| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 1:58:54 PM | You see this in my parts all the time. I don't think twice about it. Some people need a drink every once in a while. Just be careful. There's alot of creeps out there.  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 2:32:25 PM | I have been to bars by myself, not for hooking up, and I'm not an alkie. But I have killed time there before meeting someone or going to a concert or something--it's safe, clean, has a TV, often a good atmosphere. I see nothing wrong with it--belly up to the bar, smile at the people next to you and start a convo. If they're into it, they'll let you know.
You're too old to care what others may think is "tabu" in society, aren't you? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 2:43:57 PM | | why do you care what others think? My friends are married with kids so I am always solo. I admit at first it felt strange just sitting alone but now when I go out, it's to watch a game. Still haven't worked up the courage to approach women at the bar...They always run in packs busy talking with their friends or on the phone. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 3:10:14 PM | wow...what sexism on this thread...so its okay for a man to go to a bar but not a woman?...BS
I went to my favorite Blues Bar alone alot when I lived in Hyannis.
The music was awesome.
No one thought I was there to pick someone up.
The world doesnt revolve around your dick | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 4:28:08 PM | Wait...it ever WAS taboo for a woman to go to a bar by herself ?
Whether or not she was dressing to pick up someone ?
What a strange mentality. Completely incomprehensible to me.
Nothing wrong with it, unless she does it several times a week and gets bombed out of her mind each time. Then it's medically unhealthy, but not taboo.
On second thought, the only thing I'd say about it is that you should watch your drink to make sure no one slips you any unwanted extras, because they see you are not there with friends. But that's a caution thing, not a taboo thing. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 5:55:31 PM |
My question is...is it still taboo for women to go to a bar by herself without looking like she is out to hook up with someone. Or is it more acceptable now days?
~OP~ If I enter a bar/pub/club/grocery store or hair salon alone, it's a guarantee, I'm leaving there alone. We're adults, we're allowed to go out if/when we choose and for whatever purpose we choose. If I had waited for someone to go out with when I wanted to go ~ I'd have ended up with cobwebs/bats/and other undesirable things happening to me. For those who don't get it ~ so????? They don't get it. I have never felt the need to explain my presence or lack thereof to anyone. Enjoy yourself OP ~ just be safe while doing so!  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:24:28 PM | I've seen many women alone enjoying themselves at some of the upscale Jazz clubs in my area, and I doubt any
woman looking for a night of entertainment would be ashamed to be alone in any of them.
Many Resort lounges are filled (almost to capacity) with companionless women.
I realize "wine tastings" is not exactly the bar scene, but this is another event where you'll find
a lot of companionless women.
And by far, the best venue to find women mingling alone at the bar is the CASINO. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:51:28 PM | OP: I never heard that it was "taboo" for a woman to go to a bar for drinks/night out. lol I would/have and if it were a local place to me (my local pub), I would definitely go as I am familiar with the people who work there, etc....
I have no problem going out to a restaurant, movies, club or any other venue on my own. I am very comfortable in my own skin, not looking to "hook-up" with total strangers and definitely NOT an alcoholic. I am however looking to live my life according to my terms and not to what society believes to be the "norm".
Obviously, we have to use some good judgement when we do decide to go out on our own, and not walk into a place that could very well put us in a compromising/dangerous situation.
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:54:51 PM | If you want to go out and grab a drink after work or what not. Go for it. Just be careful of the lonesome horny retards trolling about when you feel like just relaxing or getting ready to go home.
There's this corner pub that's right by my place of work. If I have a crappy day, I"ll stop in, grab a club sandwich and beer and relax with a newspaper or some other type of literature. I'll make small talk but Those that engage with me know when I'm done and have no interest in actually dropping what I'm doing and getting hooked into their sorry cyrano butts.
Then again I dont care what a bunch of drunks and aholes think of me anyways. And neither should you. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:17:01 PM | | Being recently single I understand having nobody to go out with sometimes so I do not judge a woman who goes to a bar by herself. I think that how you conduct yourself will dictate how people view you. Go out, grab a drink and have a good time. Good Luck! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:35:07 PM | I've been going to bars for years alone.
Never had it crossed my mind that the men were wondering why I was there.
Gezz I'm there for me, I go to the damn bar because I want to, because I want a drink and or watch a game on the tv. If the bar has a grill that's even better.
Course when I go to a bar it's usually always a sports bar. I'm dressed for a sports bar and not a night club. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/11/2008 5:45:09 PM | I think it is fine if a woman goes to a bar alone, but honestly it wouldn't be easy. I don't think it is any easier now, and I do think a lot of people would think she was just trying to hook up with someone. I think they would think the same thing about a man.
I really don't think a bar is even a good place to met people. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/11/2008 9:51:28 PM | I say go for it. For me, anyway, its the only way to go. I go to people-watch and also to watch ballgames.
