| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 12:38:13 PM | dear akimmbo.... if we cannot rationalize feelings of love then why do we spend alot of our earthly time being irrational about love ... for it is in this state that we are looking for the rational the state of being .. and the state of love.. to be loved.. to feel loved .. to desire love .. to express love , to be at peace with our existence ...
Like holding your baby to your chest and there is an energy of resonating between your brains.. a state of conscience that is almost tangible, like the strongest glue that screams from within , " you will survive." I will give you what you need to survive and this will be your reason so that you can give this to the rest of my DNA so we survive, the only link we leave behind... is our DNA so yah we better have reasons.. our story has to carry reasons or we live and die carrying NOTHING ....
We do not reason ourselves out of love .. we reason ourselves out of a loveless state, if someone cannot act in love in the present time because they are not equipped to live in the present moment thru the love of their own molecules being in this space, this time... than they do not have the ability to love.. their reason is already monopolized by the seconds that were their personal history... prison of past life is inability to love in the present state ..you cannot offer what is not HERE >>> that is a lie to someone HERE >>> YOU /./
yes we can act of love, we can practise the manipulation of our molecules to be inclusive, to be present ... to allow our minds the ability to engage in the state of being so that we can contribute love to ourselves first and then to offer this as the only gift we leave behind. Every great human endeavour reasoned by mankind was driven by the force of love .... there is no force greater nor energy more valuable to the human mind... | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 1:14:47 PM | | There is always a reason...whether you cosnsciously know what it is, or not. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 1:17:19 PM | that's a good response...many good things you had to say there howBigisyourlove....I must say.
It would take a book to respond, even if I tried not to manipulate my molecules.
yes, as I said earlier, there are probably reasons, but they are sometimes on the other side of conscious thought.
Staying in earthly time, for the moment...I will say, if I am feeling irrational about 'love', then , it's really not about love., or, it really isn't love...it's illusion...but, I know what your'e saying.
I rarely feel irrational, but sometimes off balance....but that is always about just living at peace with 'what is', or existence, It's important to know we are always capable of love, unless we are pushing a block of fear up a hill.
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 1:21:52 PM | | Amanda - Love is an emotional reaction...to something...consciously, or unconsciously, percieved. For there to be a reaction, there needs to be a mixture, or event, to act as stimulus. To every action there is a reaction. No action means no reaction. The presence of a reaction proves the presence-noticed, or not-of a preceding action. That action is the reason. When you get back to university study chemistry, and physics. Psychology/ philosophy aren't working for you. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:13:31 PM | | Love doesn't need anything; people do. People seem to need reasons to explain it, find its source, justify it, categorize it, "work" on it- all management/accountability techniques. I don't do any of these things to love at this point. I'd rather let love manage me and warm in its glow, feel infused with it. Now, if I could just find a like-minded woman to share my light . . . . | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:48:17 PM | I've never thought about it in the terms you put it, but I would say reasons = characteristics, funny, nice, attractive, warm.
Love is an emotion and as with most emotions we do not really have control over it.
It happens but it happens because of the reasons. There did I muddy that up enough? | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 2:58:34 PM | I hate that saying 'everything happens for a reason' well of course it does or we'd all be dead.
Do you mean 'everything happens for a reason as destined by God' is what the saying means.
Every second we exist and breathe is for a reason, a purpose. We may not know it yet.
So of course there's a reason to fall in love or why you fell in love with the person.
take care,
Cheryl. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:22:12 PM | | There are reasons why we love someone, one just doesn't love - at least so I believe. Too many people throw around "I love you's" too casually, in my perspective easy come easy go scenario... the deeper kind of love is generated from mutual experiences, and the emotions evoked during our interactions, and somewhere along the line love blooms. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:41:38 PM | This all depends on who the someone is.
I gather though, this is referring to a mate of some sort.
Love, love, love. That emotion that some believe we cannot control as we do our other emotions. No real justification is needed for me to love a man. I can love him just for being or for just being him. I can love him from a far or in my imagination.
The thing is, I just don't put to much shock in any one emotion, for to much of anything and over analyzing is not healthy for me.
Answer for me is no, my love does not need a reason. If I wanted to analyze it though I could come up with reasons as to why I loved a man, but why? To love is enough for me I thinks. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 7:27:40 PM | To me, a true love is one where you enjoy what is there, rather than coming to it looking for something. Hence, you do not change the one you love, into the object you wish was in your life.
To me, this is a true love b/c you are healthy in the reasons you seek it. You aren't hoping someone who seems cool to you, will make your life cool. You don't want to be around someone better than you, hoping they will make you better.
