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Posted: 10/8/2008 5:17:46 PM | em: msg14.............
Next time..........let him be on top!!!
Seriously though.......flexibility???
Ok, so I can't interlock my fingers behind my back, with one arm over and one arm under.
And I can't fold in half to fit in your suitcase for that trip to Cancun.
Other than that, flexibility is no issue.
At least, non that I've ever come across.
But then, I haven much partaken in a lot of wild, monkey sex either. One can only hope for the future though! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 5:32:49 PM | Well I could hear every breath he took when he was just sitting, so I am sure you can guess how inactive he was on top. Figured that we would try other ways, but, nope the belly got in the way and welllll, like I said, my one experience. I am very flexible. I do yoga almost every day, so actually it surprised me.
I never did everything in The Kama Sutra of Vatsayana, but I was married for many years, so we did hit a few. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:07:34 PM | Lori, I'm here for just a little while longer. Coffee is drank for the night. I have no intentions of believing you have limitations.
I'll contact AARP in advance to customize your walker for the better positions. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:19:07 PM | Great comments! Some made me laugh like hell............
The only limits we have, are the limits we set on ourselves. Intimatacy is all about fun, adventure and enjoying each other. That includes laughing when things dont work out quite as intended. I agree with the posters who say "round" is a shape, I'm in that group and definitely not ashamed or embarassed of my body. The same goes for the man in my life, when it comes to intimacy its about him and me, and if we are comfortable then what is the problem?
Dance like no one is watching.....Sing like no one is listening.....and make love, like you mean it.......................... | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:27:16 PM | I use to weigh 70 lbs more then I do now. I had more physical limitations then.
Touchin my ear with my foot was not a physical possiblity.
As to bein insecure about your body while havin sex...he wouldn't be in your bed (or his) if he was concerned about your size or shape. Their are plenty of men that are attracted to BBW. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:30:43 PM |
In this case (which I probably should've been clearer in stressing), I was refering to the shape of body parts. IE: longer arms vs. shorter arms, longer legs vs. shorter legs, etc.
YES! I have a very tall friend and I am a very short woman. We tried some old fashioned parking lot sex, but the height difference put a strain on him, and I couldn't get it up any higher for him;)
That happens in the shower too...... I'll bend over and use my tippy toes to reach "it" up to him, but he still has to squat to reach it. Im guessing squating isn't the best position for a man to get his "knocks" off in.
He is also a tad thick around his mid section, so I can't leg lock him when I don't want him to move. Because my legs are too short to connect
but we still get the job done;) | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:37:25 PM | in regards to the differences in leg lengths....I have found that being on the shorter side...there have been a few men that were tall enough they had to squat down when I was bent over something......say the hood of the car for example.. ....and it's not that it was impossible .....but definately very straining for the man after a period of time.
and oh.......I can't "watch" in the missionary position cuz my breasteses are in the way.... ......and when my feet are behind my ears....and even tho it might be a nice visual for you to see my face buried in my boobs......I can't friggin breath! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 6:42:08 PM | lol@ msmicki!!
that 6ft plus guy has to be in great shape to have me bent over :)
But I like a man with a few extra pounds.... ohh well can't have my cake and ice cream too | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 7:40:59 PM | Racer Matt & Danz....too funny
Customized walker? In that case, have them paint it metallic purple with flames on the legs...the walkers, not mine. Well, maybe skip the flames-those are saved for my robes!! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 8:13:41 PM | Only the sky is the limits! You can only pull out as much as you put into it!
I think when your goal becomes your partners pleasure, anything goes! I don't see it as effort or work. I see as doing what ever it takes to be the only one they ever think of again!
Simple motivation: I want her to shiver several days after from just the thought! Tingle when she sits down for days afterwords with pleasurable memories of everything we did! Only thinking of when and what will happen next! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2008 8:34:58 PM | I think it has more to do with the level of physical fitness! I've had partners of varying sizes and shapes and regardless the ones who had a high level of physical fitness were better lovers (regardless of their WEIGHT).
I've had skinny guys who were so out of shape they could barely move around and I've had chunky partners who negated my need for daily workouts. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 4:11:54 AM | OP-
I do believe that sometimes our body shapes ( extra curves, bulges, etc) can hinder certain sexual positions, but that doesn't mean they prevent two lovers from having lot's of fun. I can recall my most recent encounter with the manfriend to be quite refreshing and fun ( I'm so glad that man works out daily) because he can whip this big gal around like a rag doll, but the penetration has never been hindered because I'm a large woman.
I've even had the pleasure of being intimate with larger men and despite that fact the sex was wonderful. I think if two people are truly into one another the length of body parts or body shapes won't prevent great love-making. I have a vivid imagination and like to try new things so that makes for fun sex when I'm with the manfriend. He's in tune with me and I'm totally in tune with him, for that reason, and many others, we do try different things or simply modify positions to accomodate each other.
Once I'm naked just about anything goes---particularly any inhibitions.
