| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/30/2008 2:17:42 PM |
shouldn't she return the favor?
are you kidding me? it wouldnt be a favor if you always expected something in return. making her finish should be your gold at the end of rainbow. even i know this at the age of 20, grow up  | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/30/2008 2:30:09 PM | | if she does not return the favor she is lazy, selfish, boring and just plain mean. i return the favor even without a favor. it's all part of being a good hostess. women who don't want to are the 1st to complain when a guy starts wandering. good sex includes i do you, you do me, we do each other in various positions. if it's over in less than 3 hours, you left something out and remember to wake up in the middle of the night and keep going until you are done. remember....you only live once. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/30/2008 3:12:43 PM | | I'm gonna go ahead and disagree with everyone here. I think that while expecting a 1-1 tit for tat ratio in any given encounter is entirely too formulaic, there's no justification for someone expecting oral from you and not returning the favor. If you wish to receive it's only fair you should reciprocate. For all those calling down the OP for only being concerned with his own pleasure, has it occurred to you that his partner seems to have exactly that stance, where they are happy to receive but can't be bothered giving b/c it's not doing anything for them? Seems like another double standard to me... | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/30/2008 5:54:47 PM |
if it's over in less than 3 hours, you left something out and remember to wake up in the middle of the night and keep going until you are done.
Are you crazy? I could never do sex for 3+ hours and then go again later that night?!  
remember....you only live once.
Speak for yourself.
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/30/2008 6:02:09 PM |
good sex includes i do you, you do me, we do each other in various positions. if it's over in less than 3 hours, you left something out and remember to wake up in the middle of the night and keep going until you are done. remember....you only live once.
Right on right on right on. Hell I'd wake up for more even if everything was covered and taken care of twice.
When it's done with the right person, it will always be on my mind! Always wanting more! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/30/2008 11:21:43 PM | Equality?? Got nowt to do with it.
I am a BIG fan of oral, both giving and recieving. On most occasions I just like to give, give, give. Sometimes I have recieved, recieved...etc. but never expected it as a "duty" or returned favour! Mostly it is mutual but quite often things progress past the payback to toher things due to heated moment :-)
I also know there is quite alot of women out there who do not like to give oral and I say fair play to that. Best thing is when I've heard my male friends complain a woman won't do that, I just ask "Would you put one in your mouth?", they usually shut up! (The same goes for the whole spit, swallow or duck argument) I probably wouldn't so why should I expect a women to do the same, if they do then I figure it's a nice extra!
I have and never will "expect" anything from my partner. It's all about the fun, enjoyment and sharing in the end, not keeping score (unless your having a "who can make the other orgasm first" competition ;-) always fun to play)
It's not a match or game, it's unscripted enjoyment between partners, let the moment lead to whatever happens, it's all part of the fun. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 12:42:00 AM | | ^^^^ I've said it before and I'll say it again. As the often sage Dan Savage put it, oral sex should be standard issue on all boyfriends/girlfriends in this day and age and any model that doesn't come with that as a standard feature should be promptly returned to the dealership for a full refund/exchange. (paraphrasing slightly there but I think I got the intent of it across). | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 2:51:45 AM | Anyone that thinks that a relationship needs to be 50/50 is missing the point of a
_Good_ relationship . . .
[There may be physical or even medical reasons for one to not be able to exert a lot of effort into an 'even-trade'...!
If certain activities cause discomfort .. be grateful for what IS given..!!]
...which should be _100 / 100_ . . . !!
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 8:34:52 AM | | I don't think that anyone should expect anyone to do anything sexually that they are not comfortable with or don't enjoy. What pleasure would one get from that, other than knowing they got what they want at their partners unhappiness. I don't ask for a man to go down on me..............so he would only do so because it gives him pleasure to please me. Just the same as if I decide to go down on my man it is because I choose to. There should be no expectations other than the pleasure that each partner brings to the other. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 9:23:25 AM | | HAd to go back and start from the begining, thought we were talking about a party with expectations and favors, then I thought maybe it is a game where we keep score? Wow all confused on this! LOL. From what I have read I think he got his answer and it seems to be a resounding NO! Be happy for what you recieve but always be a good giver! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 9:24:02 AM | | No. Relationships aren't about giving and taking exactly the same things from each other. Sometimes you give more, sometimes she does, or sometimes one gives more than the other all the time because he or she wants to. I like giving oral; I love the feeling of having my head between a woman's soft, warm thighs, with my mouth you-know-where. I haven't had all that many relationships in my life, and I know how wonderful it feels to know someone loves me, and I've always gotten the feeling that when I give a woman oral often, and with loving care, she knows how much I love her. It makes me feel good doing it, and it makes her feel good getting it. What more could you ask for? To me, expecting someone else to do something they don't want to, simply because I want it, is selfish. Sure, if you absolutely cannot have an orgasm any other way, then maybe you need a different girlfriend. But maybe you should explore other ways of coming. Try a fleshlight; let her use it on you. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 9:50:11 AM | I do not care about tit for tat
but that being said I desire a partner that cares to please me.
