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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/27/2009 10:50:36 PM | If you EXPECT a woman to reciprocate something you've done: You're a lousy lover.
You're supposed to look at sex as pleasuring your partner; you don't do something simply so you can have it done back to you. That kind of mentality is childish AND selfish.
Calling this a "favor" (or anything you do for your partner a "favor") cheapens the act and would get you kicked out of my bed in a New York minute. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 3:08:32 AM | Nope, OP. Is there a rulebook you people pull out in order to intentionally piss off your sex partners?
Bleh.......such limited thinking. "Sex" is not a set of rules, techniques, and learned porn movie trash, especially in how people gobble up retarded "societal" fads/trends/rules on how to do it. It is about MUCH more than that. After all, Marquis De Sade and Machiavelli were NOT popular because they "expected oral sex in return".......
I live in fear that one day, people shall think for themselves on such simple subjects, instead of letting others do it for them. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 7:55:07 AM |
You're supposed to look at sex as pleasuring your partner; you don't do something simply so you can have it done back to you. That kind of mentality is childish AND selfish.
so..in the case the OP describes..(or your world) apparently it is only the man who is supposed to think that?
why doesn't she want to go down on him, if "you're supposed to look at sex as pleasuring your partner" ?
hmm, one-way thinking of "it's better to give than receive" will not last forever in most cases | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:17:05 PM | Not at all. If you enjoy pleasing her orally just do it to please her and do it because you enjoy pleasing her. Do not expect anything in return.
I love pleasing orally to the point that it is probably my single favorite sexual act. I actually REQUIRE a woman to have a large appetite for receiving. Do not expect it in return however because it isn't fun that way. Remember, women call the shots a lot of times nowadays she can find her a guy like me that won't ask for anything in return. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 1:45:56 PM |
so..in the case the OP describes..(or your world) apparently it is only the man who is supposed to think that?
why doesn't she want to go down on him, if "you're supposed to look at sex as pleasuring your partner" ?
I never said this was only from the man's perspective. It can go both ways - don't put words in to my mouth.
So what if she doesn't want to go down on him? Why should he EXPECT her just because he did? That's pretty much saying he only went down on her so she would go down on him - in the end, it's about what HE wants - from that perspective.
You don't call what you do to your partner a "favor". That cheapens the whole experience and makes it sound like you're only doing it because you want something in return.
If I give my man a blow job I don't EXPECT him to reciprocate. If he EXPECTS me to reciprocate something he's done - he's sorely out of luck. I don't do things just because he did it to me. If I want to reciprocate, I will. If he wants to reciprocate, he will.
I don't consider what I do to him, or what he does to me, a "favor" that needs to be repaid. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 4:52:06 PM |
In this modern age of equality if you can make your woman cum orally and there is no attempt to reciprocate are you obligated to continue in the future? If you are a gentleman and make her orgasm first and even second should there be any gold at the end or your rainbow?
Yes there should!
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 5:32:37 PM | Hah! You wouldn't believe my problems honey.
As for the original point, I'd like to add: After a man has an orgasm, all he wants to do is sleep (Don't lie cause I know it's true :P )
Same applies for me. I'll return the favour, but I'm not exactly thrilled to be working my jaw when all I want to do is lay down and be cuddled to sleep. The things we do for love huh? | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 6:00:36 PM |
If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Using the word "should" or "shouldn't" is a sign you're treading on dangerous water, especially when it comes to sexuality.
Everything you do in bed should be because you want to...even if it's isn't reciprocated. (And I've already preached a sermon on how there's no such thing as tit for tat in sex, so I'll spare the masses).
If you do something because you love to do it, you'll be fine. If you sit down and contemplate your love life with your partner and you feel your needs are not being met or she is generally a selfish lover (I guess the two go hand in hand), then a graceful, but permanent exit may be in order. But, no...no one owes you anything in bed, no matter how much you give. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 6:13:58 PM | You "should" know by now that you "should" eat a woman out like there is no tomorrow, just for the sake of your pleasure providing pleasure.
