| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/26/2009 6:39:22 PM | First off, where is it a bad thing for a woman to go to a bar alone? I know that women love to go dancing and have fun just as much as the guys do. Come on everyone, we are not kids anymore. We don't live with mom and dad so what is the problem here? Girl, if you want to go to a bar and have a night out and someone thinks that you're there to hook up, they are simple minded. Any man that is self-confident is not worried about his woman going to a bar alone. He should already know that she is comming home to him if that happens to be your case. I'm a musician myself and am usually branded a whore dog as it is. I don't screw around on the woman I'm with and I would expect that if she loved me she would feel the same way. I hope this helps you in my round about way lol. Good luck miss!!!!!! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/26/2009 10:26:20 PM | not putting anyone down, but i'd never go to a bar by myself. i also wouldn't go to a bar and "hopefully engage in some nice conversations and meet some new friends." as rutheright14me would.
sorry, call me a snob or what ever but that's not something i'd do. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:50:01 AM | ^^^I agree that if it's not your thing then that's fine. People who have a social streak and like hitting the bars or clubs to hang out are no better or worse than people who don't. Just makes you different, that's all. Someone would only think you're a snob if you think you're above it, and you didn't say that.
I think anyone going to bars alone is pretty lame.
Well, thank goodness for those of us who don't care what anyone else thinks. Something like that might have some sort of effect.
If people think I am out alone to be picked up, they soon learn by watching me politely turn down the men who try and talk to me, and watch me leave alone like I came in. If they think I am there to get drunk, they soon learn when they see me leave after 1 or 2 drinks (or order a bottle of water).
Again, I have had men (who are also alone) ask me if I am ok because I am alone. I respond by asking if they are, since they are alone as well, with a puzzled look on my face. To me, there's no difference between genders in this case if you are, why would you comment on me doing the same?
So, what people think you're there to do doesn't matter when it doesn't pan out, and to be honestit really doesn't concern them in general. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/27/2009 11:48:48 AM |
I think anyone going to bars alone is pretty lame.
I think the opposite, myself. People who refuse to go to them alone are the kind of people that can't do much of anything alone, and are more likely to be the clingy types in a romantic relationship. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:49:48 PM | if your whiney, high maintenance of afraid of your own shadow, i would suggest it be easier for you stay home on fridays with your seventeen cats, microwaving a cold can of cream of mushroom soup and watching reruns of ghost whisperer, -wondering why guys aren't beating your door down? -yeah, i wonder...
-cuz the rest of us are looking for women out to make her own fun without regards to risk, who can think on their own feet, have an open mind and try anything at least once -maybe twice if she likes it | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 1/27/2009 8:23:43 PM | I'm with you. Sometimes, I'd just like to go for a drink and be out and about. I don't get out very often, and don't have a lot of friends who are single, but I feel uncomfortable going to a pub by myself.
Is it worse though,to ask someone you don't really want to hang out with to go with you so you at least get a chance to go out? | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/12/2009 4:23:00 PM | Who cares what other people think? You do what feels right for you is the bottom line. Apparently you have something going on that requires other people to have a dire need to talk/gossip about you. NOW if you are acting like an incoherent socially inept being, then that's a totally different topic! But the last time I looked, bar signs said: "Must be wearing a shirt in order to be served"...it never said anything about being a "lone" women.
