| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/10/2008 1:56:39 PM | I couldn't see my self lasting very long with a woman that had a problem with getting oral! Who am I kidding. I would probably get dressed and leave!
It is easy for me to perform oral for hours and then just roll over and go to sleep!
I find giving it that satisfying!
Show me a squirter and I'll show you a dehydrated woman! | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/10/2008 2:36:38 PM | I have a couple of friends who say they don't like to receive oral. All of them had a normal upbringing, no out-of-the-ordinary bad things happened to them--they just don't like it.
In fact, they say that it annoys the hell out of them that every man says to them"Oh, you just haven't had anyone eat you like me!" and then proceed to chow down with no effect on them. They can cum great with vaginal.
It's simply to each his own. There doesn't have to be a reason someone doesn't like certain sex acts. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/10/2008 4:55:53 PM | "Biggest thing I think is to reinforce how much you WANT to be there, and WANT to be doing it, and how BEAUTIFUL she is, and how YUMMY she tastes,..."
Yeah my guy says that.. every time. I still end up crying and trying to pull away.
Although.. now it's entering my dreams. He's brainwashing me!
I'll still take giving it to receiving it ANY day. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/10/2008 8:57:11 PM | Most interesting reading I have done all day. Thanks heaps. You sure can learn a heck of a lot in these forums.
My two cents: Heck, give me clitorial sex anyday. That just about drives me around and around and around, eyes crossed and moaning. And I think me being on top is totally the BEST of all positions. I have a clear memory of one episode-----------UMMMMMMMMMMM to the MAX.
As far as oral goes, love it. I like spontaneous sex too. Young men are the BEST and I do mean young. I don't want to discuss sex positons and all that before the main event. BORING!!! Just do your thing. IF I don't like anything I will open my mouth (if I can) and let you know and I won't be rude about it either.
These days, my limbs are not that agile but I manage still to be excited. I do NOT like men who don't have manners though. Ya still gotta be aware of that. Not superficial, just be strong, yet gentile too. Am I asking too much? | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/10/2008 10:07:11 PM |
I ask this question, because some men believe that if they cannot make a woman orgasm from their efforts during intercourse, they are deficient lovers. I have never quite understood this, but I think it's accurate. For me, the end result isn't always me. Well, most often it isn't about me. That is very troubling to some men. Some people are givers, some are takers, some are both. I think it really boils down to something very simplistic: sexual compatibility. I have to be with someone who thinks similar to me or we're likely going to be having some real issues in the intimacy department.
I've observed the similar, some smaller men (really small) really push oral when in my opinion they should figure how to best use what they have or just have confidence that we will have fun playing around... After the warm-up, anything is possible and the sky is the limit...really it is! | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/11/2008 11:08:33 PM | Young men are the BEST and I do mean young.
I beg to differ that younger men are better. The experiences that I have had with oral on myself is older men know exactly what they are doing. (won't take anything away from younger men)
I'm a giver by nature, so that has been what I'm used too. It's not that I don't like receiving oral, it's just I haven't received it as much as I have given. My ex wasn't really into performing oral. He loved to receive, but when it came time for him to put up or shut up, it was him down there long enough to get the wetness started.
I can count on 1 hand the number of guys that have really pushed me to the cum point with oral stimulation and most of them are older men. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/12/2008 9:02:03 AM | The only reason I could see any woman ever not wanting oral sex is if their partner had bad oral hygine! Dirty teeth - ugly teeth - bad breath - I wouldn't want that mouth on my genitals! | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 12:27:56 PM | Of course, everybody is different, but I would venture to say that the vast majority of women who make such claim are just at the receiving end of bad performers.
Let's face it: many, many men (if not most) think they are incredibly good at it, and I would take a wild guess that just one out of ten has what it takes.
It all ends up the same way: she gets incredibly bored, starts noticing the stain in the ceiling, the wrinkle in the curtain, the chip on her toenail...and decides to fake it, loudly, unabashedly, to then pretend she has become too damn sensitive and hence get a good excuse to jump to the main course...or just sya that she doesn't like it.
But it is not me to be negative, so let me drop a hint or two:
* Start light on the pressure. If she needs more, she will push your head or otherwise signal you, but unless she does, remain as gentle as you can.
* Speed and variation are good, but if you find one in which she remains extremely silent, still and shocked, stay there. The key is to keep it going.
* If you get tired, don't remain in a slow monotonous motion, instead get off for a moment and continue with your hands, until you can resume.
* Talk to her. You don't need to get nasty if it isn't your style, but words have a "double-speed" turn on power for most.
*Squeeze her tights, her buttcheeks, her waist, to pump blood circulation towards the area and increase her sensation.
Good luck ;) | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 12:42:50 PM | Greeneyez - Ninki isn't the only one!! I can only assume it had something to do with masterbation - I learned after 40 - that using a vibrator to orgasm can actually train your body to orgasm through intercourse. Good to know! After 20 years O-less, I can now pretty much O on demand! (Thank God too!) | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 1:21:45 PM | OP as annoying as it is! And if you are good at it, it REALLY can be annoying! Because you want to make sure she is pleasured before you start worrying about your own satisfaction, right?
Your question is as valid as why do some people not like chocolate? They just don't and having been guilty before as the lady just intimated the more you ask the more annoying it is going to get! Just let it be!
