back turn on your radio text some people until they get there. i mean wow.... 10 20 minutes??? and you flip out lol... wow. I mean I do usually try to show up on time... but things happen like traffic... or can't find your wallet... etc... The time thing didn't affect anything but your attitude. Kinda crazy that someone really would stop dating someone else because of 10 or 20 minutes here or there.... Especially if you liked em enough to see him again and again.... | |
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Posted: 5/22/2012 5:07:29 AM | | Yep, I would say next .... cut the line and move on. You know what you are looking for. The reality is too many people judge way to quickly on here but I feel as though you went through enough hoops to get a good feel for what you are dealing with. I have been blocked by people on here that I have never met ... the world is full of frieks so don't worry about it ... move on and feel good about it. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2012 11:23:38 AM | | I realize this thread was started a long time ago, but seriously? McDonald's? Taco Bell? Maybe when I was in high school, but being over 30 and meeting up at those places for first few "dates?" | |
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Posted: 5/22/2012 11:45:00 AM |
I realize this thread was started a long time ago, but seriously? McDonald's? Taco Bell? Maybe when I was in high school, but being over 30 and meeting up at those places for first few "dates?"
LOL People are cheap man. Either that or their effing poor. What can you do? LOL | |
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Posted: 5/22/2012 12:17:09 PM | hahahahahaha
Yes it's okay for you to be done because in his eyes you two never started..he brought his kid so you could see his sensitive side...The money part was simply because he felt you weren't worth the effort.
You were now and will always be in his eyes a LAY that got away...That's it.
Oh and if you've only met this guy 3 times even after all that you wanted to jump his bones too so don't play innocent..Had he fed you a few drinks and meal you would have been getting pumped in no time..
Don't play the victim princess you just weren't worth it. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:17:22 PM | | I would have left before he arrived late the third time. I dont care what he does, kick him to the curb. If he really liked you he would have made of an effort. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:41:31 PM | I wouldnt bother with a guy that has such a young child. Bound to be delays and cancellations. Does he have full custody? He obviously does not have much money but if he invites you out the second time, he should pay. I wouldnt have met him three times but you must like him???? Lord knows why. However the writing was on the wall from the getgo in my opinion.
He made no effort with you and I would have been gone long before the third so called date. He has no manners and no money or time. Move on. You could have told him that you were not happy with the situation though. Then he will leave you alone, hopefully. | |
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