I never paid attention before to this thread assuming you were in your 20's but, now I think you "should" ask for the "favor" to just get a woman's attention. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 8:30:22 PM | | Hey I'd be happy to. As long as it was communicated that the relationship was mutual gratification. If a woman is out to 'just get off' like men do, they may leave you as frustrated as you guys often leave us when you want that blow job in the car and we go home still horny lol. So no she shouldn't feel she has to but she may or may not want to. People need to feel free to do what they desire to do and we shouldn't want something from someone not freely given. I hate it when a man pushes down on my head hard to give him a bj - makes me lose my tongue erection lol. Let's remember that sex isn't supposed to be 'all about me' unless you are paying for it! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 8:42:17 PM | | Rouletiquette sumed it up nicely. There is nothing worse than a selfish lover. I do enjoy taking my girl for a spin and making her squeal. And for you feminists, she always, always, always orgasms first and second, and sometimes third. And she does give excellent head, bless her. But then she stops. I don't stop, I don't feel and hear her coming close and quit. Girls, how kind would that be? Would it be ok if I bring her close to orgasm and then look at the clock and say."It's late, time for sleep." I only get one orgasm, not three. I guess only she should get what she wants. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 8:54:31 PM | | One would think. I guess you never know unless you ask her. If she has an aversion to it, can always get off in other ways. Not the end of the world. But, if getting off via BJ is what really floats your boat, tell her that. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 9:55:17 PM |
Rouletiquette sumed it up nicely. There is nothing worse than a selfish lover. I do enjoy taking my girl for a spin and making her squeal. And for you feminists, she always, always, always orgasms first and second, and sometimes third. And she does give excellent head, bless her. But then she stops. I don't stop, I don't feel and hear her coming close and quit. Girls, how kind would that be? Would it be ok if I bring her close to orgasm and then look at the clock and say."It's late, time for sleep." I only get one orgasm, not three. I guess only she should get what she wants.
OH! I thought you meant she didn't want to give you blow jobs at all! Now I get it...
Horribly redundant...do a thread search and you'll find some long-winded debates about every facet of women giving head. I still stand by what I said. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/28/2009 11:41:22 PM |
As for the original point, I'd like to add: After a man has an orgasm, all he wants to do is sleep (Don't lie cause I know it's true :P )
That depends on if he has a full stomach or not. At least with me. lol
Same applies for me. I'll return the favour, but I'm not exactly thrilled to be working my jaw when all I want to do is lay down and be cuddled to sleep. The things we do for love huh?
My ex used to do that for me until she got lock jaw one time. Poor girl had to whistle for an entire week. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/29/2009 1:50:33 AM | I'm seriously laughing at you with your 'gentleman' comment - is it taking you HOURS OR DAYS to get her to orgasm orally once or twice? If not, then what's the big deal? Are you circumsized, do you shower before to remove offensive odors? What could be offensive to her about giving you oral sex? Have you asked her?
and if you want to get all technical about EQUALITY,
if you give oral orgasms- you get oral orgasms
if you GIVE penetration orgasms - she gets to PENETRATE YOU
That's EQUAL - yes?
Also, so she only gets ONE orgasm? She's not a multiple orgasm'er? (my new word LOL) - or you are just stopping after giving her ONE? Stay down a while and perhaps she'll return the act!
Possibly a little TMI, but I used oral sex for HIS 4-PLAY, then my ex would get me 'there' numerous times orally and as a multiple-liquid orgasmer (yeah another new word) then we would both FINISH together - because it was a given he was only going to orgasm once, and we WANTED to have that final orgasm together.
Unless you are a problem with premature ejaculation, try getting her to spend 5 or 10 down on you as 4 play, then trade off and finish together.....
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/29/2009 8:34:50 AM | I haven't read each and every postings here however but don't most men perform oral on a woman to provide her pleasure as well as for the simply reason it's enjoyable to them?
We are talking here of course about women that have in fact passed the "sniff test." To expect a particular thing to be performed during sex in return for this that or the other is at best disrespectful. Just as a few males dislike providing oral there are women that are probably on the same page. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:16:06 AM | Should she? Well, I'd certainly hope so! Is she obligated to? Not really.
Shame on any person who goes down on their mate with the expectation of reciprocated oral sex.
If I want my****sucked by my girlfriend, I'll ask her to. I'm not going to go down on her and say "Now do me!" afterwards.
I'll go down on my girlfriend because I want her clawing at the ceiling, not because I want her mouth on my****after. | |
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