| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/12/2009 1:35:12 PM | Absolutely fine....I bartend on weekend some....Its never out of the ordinary..I see it all the time. I know alot of these women and they are there just to chilll and have fun.. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:13:17 AM | | I think the truth of the matter is that men will more readily approach a woman by herself than if she was with her friends. It's always a bit nerve wracking to approach a table full of girls to try to talk to just one of them. To me it shows that you're pretty secure in yourself in you're a woman and can go to a bar by yourself and still have a good time. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 12:20:22 AM | | I see this often actually. I do not find it odd. Guys do it, why shouldn't women be allowed too. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 2:43:22 AM | whats the worst that could happan? -maybe experience something new and fun -meet new people, new activities -(actually have a life)
-much better than staying home hiding in your cold vaculant house | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 4:28:52 AM | | Who cares what "Random Bargoer #142" thinks? Go out and have fun. Be smart and safe and you'll have plenty of good times. If someone has a negative opinion of you just for going out then you didn't really want to attract their attention in the first place, right? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:18:28 AM |
I think the truth of the matter is that men will more readily approach a woman by herself than if she was with her friends. It's always a bit nerve wracking to approach a table full of girls to try to talk to just one of them. To me it shows that you're pretty secure in yourself in you're a woman and can go to a bar by yourself and still have a good time.
This paragraph assumes women in bars actually want to be approached by men at all, or that men have anything to do with them being there. The fact that men will approach a woman alone quicker than with friends at times is exactly why women don't go out alone. Sometimes, we're not looking for company. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 7:28:36 AM | | I can't imagine wanting to be in a bar on my own and not wanting company... I get bored! You can do a bit of people watching, but if you over do it its likely to cause offence, you can read, but easier to read in the quiet at home. You cant get too drunk because you want to get home safely, so not a good idea to sit staring at your drink... so what is there to do in a bar on your own?? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:28:39 AM | ^^^Listen to the band if there is one, walk around or sit and enjoy the room and atmosphere, enjoy the DJ if there is one, watch karaoke if it's happening, people watch for hours, relax...chat sporadically with people (in passing, hopefully) - such as the bartender, people on either side of you, watch the game if you are in a sportsbar, grab apps or food if you are in a restaurant lounge, and yes read the local paper or bar trade mag if there is one. You don't even need someone to dance with you if you want to do that.
I'm sure I haven't listed everything. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 8:45:18 PM | you already know the pinnacle of your evening if you stay home and watch TV all night. now its time to change your destiny. -find a place with a great venue of entertainment.
once you have frequented the same place several times, you may notice regulars -usually in the same position as you -(just want to get out of the house) most are friendly and hoping someone new comes along and shakes things up a bit.  | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:31:21 PM | Well I can only speak for myself, but I just love going to a local watering hole, and finding the drunkest, horniest, obese and obnoxious man, strike up a riske conversation with him and drink beers until he looks good. Then I take up his invitation and go home with him, attempt sex, (which he can`t do because he is really drunk and watch him pass out) I then rifle his wallet and go home. Now that`s entertainment folks! This is my Thursday night ritual. -----------just kidding, folks! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:42:28 PM | whats the worst that could happan?
You can't be seriously asking that question. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/17/2009 10:21:10 PM | | Hello I am new to this. I have rarely seen a woman alone in a bar. A women being alone in a bar defintely creates attention. Of all places to go why go to a bar alone? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/18/2009 9:56:10 AM |
I have rarely seen a woman alone in a bar.
Ok so it's not always common but it happens.
A women being alone in a bar defintely creates attention.
Ok, but why does it? She's human, she might be able to purchase goods and services, what's the hoopla about?
Of all places to go why go to a bar alone?
"Of all places" is an interesting thing to say. How about of all places why NOT go to a bar alone (or anywhere else you have the desire to go)?
I just don't see the issue here. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/18/2009 10:18:15 AM | I went to bars alone for many years. I knew all the staff, went to all their parties. When I went during the day time or at happy hour, I often just sat and wrote and people watched and shot the sh*t with the bartender. Another place, I'd go and eat lunch and watch a movie with the bartender.