If I go with another woman, we dont get spoken to at all. If I go with a friend who's a guy, people think I'm already hooked up. And this way, you dont have to worry about when (or how) anyone else wants to go home, when you're ready you just go. I really dont see what anyone is so bothered about. Until I am with someone, I live my life alone, and that includes going out to watch a game or something every now and then. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/12/2008 8:19:05 AM | | I've been a bartender for 28 years. It's really common these days for women to come in alone for a few drinks, conversation and maybe a few dances. They are a target to some degree for men on the prowl, but ultimately they control their own destiny. If they're known to leave with a man on occasion, the prowlers will make the effort. If they have a reputation for just coming in to have some fun and leave alone, then they tend to attract attention from the guys who are just looking for conversation and a dance. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/12/2008 8:49:44 AM | It,s just jerkoffs who when they see a woman on her own in a bar think only one thing..if you can confidently deal with the jerks then go for it....same thing applies over here in the U.K enjoy yourself......THE ENGLISH BLOKE  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/12/2008 8:55:57 AM | I say go for it. For me, anyway, its the only way to go. I go to people-watch and also to watch ballgames.
If I go with another woman, we dont get spoken to at all. If I go with a friend who's a guy, people think I'm already hooked up.
This made me laugh. I like to go out and people watch, and at times I like to hit a bar and watch games, but my problem is a plethura of men asking why I am alone, asking if I need company, etc etc - and I really don't. I don't always want to chat, but I do like the atmosphere of a crowded bar. I am totally content in a crowd observing without interacting....its like watching a movie for me.
However it's annoying to have to go with other people because then you deal with the issues they're having - they're bored, they're tired, they don't like the music, they don't feel good, want to stay longer than me, want to leave before I do, they're too drunk, they can't believe how much the drinks cost, yadda yadda, and that thing I really hate which is having to almost entertain them rather than watch the crowd or the game or just "be" and listen to the music. I can sit in a room without talking at all but most I know can't manage it.
I was thinking I need to find someone I can bring so I don't get approached by strangers, but who won't talk to me themselves. Hmmm....of course that won't be possible, but I'd love it.... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/12/2008 10:10:45 PM | Should it really matter what other people in the bar think?
What’s important is how comfortable you feel going into a bar alone.
I eat out every night alone in my favourite restaurants. However I always pick quiet ones, as I do feel self-conscious dining alone in a busy restaurant.
Just do what you are comfortabel with.
By the way coffee shops are far better places to meet interesting people for conversation! | |
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Posted: 10/13/2008 5:56:12 AM | This thread really made me laugh. It must depend what state the "bar" is in because I posted a similiar thread about going to Vegas alone and the replies were very different. Apparently a woman should not go to Vegas alone to celebrate her birthday gamble a little and then comment on a public forum about the mens behavior. So in which Country or State is it approriate for a woman to go out alone to a bar? Some posters on another thread did not approve of me going to Las Vegas alone on my birthday. Hmmm Maybe I should ask the question on the Nevada forums | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/13/2008 12:16:57 PM |
This thread really made me laugh. It must depend what state the "bar" is in because I posted a similiar thread about going to Vegas alone and the replies were very different.
I wouldn't recommend anyone going to Vegas alone! You should always have a friend there with you to pull you away from the tables before you lay the deed to your house down. And yes one of my friends almost did it. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/13/2008 1:23:47 PM | I have been a barmaid for over 25 years, and I see a lot more women going out by themselves to bars nowadays. Not all women are going to bars to pick up men....some women go out to meet friends in a casual atmosphere where they can unwind with a few drinks and shoot the breeze after a long day at work or a trying day with the kiddies.... some like to just listen to music or sing some karaoke...some like to shoot some darts or pool....maybe even sit by themselves to just think about things happening in their lives.... cheers!  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:04:23 PM | | I have been to bars by myself. Usually after work or some work related activity to watch a sporting event. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2008 2:15:14 PM | In this day and age, and with all the freaky people out there, it probably wouldn't be a wise choice, however, it would depend largely on the neighborhood, you're in... I wouldn't go into a dive bar alone, but I might go down the Mariott and have a Cosmo or a Sea Breeze or a glass of Port if I was in the area and the mood struck me...
Suz | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/13/2008 4:57:08 PM | I have done it before and have no issues with it at all. I will do it again and I am not motivated either to hook up or an alcoholic!! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/13/2008 7:20:08 PM | My favorite blues band played at the neighborhood club I went to.
I was there to listen to the music and chat with friends I knew there.
Who cares if I went alone?
Is someone worried I would try to pick someone up?
Sometimes I think we live with the more sanitized, sophisticated Taliban where womens actions are still more suspisciously watched than mens are.
Theres still a trace of that here in the Western world.
Why would I stay home because someone thought I "shouldnt" be there because I was a woman or I must be there to pick someone up?
Thats their problem, not mine.
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