Too much direct access may be too intense, however! It may pay once the relationship is safe enough to go for the all over body massage and see if gentle localised attention may be able to get you in close proximity to the area without going overboard on the direct approach. For some women either through material or stimulation close to the area is as close as she can bear!
Do they use vibrators, may be worth knowing, thereby confirming that too much direct stimulation is not appreciated!
Good luck mate!
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 1:51:13 PM | Seriously.... It's all about timing!
If I've been running around all day, its 30+ degrees out there, the humidy is killing me, I feel like a sweat hog and haven't showered in more than 2 or 3 hours..... You're not coming near me!!!!!!!
Women like to 'feel fresh' when receiving - if they don't, they may just lie and say they don't feel like it.
Just my 2 cents
A guy who says he doesn't care either way and then *shows* me..... | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:24:59 PM | OP Left the building.
To those that think it is just because we haven't had someone that does it well. Are you saying that to women that say they can't orgasm by having regular vaginal sex? Some people enjoy jogging or running, I prefer to ride a bike. Everyone is different! Just because you like green eggs and ham, doesn't mean I do. I prefer waffles and bacon (Canadian bacon of course). Because you like something doesn't mean everyone else does. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 4:16:09 PM | Add me to the list.
Oral is nice. But that's all. Just nice. It's a nice lil part of foreplay. But it has never gotten me anywhere near orgasm...and yes I've been with guys who took their time and knew what they were doing.
HINT: Women aren't all built the same - not even down there. And sensitivity varies b/t people too.
Example maybe a man can understand: 2 guys who like BJs. One says "gentle, gentle, just mouth it, don't even suck. Just move your mouth up and down it." He also cums rather quickly and easily during intercourse. The other says "suck it hard, really hard...can't hurt this thing, and mostly suck on the head of it, that's where it's the most sensitive". He takes a long time to cum during intercourse and really enjoys shallow thrusting for part of the time.
Yes, 2 guys I've been with. Totally like different kinds of oral on their penises.
I suspect that I'm like guy #2 with my lil clit. I suspect it requires faster and longer stimulation than a mouth/tongue can give. I know this b/c I have many times masturbated with a non-vibrating toy and it takes 4-ever and my hand gets really tired. My vibrator does a much better job (and fwiw, the non-vibrating toy came years and years first).
So sure, lick me if you wish...but remember it's foreplay, not gonna be the main event. Don't get me wrong, it's a huge turn on to watch a guy do that to me...I like it. But if you get all "OH I'm not stopping til you cum" on me, I'm just gonna get pissed off. Get dressed and leave, lol.
And if you are a "giver"...you can "giver" in other ways, ya know...kissing, nipple sucking, neck sucking, breast touching, belly/thigh kissing, tushie fingering/touching, etc...
And, again, fwiw, I cum quite well w/intercourse...hit that G-spot and I"ll soak ya! and I LOVE LOVE LOVE to have sex...I am pretty sure I'm not really missing out on anything.
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 4:16:58 PM | | For me all I can say is I have a hard time finding a man to please me. Some guys just think a little back and forth of the tongue will make u go "AHHHH" . There are other forms of play that I would rather. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 4:30:53 PM | | Well for my experiance it can happen but you still have put a pillow or two under her so that your in a position (angle) that will hit her g spot best feeling ever. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 4:44:12 PM | | Honestly, I could care less about receiving oral. I don't give it, and I don't receive it, either. If I'm in a loving, romantic relationship one of these days, and my partner wants to go down on me, then I just might let him. But it's not something that I would fret, and make a big deal out of. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 4:46:19 PM | I know Im very heisitant to let a guy go down on me. I have had just countless bad oral. Gosh makes me think is it really that hard? LOL
Dont get me wrong it happens every now and again....
In answer to your question, its not rare its quite common and as far as overcoming alot of communication is necessary with your partner. Direction and dislikes.. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 5:23:39 PM | I don't understand why some women don't like oral. I love it very much !!!!!!! And I also love giving him some oral.
I can 69 all night long, one of my fave positions besides the doggie  | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 7:14:57 PM | http://women.webmed.com/features/below-belt-gynecology-secrets-you-need-to-know?page=4
When I went to this link someone posted, it brought me to a page that talked about cough syrup and the common cold. What's up with that? | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/13/2008 9:32:28 PM | I have to say its cause the guys giving it to you girls just aren't doing it right. i can't possibly understand how you could enjoy sex, but not enjoy really amazing oral sex. The guys that you have been with were probably just not very good at it.
The guy has to enjoy it...he really has to want to do it and some of them can't get enough of it. That's when its good, when they're craving it. | |
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| Why some women don't like receiving oral
Posted: 10/14/2008 2:14:34 AM | | Oral does NOT do anything for me. I will NOT do oral on anyone. Oral is boring to me. For foreplay I find it more personal if a man strokes me with his fingers in the right way and places for me, and then inserts his penis for the complete act. I have answered these "oral" forums with " I hate oral" countless times. Oral seems to be something guys think they can just lap away and that is to turn you on. They do not bother to learn to really touch with their fingers to probe to find the hidden pearls we women have or how to touch right. All that is just foreplay. It is not a real sex exchange unless the penis inserts in the vaginia, as the final act. | |
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