My friends would most often show up later in the night. Once you've been going awhile, you get to know people and feel safe. It's just another place to hang on a Friday night if you feel like it.
Too many people have a negative connotation about bars. Everyone seems to think they are meat markets and everyone is there for just one thing. I've never felt that way. It's all how you see something. I ignore that crap and just do my own thing.
As for someone picking me up, depending what I was doing no one would bother me, especially if I was writing. Some nights I felt like meeting new men, so I didn't stay within my own little space (a space created by my body vibe and dependant on where I sat) and walked around chatting to people.
As i've mentionned in other threads, my signals are usually very clear, so a man will only try once with me. I've seen some women in bars unable to get rid of some man chasing after them, grinding into them. I've never had a problem getting rid of that type of attention. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/18/2009 10:47:07 AM | I wont go to bars on my own, as i feel like a goldfish in a goldfish bowl with everyone looking at me and talking about me... thing is i always assume they talking about me and looking at me cos I am ugly or something. I never feel comfortable meeting people at a pub and tend to meet them in the car park so i dont have to walk in alone.. The scene from american werewolf in london springs to mind when they walk into the pub and all the talking stops and everyone turns to stare......!!!!!
I dont whether i feel this way becuase I feel intimidated knowing its men looking at me, or what!
any girls in the GU14 area that would like to go to a pub for evenings out but too shy like me give me a buzz!!! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:33:31 PM | | Who gives a flying fiddlers **** what others think do your own thing.... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/23/2009 9:48:20 AM | I don't see anything wrong with it. Just keep in mind that it is true that a lot of men and women go to bars to get drunk and/or take someone home.
A lot of people don't really know where else to look to find people. At a bar, you find new people all the time. I don't do much drinking, so the bar is not my favorite place to be.
I would just suggest being careful whether you are a man or woman, especially if out late; otherwise, if it's what you want do, then go do it and have fun! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/25/2009 10:01:22 AM | | Honestly yes women going to a bar alone are looked apon like they are there to pick up any guy. Better to take up something that you can go to alone like salsa, you can go to a latin event where there is dancing alone and noone will think its strange if you came to dance or even sit around drinking when the class is finished if you are a beginner thats quite usual. Other things like museums dating meets tours etc are acceptable but just going to a bar is something that although you can do it; its looked apon as strange especially by men | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/25/2009 12:24:31 PM | I think it depends on what type of bar it is, if its a meat market bar yeah, most guys would think you're there to meet someone for a little leg, but its it local watering hole, I wouldn't think its odd, your just there to unwind with a few pints or drinks.
If its a bar that has a lot of live music or dancing, I wouldn't think its odd, im sure some people do, but then again some people claimed they've seen Elvis too? just do what you think is right. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/25/2009 1:32:27 PM |
I wont go to bars on my own, as i feel like a goldfish in a goldfish bowl with everyone looking at me and talking about me... thing is i always assume they talking about me and looking at me cos I am ugly or something.
i feel the same way in the beginning. however, i always go to bars with a friend/co-worker first before i go back alone. then i don't feel out of place. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/25/2009 1:36:24 PM |
If its a bar that has a lot of live music or dancing, I wouldn't think its odd
i go to bars for karoake or live music. then in-between singing or sets i play NTN bar games. that's a good way to meet people also. you're bonding trying to make the bar place high in the standings. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/25/2009 1:59:17 PM | Hi there,
i personally don't worry about what people think and i do go for a drink or for a meal on my own sometimes although i tend to go to places where i've been before with friends.
If you wait for other people to do things you'd wait for ever sometimes.
If people are wondering what you're doing there on your own, thats there problem not yours. They're probably just jealours of your confidence and independence.
My advice is that if you want to go out go. Once you've done it once, it gets easier.
People are more inclined to talk to you if you're on your own anyway. You can always take a paper or magazine to flick through if you feel a bit self concious initially.
But above all else keep yourself safe.
Good luck and go for it. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/25/2009 6:05:08 PM | | I don't like bars really. I still went to a VFW Hall and a pub with friends, finding guys see a woman and still try to pick her up. | |
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