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 *Cowboy*
Joined: 4/28/2006
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Crap Darlin! LOL You could of called him when he was driving home and told him how wonderful it was!

Your way to worried about trivial things. Trust me here... LOL You had his weenie inside ya? You can now call him the next day. (wink)

Rules... (long sigh....) Who wrote these dating rules anyway?

Cowboy
 brown_eyed_woman
Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 27
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:46:31 PM
"I want to take these points a little farther... You're comfortable getting naked and having his genitals inside of your genitals.... Yet - You're uncomfortable calling him afterwards?

Which act is more intimate:

Having sweaty sex or calling someone?
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Has to be one of the most sensible posts I have seen in a long time.
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
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Posted: 10/9/2008 1:26:39 PM
If you had a great night of sex with the guy....call him. You may end up high in the next weeks scheduling book. First call...first serviced...Take em' in the order they are received....LOL

In all honesty, it's nice to receive a call indicating that you did have a very pleasurable adventure the night before. Sometime things are crazy per meetings, appointments, etc., in the morning. It's always truly nice to receive a "thank you" call.
 JulieC29
Joined: 6/16/2008
Msg: 29
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 1:33:48 PM
lpkd - I agree. I think it's good to want to call ,but early on, I think the woman should try her hardest to wait for the guy to call. If he's interested, he lets you know by calling. If he's not, he won't call.

I guess after reading He's Just Not that into You a few times I've figured it out and it works for me. Yes, after a date or a good time I want to call the guy, but there is something with a lot of guys I know who don't want to be pursued, they want to be pursuing the woman.

I have noticed whenever I am more of the risk taker and the one to make the calls or ask the guy to do something, it just doesn't work out as well.

Just my opinion, but I guess I am tired of wasting time on guys who I shouldn't have bothered with in the first place. I put too much effort into things and I get little out of it.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
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Posted: 10/9/2008 1:40:57 PM

Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?

I forgot how this works. If I have sex, great sex, good sex, sleeper sex, etc., it's likely he's still there the next day (or maybe I'm still there.) Just call him OP. Yes, the after-the-fact-call classifies, I think.
 bsg789
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 31
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 1:46:57 PM

I agree. I think it's good to want to call ,but early on, I think the woman should try her hardest to wait for the guy to call. If he's interested, he lets you know by calling. If he's not, he won't call.


I don't necessary agree with this. Sometimes you can miss out on a good oppurtunity by being too passive. Some men might get eventually tired of always initiating the conversation. Some men might like a woman, but are shy or are afraid of rejection.
 Dee_44107
Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 32
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 5:34:19 PM
Sure, why not, especially if the sex was great. Don't by shy...call me!!! lol
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 33
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 6:03:21 PM
Waiting silently in the weeds to see how this one is answered.....
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
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Posted: 10/9/2008 6:59:59 PM
Are we talking about a first or second date romp, or something which took some time, involved the chase and the get-to-know-you phase.....you know, like a progression where both liked and were attracted to each other, were comfortable and looking forward to it? Something where it took a fair amount of time, i.e. beyond a month or two of dating.





~ds~
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 35
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 7:09:39 PM
Realized I have forgotten what it's like to even wake up after having had sex, (let alone a night of GREAT sex!) I realize it will be a very long time before I need to think about whether to call or not call....

Dammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmit!!!!



I do not think I would phone.
I might wish to.
I may even look at it a few times
but....

no, I probably wouldn't.
Not the NEXT day.

I might send cookies though.
That'd be nice wouldn't it?
Yep. Definitely send cookies.
 *Cowboy*
Joined: 4/28/2006
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Posted: 10/9/2008 7:59:05 PM
babe! LMAO
I might send cookies though. That'd be nice wouldn't it?
Yep. Definitely send cookies


Crap Babe! If I had know there were cookies involved I would be on a bus to Iowa tomorrow! LOL

smooches

Cowboy
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
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Posted: 10/9/2008 8:15:52 PM
Dayum.....what IS it about food that is so erotic???