I can tell you from experience that however selfless or giving a person may be in the short term.... a long term relationship with a narcissistic partner that seems to care only for their own pleasure results in one person being left out. I think it is important to me that my partner care enough to go the extra mile on occasion to make me the center of attention sexually.
I admit I tend to be pushy and deflect attempts to focus on me as I prefer to give much more than receive but one does like to know their partner cares to and, truly enjoys reciprocating once in a while with real enthusiasm not, with a sense of ok its my turn duty.
I am simply not compatible with someone that is totally passive sexually
While I am more aggressive sexually I like my partner to be aggressive in bed on occasion too! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 10:06:14 AM | | So, let's see if I have this right. I'm selfish if I would like a little pleasure from a sexual relationship? Thanks for helping me clear this up people, sadly I thought she was the selfish one. I apologize. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 8:39:04 PM | Mmmm.. I must say, reading what people have put about PO being correct have an OK point to some aspect. There has to be mutual pleasure for both or the relationship is going to go downhill very fast. And yes, if she's refusing ANY form or pleasure in return then yes I would agree she would be a selfish person.
But OP has only mentioned one sex act, oral. I have had a few g/f's in the past who do not like to give oral and in no way did I complain or demand it in return (although yes I would have loved it, which guy wouldn't) but I'm sure there are many, many other things she can/will do which should keep the fun in the bedroom alive.
In summary... If there is not much receiving in OP's sex life then yes he has a valid point but if it's just one thing out of a fuller sex life then I see it as a bit petty. But without knowing the full balance of their sex life it's really hard to say. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 10/31/2008 10:50:18 PM | | I agree w/the others, don't keep score. It U give her the pleasure she wants, deserves and needs, that has always been all I need as I get so much pleasure from giving. If she is into it, U will get oral too and if not, just enjoy the pleasure U share. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/1/2008 10:44:26 PM | WOW,,,,,,where are all you women who give head because you LOVE to???
speak up if you enjoy having a hard member in your mouth as much as i enjoy the kitty kat,,,,,,, | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/2/2008 6:16:00 AM | I have no qualms, no qualms whatsoever in giving. I like to give women as much pleasure that they can physically handle (and then some!  )
And the reward?
Well the reward is that I get to have my wicked way with her afterwards as she's spaced out on cloud 9
Evil? Perhaps... But fun! 
As a side note its been my experience that when women come, they're not quite right in the head if you get my meaning (i.e. they're spaced out!), so to expect her to ram a big sausage down her throat, just to 'pay you pack', is ridiculous!
So, if you REALLY want that blow-job (and for me it’s not THAT much of a big deal!) then get that in first. Or even better, do each other at the same time!
But remember this, when YOU come, ask yourself if you can be bothered to 'repay' her back afterwards. 'Cos usually after an orgasm, some of us guys can get a little spaced out too (and heck some of us fall asleep for Christ's sakes LOL!)
Personally... I prefer to give (her pleasure) then take (her body). So everyone is happy. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/2/2008 11:51:19 AM | right on JulieC29!
it is just about giving. If it's a chore to get your girl off orally, why even start or go there? You sshould also be a man enough to let her know from the get go of your first bj that you're not down with returning the favor.
It's love, man! Whether that be sexually or otherwise, you give AND recieve freely.
peace | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/2/2008 9:53:12 PM | Not to put too fine a point on it, but EVERYONE is motivated by what he or she wants. Those of you who feel like altruists who think giving is the most important thing, do so because you receive something in return. If you don't believe me, see how long your good feeling from giving lasts if you aren't appreciated for it.
Now that we have that out of the way, I don't think it's to hard to figure out that a relationship will only last as long as BOTH partners are getting what they want to the extent they don't want to look elswhere for more. So regardless of what anyone says, they expect favors returned in some fashion. Wanting your ego stroked is no less of a demand than anything else. It's just less obvious what your motivation for giving is. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/5/2008 9:21:22 PM | | So I tried what so many suggested and discussed it with her. I got an instant response....NO! Never gonna happen. But I should continue cuz she loves it. Don't get me wrong women libers, I love her to cum repeatedly, both from oral action, and also when she gets on top and cums again and again. And hey, I don't even mind when she's done she even lets me orgasm. Nice right? I guess as long as she's happy I should shut up. | |
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