| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:50:09 PM | | It all depends which bar. In a local bar where a woman may go more often to see friends again and/or do stuff, where she's known in other words, it should not be a problem at all. If you intend to meet someone and you go to a bar to do this, your pretty much shopping and , you know, why not? It may be that the one love of your life could walk into that bar. Why miss that moment? You can always say NO to the rest, while having fun anyway. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:48:23 PM | | The best place to go when you are alone is a 4-5 star hotel bar if you are alone. Since I travel ALOT it is ordinary to be seen there alone and it's REALLY easy to find conversation. Then when you're done you say goodnight and leave. :) For guys, same thing.... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/20/2008 6:53:46 AM | I've gone to bars during three periods of the day: night, late afternoon, and in the morning/noon. I have noticed that the women who choose to come into a bar alone during the "morning/noon" period are often more safe. Maybe because during this period I mention, there's no rowdiness, and, the patrons are typically anywhere from age 40-65. Do I think a woman should or can go into a bar alone? I see no problem with it... just be cautious about the timing of the day and the reputation of the bar as well.
Be safe ladies. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/20/2008 7:09:10 AM | OP: the word "taboo" implies that you actually care what strangers that you may never see again think about you. Do you? Really?
I can say that if I ever worried about what other people thought of me, I wouldn't have had as much fun in life as I have. My motto is "Joke 'em if they can't take a ****!" :)
Hope that gives you some perspective.
Brian | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/24/2008 7:59:17 PM | | Women go to bars alone for the same reasons a lot of men do.....Because you are traveling for work and it's something to do besides sit in a boring hotel room. Some of you guys need to get out of the old fashion way of thinking. Just because a female goes into a bar alone does not mean she has a drinking problem or is trying to get laid. Grow up! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/24/2008 9:03:02 PM | I had no idea going to bars on your own as a single woman was taboo!
If I had, I would have probably ignored it... 
I go to bars by myself (and have for years) and usually end up seeing someone I know out and about or someone who knows someone I know and I'll end up hanging out with them or just having a good time on my own...
Sure you have to be more careful about who you accept drinks from and walking to and from the bar but thats just stuff you have to deal with in order to go out.... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/24/2008 11:49:43 PM | If i see a girl alone at a bar, chances are she will be grabbed up before the nite is over so i let the sharks have her.
Besides, a bar is a horrible place to go meet women. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/25/2008 2:29:51 AM | | Hmmm... at the bar my friends and I go to, the sharks know to leave us alone. We don't go there to meet guys... just to dance, listen to music and see our friends. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/25/2008 4:10:06 PM | | I don't think there's anything wrong with you going alone if you want to. If anyone there seems to have a problem with it, that's their problem, not yours. I'm not a bar person myself, but if you enjoy going out for a few drinks by yourself, then do so. Stop worrying about what others think. It's 2008 girl. Go out and have fun. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 12/25/2008 6:54:34 PM | I go out dancing all the time alone. But, I go to one club that I've been going to for years. That way people know me(bartenders, managers)...and the regulars. They know I'm just there to dance. It's gotten around not to even bother me apparently. I do once in awhile meet someone interesting, but it's rare...but again for me, it's another dancing outlet.
But when I tell this to men, they usually do get this idea that I'm a party girl, even though I don't drink and never been drunk. It's hard for people to understand my passion for dancing. And I certainly don't meet manymen who can keep up with me on the dance floor, or who even want to.
So until the day i can afford my own home dance studio....I'm going to keep going out dancing....either alone or with friends...it's just my thing. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/2/2009 10:02:00 PM | | WTF???? ... this is the most chauvanistic thing i have heard in a long time! Perhaps there is NO agenda! Perhaps she is damned tired working 2 jobs and sitting at home alone on the weekend! Looking for sex: Perhaps she hasn't had sex in over 2 years and just doesn't G.O.S about it one way or the other anymore. Serious alcohol issues: Perhaps the ONLY time she drinks is when she goes out! Looking to get preggo (preggo? now that's a classic 50's term!): Perhaps she had cancer and had a hysto 15 years ago and can't get pregnant. Trying to piss her 'ex' off: if he is an 'x' then somebody must have already pissed somebody off enough for them to be ex's anyway and why would either of them G.O.S what the other does? 'up-to-something'? Yeah, probably up to about 5' 3" and pretty tired of looking at the 4 walls inside the place where she lives. Perhaps she just wants a little human interaction, or conversation (which by the way you cannot get at the movies), or to feel that she is still a part of the world. And perhaps she just wanted a little company and a beer while she watched the Gators kick ass this season! Why does she have to be 'up to someting'?, because if it were a man, he would be? Get Real! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/2/2009 11:09:57 PM | i don't think many women go to bars on there own because of social attitudes........like you i have sometimes been stuck for a friend to go out with and thought about going it alone........
