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|Are you kidding me!? This is the INTERNET for f*cksake! There is NO telling how many deceitful lies people tell. It's pure idiocy, but it happens, and will continue. |
There is no point in even having a dating profile, if you are just going to spew a bunch of nonsense. Notice how I don't have any crap in my profile that says anything about being adventurous, or outgoing. It's neither for me.
Posted: 10/19/2008 1:08:40 PM
1. long term- definition~want multiple casual sex partners and to have a favorite list. never
wants to remove profile. Permenantly wants to be available for others. Thinks that
the grass is greener on the other side.
2.under interests lists God~uses this to gain a person's trust. Using a BELIEVER'S faith
in GOD to take advanatage of that person's trust to "get laid" because they are piggish
unethical people that can't get sex with out using Jesus.
3.BA or 4 yr degree- Men fake it to get dates. They usually don't have a degree. I know
personally a POF man who read a thread how he can get more "hits" by having a 4 yr
degree and suddenly "got a 4 yr degree" oh WOW!!!!!
4.Seperated or Single-Married
5.Picture with Hair- b a l d
6.Working Out- at the buffet table
7. Shape -Normal- Out of shape R E A L L Y B A D
8.Looks-Average- N O T
Posted: 10/19/2008 1:37:18 PM
|Well, there is another factor here too folks|
that is, people who haven't delved too deeply into self, and have created a myth, a caricature, if you will, of who they 'think' they are. So, in a way, it's not technically lying, it's about putting that game face on and getting out in the game.
It all shakes out though, I always think of the phrase:
"Everybody seems normal, until you get to know them"
Posted: 10/19/2008 2:01:27 PM
|Well, I have a different perspective and approach to profiles.|
Most women think of it as putting their best foot forward or making a good first impression.
That's fine. But when I read her profile and it says " A Few Extra Pounds", then look at her pics and come to the conclusion that she's clearly delusional? I begin to wonder what OTHER let downs I can look forward to, from her!
If you are trying to make your best first impression? Then anything amiss is a failure!
I have always been one to make bad first impressions. Even my best friend refused to meet me, the first six months that we knew each other!
Pretty much every job that I've had, I didn't land on the first attempt.
So, I've learned to say, "the hell with positive first impressions!"
Anymore, I begin with the approach of "worst case scenario!"
So then, any surprises, will be pleasant ones, which works to my favor and makes me look better!
Posted: 10/19/2008 4:59:03 PM
|I just read my profile again to see how I measure up on the bs scale. I do see that I have a problem. I do not know what it is you women want to see. I have nothing against stretching the truth a little until you get over the superficial and see me for the wonderful person that I am.|
Really I am 32 and I have more hair than my pictures would lead you to believe, it is a trick of the sun. Even the one with the shades drawn. I am a pilot and have my own fleet of airplanes. I use them to run drugs up and down the west coast. I never said I was perfect.
Posted: 10/19/2008 8:14:13 PM
|I have found that no matter how someone writes their profile, you are going to read and interpret it through your mind, beliefs, your meaning of their words....you're even going to see their photos through your filters of how you perceive visually also......so you are not seeing them for who they are, but who you think they are.....|
So, outside of the issue of dishonest profiles, inevitably, it seems to me no one is who we think they are in their profiles, for I think it's human nature to project who we are onto them......so, imo, the only way to really meet the other person is, basically, by meeting them in person.
Posted: 10/19/2008 10:06:58 PM
|My two cents for the third time. One guy here is saying to prepare a list of questions and watch your date closely as you perform your interrogation. Well maybe, yes I suppose. I have read most of the peoples profiles on this thread. They may be honest, but...maybe they should lie a little. Kind of lighten up. It's them other people is it? |
Yup, I have a past. I usually disclose it right away. Mind you everybody has got something.
I don't allow one way interrogations. You know what? If they don't like it, oh, well.
I'm very perceptive. I don't have to ask a bunch of invasive questions. Another thing is I'm not trying to hustle or deceive women. I do not contact them first. They come to me or we are ships passing in the night. I have enough women approaching me.
I can look at a profile and KNOW that I would be wasting my time, and squandering my dignity. Women have the power on this site. I want to retain my power.
And also, I don't have to write any threads crying about how women don't respond to me. In addition I got no percentage in being duplicitous.