You may, to pick the quote from, As Good As It Gets, wish to make yourself a better person. But, its you making you. Its not expecting someone to make you better. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 7:33:55 PM | "There is a question:
Does love need reasons"
Nope. It does what it wants. Attraction is never a choice. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/7/2008 7:48:43 PM | It's not reason that love needs. It's a tube of K-Y jelly and some mood lighting.
What it needs is a comfortable waterbed with mirrors on the ceiling.
You know what needs reason? Someone who cannot get it up. Whether it's a man, or a woman for whom noone stands in attention. Then yes, you'll need a lot of reasoning and rationalizing.
If love needed reason, we would be constantly thinking of Aristotle and DesCartes and Kant. Well, I guess we do, in a way. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:14:06 AM |
Love doesn't need anything; people do.
Right. It's like infinity. Both love and inifinity have no boundaries, and as a result both are beyond the comprehension of the human mind. Such concepts defy any logic our brains can understand. They are things we simply have to accept even though we may never know the how or why. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:47:35 AM | Love is knowing the other person needs a kiss, a hug, a cuddle.
Love is ecstasy without touch.
Love is the music of souls entwined.
Love is something unexplainable.
Love is doing someone else's laundry.
Love is simple.
Love is staying home because they're sick.
Love is triumph over epidemic.
Love is not just a feeling.
Like Robin Williams said in Good Will Hunting, "That's why I'm not talkin' right now about some girl I saw at a bar twenty years ago and how I always regretted not going over and talking to her. I don't regret the 18 years I was married to Nancy. I don't regret the six years I had to give up counseling when she got sick. And I don't regret the last years when she got really sick. And I sure as hell don't regret missin' the damn game. "
That's what love is -- caring to the point where nothing else matters. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 11:27:21 AM | There is no reasoning with Love
Love can hold you bind you to another
have no reason or rhyme to it.. it just is..
Love will be your best friend a confidant to your heart..
But... Love will also smack you dead in the face ...
for some come and go as it pleases...
Taunts others for as it wishes...
It how one deals with their Love
Give or Recieve...
I love to love.. I love life.. I love to connect with people on an open honest level...
I have been in love...and its the hardest thing to realize when love is no longer.
dont get me wrong
I am still hopeful. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 1:12:48 PM | I hate to use baseball analogies, but that being my basic frame of mind, I'll say this.
Always be careful about getting your hopes up about a woman, just like you should be careful about getting your hopes up about your team.
Only with women, unlike baseball, the degree of heartbreak is much more pronounced and hope can be dangerous. High hopes about a woman you have fallen for can harm your sanity, your well-being, your general outlook.
The World Series every year comes and goes. But, heartbreak at the hands of a woman can be scarring for life. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:41:15 PM | | Oh, joclyn33-you have melted my grinch heart! Why aren't you closer!? Ha! | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:09:51 PM | | I think we all overanalize love. If you feel it and you wrap all of you emotions Happiness,saddness,sorrow,anger,joy, etc..... into a realationship and get fulfillment, then this could be love. I believe everyone loves differently. and for this is reason to believe what you want to believe is love. Does love actually have to be the product of an action? Think back when you were a kid and your first crush you thought it was love. So innocent that you couldnt or havent had the bad experiences to make you think about it. Love is belief ....be it in another or a feeling. I feel that sometimes we call things love to easily and dont even know it when it is really there. Who is to say that love either needs or doesnt need a reason? I say follow your heart and use you mind and thoughts to not let your heart be nieve. Love is how you interpret it embrace yours, and if your happy who cares what others say. Only you know how you feel. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:54:17 PM | Since I am half a centurian I will share some of my life experiences with everyone - like it or not............. 
Love has no boundaries and just happens. We cannot choose who we fall in love with, it just happens as there is a kind of magical connection that just happens. I have been lucky enough to find this kind of love 5 times in my life. Unfortunately, just because we fall in love with someone, does not necessarily mean that they are mutually in love with us. In my 5 times of falling in love, once it was not mutual and hurt like hell - also very hard to get beyond. Two of the 4 times I fell in love, the man and I were married and the last two did not live a compatable life style to mine and it would have been impossible for us to be together and be happy. Its unfortunate, but that is the way things work out. Its one thing to be in love with someone, but quite another to live happily ever after. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/8/2008 10:15:18 PM | | LOVE....is not of logic or reason..... it just is. And infatuation is a great 'deceiver'...of Love...gives it a terrible time. But....if it is Love....it will eventually give 'infatuation'...a big black eye and kick it to the curb....Love will shine in the dark to help you find your way home! | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:59:45 AM | maybe there is reason,maybe there isnt..
Depends on people, some peole need reasons, some people dont need reasons i guess.
for me ,there is no reason. | |
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| Does love need reasons?
Posted: 10/9/2008 4:44:59 AM | I used to hear a small bell ring and I was hooked.
Now I have issues with trust and meet fewer people.
I miss the bell but do not miss the pain.
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