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Posted: 10/9/2008 4:27:10 AM | MagicalMary--you are sooo right.
I used to way almost 55 pounds (from 200 lbs. to 252 lbs--water retention) more than I did 12 years ago, post surgery after a severe baseball injury.
Besides it not being comfortable, the 17-month hiatus left me less multi-functional. The woman I was seeing then was very patient, God rest her soul. But, she helped me rehab and lose the weight. Before long, I was back to 202 lbs. She even lost 20 lbs. herself. Positions that we found cumbersome, became more mobile and had greater gusto post the weight loss. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 5:56:55 AM | ^^^ I knew you meant weigh---I make plenty of typo's...no worries. The thing is that every person whose realistic will understand that either shorter/longer limbs or extra weight has the potential to hinder some sexual acts, but if both folks genuinely care for the other the possibility of having great sex with varied positions can be endless.
So maybe I'm not as limber as some ladies with less body fat, but I can still move around quite well. The mere fact I feel incredibly sexy and desirable with my manfriend just heightens each sexual interlude he and I share. This past weekend he pulled out all the stops and I am still smiling thinking about all the fun we had. Additionally, he and I talk about our likes and dislikes and that adds to fun bedroom olympics.
I've never let my size hinder me doing anything---maybe I have to be a lil more creative, but I still have a very healthy and fullfilling sex life.  | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:21:29 AM | OP didn't ask whether sex was limited due to fear your partner wouldn't find you attractive, the question is whether your repetoire is limited due to body shape/size.
Answering from a clinical, not personal, perspective the answer must be yes. When one's legs or stomach get too large there are positions one simply can not get into (or your partner can't get into). It's pure geometry and physics, not a slam.
If one doesn't exercise for flexibility there are certain positions one can't get into. Doesn't equate to being fat, it has to do with flexibility. E.g. who can get their knees next to their ears? If you can't then your options have been limited by your body. Answers OP's question. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:52:58 AM |
I never did everything in The Kama Sutra of Vatsayana, but I was married for many years, so we did hit a few.
My uncle and I were executors of my grandparents' estate. While cleaning out their home we found a copy of the Kama Sutra. Grandparents had been married 52 yrs when grandma passed but I guess they were still doing alright behind closed doors.
I, um, liberated the book and have been going through it trying out positions (of course the positions, complete with pictures, are available on numerous websites). The key, I think, is to practice the joy and reverence behind the Kama Sutra as well as the acts. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 7:56:53 AM | ^^^^^and laugh at yourself at how funny you could possible look. I didn't look in the mirrors and we were never photographers. I shudder to think how awkward we looked. But with two partners that do care about each other and enjoy each other, it adds another element of fun. Willing and participating partners are important for enjoyable sex. If someone just lays there breathing hard, that is not fun for me.
I hope to find someone that I care about again that that type of relationship could happen. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 10:20:38 AM | | A dancer has flexible and strong body and they are passionate of what ever they do. So I think there is no limitation of movements unless the person has back aches, lock jaw etc.. And remember that SEX is in the mind , a mind governed that body to have a peak performance when a person is sensous and passionate to that person that can match her/him. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 10:26:23 AM | I used to go out with a woman who was a gymnast...
Wow....
She could do things with her body that I didn't even think were possible...
She had an incredible body for her age... and she could bend it in ways that I think involved 4 dimensions instead of the standard 3.... | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 5:14:45 PM | I once dated a man who was 6'6" and I was 5'1" - now that was a challenge. When he took me home for the evening I would stand on my kitchen step stool to give him a goodnight kiss. Other things in the relationship were challenging to say the least, but it caused our creative juices to flow.
When people commented about our height difference he would say "When we're nose to nose her feet are in it, and when we're toes to toes her nose is in it!" That was always good for a laugh.
I think people need to have a sense of humor and work around obstacles of size, height or flexibility. Anyway, intimacy is better with lots of practice.............. | |
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:33:53 PM | ... who can get their knees next to their ears?
I recently pulled my stomach muscles while playing in bed... LOL - I had bet my 5 yr. old, I could still put my leg around the back of my neck.... I won, too. Not bad for an old broad.
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:53:21 PM | Being obese, I've found that the simple physics of fitting together work best with guys who are not bigger than me - bumping bellies and all, though that can certainly depend on his length. However, I've never found that it prevents sex altogether, it just makes it more challenging for the main course.
As for arm length, etc .... I've found that with my weight gain, my arm length has shrunk. Or maybe I just have farther to reach around? Anyway, that can be a hindrance and make things uncomfortable if my partner wants to watch me pleasure myself while I'm on my back. soooo, the solution? I've found that a little elevation helps, rather than being completely flat; ie, a couple of pillows behind my head and shoulders. Also, a switch to the knees (facing front up on your knees or on all fours) provides more leverage as well. I find that once scrunched up a bit in missionary from my partners weight also alleviates this issue.
Sorry if that is TMI, but the op did ask for solutions. | |
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