| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/5/2008 10:04:21 PM | I find great satisfaction in pleasing a woman orally (after all I am a PLF....) so there is not an expectation of getting a BJ in return....but if i dont on a regular basis, then I will eventually feel like Im not appreciated....
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/6/2008 12:36:14 PM | | It's only fair. I don't think it's all that necessary and as someone who enjoys cunnilingus almost as much as intercourse, I often forgo it because it's not always part of my offensive strategy when I'm in charge. But it's at least nice for a woman to offer to return the favor if not then at least during round two or the next coupling. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/7/2008 2:45:52 PM |
So I tried what so many suggested and discussed it with her. I got an instant response....NO! Never gonna happen. But I should continue cuz she loves it. Don't get me wrong women libers, I love her to cum repeatedly, both from oral action, and also when she gets on top and cums again and again. And hey, I don't even mind when she's done she even lets me orgasm. Nice right? I guess as long as she's happy I should shut up.
You need to figure out whether this is a deal-breaker for you. I wouldn't be okay with this situation, and it seems that you aren't either; and an unsatisfactory sex life is a perfectly valid reason for breaking off a relationship if it's leading to resentment. But if she's not willing to make any changes, then you need to decide whether you're okay with things as they are, or if it's time to find a more compatible partner. | |
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KM1989
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Joined: 11/2/2008
Msg: 129 | |
| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/7/2008 3:03:37 PM | | My boyfriend has pleasured me sometimes orally but most of the time I just give him a handjob.If my bf would ever pressure me to give him oral I would not do it since he knows I never will because of how i feel about it | |
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JTinAZ
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Joined: 9/13/2008
Msg: 132 | |
| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/8/2008 12:10:25 AM | | I understad what you're saying here. Women think "ok I just came now it's your turn" so they give you their Vagina to screw.... but that's just selfish b/c it's good for her too! What about the selflessness of oral? | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/8/2008 2:40:45 AM | | Wow, so you asked her and you got a flat out NO? Harsh man, way harsh. Namrael said it best, that situation would not sit well with me so you need to decide if you are ok with giving her oral knowing you will NEVER EVER get that from her. While I don't think she (or anyone for that matter) should do something they don't like/aren't comfortable with I do think this may be a potential issue for you. Dealbreakers are dealbreakers, regardless of what they are, if this is yours then so be it, no judgement here whatsoever. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/8/2008 5:24:03 AM | | MelloDlyn I am experienced and will bet I can make you cum orally and also will bet that you can not make me. I have never had a female that can make me. I even won a bet of 100 dollars one night from a chick bragging about it. So if you are game lets make a deal!! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/9/2008 3:25:56 PM |
So I tried what so many suggested and discussed it with her. I got an instant response....NO! Never gonna happen. But I should continue cuz she loves it. Don't get me wrong women libers, I love her to cum repeatedly, both from oral action, and also when she gets on top and cums again and again. And hey, I don't even mind when she's done she even lets me orgasm. Nice right? I guess as long as she's happy I should shut up.
Well, I'd say that's some pretty cold poo right there. She's demanding you do what she likes, but regardless of what you like she's not doing it... This sort of thing goes beyond sex and tells you a lot about her as a person. I'd give her the ol' heave ho were I in your shoes. It's great you have a healthy attitude about sex but you should find a woman who appreciates you and what you bring to the table rather than taking it for granted. I may catch some flak for the above, but frankly, anyone who takes issue with it is a person whose opinion I don't have much use for so it works out pretty well overall. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/14/2008 9:01:26 AM | I guess my attitudes towards sex must be lacking somewhere. My belief has always been that it is a “shared” experience between my partner and myself.
Yes, I agree that there are times that one party receives more than the other, but in those instances, I’ve always found that the receiver’s response heats things up rather quickly and things go a different direction. But I’ve never heard the other complain.
I’ve never been with a man who was a giver and was upset by things if he didn’t immediately receive back. I’ve also been the one giving and didn’t receive back and it never occurred to me to stop and yell “foul.”
Satisfaction is more than being the receiver, it is also knowing the satisfaction and pleasure you gave to your partner and experiencing the moment of their pleasure with you.
Truly satisfying sex of any kind is when two partners are enjoying their “special times” together and not worrying about who does what and if they got something immediately in return.
I’ve always found that the most satisfying sex is that which is given freely and without a predetermined outcome, pardon the pun. It’s not an act of first you do this, then the partner does this, and if this happens, we do this. Heck that is boring and I wouldn’t stay with a partner who had a PLAN to have sex. That is lacking intimacy. Sex is freedom of expression of things between two people, not a game day plan to win.
Oh, btw, most plans never work out 100% of the time anyway. Besides, who wants to be with a selfish lover? Selfish lovers make the worst ones, it’s over before it even starts to heat up.
Maybe you are putting too much pressure on her by your selfish demands and are limiting what pleasure you could be receiving. Stop thinking about the outcome before and let things progress naturally, they work better that way!  | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/15/2008 11:45:21 AM | | So, the other day I work really, really hard and I make her cum 4 times in the same session. You know, I really went the extra mile, the old college try as it were. And when I'm done she says to me, "that was the very first time in my life that I ever came more than one time, that was awesome, ok, now you can cum." She gets to fly 4 times I'm told to just go ahead and cum. Nice right? She was done, hurry up, game over. I might as well go and polish the rocket by hand cuz the romance is over. If I ever get arthritis I sure hope it's not in my right hand cuz we are best friends. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/15/2008 11:55:49 AM | If I ever get arthritis I sure hope it's not in my right hand cuz we are best friends
that was funny, however you could always use the left hand. they say changing hands makes it feel like someone else is doing it instead of you. | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/16/2008 1:01:46 AM |
Is the only reason you give sexual pleasure to receive it in return? Do you not find pleasure and satisfaction in knowing the satisfaction and pleasure you gave to your partner?
Do you not enjoy the act of oral sex for what it is? Do you not savor the closeness and intimacy that comes with it? are you so egocentric that you cannot give pleasure without concern for yours?
^^^ Best answer so far,,,,,,,,,,,,ditto! | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/16/2008 1:09:45 AM | If you are looking for a return on what should be an act of pleasure for both parties then you really have not learned the golden rule in making love to a woman your age . You are there for her pleasure !st and foremost
Why does the old 68 joke come to mind when I read this topic? | |
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| If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor?
Posted: 11/16/2008 2:36:57 AM |
She gets to fly 4 times I'm told to just go ahead and cum
but as a guy, you only get one shot at a time right lol
if you seriously feel this way, why are you still doing it?
and if she is acting that way, she is just there for the favours, not the romance, believe me. | |
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