OP, find out if he's willing to stay all night so that the two of you can get up and cook breakfast TOGETHER....not one making it for the other. Bake cookies together in the late morning and feed each other as they come out of the oven....then, go grocery shopping together in the afternoon and have the butcher cut a couple steaks rather than picking a couple out of the case.....go down the ice cream aisle together for dessert later....then, no phone calls needed the next day.

Dayum.....what IS it about food that is so erotic???






~ds~
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 38
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:23:30 PM
I wouldn't call him. Let him call to show that he's still interested. Men need a little space. True fact.............
 WearRed
Joined: 8/18/2007
Msg: 39
Should a woman call a guy the day after they have sex?
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:29:08 PM
I agree with auburndiva... Even I would love he call first
 TodaysCatch
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Posted: 10/10/2008 12:38:22 AM
This is princess mentality at worst, and rejection avoidance at best.

Men are expected to gallantly risk rejection, whereas women seldom do. And no, women don't have to go this far to see
how yellow they are. Let's see them approach a man that interests them some day, out of the blue. I'll bet they won't, not
because of yesterday's societal views, but because women are, by and large, gutless in courtship. They are rejection
averse, on the whole, far more than men, hence these "games" with "rules". A man that doesn't call you back after
a meeting, date or sexual encounter is probably not playing a game, you're simply projecting.

What is he thinking, if he doesn't call you? Wouldn't you like to know. Here are three possibilities with the OPs scenario:

1. The sex wasn't good for him. He pleased her, but she didn't please him, either by accident, oversight or design. Men will come
even when the sex is bad, unlike women. There is no way for her to know if he had a quality experience unless he tells her.

2. He felt under-appreciated, and you not calling him the next day makes him feel even less appreciated.

3. A combo plate of #1 and #2.

OP, we see the end result of the sexual encounter, but what went into it? Mostly, it was the man putting the effort forth. Everything from suggestion, initiation, preparation, stimulation, lubrication, erection, contraception, ejaculation, to satisfaction was probably his doing. What did the woman do? Probably less than he did toward the actual act of sex, so perhaps she handled the pre-game warm-up:
Set reservations at a restaurant, get showered, shaved and nicely dressed, show up with flowers and/or candy , compliment her date on his attire, offer to drive, open his door, make an appropriate musical selection for the ride, deliver him safely to the eatery, take his coat, palm the maƮtre d' a twenty to get a good table, pull out his chair, choose the best bottle for their meal (but don't drink more than one glass herself - she's driving), talk him into a dessert against his protests that he'll get fat, pay the entire bill without drama, and return him safely to his domicile, where she would hope to be invited up for a night cap and the happy event that the OP described.

Don't tell me she let the man do all that too?

And now she has to wonder whether to call the next day because it's not about him and his thoughtfulness, it's about her and her gutlessness. She can't handle discovering that he just isn't in to her. The thought of thanking him is overlooked, because of course he should be thanking her for the wonderful evening that she allowed to happen. He waits for a "thank you" that never comes, and she waits for an invitation for another date that never comes. Both think a little less of the opposite sex, and add a bit of baggage to their lives.

The answer is to always call the next day to express your appreciation, because it's the courteous thing to do. You don't have to be brave to do that, just genuine. Chicken out, because you can't separate a courteous gesture from some twisted game of courtship that he's not playing, and you stand to lose. Thank him sincerely, and you may win. He may accept your gratitude kindly, and offer you another date, a sure sign that he likes you. If he doesn't, that's tough, but then that's life, and just know that every guy has endured similar rejection many more times than you ever will in your life, so get over it.
 pirateheaven
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Posted: 10/10/2008 12:54:24 AM
Gangster Kitten nailed it when he said...


I want to take these points a little farther... You're comfortable getting naked and having his genitals inside of your genitals.... Yet - You're uncomfortable calling him afterwards?

Which act is more intimate:

Having sweaty sex or calling someone?
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 10/10/2008 4:51:28 AM

Men are expected to gallantly risk rejection, whereas women seldom do. And no, women don't have to go this far to see how yellow they are. Let's see them approach a man that interests them some day, out of the blue. I'll bet they won't, not
because of yesterday's societal views, but because women are, by and large, gutless in courtship.

