| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:38:07 PM | Why is it that some (not most) guys feel the need to end a relationship by text message, and not face to face??? and end the text with ''please dont hate me'' lol
Surely you have the courage and respect to do the right thing, but i dnt know.... my mind is baffled lol
HELP!! clear things up for me guys! | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:47:52 PM | Because most guys are cowards.
Too afraid to man up and say why they dont want to be with you, so they run away because its easy for them, they dont ever have look back..just hit send and move on. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:51:14 PM | Well, it's not just guys. basically there's no responsibility any longer regardless of gender. The last girl I was seeing didn't even give me the courtesy of a text. She just dropped off the face of the world.
So it goes both ways I'm afraid, and it's unfortunate. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:56:58 PM | | The question is posed like all guys do this, I'm sure there are women who do the same or worse. It's not gender-specific. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 4:57:46 PM | | I've done it by phone and felt like a piece of s**t so now if it comes to it I do it in person. It's the least someone should do. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:05:43 PM | I suppose it is marginally better than just disappearing or having someone else call you claiming to be his sister/brother/father/mother and telling you that he killed himself.
People (both men and women) do this sort of thing because they dislike conflict. Typing a message into a cell phone (or sending an email) and pushing the send button doesn't require them to look into your eyes or answer your questions. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:14:07 PM | I read it just fine, it was asked like guys only do this and this question I'd surmise has been answered more than once on this board.
Men and women dislike conflict with someone they don't like and feel it is easier to just slip away quietly rather than own up and just say why they don't want to and it could escalate into a war of words. It's not gender specific, there is no textbook answer that would make things any clearer.
The person was just immature, just chalk it up to experience and move on. Everyone is not the same. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:26:12 PM | I could give one of two answers to this...
First one is agreeing with the fact that some people try to break off the relationship as distantly as possible. Truely this is not an honourable way to act.
Second reason is that genuinely these people do feel concern and care for the well being of the other person, wanting to create as minimal hurt as is possible. However they fail to realize that this form of not showing someone the respect to speak with them face to face is insulting. At times even the person initiating the breakup feels bad about the situation, but realizes that by delaying the inevitable is destructive and unfair to both people.
It would be great to know right from the beginning if you are compatible with someone or not but unfortunately it takes time to get to know each other before you can determine if a future exists or not. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:29:14 PM | now im kinda getting why.... save the arguing lol
Come on fellas keep it clean please - for me, been thro enough recently as it is :( x x | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:34:34 PM |
I didnt mean it to sound like all guys do it..... just seems to be the ones i know lol How sad is that... the OP has been dumped multiple times by guys via text messaging...
My advice OP... choose guys that don't have cell phones.  | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:40:35 PM | Actually hun Ive only been dumped once by text, but my male friends have told me that they have done it to past partners whilst i was talking to them getting there advise x
But thanks for your advise - pretty hard to find a guy without one tho | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:13:06 PM | My advice OP... choose guys that don't have cell phones.
Damnit! That was supposed to be mine!
Btw... I don't have one. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:19:09 PM | | There are a few of us guys who don't have cell phones and have our reasons for them too. Just watch the way most people behave with them, and you'll see a couple of the reasons why I don't want one. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:28:23 PM | It easier for them to send a text because they don't want any confrontation. After they send they feel its a done deal.
At least you got closure you may want to consider that a good thing. Understanding it is tacty.
hope this helps. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:54:55 PM | I guess it could be categorized by the age of technology impersonal and quick to the point with no "why's" coming his way from you as it probably would be in person.
Look at it this way, he could have performed the "Vanishing Act" as his encore. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:03:18 PM | | OP, the reason is that the guy doesn't want to cause a scene. And breaking it off with someone in person is likely to cause a scene. | |
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| Why do guys end things by text?
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:15:23 PM |
OP, the reason is that the guy doesn't want to cause a scene. And breaking it off with someone in person is likely to cause a scene.
Cosign. Besides when someone wants to call it off, chances are that they don't want to see each other again. | |
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