After getting this posted I may have a long dry spell. Then I will have to come hat in hand and eat rejection...or not. I got my friends.
Posted: 10/19/2008 11:35:34 PM
|I don't trust anyone on-line.|
Posted: 10/20/2008 9:59:20 AM
|Those are the same people who would "pad" a resume and lie on an application when looking for a job. If they had found themselves unemployed, they would be in a world of hurt.|
Posted: 10/20/2008 11:40:03 AM
|This cycber world where in here at POF the Op finds it amusing and annoying. Actually this can be a great way to be what you wish you could be and do. You can say your a lady yet your a man. A thin attractive model yet a large obese unattractive person. And yes stating your single yet your in a totally commited relationship with no hope of ever being in the dating world.|
Posted: 10/20/2008 12:42:19 PM
|Because people can, and they do. Lying sucks but some feel behind a monitor they can make themselves out to be what they WANT to be and not necessarily who they are. That is why I insist if I get along with someone in a few e mails to talk to them and meet. Even then they can still be full of shit but it is faster to find out sooner. There are a lot of game players. And NEVER do anything long distance guys and girls ~ people lie even more that way. No job, live with mommy and daddy at age 41, owe child support, play head games...meet someone fast and local if you are interested and take it from there. I am blunt and honest about who I am and what I want...maybe too much. But I am hoping to avoid bullshit. I am too old for the games. I just say it how it is. I am in person the same way I am here. If I wanted to be a fake, I would have gone to acting school and stayed in Hollywood. |
Posted: 10/21/2008 12:02:19 AM
|profiles offer a reasonable chance to fairly share something of yourself. |
if its a lot of bull isnt that descriptive?
talking to someone is the least it takes to really begin to see another.. so to me profiles offer a filter to save everyone's time and offer some small hope for success despite knowing that its logical that most of us here lack the time and opportunity required to find a real match in a more traditional manner..
if we were easily paired we wouldnt be here..
offering ourselves as seasoning in an electronic smorgasbord
and redefining what it means to "learn the hard way"
Posted: 10/21/2008 2:58:12 AM
|What annoys me is women who put up or send photos from 2 years/25 kg ago to trap you into meeting them. This has happened to me twice this week! I mean its not like the bloke isnt going to notice the photo of you when you were 18 and the reality are a little, um, different!|
Posted: 10/21/2008 8:26:44 AM
|All the comments have been interesting to read. I agree with many of you and too many to quote. So, here's my thinking, for what it's worth...|
In the past year, I've come to realize that lying is easier for some, both sexes; that everyone wants the same outcome, yet no one is honest enough to go after it; that fear of rejection or not good enough rules most people's determination of a person's profile; that as mentioned one person's perception may different; that it takes more than a few emails to determine if a person is all they say or not; and that it takes more than one date sometimes to feel a person out. Reality is, we are a nation of want it now, period. LASTING Relationships, unfortunately are not built on emails, one date and little effort!
With that said, I find it hard to believe the number of people who lie in their profiles, and then get upset with you when you find out. I took the time to put up an accurate reflection of my likes, my interests, my hobbies, my life, and what I was looking for. My pictures are accurate and I even added a disclaimer when I cut my hair. The lying of others makes it harder for those of us that have been honest, right down to weight, age and everything else. If you lie here, you lie to everyone about anything and everything. Makes me wonder why they are even on here.
Posted: 10/21/2008 3:21:12 PM
What annoys me is women who put up or send photos from 2 years/25 kg ago to trap you into meeting them. This has happened to me twice this week!
Happened to me also. They put an attractive picture right next to a plate of spaghetti and meatballs. Next thing I know a box falls over me and I am trapped for days. Well at least the spaghetti was warm.
Posted: 10/21/2008 3:31:52 PM
|I take a new photo of myself every month (so now people can watch this poor single gal age before their very eyes. |
Sure I primp a little before I take them but it's nothing over and above what I would do before I would go meet with somebody.
I think the really crummy false advertising is when they lie about their personality traits because that's stuff you can see right away on the first date. You have to get to know them first - there's the rub. I started asking the last guy where's the romantic side? Where's the boat trips you're promising? Where's the relaxing times under the stars? Looking for love and not into one night stands? bwa hahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!! He was more transparent and tried harder at getting some than anyone I've seen in a while.