my friends, family and some i've dated have been horrified that i would even consider it........
funny how for men it's ok to go to the local on there own for a few and no one comments yet if a women wants to we are thought off as being on the pull or looking to pick up..........................cavemen attitudes | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:24:00 AM | | Okay, I assume we are not talking about sliding by my local watering hole alone for a quick glass of wine after work? Cuz that is TOTALLY normal. I have to say, if I were really out on the town, I would wonder where the girls friends are. Why doesn't she have some girls to hang with if she doesn't have a date or a significant other? I have such an awesome bunch of girls that its pretty much impossible one of them wouldn't want to come out to play. Now, I would wonder, but also give her the benefit of the doubt because.... When I was first divorced I moved back to my hometown after a long absence and most of my small circle of friends were married. I've made some ab-fab single friends since that time (past two years); but at that early time, I'd go to a bar where an old friend bar tends by myself. I'd pretty much just strike up a conversation with anyone interesting looking - male or female - who happened to be sitting nearby, but I am super confident and sociable...probably too much so. When I was ready to leave, I'd have a bar employee walk me back to my car a nearby parking garage. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2009 6:37:20 AM | | dont go to bar by your self anymore , call me ... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:08:05 AM | | I have no qualms about going out alone...if I go out alone then I can leave with out checking to see if the other person wants to stay or leave .. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:30:11 PM | Oh I so understand your situation. I was just having this conversation with a friend of mine the other day.
I think I've come to the conclusion that it really depends on the type of bar you are are going to hang out at.
I absolutly think that you should be able to stop in, have a drink to relax, and listen to music. I also think that it would be easier to go to a particular bar with a friend, work up a relationship with the bartender(s), that way...when you go in on your own...you aren't "on your own".
It's not "taboo"... I think it is just "uncomfortable". | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:27:07 PM | I don't even like going to bars with friends....bars give me the heeby geebies.
yes, i know that might make me odd, but it's the way i am | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/4/2009 12:01:27 AM | | I think that regardless of how it looks, it's just not safe. I don't care so much about what people think I'm up to, but I do care that someone thinks because I'm alone I can be taken advantage of. I don't put myself in a situation like that. I only go alone if I'm going to know people there...in other words, meeting friends. I don't go to hang out by myself. I'm just a little too cautious, I guess. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/10/2009 4:52:31 PM | I often go out on my own. Most of my friends are now in relationships and I find myself sitting at home alone on a Saturday night.
I only go to places I know will have a lot of people. I do feel self concience if people notice me walking in and sitting on my own!
It can be a bit weird to begin with, but I always find people to chat to throughout the night, and have met some lovely people (and of course a lot of sleazes)
If people ask who I am here with, I usually say i came with a friend/s but they left and went home.
I do not have a problem going out on my own at all. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/11/2009 5:00:04 PM | | I tend to out by myself because I like to people watch, and chat, and move around, and not be tied to someone else's schedule. But even when I do go with friends, I still tend to meet new people and find out things about them. That's why I go out, to meet people. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:55:18 PM | I go by myself all the time. I go out for different reasons each time, but always have the confidence to handle any problem. 9 times out of 10 I go somewhere within a mile of my apartment.
Tonight I'm here at my local B-Dub in my sweatshirt and jeans for some wireless internet. Its lovely here actually. Nice and quiet :) I love people watching, and having the freedom to come and go on my own time. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/11/2009 7:23:51 PM | it is up to you as a person. i have gone out alone and looked. i have even gone out for a glass of wine and read but looked. is that weird. i just wanted to be out. it is called independence
be well | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:20:12 PM | | I worked at a little local bar near my home, and I know everyone in it, I do not drink (so not an alcoholic) but love to do karoake, so I go to the bar by myself whenever I feel like just getting out of the house. Never let society or peoples opinons keep you home on a night when you want to have fun. I say go and have a great time. It beats watching reruns of law and order. | |
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