Don't speak for all women, dude. I not only approach men I like, I prefer that to men approaching me. Then again I don't see it as accept/reject. Someone who barely knows me can't "reject" me. It's more that they aren't attracted to me, that's no one's fault, it's just a mismatch or one sided deal. Nothing to sweat over.

They are rejection averse, on the whole, far more than men, hence these "games" with "rules". A man that doesn't call you back after a meeting, date or sexual encounter is probably not playing a game, you're simply projecting.

Um, did you read the OP? According to her he actually did call her...
 GoneSailinBabe
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 10/10/2008 5:12:14 AM
I'm sorry, I was thinking with my Princess Mentality....so I missed the part in etiquette class that said the female of the coupling should phone the next day to express her appreciation and gratitude for the great sex?!?!?!?!

Ha!
HA!
HA HA HA!

WTF?

Did your parents teach you this creedo during "the Talk"?

Ah and after we thank him with sincere appreciation and gratitude we should silently wait with breath held, and body trembling whilst wondering what - what magical elixir of love will spill from the lips that kissed so sweetly the nite before?



He may accept your gratitude kindly, and offer you another date, a sure sign that he likes you. If he doesn't, that's tough, but then that's life


Frickering What the Mighty Fukkerstick planet did you fall from?

I heartily shout with zest - BULLSHYTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You, sir, overly complicate and emasculate your own manhood, and in one feel swoop made most people with testicles look azz like with your spouting.

Withdraw it - at once.
Or simply claim to have smoked some foreign herb and we'll forgive all.
Ok, well not quite all.

But we will not deem you undateable - as yet.


Cowboy...baking today....milk chocolate chip and peanut butter chips....and I didn't have any wild and crazy bed sheet melting sex either....simply had a craving!

And going with it!
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 Lucky_dog
Joined: 9/22/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 10/10/2008 6:41:32 AM
[/I might send cookies though.
That'd be nice wouldn't it?
Yep. Definitely send cookies.]

I think this is sound advice. A thoughtful loving gesture is so much more romantic than a phone call. And cookies who doesn't like cookies. I want some cookies. would be a pleasure to earn them too!
 phishkev
Joined: 9/19/2008
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Posted: 10/10/2008 7:47:31 AM
Why not? I see no problem there...at least you let him know it was "magical!"
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 46
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Posted: 10/10/2008 8:30:51 AM
Since I treat women as equals, I think it ought to be a matter of who gets around to calling first not a matter who should call whom. If you want to talk to him, take the initiative and call. That being said, you could svoid the question entirely by staying together until morning and then making plans for dinner.
 The _Fun_Guy
Joined: 1/28/2006
Msg: 47
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Posted: 10/10/2008 9:01:16 AM
Why should men make all the 1st moves? It would be nice to hear from a woman that you spend time with to call and let you know how you feel the next day just in case there were some possibility of it being a valid question.

Hopefully you will get asked out again and develop yet another wonderful experience.

Just go for it!

 good kitty
Joined: 2/21/2008
Msg: 48
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Posted: 10/10/2008 9:11:29 AM
If you're sleeping with someone you're in relationship with and know a while, you should be comfortable talking to him before and after sex.

One night stand?
Not my thing, but if it was goooood, call and schedule next meet.
If it wasn't - why bother?
 sdb1
Joined: 10/6/2008
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Posted: 10/10/2008 9:33:07 AM
Well, was it a one nite stand with no strings? or have you been dateing and you desided the time was rite? if it was a one niter,then dont call the next day, wait for him or at least a day or two! ! if your dating then yes call and tell him he rocked your world, he'll like that!
 TodaysCatch
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Posted: 10/10/2008 9:50:27 AM

Or simply claim to have smoked some foreign herb and we'll forgive all.

Yeah, I had some of those cookies you sent over before writing that. What was in 'em? I had cottonmouth and
the munchies all night . . .

I always thank women after a date, or sex or any thoughtful gesture on their part. The reverse is not always the case the case, and my
bachelor friends relate the same experiences time and again. Women that are partner material, not princesses, are thoughtful enough to thank their date, or fling, or what have you, because it's the right thing to do. Wouldn't you thank a friend that put money, time and effort into entertaining you? Why should it be any different for a lover? As for the follow-up review and prospects for future flings, these are modern times - call him if you want.
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