| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/27/2008 4:36:38 PM | | Speaking for ME ONLY, I have never been to a bar alone. I used to go with the girls but I quit doing that too.Now, the only time I will go is if I have a date. Sad to say but MOST men think you are there to get picked up. Me? I just went because I love to sing karaoke. Good luck! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/27/2008 7:12:15 PM | Nothing builds confidence like doing things alone. Eating out alone can be reaslly hard. I had no choice on a motorcycle trip to Alaska. Eventually you get used to it. I took a book so that I didn't have to stare off into space. A bar would be a bit different, but none the less, give it a try. If you are OK doing it, but "they" have a preoblem with it, they're not the one for you.
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/27/2008 7:25:29 PM | | I don't think there is a thing wrong with it. I also like to go to a bar, listen to some live music and drink a beer every once in a while, with no ulterior motives. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/28/2008 7:10:28 PM | | Any woman (or man) who is able to go anywhere by themselves, have a good time, and not care what others think is pretty cool. It means that you are self-confident and independent. By the way, no one would know you went by yourself unless you told them. They'd probably think you were waiting for a friend. I do prefer to go out with a friend, though. It's just more fun in case you don't strike up a conversation with anyone interesting, and in case there is any trouble, you don't have to go at it alone. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/28/2008 7:26:32 PM | | I go alot of places alone. I am confident enough- that's not IT. But frankly, it's boring and eventually men you DON'T want the attention from ASSume you are looking to be picked up. It just isn't worth the bullshit. LOL | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/29/2008 5:30:29 PM | | i think it shows your secure in yourself and you love and enjoy your time with yourself. i often eat out or go to the movies alone. i don't drink so i wouldn't go to a bar alone but if i did i would. i am extroverted enough to where i would just make conversation with the folks around me and mingle. so no, i think it just shows how self assured you are! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 10/30/2008 1:35:26 PM | | In all honesty I see no problem with women going to a bar alone, I certainly don't see them as there to 'hook up' or other such options. I just see them as a person out to relax or chill. However sadly a lot of guys do go into 'fair game' mode which really does irritate the crap out of me, due to the wonderful double standards of it. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/1/2008 7:23:20 PM | Personally, I would think it was odd... I would be wondering what her motivation was... either she's there to hook up, or she's an alcoholic... From JustJohon561..
Oh, so if a GUY goes to a bar alone, I would think it's ODD....I would be wondering what HIS motivation is...either he's there to hook up (or he has NO friends), or he's an alcoholic...GEEZ, get your head out of your ASS!!!!! What planet are YOU from?? By the way it's 2008!!!! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/2/2008 2:47:56 PM | i'm not one of those guys who attributes specific intentions to such behaviors...doing things alone is a skill that many people lack...
here's a nice story...one of my prior girl friends was deathly afraid to go out by herself even to the market...we arranged a movie date with dinner before...the catch was that we would arrive for dinner at different times and sit at different tables...after a lot of coaxing, she arrived first...when i arrived, she smiled at me, and as agreed, i sat across the room at another table...i changed things a bit when i sat with my back toward her...
later, she sent me a drink and the waiter said she wanted me to sit on the other side of the table so she could see me better...i'm sure he thought i was being picked up, so i kept quiet about our plans...after a lot of flirting from across the room, we did leave together, arm in arm...
she was so excited by that evening that we did it again 3-4 more times, and twice it was in a bar...i'd say her confidence rose dramatically and she felt a lot less alone because of those fun games we played...
if you really are alone, it can still be fun... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/2/2008 11:43:01 PM | | I guess I'm ole fashion but I will not go to a bar alone. I mean like saturday I drive myself there but I always have a male friend meet me there. Only bad thing is people think your an item. Whats worse is the ones that are your friends that meet u then think your going to go home with them. I go home alone! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/2/2008 11:56:27 PM | soo um a few months ago when I had a really bad meeting at work and went to the local pub by myself for a drink and to listen to a great little band play live that was a bad/odd thing?
people were wondering about my motivation or presuming I was looking for a hook up or an alcoholic?
SWEET! I dig it when people think entirely the wrong thing about me!
I think I'll go again! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/3/2008 6:40:23 AM |
doing things alone is a skill that many people lack....
And sadly, too. I have friends who still want me to meet them outside so they don't walk into a place alone. I mean, we're all 40+ now. Sheesh.
SWEET! I dig it when people think entirely the wrong thing about me!
I think I'll go again!