Posted: 10/21/2008 8:13:24 PM
|omg you dont you dont look nothing like yourself. i was told. funy thing was she never seen me in person.|
Posted: 10/22/2008 12:47:25 PM
|on line dating is not as good as people way think it is i dont trust any dating site becouse there full of scams i have been blackmailed once and since that online dating is not the safest place there is all sort of scams on dating sites thats why i have hidden my profile so that girls cant find me and my profile is going to stay hidden incase you dont know there are scammers on all dating sites and if you beleave what you read in a profile would you be abigger fool becouse all profiles are made up of lies i am not worried if i dont meet any nice girl from this site at least i know whats out there it grand when you meet face to face but what idid and it work the tv dating rte/utv have such a service and i did meet a girl from it face to fact but it didnt last she wasnt that good looking|
Posted: 10/22/2008 12:51:16 PM
|your very true and profiles are made up anyway profiles are full of lies and you would be a right fool to beleave what the girl/man has putting in there profile becouse i dont beleave in what they put in there profiles but you are right|
Posted: 10/22/2008 11:06:37 PM
|Lol, anybody can say "Oh i like puppies, and long walks on the beach, and candlelit dinners, etc" thinkin that if he/she uses every damn cliche cute/sweet thing, that they will be completely successful. |
Its the internet, people can lie much easier from behind a computer screen. Personally, I cant stand liars, BS'ers, etc. Now, im not gonna completely drop a girl if she said in her profile she likes foreign cuisine, and that foreign cuisine winds up being tacos and pizza haha, but for more serious stuff, yeah. I dont have time for bullshitters and liars.
Posted: 10/23/2008 2:30:55 AM
|The main reason many people lie on profile base on experience is to exploit other people who are trust worthy, but i ve come to a point where by if any man want to chat with me, i try to watch if he would try to talk me into all his sexual needs.|
The way to turn men like that away from you is to change your sensitive desire to something reality, by telling him about all your needs finacially.
You will realise how less he cared the moment you put money request infron't of his desire, then you will realise how selfish he is.
Also this same men are the men who patronised prostitutes, escorts, and strippers..with respect.
But ones a while they get tired of bad girls who has created fear in them, and they come to good girls to pay the price, in pretence of real dating.
Finally never allow any man to chat about sexual stuff on phone because most times as he is sharing that with you he is already spliting his sperm out and his urge is met.
You must protect yourself, if the worst come to worst if you know you could easily fall into men trick of seduction...what you can do before you meet any man is to have settle your urge from home, by making use of sex toys.
If you buy sex toys and use it, your urge towards the seduction of the liars are very limited.
The man who lie to you would lure you to sex and if he does you will never see him again, he has moved to another victim..
Also men without pictures, or men who keep there pictures private are mostly hiding from many theyhave deceived...and any time you read about two place vacant with prefare not to say in profile, watch it...the liar is online
Finally English girls should stop thinking sex is love, kiss is not love if a man lick you he desire to taste you, not because he loves you, he is only satisfying his selfish intrest.
African woman always want prove with gift and upkeep money, not stories.
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:52:59 AM
|I got one sent to me that looked like his hateful ex got his passwords and took a crack at...she even gave a testamonial... I find it hateful and childish when there are people here really trying to meet someone nice. I want to walk into that bees nest like I would want a sharp stick in the eye. |
Posted: 10/23/2008 5:40:32 AM
|lol alot of guys rarely put 2 sentences in thier describe me section so i cant really say theres much untruth cuz i wouldnt know lol|
Posted: 10/23/2008 5:58:42 AM
|it is hard 2 trust profiles on here i wish men were as open about approaching me in true life as they seem to be on here then again i cant get out much so i guess online dating seems the most logical choice i guess you just gotta be wary and not trust everything you read|
Posted: 10/23/2008 8:12:12 AM
|I agree with what pirateheaven said. Its pot luck really. Some people may consciously lie, but its ususally a matter of perspective. People write their profiles according to how they see themselves . Then someone reads it and fills in the blanks with what they want to find. If /when they meet there's bound to be some disenchantment and its easier to say the other person lied than to admit you simply had unrealistic expectations.|