yep, gl! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/12/2009 7:12:52 PM | | There is no problem with going to a bar by yourself. I've done it milllions of times. Who said that you have to go out with someone. I was always taught to be my own party. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/14/2009 10:26:08 PM | | And I'm even more lame. I go to bars by myself even thought I don't drink. I have since I was 19. I talk to the bartenders and other patrons, people watch, enjoy the music, what's wrong with that. In some parts of the country, like where I live now, bars are the ONLY place for adults without kids to socialize. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/15/2009 9:23:38 AM | | Go to the bar, club, movies, sports pub...whatever you want. If you waste time considering how others will feel about you doing something you want to do, then you are wasting time that you could have been enjoying yourself. Life is way too short to worry what others think. Be yourself! As long as you are comfortable in your own skin, who cares. And if they have a problem with it...........then it's their problem, let them deal with it. Have a life and enjoy it! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/15/2009 3:30:57 PM | | One time I had gone out to a bar by myself because I had just broken up with a man and I needed to get out of the house. While I was there some old guy tried to hit on me. Needless to say I am not that kind of person so his efforts were in vain. Anyway it seems like men can go out alone and nothing is said about it and they can talk to whomever they want and they have no problems when they do this. But yes women are always viewed incorrectly and it is sad. I would like to go out and just watch the people but it isn't safe to be alone in this world anymore so I have not done that for quite sometime. If you need someone to go out with just e me and I'll go. It would be better than sitting here all alone. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2009 3:34:30 PM | | I don't drink when I go to bars either. I just want to be around adults having a good time. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/17/2009 10:37:58 PM | | Yes, it is. Going out to a bar alone was the best thing I ever did. I screwed up the courage, and just went. that was in October, yes, I've had to field a lot of pigs, but I also met a nice guy or two and got a girlfriend, who was also lonely and going out alone. Now we go together and have a ball socializing, dancing and meeting men. For the record, neither one of us drinks. I have met all kinds of people, have become a regular at a few places. I did have one male friend said it gave out the wrong signals - his problem, not ours. I think what they think is a good filter for how sexist they are in general. Men are men, they behave like men, they will try, just say no. accept them, love them, but don't put up with abusive behaviour. There are nice guys out there, you have to get off the couch, quit feeling sorry, ashamed, embarrassed etc. JUST DO IT!!!! You can come out with me anytime! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/17/2009 10:40:05 PM | | I don't drink either. See my other posting, maybe all us women alone should get together en masse.......... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/17/2009 10:48:47 PM | Contrary to popular belief, people do have the ability to emit and follow through with whatever flights their fancy...which may differ from one to another...go figure....
When I go to a bar alone...I go to drink cheap whiskey out of a dirty shot glass... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/17/2009 11:19:47 PM | It's really not a big deal... but really it depends on the type of bar. there are classy bars, pubs, and dance bars, and crappy bars. the crappy ones are where the women might look " "! | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/17/2009 11:43:13 PM | | If your confident enough to do that alone, then more power to you, I just think it's something of a double standard, I go to the bar by myself and have never thought anything of it, nor would I really care if someone did:) | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/27/2009 7:17:21 AM | | Damn..... you mean people like you still exsist? Lookie... it's not the easiest thing in the world , to walk in when you're alone-anywhere. My suggestion? Stay home, die of lonliness, don't go where people are having fun or where you can share a laugh and maybe, just maybe, meet a new friend. Done it thousands of times- maybe some more, too. That's really the least of my worries!!!!!! Go early-ish and you've got a good seat, try Thursday or Sunday- slower, less pick up artists ( read slime). | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 2/27/2009 3:20:26 PM | | I think I'd go if I felt like it and would not worry about what anyone else thought about it... | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 3/1/2009 10:46:02 AM | | The way I see it... if you go to a bar alone and I go to a bar alone it just gives me better opportunities for conversation outside of the bartender. I'll be at the bar at 8!..lol. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 3/1/2009 12:37:53 PM | | I believe that it is perfectly ok for a woman to go out to a bar or club alone. your friends are not always available so a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. | |
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| Women going to bars alone
Posted: 3/1/2009 12:44:23 PM | | There is a nice little bar/restaurant in my neighborhood about a block from my home. I go there once in awhile to have a glass of wine or beer, some wings and just chat with other people from the neighborhood. They have a band on Friday nights and have gone there for that too. Why should I sit home alone? I don't go there to pick anyone up and when I do go there, the owners know me and it is just a nice, friendly atmosphere. It is nice that it is within walking distance and if it gets late, the owner makes sure someone is available to walk me home. Has never been a problem for me with anyone thinking I am there for anything but having a nice time. No one has ever been rude or given me the impression that I am a bad person for going out alone. Good grief, sometimes the dog just can't hold a conversation and I need to get out of the house! LOL Guess you just have to pick your bars carefully. I would not go to a "meat market" bar by myself. I do lots of things on my own, if you don't, you are just going to sit home alone and never have any fun. Who cares what anyone else thinks, just be aware of your surroundings and have fun. | |
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What is up with all of these overgeneralizations and stereotypical ideologies from the 1950s? Good grief. If I feel like I need time outside of home, I'm tired of the gym, I'm not interested in a movie and/or I might want to get lost in noise and do a little people watching, I go to wherever it is I feel like going. If that happens to be a bar, so be it. I don't date those I meet in that setting and I'm certainly not looking to get nakie-nakie. If someone's perception of my destination of choice is skewed, I'd say that speaks much more about them than me. JMO 
