| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:31:53 PM | Last relationship I had lasted a year. Simply he found a girlie closer to his own age whom wanted the same things he wanted in a LTR.
He and I had discussed our "relationship" like adults with open lines of communication in the very beginning and we knew what the outcome would be.
Fantasic year don't regret a thing and we are still friends. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:41:58 PM | She finally put me out of my misery .... she dumped me.
It took me a heck of a long time to get over those twenty years.
Is she all happy now? ............ I don’t thinks so. I've heard she drinks herself into a stOOper most nights. Not that she misses me all that much - it is just dumping me did not change - what ever it was/is. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 1:49:53 AM | The first. He gave me a slap. It shocked me. I broke his nose then got rid.
One thought he could take presidence over my baby girl. So he had to go.
One would not go down.
Another was too clingy it had only been about a month so he had to go. Another refused to be tested for sti's.
The last one turned out to be married. Only found out after i fell in love with him. That wasn't very nice. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:49:14 AM | | I waited too long to ask him exactly where we were in the relationship and after 4 months, I did. He said he only wanted a friend and not a relationship. Wow. That was after we'd been intimate. He had on here that he wasn't single and I assumed we were more than friends. When I found out that he only wanted a friend, that was it for me. Friends don't sleep together, friends with benefits do but I didn't want that and I made it clear right from the beginning that I didn't. So that was the end of that. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:28:00 AM | I'd hesitate to call it a relationship because it never got off the ground really, but I had one where I found out I really didn't know the person at all. And the reason for that was he kept a lot of his stuff inside and built this outer shell of confidence. I have always been one to believe what I am told unless I find out differently. The best liars are the ones who believe their own lies. I was married to someone like this and I've learned to be careful as there is something in my personality that attracts those who are suffering from low self esteem and hiding it under lies. One flag for me is the constant talk about how wonderful all of their relationships are with their friends, family, coworkers, and even their ex. That's all well and good, but when you have to constantly trumpet that fact, I have to wonder who you're trying to convince; me or yourself?
Finding out that someone's living situation, work and education are greatly overblown. I don't think you can say you have a college education if you only attended three classes before dropping out! I also don't think you can say you are a co-owner of a home when you actually rent a bedroom in someone's house. You also cannot claim to be in a supervisory position at work when in actuality you are a contract worker with no benefits and no job security.
Why not just present yourself as you truly are and not as what you'd like to show the world? I'd much rather hear your truth and then make my own decision than to waste time on someone who can't even be honest with himself let alone me. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:21:42 AM | hi,
one reason; I wanted long term relationship, he did not.
And for my ex husband, we were married 11 years, divorced 9 years now, there was no cheating involved, lying or anything like that. We simply grew apart, bored, wanted different things, decided to end it once there was no sex after a year. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 9:35:26 AM | last relationship was the distance.....it just became too hard traveling back and forth but without regrets....he was a wonderful man.
15 year marriage was because of betrayal.....i stayed way too long hoping my heart would heal....a tough life lesson | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 10:14:48 AM | 1) My husband: after we'd made plans to go to the big "First Night" celebration in our city for New Year's Eve, my husband refused to attend it with me, giving me no reason whatsoever except that he wanted to leave for it an hour earlier than we'd initially agreed. I couldn't because of my work schedule. He also refused to arrange a time & place to meet there, saying "We'll run into each other." We never did. I later learned he spent the evening with a married woman who, if he wasn't already having an affair with, he was having an affair within 2 weeks. However, that evening it finally sunk in that he didn't care about me, had almost total disregard for me. I had not yet fully realized that he was also a liar, a cheat, and capable of rationalizing almost anything.
2) My ex girlfriend: besides the fact that she had gotten to where she was angry most of the time, she bought tickets for the two of us to go to Las Vegas during the one week she knew full well I couldn't possibly go because of my work schedule and then demanded I change my work schedule. We'd already discussed this at length and she did it anyway, then went into a rage when I told her I couldn't go.
3) My ex boyfriend: when he still wouldn't invite me when he went home for Christmas, even though we'd been going together for four years and he knew I had no one to spend Christmas with. It was the thing that finally drove home that relationship was going nowhere. I never did get to meet his family, even though they sound like nice folks and he thought I'd get along well with them. However, bringing me to meet his family was too much like a commitment and he was, above all, not going to do anything that looked like a commitment. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 10:52:05 AM | "I think we should see other people." That was the straw that broke the camels back in my marriage(ofcourse there was a lot that lead up to that breaking point). He said it on a Friday and I filed for divorce the following Monday.
His birthday he decided to have a mid-life crisis or maybe it'd be better described as a tantrum or a mental meltdown. I'm not sure exactly but it was BAD and a little more then scary. Long story short I went home with a crack in my tail light and a dent in my bumper. Never went back.
"If you don't like me smoking pot we'll have to work something else out." I don't believe in nagging people to change for me so I worked my way out of that relationship.
The only three relationships that ever really mattered. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 12:01:56 PM | | "Finding out that someone's living situation, work and education are greatly overblown. I don't think you can say you have a college education if you only attended three classes before dropping out! I also don't think you can say you are a co-owner of a home when you actually rent a bedroom in someone's house. You also cannot claim to be in a supervisory position at work when in actuality you are a contract worker with no benefits and no job security." - OMG did we date the same person??? That is what exactly happened to me. Oh, and you cant say you make $40,000 a year when you are collecting unemployment. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 12:30:57 PM | To costa rica gal: I know what you are going through, been there, done that, got out and I now have a great man by my side. Contact me if you want to chat or for support, best thing to do is to leave him for good, but I know it is hard.
A. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 2:05:48 PM | He would not communicate on a regular basis with me and when he did i was attacked with all the things that bothered him  . He also thought sending pictures of his di*ck to X fu*ck friends when we were still together was just innocent flirting! gosh i cant believe i put up with that sh*it!  | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 2:19:44 PM | All 3 of my long term relationships forgot I was there. My Ex (13 years) even forgot me at Christmas year after year... I started to buy my own Christmas presents. It was like I did not exist. I am not sure how it happens. One day you are in a relationship and the next they ignore you. We are talking years here not a few weeks or months...
I am getting better and recognizing when it is starting to happen. Now I just end it.
How do you forget a 6"1' brunette is in the room? I just don't get it....
~Charmed~ | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:27:01 PM | It's funny that the OP dismisses those things, lying cheating, blah, blah, blah
as if they are the reason for a break up! THOSE are usually the results of a bad
relationship, not the cause! | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:32:04 PM | I realized I didn't love him x2 !
Isn't that scary to reflect on, pondering whether or not you'll every really love someone again? I loved my first husband of 23 years loads only to have it end in dysfunction, neglect and abuse.... | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:42:12 PM | It wasn't my last relationship but one that was important to me....After two years even though he told me he loved me.... I would never be his "It" or his "wow". For whatever reason that kind of hit me it hard. Or at least felt like a slap back into reality.
I decided at that point there was no sense in going any further with it. I wanted to find someone in the future, that could after that amount of time together, feel the same as I did. He agreed that I deserved that....so end of stoy. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:57:15 PM | started showing his true colors after the honeymoon stage... clingy and possessive and wouldnt let me spend some time with family and friends.  | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:42:57 AM | No passion, something I have shared with a man in the past, but not in the last long term one. There were many reasons, and primarily abuse has ended my relationship with him.
When there is control, there is not intimacy. During my relationship with him, I have had many erotic dreams, with men I did not know in real life. In many cases, in my dream I was with a man, and He felt like my soul mate, it was wonderful. Although in my dreams I simply was next to him, I was always sexually aroused around him.Once I woke up, I felt kind of funny because those dreams kept reminding me, I don't have that with in my current relationship. My ex used to come in the morning with a cup of coffee and asked me how my sleep was, oh..uhm, this was creepy....because I knew if I mentioned anything about the dream,he would flip.
What was the point of keeping it going, my dreams kept reminding me something has gone wrong. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:42:42 AM | I ended my relationship over a bottle of Code Red Mountain Dew (CRMD from now on in this post). LOL Well actually it was over a bottle of the CRMD for my son.
I had been seening a guy for a couple of months and he was coming over for pizza. I had called and ordered it and he was bringing the drinks. He called me and asked what "we" (meaning my son and I) wanted to drink. I told him Diet Coke for me and CRMD for my son. He specifically said "You're sure that's what he wants?" I said "Yes... it's what I buy him." he said "will he drink regular MD because that's what I'm getting for me" I said "No. He only likes the Code Red." He says ok... we hang up.
He gets to my place... I open the door and there he stands with a 12 pack of Diet Coke and a 12 pack of regular MD. He sits them down on the table and I'm looking... and looking... and no Code Red. I said "Did you get (my sons) CRMD?" He says "No... I didn't want to get another 12 pack so I figured he could drink the regular" HUH? Was I hearing him correctly? I said "Then why didn't you get a small bottle for him or even just get a 12 pack of Code Red?" He said "Because a small bottle is a waste of money and I don't like Code Red" I said (very calmly) "get out." He stood there looking at me... and said "Are you serious? Over pop?" I said "yes. get out" He started to walk towards the door and he said "seriously? you want me to leave?" I said "seriously." I opened the door and he walked out... for good.
Oh. I kept the 12 packs. Took the regular MD to the corner gas station and traded it for a 12 pack of Code Red. LOL!!! Anyway... it might seem petty... but it just struck a nerve with me. Don't mess with my kid... even if it's just pop. :) | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:00:41 AM |
"Finding out that someone's living situation, work and education are greatly overblown. I don't think you can say you have a college education if you only attended three classes before dropping out! I also don't think you can say you are a co-owner of a home when you actually rent a bedroom in someone's house. You also cannot claim to be in a supervisory position at work when in actuality you are a contract worker with no benefits and no job security."
Now that's just funny. I love it when they blow things outta porportion. I think I dated that guy's cousin or something cause he lived with his mom in order to help her out after her car accident(aww sweet). He worked full time(hard worker). And he didn't do drugs or drink alcohol(admirable). Turns out he'd lived with mom his whole life even before the accident but it sure looked good that she'd gotten in one on his part. His job he worked full time but only when it was 'in season'. Seasonal jobs do not count as full time work if you don't work the other 9 months out of the year. And he didn't do drugs or drink because he was clean and sober for 29 days. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:04:33 AM | | I realized after 3 years that I felt the same way about him as I did the first day I met him..."gee this is a nice guy". After all that time there should be more. | |
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| What made you end your relationship?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:45:21 AM | With my 2nd husband it was because he was always at work,money meant more to him than me and the children did....we didnt need the extra money either
3rd husband because he was a serious gambler..VERY serious and that came before the children
last relationship as he was greedy,selfish and thought his drug addled friend was more important plus he beat me a few times
NOBODY hits me and gets away with it,i'm worth FAR more than that life | |
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