This is a big reason why I like doing things alone. Making people wonder. : ) | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/3/2008 8:48:35 AM | | i went to a bar alone just because i am a single mom and i just wanted to be around people that were taller than four feet, so i got dressed up and felt human and went out, i had to phycalogically prepare myself for "that question" and it took about an hour before a guy asked but he was really respectful about it and i said to him calmly no i am not a hooker lol i was just out to be social, i did meet alot of people that night but i think if a women goes out just prepare yourself for that question and simply answer no and try to change the converstation. but that's just my opinion | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/4/2008 7:28:24 AM | | I try not to judge people, so I accept it, and actually feel kinda sorry for her if there are more males in the bar, I wish I'd see more women out there, but I do understand it's also a safety issue. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/4/2008 8:23:40 AM |
Nothing builds confidence like doing things alone.
Wow, I must be the most confident human in the world! I actually PREFER doing things on my own, since other people complicate my life. If I feel like going out to eat at a restaurant, I do it. Road trip? I go when I want to go. I go to concerts alone quite often--I'm dancing, anyway, I don't need anyone else to have a convo with. I have to admit, though, after being in the desert for 10 days, I was talking to myself--and answering--aloud. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/4/2008 4:03:04 PM | | I see nothing wrong with it. I do it, but I am not going to drink or "hook up". I go to sing. That's it. I love to sing. There is a saloon not far from my house and there are some really incredible singers there. We take turns singing karaoke songs and we have a wonderful time. There are only a few other than myself who don't drink, and who go just to sing. I see you are from New York. Perhaps things are looked at differently in New York. I was a nightclub singer for 7 years (also in New York) so I'm pretty used to going out alone at night. I don't really care what people think either. They can think I am there to "hook up" or to drink, or whatever they wish to think, when in truth I am only there to sing and entertain people. I say, do what makes you happy. Do what makes you feel good, and don't worry so much about what others think. Life is short. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/5/2008 4:22:43 AM | | Taboo or not, I really don't care. I've certainly gone out on my own many times. I know I have to be much more careful going out by myself but I do it and I have a great time. I have a favorite place I go and there are a lot of regulars there. I'm sure the first few times I went people thought this or that about me. I really don't care. They saw me come in alone and leave alone each time so now they know that this and that are not true about me. It is fine to go out on your own but you have to know your surroundings and you have to be more careful than you would if you were out with friends that would watch out for you. GO HAVE FUN! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/5/2008 1:52:34 PM | OMG!!! I can't believe people believe this crap. So a woman can't enjoy a drink and music without being out on the prowl or needing to go to AA???? We must always travel in pairs or groups or with a man???
This really gets me riled up!! Although, I have noticed funny looks when I go out alone.
Sexism is worse than racism. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/6/2008 12:05:57 PM | I don't have a problem with it at all, and a woman who can not only go to a bar by herslef but also be able to go to the toilet by herself is a truly rare thing  . I'd be happy to by you a drink and just chat. Make me laugh and I might even buy you a bag of crisps | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/6/2008 12:35:10 PM | | I wish more women would go out alone. Then I would have more options for conversation while traveling!! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/6/2008 12:55:29 PM | | Its not taboo. It's a free country. Go to the bar, order a drink...and have fun. It's time that women embrace the fact that we dont live in Victorian England and NO, we don't need a chaperone. If anyone thinks its odd that you are in a bar alone, then its THEIR problem not yours. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/6/2008 3:25:14 PM | | I have a male friend who goes to bars alone and I have asked him if there are women who go to bars alone and he told me "yes, but they are usually crazy sluts" - now, I don't know if that is true, but apparently it is the perception of at least some guys. I think if there is some specific activity, i.e. watching a game, or a live band, then it is more accepted. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/10/2008 4:41:15 PM | | I don't feel that there's anything wrong with a woman going into a bar alone. I agree that it shows she is self-confident and independant. I do feel that one has to be careful about what type of bar he or she enters,in order to avoid problems. When I go ,I either go myself,or go with a few friends,but we always separate once inside,so it really doesn't matter. But we would always avoid the roudy ones,as a lot of drinking is all that happens here. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/11/2008 7:07:36 AM | | Yes go !! I have no problem going in alone. Typically I know some of the people there or the bartenders. I've never had anyone be rude to me. Of coarse I have a look that seems to be intimidating to men.....lol | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 11/12/2008 12:45:38 PM | | I'd think she's not affraid of drunk men. The neighborhood bar I hang out in the minute an un escorted woman sits down at the bar some drunk wanna be casinova buys her a drink. I don't go to the bar to meet new "friends" so I fall into the really don't give a s??t. If you're over thirty and care about what strangers in a bar think about you . It's time to give up addopt 30 cats and quit socializing with any one. | |
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